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DreamBiggs

El Dorado, AR

#1 Nov 26, 2011
I am sick of everyone ripping on single mothers! People without children don't understand how hard it is to try and raise our child right with the father in and out of our kid's life. And yeah some of us are where we are because we got knocked up and made bad decisions but we LOVE our children and do what we can with what we have!

Do you people honestly think we don't know that our children would be raised better with two parents in the same home? That we aren't aware of how sad we look living in our little apartments just us and our babies and having to ask our parents for help all the time?

But like I said, we do what we can with what we have. We can't take back our mistakes but we can deal with them the best we can! I am proud to be a single mother! And I am even prouder of my little sister who is three years happily married but is still waiting until the right time to have her kids. We aren't idiots! So stop talking about us like we are white trash just because we don't fit the perfect family picture!
DreamBigger

United States

#2 Nov 26, 2011
DreamBiggs wrote:
I am sick of everyone ripping on single mothers! People without children don't understand how hard it is to try and raise our child right with the father in and out of our kid's life. And yeah some of us are where we are because we got knocked up and made bad decisions but we LOVE our children and do what we can with what we have!
Do you people honestly think we don't know that our children would be raised better with two parents in the same home? That we aren't aware of how sad we look living in our little apartments just us and our babies and having to ask our parents for help all the time?
But like I said, we do what we can with what we have. We can't take back our mistakes but we can deal with them the best we can! I am proud to be a single mother! And I am even prouder of my little sister who is three years happily married but is still waiting until the right time to have her kids. We aren't idiots! So stop talking about us like we are white trash just because we don't fit the perfect family picture!
Find a way to quit being such a burden on our country by making smart decisions beforehand, and you won't get criticized and made fun of. Pretty simple.
Lillie

El Dorado, AR

#3 Nov 26, 2011
Don't worry one bit what people say or think about you. Especially on Topix. 2/3 of the posts and threads are written by ignorant, self-righteous people.
Basically, who's business is it but YOURS to have a child? Actually, under the circumstances it was the best decision you could have made, and NO child is a mistake!
We all make mistakes and sin daily! Noone on this silly forum should judge! Why cannot people mind their own business, and sweep off what is making their front porch dirty, instead of trying to clean up others front porch!
Finally, as I said before, don't let it get to you! You are dealing with hypocrites that have far too much spare time on their hands! And to call you a burden on the country! That is far-fetched to say the least! That person should be ashamed! Just forgive these people.. They know not what they say.
wondering

El Dorado, AR

#4 Nov 26, 2011
DreamBigger wrote:
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Find a way to quit being such a burden on our country by making smart decisions beforehand, and you won't get criticized and made fun of. Pretty simple.
How do you know she is on welfare? She could be college educated and working a normal job like the rest of us with a little help from her parents on the side. Plenty of single mothers do it, especially nowadays. Just because you have a kid in an unprepared situation doesn't mean you are on welfare.
GuessWhat

El Dorado, AR

#5 Nov 26, 2011
wondering wrote:
<quoted text> How do you know she is on welfare? She could be college educated and working a normal job like the rest of us with a little help from her parents on the side. Plenty of single mothers do it, especially nowadays. Just because you have a kid in an unprepared situation doesn't mean you are on welfare.
Dream Bigger is the fool "typical", just ignore the POS.
nooryes

El Dorado, AR

#6 Nov 26, 2011
I can't believe anyone still complains about the teen and twenty-something single parents. Its common. Unprotected sex = pregnant. You would think people would have the intelligence by now to just use protection and plan parenthood in a marriage but no, we are not. We also never will be. Its humanity, get over it.
whitneyf

El Dorado, AR

#7 Nov 26, 2011
DreamBiggs wrote:
I am sick of everyone ripping on single mothers! People without children don't understand how hard it is to try and raise our child right with the father in and out of our kid's life. And yeah some of us are where we are because we got knocked up and made bad decisions but we LOVE our children and do what we can with what we have!
Do you people honestly think we don't know that our children would be raised better with two parents in the same home? That we aren't aware of how sad we look living in our little apartments just us and our babies and having to ask our parents for help all the time?
But like I said, we do what we can with what we have. We can't take back our mistakes but we can deal with them the best we can! I am proud to be a single mother! And I am even prouder of my little sister who is three years happily married but is still waiting until the right time to have her kids. We aren't idiots! So stop talking about us like we are white trash just because we don't fit the perfect family picture!
I happen to know my little girl is better off without her father in her life. Many of us feel that way because when you are young you date the wrong guys sometimes. I love my girl more than anything and I know she'll have a good step father one day but her real dad is an idiot so I want him around her as little as possible!
Gunny

United States

#8 Nov 27, 2011
DreamBigger wrote:
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Find a way to quit being such a burden on our country by making smart decisions beforehand, and you won't get criticized and made fun of. Pretty simple.
You shouldve been aborted or daddy shouldve beat off in a sock hell maybe a load that shouldve been swallowed. Idiot.
My2Cents

Kernersville, NC

#9 Nov 28, 2011
Really guys? I personally applaud any woman or man for that matter who has the guts to raise a child alone or with little or no help from the other parent. It is sad that there is even (1) person struggling right now with this. There is an innocent person in all of this (the child) The child did not ask to be brought into this world. And my heart goes out to any young lady struggling to get by and make a good life for their child. Keep your head up and show all the dreaded souls that want you to fail that you can make it. I hope that the toys I donate and the angels from the trees that I sponsor will get to your child if he/she wouldnt get a gift this Christmas. Please everyone on the board do the same if you are financially able. Stop the hate and let joy into your heart.
goodiegum

El Dorado, AR

#10 Nov 29, 2011
DreamBiggs wrote:
I am sick of everyone ripping on single mothers! People without children don't understand how hard it is to try and raise our child right with the father in and out of our kid's life. And yeah some of us are where we are because we got knocked up and made bad decisions but we LOVE our children and do what we can with what we have!
Do you people honestly think we don't know that our children would be raised better with two parents in the same home? That we aren't aware of how sad we look living in our little apartments just us and our babies and having to ask our parents for help all the time?
But like I said, we do what we can with what we have. We can't take back our mistakes but we can deal with them the best we can! I am proud to be a single mother! And I am even prouder of my little sister who is three years happily married but is still waiting until the right time to have her kids. We aren't idiots! So stop talking about us like we are white trash just because we don't fit the perfect family picture!
At least you admit your lifestyle and choices aren't what the ideal should be. If most single mothers were like you it wouldn't be such a big issue. Its the ones who promote being an unwed mother and act like its okay that are the problem.
lolls

El Dorado, AR

#11 Dec 1, 2011
U know that Beyonce song "All my single ladies" put ya hands up in the club.... yada yada? You can replace "ladies" with "mothers" and it applies the same to today's typical mom.....

SAD!
wtfahole

El Dorado, AR

#12 Dec 1, 2011
lolls wrote:
U know that Beyonce song "All my single ladies" put ya hands up in the club.... yada yada? You can replace "ladies" with "mothers" and it applies the same to today's typical mom.....
SAD!
Not ALL single moms are like that. I don't know any, but I know there are some. Most my age still go out to bars and date new men in front of their kids but I know there are some really decent single mommas out there, they just aren't the ones YOU PEOPLE see out drinking and dating random guys
wtfahole

El Dorado, AR

#13 Dec 2, 2011
goodiegum wrote:
<quoted text>At least you admit your lifestyle and choices aren't what the ideal should be. If most single mothers were like you it wouldn't be such a big issue. Its the ones who promote being an unwed mother and act like its okay that are the problem.
Wow right on the head! Best post on all this babymamma drama yet! Plenty of kids with single parents and step parents grow up great even with the strain of sharing two families (one with mom and step dad and one with dad and step mom). They turn out great! But I really believe that God intended the family structure the way he said it because it is the healthiest and "ideal" as yall say, way to raise children. Best kids I know have both their parents together thats for sure, but I also know some PHENOMENAL kids from broken homes too! But glad to see a single mom who realizes the REALITY of her situation and knows she should of done better but is doing the best she can because she can't change the past but she can change the future. This poster's words should be a lesson to all young women who come across this post. Topix should be for things like this not gossip
wellidunno bear

El Dorado, AR

#14 Dec 2, 2011
lolls wrote:
U know that Beyonce song "All my single ladies" put ya hands up in the club.... yada yada? You can replace "ladies" with "mothers" and it applies the same to today's typical mom.....
SAD!
Maybe true in some cases. I do see a lot of single moms wanting to go out and date and party but a single lady even with a kid has to meet a man somehow! Why do ya need to be so mean?
dont

El Dorado, AR

#15 Dec 2, 2011
My sister is a single mother but her ex supports her little girl and her new boyfriend does to so I don't see what the big deal is about needing to be married to have kids. My neice will have two dads one day instead of just one and thats just as good.
Dumb Btch

El Dorado, AR

#16 Dec 2, 2011
It takes two to tango, but "he" ain't going to get pregnant. Birth control is simple and not against the law. NO CHILD should be raised without a mother and father, together. Think of the kid before the kid is made, the mother may be fine, the father may be fine, but the kid is being introduced into a world that is going to alter it's life permanently. A single woman has to many choices of how NOT to get pregnant, for that I call her the main cause of pregnancy outside of wedlock.
FYI

El Dorado, AR

#17 Dec 4, 2011
My2Cents wrote:
Really guys? I personally applaud any woman or man for that matter who has the guts to raise a child alone or with little or no help from the other parent. It is sad that there is even (1) person struggling right now with this. There is an innocent person in all of this (the child) The child did not ask to be brought into this world. And my heart goes out to any young lady struggling to get by and make a good life for their child. Keep your head up and show all the dreaded souls that want you to fail that you can make it. I hope that the toys I donate and the angels from the trees that I sponsor will get to your child if he/she wouldnt get a gift this Christmas. Please everyone on the board do the same if you are financially able. Stop the hate and let joy into your heart.
The "joy in my heart" gets taken away every time another welfare check is mailed out. Thanks, but I already "donate" every damn paycheck without my permission.
FYI

El Dorado, AR

#18 Dec 4, 2011
dont wrote:
My sister is a single mother but her ex supports her little girl and her new boyfriend does to so I don't see what the big deal is about needing to be married to have kids. My neice will have two dads one day instead of just one and thats just as good.
Maybe because we are helping to pay for most of them WITHOUT a say in it! Otherwise, I don't care how many kids you have by how many fathers. Just don't ask me to pay for it!
My2Cents

Kernersville, NC

#19 Dec 6, 2011
Dear FYI.... Maybe you should not JUDGE anyone without walking a day in their shoes. And the one innocent person is the child. And if your check is a little smaller and it helps just (1) child then embrace your freedom and your right to free speech and everything else this GREAT land gives back to each and every one of us. I dated a single mom and she was AMAZING !!!! And she was young and in school and at home on the weekends she was with her child and never asked for one red cent. Dont judge ALL single and young mothers when you truly dont know the individual circumstance.
caveman

United States

#20 Dec 6, 2011
My twentynine yearold single daughter is 6 months preggo and has a five year little girl. Two different baby daddies with no prospect of a helpmate in the future. 5 year old has no contact with father except infrequent random phone calls. Daughter struggles to pay her bills, always moaning about being tired, lonesome, broke and upset with baby daddies. I have yet to see a young woman that does not contemplate a ring, husband and family. When the order of the universe is upset, the balance of nature will be hard pressed to right itself. It is quite unrealistic in this day to expect a lady to save herself for marriage so that the husband can receive undamaged goods and raise children of his own sire, but it would be nice. There is always the risk of your kids emulating your lifestyle, which you WILL NOT be happy. Go with GOD.tired

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