Easy solutions you can try from home

Easy solutions you can try from home

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Tina the Destroyer

Duluth, MN

#1 Mar 22, 2014
So it's lots of blah blah, problems, blah blah, but what is the solution?

Two easy first steps I've been able to identify so far:

First, don't think to yourself something like, "Oh, I've gotta do something, I can't just do nothing given all this informatioin. Oh, let me resolve to give my time, assets, and resources to help these poor lower-class people who are taking it so hard. Oh, lemme see, well crap...if it is like this here, I bet it's worse somewhere else. How can I give to those who need it most? How can I get to the girsl who are being kept in crates or being made beat-faced by pimp's fists? Obviously those 1st streeters are fine, they're survivors."

Don't think that way.
Tina the Destroyer

Duluth, MN

#2 Mar 22, 2014
Wrong answer for two reasons I can think of, but wrong here for the reason that we need our helpers helping us. WE need help, Duluth needs help.

How do you think we became survivors on 1st street? It was a severe, and persistant set of life-threatening circumstances that made us so able. I am more tired of being robbed, and raped than you could possibly understand. I'm a survivor because they keep lettting me escape. I could be collected, and terminated or worse at any moment of any day, it's hard on morale.
Tina the Destroyer

Duluth, MN

#3 Mar 22, 2014
If it is not already your job arresting men who punch women in the face, or doing body recovery work abroad, you should probably be thinking about how you can scratch the surface, and nevermind being a hero. That's how shit doesn't get done. Let's think about. That's as far as it goes with at least half the people who really wish for a solution, and would help if they could.
Tina the Destroyer

Duluth, MN

#4 Mar 22, 2014
And the second thing I can think of to bring change is that if we were to all stop pretending, together, we could probably start making progress. We would have to all stop pretending all at once. Stop pretending you don't see, hear, and know, all the things you see, hear, and know, wives especially.
Tina the Destroyer

Duluth, MN

#5 Mar 22, 2014
Ladies, if you tried, do you think you would bust your husbands for spending on prostitutes, er call girls, or his mistress? Have you ever tried? If you divorced him, took it all, and made him come to you on your terms, do you think you would like it better? Would it be more fair?
Tina the Destroyer

Duluth, MN

#6 Mar 22, 2014
more to follow
Tina the Destroyer

Duluth, MN

#7 Mar 22, 2014
If you are pretty sure that your man is cheating, and lying, but you let him bully you into acceting it because you can't prove it to him...well...there is an easy solution that I know about. Two, actually, but the second is for special cases.
Tina the Destroyer

Duluth, MN

#8 Mar 22, 2014
Call him out, and wach him respond.

Does he respond like a loving man who has been wrongly accused by the very object of his devoted affection? Or does he dimiss it like yer crazy, start making absurd, groundless counter-accusations, react then with anger, shouting, and being threatening to intimidte you back into submission or maybe even something like have a total blow-up, or act injured by you to make YOU apologize to HIM for it... maybe storm off, and leave for hours to cool off, leaving you at home to sweat it, so that when he returns home you are grateful to have him back with you, feeling less sure he is lying, and certainly not ready to make any lie-altering decisions that involve him.
Tina the Destroyer

Duluth, MN

#9 Mar 22, 2014
He was out nailing his mistress. When he returns home meet him with a hard slap in the face, and tell him that he needs to start making arrangements to care for all his own needs with no help from you.

His hooker don't want to listen to his bitching, do his shopping, pay his bills, care for his children, clean his house. He doesn't want to do those things either, that's why he keeps you as his wife, but has replaed you with another lover. Where esle could a man find the services of a wife? You coudln't pay a person to do that job. He couldn't afford you.
Tina the Destroyer

Duluth, MN

#10 Mar 22, 2014
When you confront your man about an offense he has given, how does he respond?

A person who has no secret to keep will have a normal conversation with you about it, so long as you are being civil, and non-threatening.

A person who is telling lies, and keeping secrets, will refuse communication, ie hand you flimsy BS, give unnecessary or irrelevant details, will create stories as diversion, make conflicting statements over time, pull his buddies in to cooberate, just ask so-n-so, or just flat out refuse to answer when you back him into a corner... his poor brain will make him start raising his voice, becoming visibly agitated, slamming his fits 'n schit. Is ordinary reaction of the male psyche to psychological distress. Men slam shit, women giggle...can't even help it.
Tina the Destroyer

Duluth, MN

#11 Mar 22, 2014
Suppose you can get 20 minutes into the confrontation.

Is he pacing, is he winded? Is he pulling his fingers through his hair or holding his head in his hands. Is he not fixing his gaze on objects in the room, but appear to be gazing into his own thoughts? It's because he is experiencing fear of what is going to happen next in the immediate, if he can't get you back under controll. It's gonna cost him, and he can't think on his feet fast enough to make you believe what he is trying to sell. It is fear you are looking at. Maybe panic.

Describing the truth to a person looks entirely different than describing a lie to a person.
Tina the Destroyer

Duluth, MN

#12 Mar 22, 2014
YOU are the only person in this scenario who needs convincing in order for you to make a decision for yourself. You don't need to convince HIM that you know, and you don't need to convince his mom.
Tina the Destroyer

Duluth, MN

#13 Mar 22, 2014
But suppose that you DO require for yourself an admission from the man. You are certain that he is a piece-o-schit. He has terrorized you or your kids, made you suffer and you just can't endure. You can always decide to force a 2 1/2 inch blade between his ribs, into the lower left lobe of his lungs, then remove it...real quick...just once in and out...like he was a cardboard box full of old sweaters. Best to grip the handle in your right fist and swing your arm round-house style with your elbow extended and locked...learned it in third grade science class, how you can let leavers do the work for you...generate force without exertion...fun and easy.

Two to three inches of that sort of penetration is not going to kill the man, but it will make him reflect. He will probably start thinking about what he should be doing differently...

(First aid for a sucking chest wound is to press a sandwich bag over the wound as he is exhaled, and hold it there. Have him hold it there. You should be more concerned about maintaining vacuume pressure, than blood loss in this instance...either way, one of you should be dialing.)

After you know a real medic is enroute, you may begin questioning and expect faster results from the man. You should have all the admissions you require before police arrive. Everything will work it's self out after that. This time next year, you've got the life you were after, and your babies are proud of you for saving them.
Tina the Destroyer

Duluth, MN

#15 Mar 24, 2014
Dear Mal,

I am not locked up because I'm not committing crimes. "...we deserve better protection from peopole like you..." Tell us more about that, what do you mean?
Tina the Destroyer

Duluth, MN

#16 Mar 24, 2014
...prolly haven't really put any thought ino it, right? Just shootin' yer uninformed conservative mouth off. I would say either contribute some thought, or leave the thinking to the grown-ups.
Tina the Destroyer

Duluth, MN

#17 Mar 24, 2014
...thoughts relevant to the conversatioin, Mal, not your thoughts about whether I should be locked-up for what I say.
Tina the Destroyer

Duluth, MN

#18 Mar 24, 2014
I am wanting to know about this deserving you mentioned.

"...we deserve better protection..."

Tell me about how, and why you the people deserve what you say.

I also wonder about what you think I will do to you, that you deserve to be made safe from my freedom to be "on the streets.",

Do you comprehend what you are saying in your first post? Nonsensical.

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