What Is Considered Cheating?

What Is Considered Cheating?

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guest

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#1 Dec 17, 2012
My boyfriend didn't log out of Facebook and I saw messages between him and the girl he dated all through high school. She's married with kids now and in the messages he never came right out and said it but he hinted around that he still loves her. I haven't said anything to him about it yet because I'm really not even sure what to say but it does bother me and we've been together 3 years so he should know I wouldn't be comfortable with him messaging her like that. Is that considered cheating or is cheating just physical stuff only?
the verdict is

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#3 Dec 17, 2012
If she (the ex) allows it will turn into physical cheating. You didn't give enough info to determine if the cheating is emotional, but it sounds like it may be. Be weary, he definitely has interest elsewhere despite his 3 yr long relationship with you. You should confront him.

Since: May 10

Dyersburg, TN

#4 Dec 17, 2012
guest wrote:
My boyfriend didn't log out of Facebook and I saw messages between him and the girl he dated all through high school. She's married with kids now and in the messages he never came right out and said it but he hinted around that he still loves her. I haven't said anything to him about it yet because I'm really not even sure what to say but it does bother me and we've been together 3 years so he should know I wouldn't be comfortable with him messaging her like that. Is that considered cheating or is cheating just physical stuff only?
You're screwed. He's gonna cheat.

“I don't do red lipstick...”

Since: Sep 12

well maybe this one time...

#5 Dec 18, 2012
Hellbilly 1 wrote:
<quoted text>You're screwed. He's gonna cheat.
Lol. Remind me to never discuss my heart with you.
HaHaHa

Los Angeles, CA

#6 Dec 18, 2012
See this is what i been pointing out! Just stupid:) Why dont you try asking why he was on there and second why would you go in his phone? Unless you already doubted him!
guest

United States

#7 Dec 18, 2012
I wasn't in his phone. He was using MY laptop at MY house.
You Are Right to Worry

Ripley, TN

#8 Dec 18, 2012
Facebook has led to more cheating and divorces than alcohol! That's a fact! Sounds like he's still got a fire burning for her. Time to put the smack down on his sorry arse!
married for 14 yrs

Dyersburg, TN

#9 Dec 18, 2012
I would talk to him about it. If you ignore it you will always wonder in the back of your mind about his true feelings. Just calmly tell him what happen ( why you were on his facebook, he was still logged on your computer,, just everything that led up to you reading it) what you saw and how it made you feel to see that. Do Not accuse him of any thing and just keep positive and listen. No One can ever have a healthy relationship without trust honesty and respect.
guest

Jackson, TN

#10 Dec 18, 2012
He may have left his facebook open on purpose. That way he won't have to break your heart, you just find out on your own. Get what I'm saying? Best of luck to ya!!
2 cents

Martin, TN

#11 Dec 18, 2012
guest wrote:
My boyfriend didn't log out of Facebook and I saw messages between him and the girl he dated all through high school. She's married with kids now and in the messages he never came right out and said it but he hinted around that he still loves her. I haven't said anything to him about it yet because I'm really not even sure what to say but it does bother me and we've been together 3 years so he should know I wouldn't be comfortable with him messaging her like that. Is that considered cheating or is cheating just physical stuff only?
Some will say it's cheating only when it's physical; however, if one is in a committed relationship, talking to the opposite sex about personal problems and etc. and or spending time with the opposite sex without the significant other in the relationship knowing about either is cheating.
anon

Ripley, TN

#12 Dec 18, 2012
I agree with 2 cents. Many times the so-called innocent flirting and taking is just a precursor to cheating. If the "talking" and so forth happens all the time then you have to really wonder about the motives. Is one person (or both) trying to push the limits?
Clair Voyant

Little Rock, AR

#13 Dec 18, 2012
I would be REALLY hacked off if MY boyfriend was messaging another chick from MY laptop in MY home! Especially a former girlfriend!
guest

United States

#14 Dec 18, 2012
He never came right out and said anything outright just hinted around. She said that she had looked at our pictures and I was pretty and he replied with he had always had good taste in women, that's why he dated her. He told her that her husband was a very lucky man and that he hoped her husband appreciated what he had. I don't know what to do, I love him but I know that he is trying to go somewhere he should stay far away from. She didn't really seem to be encouraging him just thanked him for being so sweet. He sent the last message and she didn't reply from what I could make of it. Very confused right now.
guest

United States

#15 Dec 18, 2012
Get out while you can, Where there is smoke, there is fire. Anymore than a "hi, how are you", unless they are really really good friends there should be no reason for casual conversation.(and if they were you should already know about it) If you have doubts, you are probably right.. And apparantly you do or you would not resort to Topix for advise.. sorry.. GET OUT NOW...
HaHaHa

Los Angeles, CA

#16 Dec 18, 2012
You had better run grl;):)
your heart knows

United States

#17 Dec 18, 2012
my boyfrind of 8 years and the father of my kids stays on facebook and he had left his facebook logged in and i seen a few messages to girls most of there convo was erased tho. but one of them convo`s was about him given a way a shirt which i knew about but any way he had said dont turn me into a stakler and she said lol i wont then he said to late. i still have not said anything but its killin me. i no he wont stop talkin to girls he has been caught before and yet i still try to trust him. but the truth is i cant. honey i dont no just go with your heart you really no if its the first and the last time.

“I don't do red lipstick...”

Since: Sep 12

well maybe this one time...

#18 Dec 19, 2012
It could be worse. He could be on Topix selling his soul.
Guest

Dallas, TX

#19 Dec 19, 2012
Me and my boyfriend have been together three years also, and we dont even have facebook. Best solution ever.
HaHaHa

Los Angeles, CA

#20 Dec 19, 2012
I use fb for a B~~ch site:)
understand

United States

#21 Dec 19, 2012
My opinion is i think he's thinkn ab someone else. why wld he say things like that to his ex? u no. he may b a nice guy but if he is committed like he says he is he shldnt b saying that to her expecally

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