Former coach put on home confinement

Aug 5, 2013 Full story: Charleston Daily Mail 101

A former North Marion High School cheerleading coach who pleaded guilty to sexually abusing male students will spend 12 years on home confinement.

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Since: Aug 13

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#1 Aug 6, 2013
I am completely amazed and sick my ex-husband was charged with spanking my daughter a few years ago never convicted just charged and the put him in jail for over a year, he lost his job we lost our home my children was placed in the custody of their biological father for six months we had to attend counseling and I had to take parenting class and to this day still am struggling with the after math of this event I am very concerned that you spend more time in jail for supposedly correcting a child than you do for having sex with one let a lone several anyone else see this as an issue I am furious.
Mgtn Res

Fairmont, WV

#2 Aug 6, 2013
mommy1981 wrote:
I am completely amazed and sick my ex-husband was charged with spanking my daughter a few years ago never convicted just charged and the put him in jail for over a year, he lost his job we lost our home my children was placed in the custody of their biological father for six months we had to attend counseling and I had to take parenting class and to this day still am struggling with the after math of this event I am very concerned that you spend more time in jail for supposedly correcting a child than you do for having sex with one let a lone several anyone else see this as an issue I am furious.
This is what a liberal judicial system does for you.
please

Fairmont, WV

#3 Aug 6, 2013
Mgtn Res wrote:
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This is what a liberal judicial system does for you.
Shut up about "liberal justice system." You are a moron. Child abuse is something that needs to be punished. So is what this woman did. Obey the law.
omg

United States

#4 Aug 6, 2013
That's all she gets!! Her a$$ should be behind bars
No more abuse

Fairmont, WV

#5 Aug 6, 2013
Mgtn Res wrote:
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This is what a liberal judicial system does for you.
Child abuse should be prosecuted no matter the form. Spanking is child abuse and shows a lack of restraint from the parent. Sexual abuse should be prosecuted to the fullest extent of the law too. One is not any better than the other because the victim still suffers the psychological consequences of abuse. The court being "liberal" has nothing to do with it.
Mgtn Res

Fairmont, WV

#6 Aug 6, 2013
please wrote:
<quoted text> Shut up about "liberal justice system." You are a moron. Child abuse is something that needs to be punished. So is what this woman did. Obey the law.
So people should not be allowed to discipline their own children? That is the problem with society today. Too many effing morons like your ignorant brats with no discipline or parental guidance are running around with tattoos and their pants hanging half off their ass. I cringe to think that my Social Security depends on these idiots.
Hooter Bill

Fairmont, WV

#7 Aug 6, 2013
Mgtn Res wrote:
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So people should not be allowed to discipline their own children? That is the problem with society today. Too many effing morons like your ignorant brats with no discipline or parental guidance are running around with tattoos and their pants hanging half off their ass. I cringe to think that my Social Security depends on these idiots.
AMEN!!!
http://www.parents.com/kids/discipline/
Amber

United States

#8 Aug 6, 2013
Mgtn Res wrote:
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So people should not be allowed to discipline their own children? That is the problem with society today. Too many effing morons like your ignorant brats with no discipline or parental guidance are running around with tattoos and their pants hanging half off their ass. I cringe to think that my Social Security depends on these idiots.
I agree. Well, except for the tattoo part. But the sagging pants trend did start in the prisons....(on the down -low) lol
Hooter Bill

Fairmont, WV

#9 Aug 6, 2013
No more abuse wrote:
<quoted text>Child abuse should be prosecuted no matter the form. Spanking is child abuse and shows a lack of restraint from the parent. Sexual abuse should be prosecuted to the fullest extent of the law too. One is not any better than the other because the victim still suffers the psychological consequences of abuse. The court being "liberal" has nothing to do with it.
http://www.parents.com/kids/discipline/
please

Fairmont, WV

#10 Aug 6, 2013
So you think spanking a child for doing something is horrible BUT oral sex with minors ISN'T? Glad I didn't grow up around you I think you have it backwards. If that had been a man he wouldn't even got bail and she got house arrest!!!! That is so WRONG. She needs to be behind bars so she can't do it again to other "BOY" get it MORON!
Amber

United States

#11 Aug 6, 2013
please wrote:
So you think spanking a child for doing something is horrible BUT oral sex with minors ISN'T? Glad I didn't grow up around you I think you have it backwards. If that had been a man he wouldn't even got bail and she got house arrest!!!! That is so WRONG. She needs to be behind bars so she can't do it again to other "BOY" get it MORON!
PLEASE is right!! You are missing the point. They are simply stating that it is alright to spank your child for misbehaving and it is in NO way abuse!! They're not talking about beating the child!! If you're a responsible adult and disciplines your child and teaches them responsibility, does NOT mean you think it's alright to perform oral sex on a teenage boy, so don't get it twisted!!!!
Beavis

Fairmont, WV

#12 Aug 6, 2013
I bet the judge and her parole officer can't wait to visit her every day of her home confinement. Maybe she can get some time off her sentence for "good behavior."
maybe

United States

#13 Aug 6, 2013
and maybe you can get a life so you won't have to beat a dead horse on here anymore. hahahahaha
Spanking is abuse

Fairmont, WV

#14 Aug 6, 2013
- http://www.parenting.com/article/ask-dr-sears... - http://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/2412... - http://www.cnn.com/2009/HEALTH/09/16/spanking... - http://abcnews.go.com/Technology/spanking-hur... - http://www.reuters.com/article/2010/04/12/us-... -

Anyone saying that spanking is not abuse is dead wrong. There is never anything that a child does that deserves violence as a response. When do you get hit for not following rules? If someone hits you they would be arrested for assault. Are we are supposed to be OK with grown adults hitting children?

And you say what is wrong is that we don't discipline our kids, but that's not true, Most of the kids in this town get hit. Morons like these people on this post even brag about it. You can write all the nonsense you want to justify your barbaric behavior, but there is no science to support your claims. Spanking holds kids back from reaching their full potential, and it is a shame that you support it.
Amber

United States

#15 Aug 7, 2013
Spanking is abuse wrote:
- http://www.parenting.com/article/ask-dr-sears... - http://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/2412... - http://www.cnn.com/2009/HEALTH/09/16/spanking... - http://abcnews.go.com/Technology/spanking-hur... - http://www.reuters.com/article/2010/04/12/us-... -
Anyone saying that spanking is not abuse is dead wrong. There is never anything that a child does that deserves violence as a response. When do you get hit for not following rules? If someone hits you they would be arrested for assault. Are we are supposed to be OK with grown adults hitting children?
And you say what is wrong is that we don't discipline our kids, but that's not true, Most of the kids in this town get hit. Morons like these people on this post even brag about it. You can write all the nonsense you want to justify your barbaric behavior, but there is no science to support your claims. Spanking holds kids back from reaching their full potential, and it is a shame that you support it.
You're just plain stupid and I bet your kids are brats and I bet no-one can stand them. Most kids do NOT "hit"!!!! That is why some people's kids are well behaved and other people's kids (like yours, I'm sure) act like little idiots out in public.
Spanking is abuse

Fairmont, WV

#16 Aug 7, 2013
Amber wrote:
<quoted text>You're just plain stupid and I bet your kids are brats and I bet no-one can stand them. Most kids do NOT "hit"!!!! That is why some people's kids are well behaved and other people's kids (like yours, I'm sure) act like little idiots out in public.
I bet your kids are a lot like you. You are very childish. You can't argue the facts so you attack me and my children. Did you even read any of the stories i posted? Spanking creates bullies, lowers IQ, causes social disorders, and teaches violence. Tell me what is not true about that. These stories are all based off of studies that followed children who were spanked and those who were not. There is no study that says spanking is beneficial in any way. I don't understand why you are so attached to spanking. If you are presented with evidence that says it is bad for your child's future, then I would think you would take a look at what you are doing. instead you are doubling down on the violence. Do you like it? When do you spank? How often? It seems to me that people who spank will always find a reason to hit their kids.
Huh

Brooklyn, NY

#17 Aug 7, 2013
Did you read your own articles? Your first clearly states that spanking used infrequently and in a loving home works. And there's a big difference between scientific facts and the phrase " evidence suggests". I have no dog in this fight but your a special kid of stupid. If its on the Internet it's gotta be true!
Spanking is abuse

Fairmont, WV

#18 Aug 7, 2013
Huh wrote:
Did you read your own articles? Your first clearly states that spanking used infrequently and in a loving home works. And there's a big difference between scientific facts and the phrase " evidence suggests". I have no dog in this fight but your a special kid of stupid. If its on the Internet it's gotta be true!
The overall tone of the article is against spanking, and the part to which you are referring is a side note and says that there is less damage than homes where children are hit more often. Less damage doesn't mean no damage. Let's look at the article.

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Spanking doesn't work. In my practice, I have had parents who spank and those who don't. With the ones who do, I've seen that it just doesn't work. Many times the parent will say, "The more we spank, the worse he behaves!" Spanking creates a distance between parent and child. It doesn't promote good behavior, and if it seems to discourage bad behavior, it does so more by force than desire.

As parents of a large family, my wife and I have had to run a well-disciplined household, so I believe in discipline that works. Since my wife and I are aware of the research against spanking and have rarely seen it work, we adapted a "no spanking" attitude in disciplining our children. Having decided that we would not spank our children -- but we would discipline them -- forced us to learn better discipline techniques. If you program yourself with "I will not hit my child," it forces you to stop and take the time to think, "Is there a better way I can handle this situation?"

Spanking models violence. When a big person hits a little person, especially out of anger, it can tell the child that it's okay to hit people. In a child's mind, if Mom or Dad does something, it's okay. If you vent your anger by hitting your child, then it's harder to rationalize to your child why he shouldn't hit someone when he's angry. Empathy -- the ability to think before you act and imagine how your actions will affect the other person -- is one of the main qualities that we want to instill in our children. Spanking sabotages empathy. A child is likely to haul off and hit another child without considering whether his actions are going to hurt the other person.

Research supports not spanking. Long-term studies have shown that children who were spanked tend to be more physically violent as teenagers and adults, are more likely to be bullies at school, and are generally more antisocial. In addition, children who were spanked excessively had a four times greater incidence of becoming spouse-abusers as adults. Spanking families plant the seed of violence in the next generation.

So how should you discipline your child? Getting behind the eyes of your child can do wonders for prompting you to click into a much more sensitive mode of disciplining than spanking. When he misbehaves, stop and think: "If I were my child, how would I want my parent to handle this?" Spanking is simply a force that gets a kid to stop the misbehavior at that particular time. Remember, discipline means teaching. You want your child to obey because he has learned to make his own choices of what is right or wrong, not out of fear of getting spanked --

In summary, spanking doesn't work, spanking teaches violence, and research supports not spanking. You read that article and said spanking isn't bad?

For good measure - "Long-term studies have shown that children who were spanked tend to be more physically violent as teenagers and adults, are more likely to be bullies at school, and are generally more antisocial. In addition, children who were spanked excessively had a four times greater incidence of becoming spouse-abusers as adults. Spanking families plant the seed of violence in the next generation."
Spanking is abuse

Fairmont, WV

#19 Aug 7, 2013
Empathy -- the ability to think before you act and imagine how your actions will affect the other person -- is one of the main qualities that we want to instill in our children. Spanking sabotages empathy. A child is likely to haul off and hit another child without considering whether his actions are going to hurt the other person
Research

Brooklyn, NY

#20 Aug 7, 2013
I actually researched your links. The majority of them are complete hogwash and I'll tell you why. They attribute future violent behavior to one specific thing and don't look to any other causes. It's easy to skew numbers if you leave out any other factors or just ignore any other factors. That's just like saying people who eat bacon have more heart attacks. Not because of the rest of their poor eating habits.

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