parental alienation is not only abuse but a crime

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Nov 4, 2011
 
The area courts are now heavily considering this now, it IS abuse & it IS illegal to deprive a child of his/her, mother or father, many court cases will now be comming on all these "parents" who through thier own selfishness is abusing thier kids without mercy.
They will all finally get exactly what they deserve & they begged for every ounce of it--they thought they had this in the bag when he was alone--well, now he isn't & I will battle for what I believe in & dearest I know you're just being petty because you believe you can, well soon you'll find out that you can't.
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Nov 5, 2011
 
Parental Alienation is Real and Harms Children

It is a mental condition in which a child, usually one put in the middle of a contentious divorce, allies strongly with one parent and rejects a relationship with the other parent without legitimate justification. It occurs when one parent essentially “programs” a child to dislike and even fear the other parent, usually the father.

Psychiatrist Richard A. Gardner was the first to use the term “parental alienation” and his research suggests women are more likely to alienate than men. At Cordell & Cordell, a divorce law firm that primarily represents fathers, parental alienation is a part of 60% of our child custody cases.

Yet there are still groups, such as the National Organization of Women (NOW), and associated legislative campaigns that are attempting to drive recognition of parental alienation out of the family court system.

Seemingly disregarding the fact that mothers are sometimes the victims of parental alienation, NOW refers to alienation as a “dangerous and cleverly marketed legal strategy promoted by father’s rights groups.”

NOW believes parental alienation is a legal defense disguised as a psychological phenomenon by abusive fathers in order to overlook the dad’s physical or sexual abuse in an effort to gain custody.

This attitude is insulting to all the parents, both mothers and fathers, who have seen their relationship with their children ruined by parental alienation.

This destruction often begins with brainwashing, which Gardner describes as “conscious acts of programming the child against the other parent.” He says that the alienating parent “embarks upon an unrelenting campaign of denigration…at times the criticism may even be delusional.”

Take the example of one of our clients, Brian – a blue-collar worker that commutes two hours a day to provide for his wife and three children. As his wife’s addiction to painkillers and chatting on Facebook with “friends” turned worse, the couple sought a divorce. She moved out, taking the children with her.

As if the physical separation wasn’t enough, Brian’s wife began emotionally alienating his children from him. She spread lies that Brian beat her, threatened her at gunpoint, and abused drugs.

At custody hearings, recordings from the court-ordered psychiatrist showed fearful children coached to lie to validate their mother’s accusations. In separate interviews, each child would repeat the same lines verbatim. Our attorney said he had never in his practice heard kids speak the way Brian’s did.

The psychiatrist believed the children were programmed into believing their mother’s lies so much that they actually became afraid of their dad. Thus, Brian was granted only supervised visits.

During the first visit, his children hid behind the door afraid to come out. They were afraid to see their father, the man they once cried out for as their mother was moving them out of their home. The same dad who only months earlier was playing outside with them, taking them on fishing trips, tucking them into bed, and doing all the things loving, supportive fathers do.

Almost eight months later Brian has had no overnight visits with his children.

Critics of parental alienation argue the syndrome has no scientific validity. But simply because parental alienation syndrome has not yet been included in the American Psychiatric Association’s Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders does not mean one parent’s ability to manipulate a child isn’t real and shouldn’t be treated as such.

Ask David Goldman – whose wife kidnapped their son, fled to Brazil, and when his son was finally returned home thought his own father was the enemy – if parental alienation is a myth.

Finish reading this article at http://www.fathersandfamilies.org/...
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Nov 13, 2011
 

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Men, don't be coming around me with your ugly, rat b*stard kids. I will be no step mother, I'll beat em till they can't walk or eat on their own.
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Nov 14, 2011
 
Don't know who started this but I am so totally interested..It really is the worst form of child abuse ever. I spent so many years researching and wondering when the courts would figure it out. I am glad to hear its finally come to light but I am doubtful..Plzz I'd love more info...I wrote a paper on it 10 years ago and sadly I have lived it for almost 15. My child just recently came back home and I am so worried about their mental state. Afraid to open windows or be alone. Obvious personality disorder. They are confused and sad and they are 18. An adult now and ------ed up because some idiot judge couldn't see past election time or some other random bull-shit. I am trying so hard to put the pieces back together but it is very very hard. I am sorry if you are going thru this or have.
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Nov 17, 2011
 
Another excellent article discusses 3 books on Parental Alienation

From the Fathers and Families website at http://www.fathersandfamilies.org/...

The discussion of parental alienation has taken a step forward with the publication of three books and positive reviews of same in the prestigious Journal of the American Academy of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry.

By far the weightiest of the three is the book aimed at the mental health profession that’s edited by Dr. William Bernet of Vanderbilt University. It gathers articles and commentary from 70 mental health researchers and practitioners worldwide as well as citations to some 630 articles on the subject. As such, Parental Alienation, DSM-5 and ICD-11 is the most impressive publication to date arguing for recognition of parental alienation as a treatable condition or disorder by mental health professionals.(The ICD is the International Classification of Diseases of the World Health Organization. It’s currently in its tenth edition.)

In her review of the book, Dr. Gabrielle Shapiro, M.D. gives a hint of her professional revelation of parental alienation.

During my training in child and adolescent psychiatry, the concept of parental alienation was a subject of great contention and debate, one that elicited strong affect-laden responses in many of my mentors similar to those prompted by multiple personality disorder. Truthfully, it was only after working for many years performing custody evaluations that I began to “buy into” the diagnosis, recognizing not only its existence, but also its devastating and long-lasting impact on the development and attachments of children who are victims of high-conflict divorce.

In short, exposure to children embroiled in custody cases made Shapiro see the reality of parental alienation. My guess is that the debate about parental alienation would move a lot faster if more of those opining on the subject followed in Shapiro’s footsteps.

Shapiro notes that parental alienation of children,

can lead to severe lifelong pathologic consequences for the child who has lost the reciprocal nurturing relationship with one of his primary attachment figures. Often these dysfunctional relationship patterns persist throughout a lifetime, despite the best of therapeutic interventions. The text makes the argument that parental alienation is not just a temporary symptom in the divorced family, but a disorder that deserves a psychiatric diagnosis.

So, according to mental health professionals who have studied parental alienation and the literature on it, PA is abusive to children. It can have profound effects throughout the person’s life. Courts should (and many do) give evidence of parental alienation their full attention and when it appears, move aggressively to stop it via their contempt power and their ability to alter custody arrangements.

One of the frequent claims made by those opposed to courts admitting evidence of parental alienation is that the concept was developed by Dr. Richard Gardner. That’s largely because Gardner makes an easy target; he’s dead and therefore can be libeled with legal impunity, and that’s just what they do.

Gardner is often labeled an apologist for pedophilia. The fact that that is flagrantly false troubles those people not at all. Were he still alive, those folks would find themselves in court facing charges of slander, libel and defamation. But he’s not, so the charge is routinely made. Why? Because Gardner made so bold as to point out in court and in his writings on PA that, when parents (usually mothers) level false charges of child sexual abuse against other parents (usually fathers), it can be an indicator of PA at work. Sadly, some take the attitude that mothers never lie about such things and so anyone finding their claims to be false and alienating must be excusing pedophilia.

Read the rest at http://www.fathersandfamilies.org/...

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