Thousands of years of evolution and recent cultural adaptation have produced in the female instincts to nurture, display and submit their bodies to males. This is part of the chemistry making human reproduction so successful. The vanity modern females display, their desire to attract men and please them and be accepted is part of their core emotional makeup. The male doctor observes this attraction too.A man looking at Playboy is very different than a Pap Smear. I can't see what would excite a man about that. Plus when a man gets excited, its pretty easy to tell. I've never seen my doctor sporting wood. I don't know why its okay for men to be taken care of by female nurses & no one cares. They are professionals.
It has been said that “charm in a woman is the same thing as confidence is in the man.” Women seek to attract men and that subconscious desire to please them can lure them into vulnerable situations.
It is common knowledge that many women see men, especially those in positions of power as the men to please. They are seen as the “Alpha Males” and most worthy of receiving their attention and seed. Husband’s anxiety naturally will increase at the exposure of wives to Alpha Males.
Sigmund Freud postulates that “transference” occurs, especially in the context of the patient/physician relationship, and it is complex and problematic. The female perceives the physician as omnipotent healer and powerful and this puts her in a submissive role. Many women also relate to their physicians as a “father figure”. While there is nothing necessarily sexual in that perception, it further puts a woman in a submissive, inferior and vulnerable position. Many husbands worry about this vulnerability at the hands of another man who she may see as her “heroic healer.”
Transference can sometimes even be to the degree that the husband may end up, at least in the wife’s eyes, as playing an insignificant role in the role of having a baby. That maternity experience can become a relationship between the female and her doctor, as if the doctor were in bed with her that fateful night of conception. The husband is almost seen as beside the point.“The modern trend in obstetrics is to include the husband in prenatal care and delivery so that the physician does not become a substitute image for the husband” Even the ritual of the husband cutting the umbilical cord is meant to include him in the process, as if he were next to insignificant otherwise. Many men find the risk of transference to the doctor as offensive and a bit threatening.
In the daily practice of a gynecology office, it is easy to perceive that intricate emotional problems often lie behind a great number of the physical complaints, symptoms and disturbances that women patients bring to the office. To a great extent, these emotional problems are related to several aspects of the female nature and constitution. Many men are uncomfortable with the notion of another male discussing his marriage and even influencing his wife emotionally.
Patient dependency, vulnerability and gratitude for the care received is often confused with feelings of affection. It is reported that females sometimes have a “crush” on their doctors. Many husbands find this worrisome, especially given the vulnerable nature of gynecological exams.