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Dyersburg, TN

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Dec 6, 2012
 

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This subject is a very touchy one. But let me just say I am UPSET over a person I know who took their child's back child support payments collected from income tax money from the dad and went on a 10 day cruise with her new husband.She also left the child with her ex while they went knowing he is struggling financially and had little food in the house. That is abuse of the money and neglecting the child! That right there is just wrong. People like her are why men try to lower their child support payments. Why should they have to do without for NONSENSE such as that????? A cruise - pshhht! If she wants to go on a cruise then she needs to use her own freakin' money or better yet get her new husband to pay for it! Not he ex! That money is for the child!
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Newbern, TN

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Dec 12, 2012
 

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I agree that fathers and mothers should pay child support but I also agree that they should not set it so high that person can't also have a life. Just because they are divorced they should be able to have a life.
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Dyersburg, TN

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Jun 10, 2013
 

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My husband's exes are chomping at the bit because he is self employed and his wages can't be garnished. He has to send it in. When something comes up where we need it, he pays a partial payment. Sometimes he will go a couple of weeks and then send it in. He always catches it up but they are just ticked off because he can't be controlled by a garnishment and also they think he pays less than he should. Well he pays a combined total $230 a week for 3 kids so in my opinion I do believe that is sufficient. Plus we take them to the water park in Eddieville at least 3 times each summer, take them to the mountains with us every fall, we also buy them each a couple new outfits at school time as well as a pair of name brand shoes and all school supplies. I really don't think they (the moms) have a right to complain. We do A LOT more than most dads and stepmoms do. They should be grateful instead of hateful about it.
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Mount Vernon, AR

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#24
Jun 10, 2013
 
Yep they should be grateful but they won't ever be. They despise you for being his wife when they never could be. They will poison the kids' minds against you. Most moms would LOVE for the kid's father and stepmother to do what y'all do. Sounds to me like greed! Get a lawyer if they take you to court. Sounds to me like you do enough and then some!
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#25
Jun 10, 2013
 
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Never once did he say he had 4 or 5 kids by different mothers. That is just something you assumed. he could have gotten a lower paying job and needs it lowered for that purpose. If you don't make enough to pay your payment you will get behind. Therefor the payment is not appropriate and needs to be adjusted. Doesn't mean he doesn't want to support his kid(s. It means he is trying to support his kids as well as himself and not get behind. Once you get behind for what ever reason it takes a while to get caught up. People need support lowered for various reasons other than not wanting to pay it....like loss of job, lay off, pay cuts, etc. Don't be so quick to judge.
You best believe i have no reason to make nothing up. He does have six kids whom all of them are by different women. MY child being the first of all them. And yes he tries every way he can not to pay. He has not paid now going on six months..
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Dyersburg, TN

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#26
Jun 11, 2013
 
Blink BaBy wrote:
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You best believe i have no reason to make nothing up. He does have six kids whom all of them are by different women. MY child being the first of all them. And yes he tries every way he can not to pay. He has not paid now going on six months..
That might be so in your particular story but that is not the facts of all stories of men needing to lower their child support. You stereotyped all men trying to lower their support into a "deadbeat a$$" category.
Vet

Flint, TX

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#27
Jun 11, 2013
 
A lot of women will get pregnant on purpose, to trap a man. Seen it done to a friend and is true. So, don't all you women get on here and deny it.
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Battletown, KY

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Jun 11, 2013
 
I'm just wondering if there is a double standard for child support. I believe the non-custodial parent (Father or Mother) should have to pay child support. I know of several cases the Father has the children and the Mother's pay NOTHING!....and the courts just let it go. Parents should be held accountable for supporting their children. BOTH Parents.

Also, someone had mentioned in an earlier post that former DA, Mary Boyd, didn't play and that was certainly the case for me many years ago. After nearly 10 yrs. of no child support, I spoke with Mrs. Boyd. Within barely a month, I had partial back support as well as a new court order! We need more like Her!
Roberta

Battletown, KY

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#29
Jun 12, 2013
 
@(VET).....I believe that...but that is where we ALL have to be responsible. If a man does not want a child...whether woman says she is using birth control or not, he should take birth control precautions for himself!!
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Dyersburg, TN

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#30
Jun 12, 2013
 
Roberta wrote:
I'm just wondering if there is a double standard for child support. I believe the non-custodial parent (Father or Mother) should have to pay child support. I know of several cases the Father has the children and the Mother's pay NOTHING!....and the courts just let it go. Parents should be held accountable for supporting their children. BOTH Parents.

Also, someone had mentioned in an earlier post that former DA, Mary Boyd, didn't play and that was certainly the case for me many years ago. After nearly 10 yrs. of no child support, I spoke with Mrs. Boyd. Within barely a month, I had partial back support as well as a new court order! We need more like Her!
Because men don't go after cs like women do.
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Battletown, KY

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#31
Jun 12, 2013
 
Well, they definitely Should! There are some Sorry women out there. Not all women who give birth are "Mama's". I know men who work hard and struggle to take care of their children and these Lazy"Mothers" won't work and if they do, they manage to get out of paying anything...cause it's all about THEM! I think it's time the courts play Fair. Two people make a child. Two should be supporting them!!
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Jacksonville, AR

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Jun 14, 2013
 

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Dude is right. Men do not go after cs money like women do. The whole time we had custody of my stepson we never asked for a dime of cs money. Less than 30 days after he goes back to live with his mom she is pursuing child support. I mean REALLY? Leech is all I can say about her. I have already told my husband before that child ever moves back in our household, he will pursue child support from her or there will be no help from me. No laundry will I do for the child or picking up from school, etc. It will all be on him if he doesn't pursue it from her because it is not fair to expect me to work and support her kid but yet expect nothing from her ESPECIALLY when she expects it and gets cs from him. And I mean what I say.
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Mar 18, 2014
 

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Child support is a money maker for the state. It is not about the children at all. All it does is create a sense of entitlement to the custodial parent and a feeling of being labeled dead beat by the noncustodial parent. There are stories of men killing themselves over back child support because of the poverty it inflicts. Why can't people just see the truth????
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#34
Mar 19, 2014
 
I too agree that both parents should support the child. My husband's child support was set in 2008 when he was employed at World Color. As we all know they have shut down and he took another job making 4.75$ less an hour and applied for a modification. The state said there was no significant change that would warrant a modification. Really? Almost 5$ less an hour and he is still expected to pay the same amount? Now, how is it we pay an enormous amount of child support (and the mother lives in government housing with hardly no rent at all) enough to pay all her bills (rent lights water cell phone and car pmt even) but yet at least every other month she calls needing more money because her electric is about to get turned off or she doesn't have gas to take the child to school. I'm sorry I'm not giving any more money. On top of that she repeatedly asks that we not let the child know that we pay her support. I agree that my husband should help support the child but the mother should also have to help. She gets approximately 780$ a month in food stamps so she doesn't have to feed him and (on top of the insurance we pay for, weekly, deductibles, and copays) she gets tenncare. So what exactly is she spending on the child? The system makes no sense.
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#35
Mar 19, 2014
 
I think the absent parent should pay child support but the present parent should have to work as well and provide receipts as to what the money was spent on.
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Tampa, FL

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Jun 14, 2014
 
opinionated wrote:
I think the absent parent should pay child support but the present parent should have to work as well and provide receipts as to what the money was spent on.
That will never happen. The custodial parent can take the money and go on cruises, buy cigarettes, booz, whatever they want. They will never be held accountable for how it's spent. I personally feel the non-custodial parent has a right to know how the money they pay out benefits their child!

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