my wife refuses to get a job!
Ron

Billerica, MA

#21 Aug 17, 2011
All women should work.
Leigh

Dracut, MA

#22 Aug 18, 2011
I don't know why any capable woman would want to stay home ALL DAY. I am blessed to have 3 kids, a hubby with a job AND my very own Full time job. My house is kept up, my kids get to sporting events that they need to get to, I still find time to work out and cook dinner as well.
Any person who doesnt want to work is JUST PLAIN LAZY - Unless you have medical clearance of course.
Tom been there

Tewksbury, MA

#23 Aug 18, 2011
raalongi wrote:
I am in exactly the same situation!!!
I have a wife that absolutely refuses to work. I even told her that she only has to work part time and that she could keep some of the money for herself to spend, but she still refuses. She worked at a bakery but quit in 2006 because she didn't like her new boss. Then we took her dad in to live with us who is elderly and she uses that as an excuse for not having to work to take care of him. He has some health problems but is fully capable of taking care of himself. I also work two jobs and she yells at me that I do that because she says I leave her home alone too much.
I am in that same situation too, if I even wanted to file for a divorce I would be more in the whole than I am now.
So I know exactly what you are going through guys!!
Seriously these women have no shame at all.They should be embarrassed that they don't work especially when people ask them what they do for a living.I'd start squirreling money away and hide it from her then divorce her.The longer she doesn't work the more the judge will make you take care of her.
Dracut Retiree

Tewksbury, MA

#24 Aug 21, 2011
raalongi wrote:
I am in exactly the same situation!!!
I have a wife that absolutely refuses to work. I even told her that she only has to work part time and that she could keep some of the money for herself to spend, but she still refuses. She worked at a bakery but quit in 2006 because she didn't like her new boss. Then we took her dad in to live with us who is elderly and she uses that as an excuse for not having to work to take care of him. He has some health problems but is fully capable of taking care of himself. I also work two jobs and she yells at me that I do that because she says I leave her home alone too much.
I am in that same situation too, if I even wanted to file for a divorce I would be more in the whole than I am now.
So I know exactly what you are going through guys!!

You married her, it's your own fault. I am sure she is tired of listening to you whining and crying, pizzing and moaning all the time, leave the poor women alone and treat her nice and above all spend more time with her!

What is the cry-baby forum??
Dracut Retiree

Tewksbury, MA

#25 Aug 21, 2011
Tom been there wrote:
<quoted text>
Seriously these women have no shame at all.They should be embarrassed that they don't work especially when people ask them what they do for a living.I'd start squirreling money away and hide it from her then divorce her.The longer she doesn't work the more the judge will make you take care of her.
It's men like you that cause these poor women to behave they way they do. They clean your house, make your meals, wash your cloths while you sit scratching your little marbles watching a ball game on TV, you need a spanking!
SLA

Dracut, MA

#26 Aug 21, 2011
Dracut Retiree wrote:
<quoted text> It's men like you that cause these poor women to behave they way they do. They clean your house, make your meals, wash your cloths while you sit scratching your little marbles watching a ball game on TV, you need a spanking!
Not only that ,
They can;t keep the wives happy in the bedroom.
Maybe I should come over. They need to be happy.
Just Breath

Winchester, MA

#27 Aug 22, 2011
ken wrote:
I think that the women and men should be equal in all things including work and childrearing. My wife just wants to sit at home and read books and watch T.V.. I would rather deal with my kids then the assholes at work. My wife straight told me she doesnt have to get a job. On my Birthday she buys me a present with my money. That is pretty messed up, you know. I work to jobs to make ends meet. I hate that women think that just because they have a vagina they can be lazy.
we have no kids.
I am a woman, and I have always worked, My Husband and I have 2 kids, and we work different shifts so they dont have to be in day care. I think you just chose a lazy woman..

Since: Jun 11

Stoneham, MA

#28 Aug 22, 2011
Dracut Retiree wrote:
<quoted text> It's men like you that cause these poor women to behave they way they do. They clean your house, make your meals, wash your cloths while you sit scratching your little marbles watching a ball game on TV, you need a spanking!
You must be kidding me. It is Person A's fault that Person B acts the way they do. Uh yeah maybe if person B is 5 years old. How about time to put on her big girl pants and take some ownership of her own behaviour. Same applies if it is the guy not working. It isn't one person's fault that another person is a turd.
the dude

London, UK

#29 Sep 2, 2011
My wife used to work, she earned more than I did, but after she got pregnant she quit her job. She made up a story about getting laid off during a company-wide job cull, but I have verified that the story is false, she just quit one day. My wife does all of the cooking and shopping and she entertains our child a lot, because I am usually out at work. I do all of the cleaning and all of the outdoor jobs like repairs, painting, car washing, power hosing the garden and pathway etc. The jobs of houskeeping are fairly evenly distributed between us. However my wife refuses to bring any money into the household. She also hides bills and almost every day I hear her say 'look what I got for myself today' followed by a procession of new clothes and shoes she has bought for herself. After 8 years together I got so fed up I started looking more closely at household bills and my wife has been lying about them for years, citing bills as being up to ten times what they actually were (average is three times). Now, I ask myself, where is all of the money I gave her? I give her half and sometimes more of my pay every month, and it seems that I have been funding her shopping lifestyle. Every time I try and sort the finances out she starts screaming and shouting abuse at me, and like a mug I usually back down. I recently drew the line and said from now on I will only pay half of the receipted bills for household costs and my wife says that I am being ridiculous, that no-one else requests transparent financial details. She is off on a rant at the moment because for three days now I have stuck to my request for transparancy and also insisted that she gets a job, so she is furious. I explained to her that there is no legitimate reason for non-transparancy and even asked repeatedly why non-transparancy is so important to her but she has never answered. At the moment when I bring up the subject of job or finances, my wife says she will divorce me if I bring it up again. Now, does that sound reasonable to anyone? It sounds silly to me. But it's not just wives, it's husbands too. Anyone in a relationship has to pull their weight. And if a person is not prepared to pull their weight then why do they think they have a right to scream and be abusive? Quite upset at the moment so this is all for now, sorry if the grammar and spelling are not all correct.
KLL

Salem, MA

#30 Sep 9, 2011
FIRST AND FOREMOST:

PEOPLE ONLY TREAT YOU THE WAY YOU ALLOW THEM TOO.

I DOUBT THAT BITCHING ABOUT YOUR OLD LADY ON LOWELL TOPIX IS GOING TO DO ANYTHING FOR YOUR HOME SITUATION.

TALK TO HER, NOT THE COMPUTER. IF SHE DOESN'T WANT A COMPROMISE SUCK IT UP OR LEAVE HER.

Have a nice day.
mike

Quinlan, TX

#31 Oct 28, 2011
mywife only makes about 350 a month as hairstylist in small town she sits in a building 40 hours a week straight commision and pays 50 a week boothrent.I've paid everything myself for 15 years now I lost my job and she makes excuses about economy says she doesn't want to work fast food I'm trying to make her miserable.all I want her to do is work partime for little while and actually get paid instead of sitting on her ass in a building.I need her help but I catch blame and listen to constant bitching about her inconvience instead of trying to make it better.I'm about ready to say fuck it.she thinks its the man's job to work and pay stuff.
Hmmm

Framingham, MA

#32 Oct 28, 2011
the dude wrote:
My wife used to work, she earned more than I did, but after she got pregnant she quit her job. She made up a story about getting laid off during a company-wide job cull, but I have verified that the story is false, she just quit one day. My wife does all of the cooking and shopping and she entertains our child a lot, because I am usually out at work. I do all of the cleaning and all of the outdoor jobs like repairs, painting, car washing, power hosing the garden and pathway etc. The jobs of houskeeping are fairly evenly distributed between us. However my wife refuses to bring any money into the household. She also hides bills and almost every day I hear her say 'look what I got for myself today' followed by a procession of new clothes and shoes she has bought for herself. After 8 years together I got so fed up I started looking more closely at household bills and my wife has been lying about them for years, citing bills as being up to ten times what they actually were (average is three times). Now, I ask myself, where is all of the money I gave her? I give her half and sometimes more of my pay every month, and it seems that I have been funding her shopping lifestyle. Every time I try and sort the finances out she starts screaming and shouting abuse at me, and like a mug I usually back down. I recently drew the line and said from now on I will only pay half of the receipted bills for household costs and my wife says that I am being ridiculous, that no-one else requests transparent financial details. She is off on a rant at the moment because for three days now I have stuck to my request for transparancy and also insisted that she gets a job, so she is furious. I explained to her that there is no legitimate reason for non-transparancy and even asked repeatedly why non-transparancy is so important to her but she has never answered. At the moment when I bring up the subject of job or finances, my wife says she will divorce me if I bring it up again. Now, does that sound reasonable to anyone? It sounds silly to me. But it's not just wives, it's husbands too. Anyone in a relationship has to pull their weight. And if a person is not prepared to pull their weight then why do they think they have a right to scream and be abusive? Quite upset at the moment so this is all for now, sorry if the grammar and spelling are not all correct.
Hey, Dude...

Have you considered the idea that she may be on drugs? Just a thought...I have seen that turn out to be the case in MANY, eerily similar situations.

However, shopping addiction can also take a financial toll, so who am I to judge.

Good luck with the whole situation, tho...:)
Tired

United States

#33 Dec 3, 2011
I put my wife through university and then through grad school. She worked for about two years and was let go several times. She claimed the people in the office did not like her, they were jealous of her. She has stayed home for the last two years just not doing anything other than sitting around and chilling out. She wanted to go into business so I helped her research several opportunities. She lost interest when she found out she would have to actually work. She could be a absentee business owner. So then she decided she want to manage investment properties. To start out I bought three homes were foreclosures and fixer uppers. I ended up spending all my time getting these properties repaired and rented out. Nothing like working 18 hours a day between my job and fixing houses. My wife won't deal with the renters. She thinks they are too low class. It does not help that her daddy in Beijing just gave her 300K in cash and now has no incentive to work. She will not use it to help out around the house either. She just hordes her money and poor mouths how I won't give her a real allowance. We have no children. She does not help out around the house. If I did not clean and wash god knows what kind of mess we would be living in. She does cook but only what he likes. She now complains all I do is work all the time and pay no attention to her. She reminds me that back in China she did not have to work. That daddy made sure a driver and car took her were ever she wanted to go. That a cook and house keeper waited on her family hand and foot. That her employer in China did not mind if she was late to work or took off early from work. I am sure her employer in China did not want to piss off her father who is high up in the communist party and make things difficult for you. My wife complains that I am boring. I always have had to work 60 to 70 hours a week to keep things going. My savings was spent buying rental properties. It is paying off but takes nearly all my spare time too. I want my wife to help contribute to our future so I can also retire before dropping dead. I would like her to get a job. I paid for her to get a masters degree in civil engineering yet she says she hates working. Having to get up everyday and go to work is no fun. I have been doing it for the last forty years, I don't see the big deal. The whole situation is frustrating. So don't think a woman being lazy is exclusive to American women. Laziness is not gender specific in my view. I just want my wife to work, help out and do something productive with her life.
Florida Retiree

Bradenton, FL

#34 Dec 7, 2011
raalongi wrote:
I am in exactly the same situation!!!
I have a wife that absolutely refuses to work. I even told her that she only has to work part time and that she could keep some of the money for herself to spend, but she still refuses. She worked at a bakery but quit in 2006 because she didn't like her new boss. Then we took her dad in to live with us who is elderly and she uses that as an excuse for not having to work to take care of him. He has some health problems but is fully capable of taking care of himself. I also work two jobs and she yells at me that I do that because she says I leave her home alone too much.
I am in that same situation too, if I even wanted to file for a divorce I would be more in the whole than I am now.
So I know exactly what you are going through guys!!
Remember those vow's you took, "For Better or For Worse"???
Well they don't ask you to say them for nothing, you had your chance to say "I Don't" but you said "I DO" so what where you thinking?? LOL....
Florida Retiree

Bradenton, FL

#35 Dec 7, 2011
SLA wrote:
<quoted text>
Not only that ,
They can;t keep the wives happy in the bedroom.
Maybe I should come over. They need to be happy.
I think you are correct, a happy woman is a working woman! Does your name stand for (S)tudley (L)oves (A)XX ??? LOL.......
SLA

Tewksbury, MA

#36 Dec 7, 2011
Florida Retiree wrote:
<quoted text>
I think you are correct, a happy woman is a working woman! Does your name stand for (S)tudley (L)oves (A)XX ??? LOL.......
You are one smart person. No one ever got that before.
I;m sure your mate is a happy mate.
Florida Retiree

Bradenton, FL

#37 Dec 7, 2011
SLA wrote:
<quoted text>
You are one smart person. No one ever got that before.
I;m sure your mate is a happy mate.


I thought so...LOL.........

That's a special skill you have maybe you should share it with other guys so their spouses will get back to work and we won't have to listen to them whine on here, huh??

I hope the screwballs don't find us....LOL.....
SLA

Tewksbury, MA

#38 Dec 8, 2011
Florida Retiree wrote:
<quoted text>
I thought so...LOL.........
That's a special skill you have maybe you should share it with other guys so their spouses will get back to work and we won't have to listen to them whine on here, huh??
I hope the screwballs don't find us....LOL.....
No way can they find us, They cant find the bedroom , How they going to find us, LMAO
Florida Retiree

Bradenton, FL

#39 Dec 9, 2011
SLA wrote:
<quoted text>
No way can they find us, They cant find the bedroom , How they going to find us, LMAO


That's not all they can't find! LOL...
sla

Tewksbury, MA

#40 Dec 9, 2011
Florida Retiree wrote:
<quoted text>
That's not all they can't find! LOL...
And thet do not rent those at Rent A center,
Mybe no one told them about Viagra. LOL.

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