Parents who push to hard
observer

Saint Louis, MO

#1 Apr 1, 2013
My son plays baseball, and the season is starting. I watch them parents yell at their kids, beat them down and it really bothers me. Does it bother anyone else? I mean when is enough, enough. Shouldnt they be allowed to have fun while in this sport? Seems the coaches are pushing them to do more hours and less time with their friends or even family too. Is there rules against this? I love him playing and my husband says he can make up his own mind, but what about them parents that think the sport is the most important thing around. My son isnt going to college on a scholorship and it really doesnt seem like the others are either, so when is enough?
hmmmmm

Saint Louis, MO

#2 Apr 1, 2013
i agree with you. there are some very driven parents that live vicariously through their offspring. it seems to me that we have that "my kid's gonna be a star at all costs" mentality nowadays. they take the pure joy out of life and turn it into a rat race! Just support your son as you always have and he will make up his mind. You have a very good idea about what is important in this world. Success isnt always about being a star!
Concerned Citizen

Belleville, IL

#3 Apr 2, 2013
I saw the same thing when I was in school many years ago. Most of the ones whose parents pushed them into working hard at sports ended up being pretty useless individuals. Several of them ended up being criminals once the fame of being a small time sports hero faded and they realized they really didn't amount to anything in the over-

all scheme of things.When it comes down to it, none of these kids is going to make a career out of sport. They should be spending 100% of their efforts on learning. Sports have no place in school. It's a waste of time and money.

Since: Jul 10

Location hidden

#4 Apr 2, 2013
I agree...my son is in wrestling and boy those parents dont play around..screaming at them, if they do bad they go have a stern talk with them...I can see parents wanting their kids to succeed in the sport and dont want them to be lazy but to embarrass them I dont agree with..
observer

Saint Louis, MO

#5 Apr 2, 2013
It really saddens me. Some of these kids look so defeated. Last night he told me, one of the boys were saying they hated baseball and knew that his parents would never let him quit. I strongly believe if they start something they should finish it but dont MAKE them. Our coach is getting as bad as some of them parents and its not all Dads either, them Moms act like fools too. The coach screaming at practice we will be here until you get it right! Is there a rule how many hours they can keep them ( yes this is HS team) I pick mine up and see some of them have to stay. If practice starts after school can they really make them stay until dark? What about their grades, or other activities they want to do? This one little boy just looks ( the one that says Dad makes him) so heartbroken.
Charlie Babbit
#6 Apr 2, 2013
observer wrote:
My son plays baseball, and the season is starting. I watch them parents yell at their kids, beat them down and it really bothers me. Does it bother anyone else? I mean when is enough, enough. Shouldnt they be allowed to have fun while in this sport? Seems the coaches are pushing them to do more hours and less time with their friends or even family too. Is there rules against this? I love him playing and my husband says he can make up his own mind, but what about them parents that think the sport is the most important thing around. My son isnt going to college on a scholorship and it really doesnt seem like the others are either, so when is enough?
Lol! "Them parents". Jeez, it's no wonder other parents are hard on their kids in Granite, they don't want them to grow up sounding like you.
observer

Saint Louis, MO

#7 Apr 2, 2013
Charlie Babbit wrote:
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Lol! "Them parents". Jeez, it's no wonder other parents are hard on their kids in Granite, they don't want them to grow up sounding like you.
Wanting your child to succeed is great, pushing them and humiliating them when they do not even like the sport is totally different.
Are you the guy who sits next to us with the beer gut, yelling at your kid and cant move other than to grab another beer? Living your teen years through you child much?
ratsgirl

Granite City, IL

#8 Apr 2, 2013
When I coached my sons soccer team I had 2 rules on was try your best the other was have fun. I had to ask a Dad to not come to games because he would yell and scream at his son so bad the kid would start to cry and not want to play. I mean come on when the kid is 8 or 9 years old just cheer them on don’t degrade them. Now my son wrestles and to hear some of the dads yelling at the boys and how they tell them (to take them out Make them hurt) I don’t think it’s good sportsman ship.
Concerned Citizen

Saint Louis, MO

#9 Apr 2, 2013
The baseball team is the worst. The parents basically devote their entire lives to it, so their kid's performance is the basis of their social merit. If their kid were to quit baseball, their own lives would basically end.

It makes for some seriously messed up parents and kids.
observer

Saint Louis, MO

#10 Apr 2, 2013
Concerned Citizen wrote:
The baseball team is the worst. The parents basically devote their entire lives to it, so their kid's performance is the basis of their social merit. If their kid were to quit baseball, their own lives would basically end.
It makes for some seriously messed up parents and kids.
that is my point, they scream at these kids to make themselves what? Look good? Who does it look good too? The loudest idiot is the best baseball parent? After watching this, it makes me want to throw my soda on them and tell them to cool off. It is so sad.
Trevor

Granite City, IL

#11 Apr 3, 2013
Was in Florida and witnessed youth leagues that banned parents from saying anything or being within 20ft of field. Coaches were not parents of kids on team that was also not tolerated. Happiest kids and best sportsmanship will ever see. The parents sitting with big mouths shut and coaches without favoritism was priceless. Was mostly immigrant community that hasn't been in America long enough to know the rules of ruining everything, being spoiled, and blaming anyone but, that Americans swear by.

Since: Oct 12

Location hidden

#12 Apr 3, 2013
My thoughts... Being an over bearing parent all the time- for everything- is one one thing. But trying to push your kid on what he's good at is another. If they have passion and the kid has talent or the ability- push. Kids needs to be nudged. They can be lazy. But overbearing all around, is totally wrong. You can't judge without knowing the scope of things.

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