need advice should i put my baby up f...

need advice should i put my baby up for adoption ?

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myriam

San Antonio, TX

#1 Nov 16, 2010
i 20yrs old iam about to give birth in dec. to a baby girl but i think its best for her if i give her up for adoption. i have no family that supports me emotionally. i have a steady job though and i am going to college but i feel my baby girl deserves a better mother than me.. i know i luv her with all my heart thats why i want the best for her but i dnt know what to do... i have never had a mother guidance to be there for me and i want my daughter to have that.. plz ppl dnt judge me i have been through a lot and i just want the best for her. i am so confused on what to do
Want to be a mom

Corpus Christi, TX

#2 Nov 16, 2010
I would love to adopt her. I have been trying to conceive and nothing has worked. I have a stable home and a loving husband...we would love a little princess!! She would be a blessing to have. Let me know where I can reach you so we can have a conversation...thanks!
Sorry

Dallas, TX

#3 Nov 16, 2010
myriam wrote:
i 20yrs old iam about to give birth in dec. to a baby girl but i think its best for her if i give her up for adoption. i have no family that supports me emotionally. i have a steady job though and i am going to college but i feel my baby girl deserves a better mother than me.. i know i luv her with all my heart thats why i want the best for her but i dnt know what to do... i have never had a mother guidance to be there for me and i want my daughter to have that.. plz ppl dnt judge me i have been through a lot and i just want the best for her. i am so confused on what to do
Wheres the babys daddy?
myriam

San Antonio, TX

#4 Nov 16, 2010
Sorry wrote:
<quoted text>Wheres the babys daddy?
he is not part of our life. he got station in iraq and doesnt want nothing to do with us..
Amy

Rockport, TX

#5 Nov 16, 2010
Girl, sounds like you have a plate full! Think it over, only you know what's best for your child even if it means having to let go. If you need support I'll be more than willing to give you my two cents, although I can't relate what so ever.
soldier hooah

Rockport, TX

#6 Nov 16, 2010
myriam wrote:
<quoted text> he is not part of our life. he got station in iraq and doesnt want nothing to do with us..
but you know that he has to help you with what that bb girl right ... just go and talked to the army recruiter and tell him whats up with the daddy ....
myriam

San Antonio, TX

#7 Nov 16, 2010
soldier hooah wrote:
<quoted text> but you know that he has to help you with what that bb girl right ... just go and talked to the army recruiter and tell him whats up with the daddy ....
i know that he has to help me with my daughter but u know like i dnt want to force him.. because at the end of the day one day he is going to regret not being there for us
mommy

United States

#8 Nov 16, 2010
myriam wrote:
<quoted text> i know that he has to help me with my daughter but u know like i dnt want to force him.. because at the end of the day one day he is going to regret not being there for us
don't get me wrong but I don't recommend it I'm a mother as well I'm 18 years old and I just had my baby boy 4 months just like u I wondered wether I wanted him or not but u don't have to be a perfect no one is just as long as u care and love ur child
Mother2mother

Del Rio, TX

#9 Nov 16, 2010
Listen I have a daughter and before she was born I considered abortion, but now that I have this being I helped create, literally a part of you is born again , once you have your baby with you it's way different than just carrying them in the womb, raising her you will bond much deeper than just carrying her in your womb, you will fall deeper in love. And you will regret and think how crazy an idea it is to even consider giving her up to
adoption. There are a lot of help out there or young single mothers.
Even if you give her up to a better life , he will always feel an emptyness to her. Bcus I couldn't imagine my mother giving me up for adoption no matter what , unless she was some crazy drug addict.
Don't do it. My advice
Mother2mother

Del Rio, TX

#10 Nov 16, 2010
Sorry for all my typos ... Listen no matter what the circumstances are there really is help for single parents, don't give up your baby girl, do not find out the hard way, it's psychologically harmful for you an her, bcus you will always fight with the feeling of guilt, I would never give my baby up bcus I feel no one can take better care and protect her better than me, all your daughter needs is love who better to give it than her own blood, trust me the minute you raise her even for a week or a month you will never want to let go off her, babies are angels from god.
nomore

Rockport, TX

#11 Nov 16, 2010
That's what you should have thought before you opened your legs (the consequences). Now working citizens are going to have to support your ass.
myriam

San Antonio, TX

#12 Nov 16, 2010
nomore wrote:
That's what you should have thought before you opened your legs (the consequences). Now working citizens are going to have to support your ass.
wow iam amazed of how cruel ppl can be. but even though i dnt owe u an explanation i am gonna give it to u i dnt need u or anyone to support me and my baby cause thankfully i have an education and a steady job.. iam not the richest nor do i have all the luxuries but thankfully i can stand on my own two feet. i actually feel sorry u have those negative comments towards me but if it makes u feel better to put me down go ahead i ve been through a lot and taken a lot of crap from my own family that what a stranger says doesnt hurt me
advice

United States

#13 Nov 16, 2010
I think you are doing the right thing by giving your daughter an opportunity that you know you cannot give her at this time in your life. It's a very selfless thing to do because you are thinking of her well being. There are many couples that are willing and ready to provide a loving home to a child. My advice is to seek advice from people that are qualified in this area. Ask your doctor for the names of professionals that could talk to you about the process. I'm sure this is a difficult situation for you, but don't let anyone make you feel guilty because of your choice. It's a very noble thing to do. Be strong and I sincerely wish you the best.
mommy

Zapata, TX

#14 Nov 16, 2010
myriam wrote:
<quoted text> wow iam amazed of how cruel ppl can be. but even though i dnt owe u an explanation i am gonna give it to u i dnt need u or anyone to support me and my baby cause thankfully i have an education and a steady job.. iam not the richest nor do i have all the luxuries but thankfully i can stand on my own two feet. i actually feel sorry u have those negative comments towards me but if it makes u feel better to put me down go ahead i ve been through a lot and taken a lot of crap from my own family that what a stranger says doesnt hurt me
ok so if u have a career and a steady jod why would u give ur baby for adoption??? I mean u dont make any sense i would understand if u were a very poor girl who lived in mexico and didnt have anything to eat but I honestly think u just dont want the responsability of raising a child, my grandma lived in mexico my grandpa died and left her with 7 kids to raise and u know what???? all of them are grown now and they r so proud of my grandma that never gave up and never remarried y los saco adelante and without any help of the government alla si te mueres de hambre but u know what to do te lo dejo a tu criterio no kieres ala baby porke kieres ser FREE of obligation, pero despues te vas a arrepentir cuando sea demaciado tarde.....piensalo mil veces antes de hacerlo dios te la mando por una rason
man slapper

Ayautla, Mexico

#15 Nov 16, 2010
so.......your single? ;)
myriam

San Antonio, TX

#16 Nov 16, 2010
mommy wrote:
<quoted text>
ok so if u have a career and a steady jod why would u give ur baby for adoption??? I mean u dont make any sense i would understand if u were a very poor girl who lived in mexico and didnt have anything to eat but I honestly think u just dont want the responsability of raising a child, my grandma lived in mexico my grandpa died and left her with 7 kids to raise and u know what???? all of them are grown now and they r so proud of my grandma that never gave up and never remarried y los saco adelante and without any help of the government alla si te mueres de hambre but u know what to do te lo dejo a tu criterio no kieres ala baby porke kieres ser FREE of obligation, pero despues te vas a arrepentir cuando sea demaciado tarde.....piensalo mil veces antes de hacerlo dios te la mando por una rason
no girl u got me wrong i dnt want to be free its just that i dnt have anyone to count on u know how hard that is not to have a mother a sister not even a friend... but most importantly i dnt have a family... iam all alone in this world and i only have her. tbats why i am asking for guidance in this topic cause i cant turn to anyone. This is really hard for me u have no idea. i dnt know if i have the heart to do this if i decided to go with it

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#17 Nov 16, 2010
there is alot of government help that everyone pays billions a year in to, abuse them get foodstamps,help with daycare and housing, you will be ok, phsycologicaly it is not reasonable to give up your kid, it will be like letting go part of yourself and you will want to be with them later which will drive you insane maybe to the brink of suicide, keep your kid stick it out 18 years from now when your baby is grown up and they have accomplished everything you couldnt that will be the best day of your life just my two cents....
Mother2mother

Del Rio, TX

#18 Nov 16, 2010
Who ever keeps telling her to put her child up for adoption and encouraging her must be that couple who wants her baby,

if you do have a good job and education then what do you need to give up your baby for adoption. If you do , you will regret it

put yourself in that place, how would you feel if your educated mother who had a decent job put you up for adoption for no good enough reason. Would you feel loved? How can a parent give up their own child, especially a person who is not a drug addict

You might think your helping her but who knows if that will affect her psychologically when she is older, and you never know looks can be deceiving I would never trust a stranger to raise my own baby , there's a lot of horrible things that can happen to her..
myriam

San Antonio, TX

#19 Nov 16, 2010
Mother2mother wrote:
Who ever keeps telling her to put her child up for adoption and encouraging her must be that couple who wants her baby,
if you do have a good job and education then what do you need to give up your baby for adoption. If you do , you will regret it
put yourself in that place, how would you feel if your educated mother who had a decent job put you up for adoption for no good enough reason. Would you feel loved? How can a parent give up their own child, especially a person who is not a drug addict
You might think your helping her but who knows if that will affect her psychologically when she is older, and you never know looks can be deceiving I would never trust a stranger to raise my own baby , there's a lot of horrible things that can happen to her..
i understand what ur saying but i dnt have the most important thing which is emotional support" and guidance and how i am suppose to give that to my daughter when i have never received it and dnt know whats its like.. how can i give love if ive never had it.. i luv my daughter that exactly why i want the best for her and more than what i can give sure i can give a home add a bunch a luv but i cant give her a family. an aunt uncle or grandma etc.
myriam

San Antonio, TX

#20 Nov 16, 2010
i understand what everyone is saying but i dnt have the most important thing which is emotional support and guidance. and how i am i supposed to give that to my daughter when i have never received it and i dnt know what that is . how can u give love if u never had it. i luv my daughter thats why i want the best for her and more than i can give her.. sure i can give her a home and a bunch a luv but i cant give her a FAMILY, an aunt, uncle, granda etc. nobody knows how hard this has been on me and i dnt want her to go through that. but at the same time i dnt have the heart to let her go because she is MINE and she is all that i have. but i cant be selfish either i can deny her the opportunity to have a REAL family so i DNT KNOW

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