my wife refuses to get a job!
mamala

Stockton, CA

#163 Jan 15, 2014
Alot of you are complaining about your spouse not working. My husband never wanted me to work. Yes my house has been dirty with babies untik they reach 2. I always cook. I have used credit cards and I have gotten fat and lost it. I have come to realize the fat and money spent was because my spouse ignored me. He was all about his job. Kid raising was 100% me for 13 years. If your this unhappy in your marriage is it more because theres no connection with yiur spouse? Do you feel unapreciated? Try being home with kids 24 hours seven days a week. Its hard and draining. Try cleaning every day over and over. If my part time was full time Id be in heaven and if I made as much money as him he could stay home. Try thinking and talking to your spouses that wont work. If your working and dont like it cut the cable, internet, and extras and hire a maid.
Hello

Pittsburgh, PA

#164 Jan 15, 2014
youtube.com/watch... … Off The Wall wife
imapushover

Jerseyville, IL

#165 Feb 2, 2014
I've been married 32 years. My wife worked 3 years until we had our first of three children. In the mid 90' s she went to college for 2 1/2 yrs. for a Physical Therapy Assistant and she became state certified. She never went to work, never looked for a PTA job. Now our kids are grown and I'm still coming home to a messy house. She spends most of her time on Ancestry.com . Am I wrong for wanting out of this long marriage ?
Biggun

Hope Mills, NC

#166 Mar 11, 2014
i hear that wrote:
same here buddy, my wife will not get out of the house and get a good paying job. I know she can get a job very very easily with someone she worked with in the past making good money. she does not go to school, we do not have kids. and she wonders why we cannot go out and eat. what is the deal, its going on 4 years now. doesnt clean the house doesnt cook dinner. wtf should i do?
you should put an end to it, I feel for that from wife wife, it was only suppose to be for a year, then she decided to go back to school, an after graduation she still sits right here at home, will not work an I have to pay everything, I have even lost vehicles an a home an she wouldn't lift a hand to help me save that stuff, what was suppose to be a year has turned into 15 years now, But I'm getting ready to leave her, I'm done with it. I want to have things in life an I know there are plenty of women who would appreciate having a man help them have things in their life
Kevin

Hamilton, New Zealand

#168 Jun 20, 2014
Well gents, try this for size: I have a rwadonably intelligent wife who has 3 kids by previous partners. One she have up for adoption , two she kept and married the father ( and got divorced before we met)- the father pays no maintenance, so I pay for her kids and mine - I wS divorced aswell, no, I never screwed around in any way.
So, my wife has said for 8 years that she is looking for work - hold on you might say, she is looking - 8 YEARS! No maintenance! Shoot me, somebody!
Kevin

Hamilton, New Zealand

#169 Jun 20, 2014
Sometimes it's like being in a burning aeroplane : BALE OUT!
Kevin

Hamilton, New Zealand

#170 Jun 20, 2014
Hey porkie, all jokes aside - why should your husband have to cut the car and the internet? Show some self control, look for a job, eat less, watch less TV and don't surf the net. That will give you another 9 hours a day to get a paying job. Bet your BMI is over 35 - EAT less! Exercise more! Fat chicks are lazy - this is YOU lard ass!!
Stan The Man

Pelham, NH

#171 Jul 3, 2014
I cant help but notice that many comments in this thread are from women. Why I would like to know is if they have so much time to get on the web and whine, why doesnt someone give them something more constructive to do?
Shut these broads up and give them some frickin chores already. WTF.
Chaney

Richmond, Canada

#172 Aug 10, 2014
Last I wrote was in 2013. It's now approaching 2015 and let's me say, my child is a teenager, my wife still stays at home and the house has gotten messier. My income has improved and we have more stuff and a larger home but the one thing that hasn't change is my wife status as my dependant.
For those who say complaining about this or wanting financial equality is meek or weak, all men who put up with this salvery is strong enough to keep their marriage intact. The only weak one is the person asking for an allowance.
What will happen of one day the tap is turned off?
OneMansOpinion

Vancouver, Canada

#173 Aug 16, 2014
At Channey: It does no good. If you divorce them , they get half your income. If you die, they get your life insurance payout.
But Hypothetically, if you can turn off the tap with no consequences, the stay at home individual is so diconnected from the work force that they will never be able to support themselves. Thus, they find another benefactor. Its no different than an adult child who refuses to work and mooches off at home. It is the person who must change. Men, we complain about this but we encourage it by allowing it to go on. Women, you vigorously defend this right for a free lunch.
For the ladies who state being supported by a man is Nature's design, I remind you women worked during the industrial revolution and during WWII. It is in the Eastern culture that women are support to be taken care of but they also have no rights and stand second to their husbands.
It seems today women want both. Just look at all those talk shows whereby women seek paternaty from men and thus a long term meal ticket.
A Yahoo forum had this to say: https://answers.yahoo.com/question/index...
firemantod75

Manteca, CA

#174 Oct 7, 2014
Mine stays at home and sends me angry texts all day drinks and yells and berates me,then wonders why I keep to myself. I hate women now. And I hate life. I don't know how to leave my sister was dumped on me too with her 2 kids so out of 3 adults one works and yet I can't find a spot in my home to relax.

Since: Jul 11

Location hidden

#175 Oct 8, 2014
firemantod75 wrote:
Mine stays at home and sends me angry texts all day drinks and yells and berates me,then wonders why I keep to myself. I hate women now. And I hate life. I don't know how to leave my sister was dumped on me too with her 2 kids so out of 3 adults one works and yet I can't find a spot in my home to relax.
Don't hate all women hun. You just got caught up with the wrong type. Unfortunately there are lots of those around as well as the wrong men. Keep you chin up. There are good ones out there.
Entertained

Northbrook, IL

#177 Oct 15, 2014
I loved reading all of these comments! I know of a woman just like this! Capable of working, has a degree with 2 children but has no desire to to work in the actual workforce, clean the house,cook or any of those things that the rest of us are expected to do. The very sad part is that when anyone mentions getting a job she giggles. Our country has made the system up in a way that promotes these types of habits. Give those that offer no value everything but virtually punish those that try to do the right thing. If you all are that miserable with the lack of effort from your wives or girlfriends grow a set and toss them out! Why torture yourselves when you get home from work? Isn't that torture enough? No one likes to work but hey, life costs money!!! These posts do NOT describe most woman I know, as a matter of fact I am sure this is the minority of woman; so to put "all woman" in this lazy bucket of life, maybe it is just that you as a spineless partner have allowed this to go on long enough and now it is just plain acceptable! Buck up, sit her down and let her know what this is doing to you financially, mentally and everything else. Hold her accountable for her actions!!! Men, we have enough on our plate and we always get the stigma of "low lifes" but I would take that any day over a mooching lazy taking everything for granite woman! Find a real woman, one that works or at the least adds value to the human race! One that doesn't expect everyone else to cater and take care of her every need!
katie 101

Hyattsville, MD

#178 Nov 29, 2014
I refuse to have sex with my husband am I wrong

Since: Dec 14

San Jose, CA

#179 Dec 2, 2014
ken wrote:
I think that the women and men should be equal in all things including work and childrearing. My wife just wants to sit at home and read books and watch T.V.. I would rather deal with my kids then the assholes at work. My wife straight told me she doesnt have to get a job. On my Birthday she buys me a present with my money. That is pretty messed up, you know. I work to jobs to make ends meet. I hate that women think that just because they have a vagina they can be lazy.
we have no kids.
I hope you're under 30.. U can still change things. You have to go through a difficult situation. She has to have a need for herself to get a job. I hope you guys are 100% honest and truthful except for surprises during special occasions. If she gets a job, and there's some guy there who is interested in screwing her, things can happen if you both aren't faithful to each other, and that'll put you guys under deep depression.

What i'm trying to say is, make sure you guys have a clean relationship first. Then make her get a job. You do that by teaching her how to be independent.. this doesn't mean how to live by herself, this means how to take care of herself, because face it, no one is really going to be there in the same place with you 100% of the time. You never know. And she being an adult must put her mind to something instead of sitting at home and doing nothing... She must be having some hobbies.. like gardening or something right? try to get her focused on to whatever it is, and make try to be better and better than herself...

Do Things SUGGESTIVELY, and DONT FORCE YOUR WIFE. It'll take time and it's not gonna happen overnight.

If nothing works out, love her as she is. You chose her for the person she is. And getting a Divorce is expensive for you. Half of all your savings is gonna go to her pocket.

Love your wife honestly for the person she is, because she'll be your only best friend till the end. Unless you are a dishonest person. No one will ever help you there. Keep your relationship clean - No Drugs - No Booze... Sex is always good, but it's the sex which you need from your heart not the sex you have right after you "SEE" her.

I hope this aids in solving your problem..

Since: Dec 14

San Jose, CA

#180 Dec 2, 2014
katie 101 wrote:
I refuse to have sex with my husband am I wrong
Do you want to have sex at all?
wrecked

Council Grove, KS

#181 Dec 13, 2014
ken wrote:
I think that the women and men should be equal in all things including work and childrearing. My wife just wants to sit at home and read books and watch T.V.. I would rather deal with my kids then the assholes at work. My wife straight told me she doesnt have to get a job. On my Birthday she buys me a present with my money. That is pretty messed up, you know. I work to jobs to make ends meet. I hate that women think that just because they have a vagina they can be lazy.
we have no kids.
Dude..... if you dont have kids its time to gtfo.... I got 5 kids and wife refuses to work only reason im here is for the kids, if it wasnt for them id be loooong goooooone for years!!!!
wrecked

Council Grove, KS

#182 Dec 13, 2014
katie 101 wrote:
I refuse to have sex with my husband am I wrong
Yup...
wrecked

Council Grove, KS

#183 Dec 13, 2014
Kevin wrote:
Sometimes it's like being in a burning aeroplane : BALE OUT!
Screw bailing out why continue to live amd support low lifes
fdb

Grovetown, GA

#184 Dec 15, 2014
i hear that wrote:
same here buddy, my wife will not get out of the house and get a good paying job. I know she can get a job very very easily with someone she worked with in the past making good money. she does not go to school, we do not have kids. and she wonders why we cannot go out and eat. what is the deal, its going on 4 years now. doesnt clean the house doesnt cook dinner. wtf should i do?
Divorce her!!! You can do bad by yourself

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