ToughLove Intl founder David York
Janet Rivera

Watertown, CT

#21 Nov 6, 2008
Incredibly, I just found out about David's passing, and Joe and I are saddened by the news. David and I had our share of run-ins as board members, but his passion for the program was always the driving force. David and Phyllis touched (and continue to touch) our lives in the most loving and important ways. I regret that I did not get a chance to tell him how he and Phyllis changed our lives and to thank him for that. To Phyllis and the family, we are so sorry for your loss. Please know that his love and devotion to helping others lives on in so many of us who are continuing in the footsteps of you and David.
Joe & Janet Rivera
Shannon Warrington PA

Doylestown, PA

#22 Nov 6, 2008
How sad to hear of David's passing. He was a local folk hero in Bucks County because of his and his wife's courage to step forward and in a time that drug use was hushed up, they chose to instead shine a spotlight on it. Their program has helped many, many people. With the news of the election dominating the news, this particular story hasn't been broadcast. I will spread the word to others who I know were grateful for TOUGHLOVE. My sympathies to the family.
Joy Owen

San Jose, CA

#23 Dec 31, 2008
I can't believe I'm finding out a year after the fact. Just wanted to lend my voice to the others who are saying that Phyllis and David changed their lives.

My ex- and I were ToughLove Reps in Austin, Texas. My stepson is now in the military and has his own children and a good life going for him. I don't think any of this would have been possible without the program Phyllis and David set up.

All my best to his family and others who were close to him. David was one of a kind.

Muskegon, MI

#24 Jan 3, 2009
Did the Toughlove Inc organization close down after David died? I can no longer find the website.
Barbara Swanston


#25 Feb 25, 2009
I was very sad to read about David's death. I've been thinking about Phyllis & Davis a lot recently. If you read this, Phyllis, I am sending love and deepest sympathy from Michael and I. We learned so much from you and David, being involved with Toughlove transformed our lives. Our 'wild child' is now 28, married and a truly wonderful yound man. You two made a huge difference in the world. Love Barbara

Brooklyn, NY

#26 Jul 21, 2009
Heidi wrote:
If anybody would like my mother's adress please leave me a post on this web page,I will check every other day. Heidi
Hi Heidi,
So sorry to hear of your fathers untimely passing. He accomplished so much. Could you please send me your mothers address or email?
BelieversofBible at aol dot com
Thanks in advance.
M. Albuquerque
Jeff York

Brewster, MA

#27 Jul 28, 2009
Heidi, My family just learned of David's passing. We were shocked and saddened to hear about it. We hope that you and your family are all well.

Sue, Jeff, Scott, Colleen and Casey York
Scott York

Shelburne, VT

#28 Jul 28, 2009
I am so sorry to hear of Uncle David's passing. I have many fine memories from when I was young. Jeff and I were always so excited to see him. We lost contact as the years went on. I hope your mom is o.k.
Betty Ann

Augusta, ME

#29 Sep 8, 2009
How could I ever say thank-you enough for this
wonderful program that your parents gave to us. Our Toughlove kid is a lawyer, a wonderful daughter most of the time, and I keep using the lessons that Phyllis and David taught me,I am not sure that your Mom would remember me, but it is the small one in New Hampshire
Jane Ames

San Francisco, CA

#30 Jan 4, 2010
I have been googling to try and find a Toughlove group in my area. I live East of the Sf Bay Area. My zip code is 94563. Please can anyone help me to find one? I have also tried the ToughLove international website and that is no help either.
Wayne Klug

Pittsfield, MA

#31 Mar 10, 2010
I've known your parents (and you, probably) since Goddard, and years later I did my doctoral dissertation on Toughlove. I'd like to contact your mother; could you please send me her e-mail or home address? You can reach me at
I'm shocked and saddened to learn of your father's death. And I'm unable to find to an obituary. Was there one--and could you direct me to it?
Many thanks,

Bloomington, IN

#32 Mar 17, 2010
I'm reading "Getting Strong in all the Hurting Places". It's an amazing story. How is Phyllis doing?
Jamie Wischusen

Philipsburg, Sint Maarten (Dutch part)

#33 Apr 1, 2010
Heidi wrote:
If anybody would like my mother's adress please leave me a post on this web page,I will check every other day. Heidi
I worked at Today with your parents. Would like to get your Mom's address. Your Dad was one of the finest men I ever knew. A truly good soul.Your Mom told me to "stop weining" about some thing, best advise I ever got.
Take care, Jamie Wischusen
Karen Leff

Califon, NJ

#35 Sep 18, 2010
I too was fortunate enough to meet your parents. What a wonderful couple! So sorry to hear of your father's passing.

I was the treasurer for the group in Hunterdon County NJ. I still have about $150 sitting in an account. There seems to be a few Toughloves out there now and I am not sure who the money goes to. What would you like me to do with the money?

Karen Leff

New York, NY

#36 Oct 26, 2010
Heidi wrote:
For more info on the memorial for my father please contact my mom
I am so sorry for you lose. Can I please have your Mom address?
Susan Sailow

Monterey, CA

#37 Dec 6, 2010
Heidi wrote:
If anybody would like my mother's adress please leave me a post on this web page,I will check every other day. Heidi
Heidi: I am a former ToughLove member in California, and can say that it helped me greatly with my daughter. I am looking for Phyllis York, and I understand that is your mother? If so, please let me know how I can reach her, or you can give her my email -
Thank you.

Gonzales, LA

#38 Jul 3, 2011
Hi Heidi. Just thinking about your family and wonder how your Mom is doing.
Ray H

Morgan City, LA

#39 Sep 5, 2011
It is Labor Day and I find myslf thinking about David's passing and how Phyllis is doing. I don't know why, but I am sure there is a reason. Touglove did so much for Missy and I. The workshops were always great and I looked forward to them. David and Phyllis's presence will be sorely missed. They gave so much to so many.

Darby, PA

#40 Aug 22, 2015
Heidi wrote:
My father passed away on Dec. 19th 2007.
Hi Heidi, you may not remember me but, i worked with both of your parents after completing treatment at Eagleville Hospital. Phyllis gave me my first job as a recovering person. I continued my education with their assistance and later received a masters degree. I saw Phyllis several years ago at a memorial service for Don Ottenberg although he had not yet passed at the time. Phyllis treated me as a member of her family and in part due to her support i enjoyed a rewarding professional career and a sober lifestyle. I am truly sorry for your loss, they were both a credit to the world community we live in. Sincerely yours, Rooney aka Frederick Jordan.

San Diego, CA

#41 Mar 28, 2016
Heidi wrote:
My father passed away on Dec. 19th 2007.

My Name is Frank, associated with a non-profit group called Parent 2 Parent Strategies, located in San Clemente CA. P2PS is established to help parents, free of charges, with their parenting struggles. I would like to connect with you regarding the book that your mom and dad had written, "ToughLove" .

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