Parents Complain Of Bullying In School

Two of the parents said their daughters were repeatedly bullied by a group of freshmen girls at Fermi High School.

[voice of reason]

girls are so mean now a days geeze

[Miss Anthropic]

voice of reason wrote:

girls are so mean now a days geeze

Oh they were pretty bad 20 years ago too.

I don't understand what's with all the passive handwringing by the administrators. They want to know what to do? Here are some suggestions when the whole school knows a group of kids are bullies.
- Parents are required to bring in proof that the child is receiving mental health counseling. If the parent cannot do that, the child will be put into a special education class for troubled children and will not be allowed free access to the student body.
- Expulsion.
- Trash/clean up duty in the lunch room and on the school grounds for 6 months.
- No college recommendation letters or job references. Not from teachers, coaches, guidance counselors...not from anyone employed by the school system.
- For severe cases, criminal charges.

[martini]

bullying needs to be addressed more severely than the actions of the kid who is bullied..this is all too familiar...when I was a teen, kids who stood up to bullies, were not bullied again..the kid who defends his/herself should not be punished.

[Speechless]

Miss Anthropic wrote:

<quoted text>
Oh they were pretty bad 20 years ago too.
I don't understand what's with all the passive handwringing by the administrators. They want to know what to do? Here are some suggestions when the whole school knows a group of kids are bullies.
- Parents are required to bring in proof that the child is receiving mental health counseling. If the parent cannot do that, the child will be put into a special education class for troubled children and will not be allowed free access to the student body.
- Expulsion.
- Trash/clean up duty in the lunch room and on the school grounds for 6 months.
- No college recommendation letters or job references. Not from teachers, coaches, guidance counselors...not from anyone employed by the school system.
- For severe cases, criminal charges.

These were great suggestions!

[Conerned Parent Vernon]

This is not uncommon, I deal with this with the school system in Vernon. We have brought it to their attention and feel like we are the one's doing something wrong. They attempt (i use that word lightly) to address the situation and nothing is done. The State board of education needs to step in and take this serious regardless of the grade the kids are in. First it's bullying and then it will be someone taking a weapon to school to really do some harm. Something needs to be done soon. Parents we should all get together for the safety of our kids.

[Ct Luver]

Miss Anthropic wrote:

<quoted text>
Oh they were pretty bad 20 years ago too.
I don't understand what's with all the passive handwringing by the administrators. They want to know what to do? Here are some suggestions when the whole school knows a group of kids are bullies.
- Parents are required to bring in proof that the child is receiving mental health counseling. If the parent cannot do that, the child will be put into a special education class for troubled children and will not be allowed free access to the student body.
- Expulsion.
- Trash/clean up duty in the lunch room and on the school grounds for 6 months.
- No college recommendation letters or job references. Not from teachers, coaches, guidance counselors...not from anyone employed by the school system.
- For severe cases, criminal charges.

I like these ideas--real solutions that mean something. Put in the handbook though because Somers school has a spineless principal who was afraid to deal out a punishment that met the infractions (drinking) because of the potential for a lawsuit. Time for schools to act like parents if the parents are not capable.

[EinCT]

I was severely abused by my peers growing up. And thats what I call it, abuse - not bullying. Its sheer abuse. I developed severe social anxiety (which I have since overcome), didnt go to college because of the fear of more abuse and still to this day avoid teens. I am 34 now.

Children should not be expelled, that does no one any good and takes away their education. It can tak eweeks or months before they get a tutor. The bullies should be sent to a detention center, get community service and manditory counceling paid for by the parents as well as a few manditory parent/child sessions.

[Hartford]

This is becoming more and more familiar hence "normal" throughout middle/high schools. My daughter was bullied and I was told that she was being too sensitive. I later found out through a confidential resource that the bullies were protected by Social Services Department and school administration. Needless to remind school officials that there is a National Anti Bullying Law in Place and the Children's Advocate department is also aware of this. School could be sanctioned and penalized if they do not abide by these laws. In my case, after I warned the school officials of my daughter's civil rights and National Anti Bullying laws that protect her, finally the bullying stopped. It makes me wonder, what does it take for school officials to seriously consider this issue, a Columbine situation? Therefore, schools not only need to address this situation before it gets out of hand and develop social programs and awareness that this is not permitted if not bullies will suffer the consequences for their irratic behavior. As a parent we should not have to worry that our kids are not safe in school not that they will do something that will affect their lives or do something to harm themselfs. If they can't trust the school administration can help, where are they to turn?

[Kernal]

Parents have your child trained in method of inducing extreme pain to their violent attackers. A bully only knows pain themselves, they cower at the fists of their abusive parents, they will also cowerwhen your child inflicts severe pain. I was once an attempted bully subject, I put an end to it fast! I used severe, very severe retribution and the parents of the "bully/sissy" complained to the institution, the ruler of the institution thought he would break my spirit, no way. I told him and my parents told him that I was harrassed long enough, once that harrasment turned to violence I was told to respond with violence, my violence was so severe that the gang, individually were, beaten by my and my methods, when a group of them tried I sent the biggest one to the hospital, never bothered again, and never had to resort to violence. Your institution is there to obey the law, hold your kids hostage and brain wash them, they don't care one bit about the kids, it's a job and protecting them in theri mind isn't their job. FIGHT BACK

[Speechless]

martini wrote:

bullying needs to be addressed more severely than the actions of the kid who is bullied..this is all too familiar...when I was a teen, kids who stood up to bullies, were not bullied again..the kid who defends his/herself should not be punished.

I have two sons. One will handle matters right then and there and the other who is a bit passive and more afraid of suspension and being arrested because both have already happend to him for defending himself against a bully who had been harassing him for months. So he's chit out of luck if he tries to ignore these bullies or tries to defend himself. And I've tried everything and have forewarned principals and his guidance counselor about the bullying in the event that my son got into a fight. The school felt that he shouldn't have fought back but instead told an authority which I found completely ludacris.

[Jeb62]

The State Dept of Ed has Anti-Bullying program requirements for all CT schools. Sounds like Enfield is not paying attention to them.

Also sounds like Enfield principal & asst principal(s) are not thoroughly investigating these incidents before giving out suspensions.

Maybe some of the bullies need to spend some time doing community service in a battered womens' center.

Our schools(not Enfield) have anti-bullying assemblies for all ages. Bullying, abuse, and harassment topics are also discussed in the health classes.

[Pam]

WELL SAID!!!

Kernal wrote:

Parents have your child trained in method of inducing extreme pain to their violent attackers. A bully only knows pain themselves, they cower at the fists of their abusive parents, they will also cowerwhen your child inflicts severe pain. I was once an attempted bully subject, I put an end to it fast! I used severe, very severe retribution and the parents of the "bully/sissy" complained to the institution, the ruler of the institution thought he would break my spirit, no way. I told him and my parents told him that I was harrassed long enough, once that harrasment turned to violence I was told to respond with violence, my violence was so severe that the gang, individually were, beaten by my and my methods, when a group of them tried I sent the biggest one to the hospital, never bothered again, and never had to resort to violence. Your institution is there to obey the law, hold your kids hostage and brain wash them, they don't care one bit about the kids, it's a job and protecting them in theri mind isn't their job. FIGHT BACK

[In shock]

the problem is it is hardly ever just one person doing the bullying, it us usally a group/gang of people. So it just doesn't go away when one person get's in trouble, it trickles down to each person in the group/gang and continues on and on. The bullies should not be innocent until proven guilty. One more suggestion to the GREAT list above - send them to any of the Correctional facilities (any of the one's in town will do) and have them do a Tough Love type of thing where they meet with the inmates who scare them straight. I've seen it on TV and let's see how TOUGH they are after they leave there. Let's use what we have in our own backyard and teach these kids what happens to true bullies

[Belinda]

I like the idea of requiring counseling for bullies. After all, they are usually either disturbed individuals or are suffering from abuse and/or neglect at home, or are under some other form of stress. Bullies are not psychologically healthy individuals. Segregating and isolating a bully who does not seek treatment seems fitting, since bullies attempt to socially isolate their victims all the time.

[A Mother]

Miss Anthropic wrote:

<quoted text>
Oh they were pretty bad 20 years ago too.
I don't understand what's with all the passive handwringing by the administrators. They want to know what to do? Here are some suggestions when the whole school knows a group of kids are bullies.
- Parents are required to bring in proof that the child is receiving mental health counseling. If the parent cannot do that, the child will be put into a special education class for troubled children and will not be allowed free access to the student body.
- Expulsion.
- Trash/clean up duty in the lunch room and on the school grounds for 6 months.
- No college recommendation letters or job references. Not from teachers, coaches, guidance counselors...not from anyone employed by the school system.
- For severe cases, criminal charges.

Well Said! It's time all these school districts take action against these bullies! Kudos for the great suggestions

[chekcers]

- Parents are required to bring in proof that the child is receiving mental health counseling. If the parent cannot do that, the child will be put into a special education class for troubled children and will not be allowed free access to the student body.

I do mental health counseling and write letters on behalf of bullied students. Often adminisrators respond I do not know half the story. The truth is it is easier to blame the victim.

[Bla-blah-blah]

After the videos that have come to light lately, the adults need to act. Nothing good ever comes of these situations if left alone. The adults need to act BEFORE the s**t hits the fan, not after.

I think Droney hit the nail on the head. A group of loser troublemakers with nothing to lose...or nothing better to do than make other student's lives miserable.

Let's see the school be proactive instead of reactive and everyone will benefit.

[fedup]

Kernal wrote:

Parents have your child trained in method of inducing extreme pain to their violent attackers. A bully only knows pain themselves, they cower at the fists of their abusive parents, they will also cowerwhen your child inflicts severe pain. I was once an attempted bully subject, I put an end to it fast! I used severe, very severe retribution and the parents of the "bully/sissy" complained to the institution, the ruler of the institution thought he would break my spirit, no way. I told him and my parents told him that I was harrassed long enough, once that harrasment turned to violence I was told to respond with violence, my violence was so severe that the gang, individually were, beaten by my and my methods, when a group of them tried I sent the biggest one to the hospital, never bothered again, and never had to resort to violence. Your institution is there to obey the law, hold your kids hostage and brain wash them, they don't care one bit about the kids, it's a job and protecting them in theri mind isn't their job. FIGHT BACK

BRAVO!! Teach your kids how to defend themselves. We don't need more ineffective feel good laws.

[Scott]

Miss Anthropic wrote:

<quoted text>
Oh they were pretty bad 20 years ago too.
I don't understand what's with all the passive handwringing by the administrators. They want to know what to do? Here are some suggestions when the whole school knows a group of kids are bullies.
- Parents are required to bring in proof that the child is receiving mental health counseling. If the parent cannot do that, the child will be put into a special education class for troubled children and will not be allowed free access to the student body.
- Expulsion.
- Trash/clean up duty in the lunch room and on the school grounds for 6 months.
- No college recommendation letters or job references. Not from teachers, coaches, guidance counselors...not from anyone employed by the school system.
- For severe cases, criminal charges.

Excellent ideas except for one small problem. It'll never happen.

Thanks to the lib-left and other spineless weenies spewing their politically correct psycho-babble, these "poor little children" won't be dealt with nearly as harshly as they should. Instead, they'll have a privilege or two taken away and MAY be scolded. And they'll receive counseling...let's not forget the counseling.

[AnEyeForAnEye]

Bullying has been around since the beginning. And the only thing that WORKS is Bully Back. The victim becomes the victor. 99% of the time the bully will not bother you again and knows their place. Being bullied is hard but if you don't stand up to the Bully's of the world you will always be treated like a rug by someone. I was pushed, shoved hit and beaten. Pushed down stairs and humiliated. broken bones and blackened eyes. The bullying did not stop until I stood my ground and fought back. They Never bothered me again and til this day I will not allow anyone to step on my rights to protect myself. These bully's don't need councilling, they need a good ole whoopin to put them in their place. But the Political correctness gang would rather shove a bunch of medications down these kids throats and say they will be ok. Ole time justice, take up for yourself and stop letting these thugs run your life. Medication only covers up the problem. A Bully is only a bully if you allow him/her to be one. Kids these days think they can get away with anything and not have to be responsible for their actions. There is a time to turn the other cheek and a time to double up your fist and smack back.