I NEED A BABYSITTER - tonight!
Just saying

Savannah, TN

#42 Jan 4, 2010
PelirrojaBonita wrote:
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Even still, if you have a 6 month old baby, you should stay home and take care of it instead of worrying about getting drunk for some damn New Year's Party. If you care about your child, you would've stayed home with them. And any potential babysitter for your child should not be a last minute thing. The girl acted like she was more worried about going out all night for New Year's than worrying about who was gonna watch her child.
Do you think these so called perfect parents weren't doing something on new years eve? I would have offered to keep her child if I had read this but I went to a friends house and kept my 2 children plus 2 more for the night because others wanted to get out and I really don't mind staying home, I'm older and really have that IDGAF attitude. BUT the point in all of this is that she was going to get someone she doesn't personally know to keep her child, when parents try to find a daycare or baby sitter they call the daycare or babysitter and say what do you have to offer for my child, what makes you better than all the rest, they tell you what makes them better and you go in to visit. Some parents will stay a long time observing, but some parents can't handle 10 mins of the 20-maybe 50 children running around screaming and playing. So then you have talked to the person on the phone visited them for 10 mins and then trusted your children in there care.

So if this girl had called and talked to volunteer babysitter, looked at sex offender registry to be sure they weren't on there, and then sat and talked with the person at their home for 10 mins then decided if it was right or not, how is it any different? It's really not,, not saying I would do it personally but just saying it's basically the same.

Next thing is I have some friends that I don't talk to all the time. I hang out with them some but I may not necessarily have their number right now, we are in hard times and some of my friends have prepaid phones so they jump from number to number when it's cheaper for them. I could contact them by getting on myspace or I can call one person who can call another person who can call friends neighbor to relay the message but who wants to do all that. So yeap I have friends that I don't have their phone number but I would let them keep my children because I do trust them.
Just saying

Savannah, TN

#43 Jan 4, 2010
anon wrote:
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Only people I know watch my baby. And when it comes to day care time, I have friends with older children whom I will be seeking advice from. I understand sometimes you get into a bind and need a last minute babysitter, but posting on topix for a babysitter isn't the best route to go.
Ok so say there is a post saying I need a babysitter for my children after school from 3-5:30 because I work til 5 and could be there to pick them up by 5:30 anyone know someone good that doesn't charge a arm and a leg, I would even be willing to let a teenager of driving age keep them but I will need teacher recomendations on their character. Sooo then would you be wondering if I was a good parent and wanting to send my info to child services
Guest

Sioux City, IA

#44 Jan 4, 2010
Just saying wrote:
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Ok so say there is a post saying I need a babysitter for my children after school from 3-5:30 because I work til 5 and could be there to pick them up by 5:30 anyone know someone good that doesn't charge a arm and a leg, I would even be willing to let a teenager of driving age keep them but I will need teacher recomendations on their character. Sooo then would you be wondering if I was a good parent and wanting to send my info to child services
Posting for a babysitter in enough advance to give you time to check them out thoroughly is different than getting online THE SAME NIGHT and asking someone to keep your infant OVERNIGHT.

There is no excuse for this. It's bullshit. The skank wanted to party and didn't care who she left her kid with.

That's sickening.
anon

Sioux City, IA

#45 Jan 4, 2010
That's different. You're asking for the proper information. She posted on Dec. 31st that she needed a babysitter for that night. And personally, I see no problem in the senario you just wrote, because you are asking for references. The girl got on here, under a surname, trying to find someone she knew (which she really said she just "preferred" someone she knew) to watch her child all night on the day in which she needed the babysitter. First off, like I said in previous posts, unless she answers to Fin-girl in real life, how are we supposed to know if we know her or not? I just might know her and would have babysat if she would had posted her name. Personally, I don't know a fin-girl. Secondly, getting some suggestions is good on this site, sometimes, but in the end I'd get referrals for babysitters from friends and family who have older kids and have already been there.

But, to each their own.
Get real

United States

#46 Jan 4, 2010
Just saying wrote:
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Ok so say there is a post saying I need a babysitter for my children after school from 3-5:30 because I work til 5 and could be there to pick them up by 5:30 anyone know someone good that doesn't charge a arm and a leg, I would even be willing to let a teenager of driving age keep them but I will need teacher recomendations on their character. Sooo then would you be wondering if I was a good parent and wanting to send my info to child services
The difference is you would be taking the time to get references. To leave a child with someone you do not know overnight is nuts! Day cares are credited, they have numerous children and wouldn't be in business if the kids weren't taken care of. The only day care I ever sent my child to was ones I knew for sure did full background checks on all their employees. A day care is safer than some random person. This girl is insane for getting on topix at the last minute to find a sitter. Topix is a service for us to find the services we need but it needs to be done responsibly.
guest

Newbern, TN

#47 Jan 4, 2010
Guest wrote:
Age is no excuse. I was 18 when I got pregnant with my oldest child.
She was NEVER left overnight anywhere with anyone other than my parents or my sister and those were out of necessity only.
Once you become a parent, the partying days are through.
Amen to this. I only wish someone wld tell that to my husbands sister. She is 22 and leaves her kids with her father every weekend so she can go party. I also was 18 when I had my oldest child and my husband and I get a night to ourselves maybe every two or three months. And even then we don't go party. We usually come back and home and clean house. Lol.
Just saying

Savannah, TN

#48 Jan 4, 2010
Get real wrote:
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The difference is you would be taking the time to get references. To leave a child with someone you do not know overnight is nuts! Day cares are credited, they have numerous children and wouldn't be in business if the kids weren't taken care of. The only day care I ever sent my child to was ones I knew for sure did full background checks on all their employees. A day care is safer than some random person. This girl is insane for getting on topix at the last minute to find a sitter. Topix is a service for us to find the services we need but it needs to be done responsibly.
But there are occasions where you hear of children dying in the hands of a daycare.
Just saying

Savannah, TN

#49 Jan 4, 2010
guest wrote:
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Amen to this. I only wish someone wld tell that to my husbands sister. She is 22 and leaves her kids with her father every weekend so she can go party. I also was 18 when I had my oldest child and my husband and I get a night to ourselves maybe every two or three months. And even then we don't go party. We usually come back and home and clean house. Lol.
Well that's the fathers problem for enabling...there's a simple solution, cut her off!
Just saying

Savannah, TN

#50 Jan 4, 2010
Get real wrote:
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The difference is you would be taking the time to get references. To leave a child with someone you do not know overnight is nuts! Day cares are credited, they have numerous children and wouldn't be in business if the kids weren't taken care of. The only day care I ever sent my child to was ones I knew for sure did full background checks on all their employees. A day care is safer than some random person. This girl is insane for getting on topix at the last minute to find a sitter. Topix is a service for us to find the services we need but it needs to be done responsibly.
But who said after she got someone to say they would keep the child that she wouldn't have checked into the person, with the same amount of effort that you would use to check into a daycare. I mean shit you can tell a lot about a person by just driving by their home, or even checking their myspace or facebook. And checking the sex offenders registry and searching their name on the state gazette.
Just saying

Savannah, TN

#51 Jan 4, 2010
anon wrote:
That's different. You're asking for the proper information. She posted on Dec. 31st that she needed a babysitter for that night. And personally, I see no problem in the senario you just wrote, because you are asking for references. The girl got on here, under a surname, trying to find someone she knew (which she really said she just "preferred" someone she knew) to watch her child all night on the day in which she needed the babysitter. First off, like I said in previous posts, unless she answers to Fin-girl in real life, how are we supposed to know if we know her or not? I just might know her and would have babysat if she would had posted her name. Personally, I don't know a fin-girl. Secondly, getting some suggestions is good on this site, sometimes, but in the end I'd get referrals for babysitters from friends and family who have older kids and have already been there.
But, to each their own.
I wouldn't post my name on here either....because people get on here and jump the gun not knowing what her intentions where. Maybe you should have posted early and seen if she asked you questions and tried to get info on what type of person you are. Then if she didn't do that go ahead and blast her out. But you didn't do that so you don't know what her intentions where.
guest

Newbern, TN

#52 Jan 4, 2010
Just saying wrote:
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Well that's the fathers problem for enabling...there's a simple solution, cut her off!
I know that is the solution. Thats the problem. No one will. She pays them 50 dollars a night to keep them, just so she can go out.
Just saying

Savannah, TN

#53 Jan 4, 2010
guest wrote:
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I know that is the solution. Thats the problem. No one will. She pays them 50 dollars a night to keep them, just so she can go out.
WOW That should be getting expensive...My mom keeps my kids once every month or 2 and it's free...and I enjoy the fact that she keeps them for FREE :)
fin-girl

Sioux City, IA

#54 Jan 4, 2010
Just saying wrote:
Why don't everyone lay off this girl. Who really knows what she ment when she first put this post up, but before you guys go judging to much, think about this.....when you go looking for a daycare for your children to go to every day on a daily basis, how long do you actually sit there with the daycare workers and watch them interact with other children....do you ask them if they are meth heads or do you actually go to their home and observe their daily life for a month or so....idk but last time I checked some people who murder others have their entire family convenced they are perfect. So before you all bash the dog mess out of this girl, think about how well you actually know the people keeping your children. NOW HAVE AT IT!!!!
THANK YOU "Just Saying"! topix is SUPPOSED to be a place of DISSCUSSION not BASHING! i posted that hoping a DECENT person would reply instead of all you other MORONS looking for something to BITCH about! to the ppl with negative things to say- YOU DON'T KNOW MY SITUATION! i didn't put my child out on my porch and post a thread on here saying "Ok, my baby's out here on my porch so anybody wantin an extra 20 bucks come pick him up!" i posted it looking for somebody with CLASS, "PREFERABLY SOMEONE I KNEW", to give me their email or phone number so i could get in touch with them and TALK to them and make sure they were a good choice! And HELL NO i'm not posting my name on here for all you drama queens to go and start a thread about how bad of a mother i am blah blah blah... please ppl open your eyes.. there are good ppl and bad ppl on topix and i was hoping to get a reply from an understanding person but i guess there's just too many negative ppl on this site.. go figure!
Guest

Sioux City, IA

#55 Jan 4, 2010
When you're a parent, you don't just do something and "hope for the best." You had no idea who might come calling or if they would be a good person or a bad person.

That's the problem.

Also 20 bucks is ridiculously low to pay anyone to keep an infant overnight.
guest

Newbern, TN

#56 Jan 4, 2010
these people are not getting on here to WITCH. these people are stating facts. the internet is full of pervs that troll for things like what you posted. how would you have felt if someone had responded, gave you a list of bogus credentials, and then molested, stole, or even murdered your child while you partied away ringing in the new year? and its not even the pervs you have to worry about? do you know how many people in this world cant have babies? and some of them are crazy enough to jump at the chance of what you offered. they could have ran with your child and you might have never seen it again. you dont offer your baby up on topix. simple as that. if you cant find a sitter among people you know then there is a reason the Lord is putting you at home with your baby on new years eve. i spent new years eve with my kids. didnt even try to get a sitter. i had a good time ringing in the new year with my kids. its not that there are too many negative people on topix. its that there are too many stupid ones.

Since: Jun 07

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#57 Jan 4, 2010
fin-girl wrote:
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THANK YOU "Just Saying"! topix is SUPPOSED to be a place of DISSCUSSION not BASHING! i posted that hoping a DECENT person would reply instead of all you other MORONS looking for something to BITCH about! to the ppl with negative things to say- YOU DON'T KNOW MY SITUATION! i didn't put my child out on my porch and post a thread on here saying "Ok, my baby's out here on my porch so anybody wantin an extra 20 bucks come pick him up!" i posted it looking for somebody with CLASS, "PREFERABLY SOMEONE I KNEW", to give me their email or phone number so i could get in touch with them and TALK to them and make sure they were a good choice! And HELL NO i'm not posting my name on here for all you drama queens to go and start a thread about how bad of a mother i am blah blah blah... please ppl open your eyes.. there are good ppl and bad ppl on topix and i was hoping to get a reply from an understanding person but i guess there's just too many negative ppl on this site.. go figure!
See, this is the problem, you were "hoping" a decent person would reply.. How exactly do you expect to judge a decent person based on a thread post, a sinlge phone call, and perhaps 15 minutes of face to face time (and that is stretching it). The point is many decent people replied to your post, those are the ones stating how foolish it is to look for a babysitter on topix, the ones to watch out for would be those who reply stating they would love to help you out!!!!
Just saying

Savannah, TN

#58 Jan 4, 2010
akpilot wrote:
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See, this is the problem, you were "hoping" a decent person would reply.. How exactly do you expect to judge a decent person based on a thread post, a sinlge phone call, and perhaps 15 minutes of face to face time (and that is stretching it). The point is many decent people replied to your post, those are the ones stating how foolish it is to look for a babysitter on topix, the ones to watch out for would be those who reply stating they would love to help you out!!!!
Sooo I would expect that if you have a child of your own you would stay at home until they turn 18 because you don't want a babysitter or a daycare because no daycare is going to want a parent sticking around in the way for weeks just so they know their child is taken care of. If I had read this I would have offered to watch her child and odds are because Dyersburg is Dyersburg I probably know her just because everyone knows everyone. But anyway, I kept my 2 children and 2 others on new years and had a wonderful time playing board games and watching movies. It really wasn't going to hurt me to have another child with all the festive monopoly and uno going on at our house. I don't mind children at all and I wouldn't have mind having an extra person in my home for the night for a mother to have a good time. Obviously this isn't something that happens often or we would have seen this post sooner. I'm sure she just needed a night out and why not new years. I mean I know when my children where 6 months old I needed a night out sooooo bad. In case you guys don't know 6 months means they are just having baby food so they're stopped up a lot or up chunking because their bodies are getting use to the food and they still can have colic and they also start getting teeth around this time. So especially if this is a single mother or a mother who the father works so much he just sleeps when he gets home, I understand needing a night away. There is nothing like listening to the crying over and over day and night and you might get 4 hours of sleep over 24 hours and that doesn't mean 4 hours at one time. A woman can literally pull her hair out. I love my children and would do anything for them but when my first was 6 months old I stuck it out and never went anywhere drove myself nuts and would find myself at Walmart at midnight just because I couldn't handle being in my own home one more min. But with my second child I gave up and would take a night here or there to just get away from my child and my husband because as a woman even if you aren't working you are normally taking the harder part of the family. SOOOOOOO I understand needing a night and it sounds like this girl needed a night and figured new years was as good as any.
anon

Newbern, TN

#59 Jan 4, 2010
fin-girl wrote:
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THANK YOU "Just Saying"! topix is SUPPOSED to be a place of DISSCUSSION not BASHING! i posted that hoping a DECENT person would reply instead of all you other MORONS looking for something to BITCH about! to the ppl with negative things to say- YOU DON'T KNOW MY SITUATION! i didn't put my child out on my porch and post a thread on here saying "Ok, my baby's out here on my porch so anybody wantin an extra 20 bucks come pick him up!" i posted it looking for somebody with CLASS, "PREFERABLY SOMEONE I KNEW", to give me their email or phone number so i could get in touch with them and TALK to them and make sure they were a good choice! And HELL NO i'm not posting my name on here for all you drama queens to go and start a thread about how bad of a mother i am blah blah blah... please ppl open your eyes.. there are good ppl and bad ppl on topix and i was hoping to get a reply from an understanding person but i guess there's just too many negative ppl on this site.. go figure!
Not buying it. You are just trying to back track now that you see you should not have put this on the forum. I hope the childrens services can check this out. Oh did you get to go out? Did you drink yourself into oblivion? Twenty bucks you must be kiddin! Was your night out that important over your child? The more you try to defend yourself the worse this will get.
Shan

Sioux City, IA

#60 Jan 4, 2010
Afre you freaking nuts that you gonna let someon on topix watch your 6 month old kid? WTF Are you think? I would never leave my 6 month old with Strangers with all the sickos out in the world. You Should had just got a family member to watch the baby.

Some people are just stupid as Hell!

Since: Jun 07

Location hidden

#61 Jan 4, 2010
Just saying wrote:
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Sooo I would expect that if you have a child of your own you would stay at home until they turn 18 because you don't want a babysitter or a daycare because no daycare is going to want a parent sticking around in the way for weeks just so they know their child is taken care of. If I had read this I would have offered to watch her child and odds are because Dyersburg is Dyersburg I probably know her just because everyone knows everyone. But anyway, I kept my 2 children and 2 others on new years and had a wonderful time playing board games and watching movies. It really wasn't going to hurt me to have another child with all the festive monopoly and uno going on at our house. I don't mind children at all and I wouldn't have mind having an extra person in my home for the night for a mother to have a good time. Obviously this isn't something that happens often or we would have seen this post sooner. I'm sure she just needed a night out and why not new years. I mean I know when my children where 6 months old I needed a night out sooooo bad. In case you guys don't know 6 months means they are just having baby food so they're stopped up a lot or up chunking because their bodies are getting use to the food and they still can have colic and they also start getting teeth around this time. So especially if this is a single mother or a mother who the father works so much he just sleeps when he gets home, I understand needing a night away. There is nothing like listening to the crying over and over day and night and you might get 4 hours of sleep over 24 hours and that doesn't mean 4 hours at one time. A woman can literally pull her hair out. I love my children and would do anything for them but when my first was 6 months old I stuck it out and never went anywhere drove myself nuts and would find myself at Walmart at midnight just because I couldn't handle being in my own home one more min. But with my second child I gave up and would take a night here or there to just get away from my child and my husband because as a woman even if you aren't working you are normally taking the harder part of the family. SOOOOOOO I understand needing a night and it sounds like this girl needed a night and figured new years was as good as any.
You just don't get it... If everyone knows everyone then you shouldn't need a generic post on topix to find a babysitter. And nothing anyone has said on here has anything to do with staying home with your children til they are 18.. You are completely missing the point, and are obviously willing to just give a pass to a poor decision. You are awful defensive about this topic, perhaps you feel a posting to craigs list would be just as reasonable?

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