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#1 Mar 15, 2009
I have a daughter-in-law who has caused me and my husband a lot of trouble.Now she wants me to help give her son's girlfriend a baby shower.This boy didn't get me anything for Christmas and I bought him all kinds of things.I don't want to do this.How do I tell her.Her son is not my son's.She is a spiteful person.Help me and give me your opinion how to do this and not make my son who is married to her mad at me because she will get mad.Thanks Me and her don't get along. Thanks
what i would do

Conroe, TX

#2 Mar 15, 2009
if that stupid who*e was makin trouble with you and your hudband she is a pretty carppy person if you ask me and you are stupid as she is if you help the dumb as* who*e do anything & your son is as stupid as you and her if he is goin to get pissed off about it.
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Watseka, IL

#3 Mar 15, 2009
If your son cares anything for you at all then he will understand why you do not feal comfortable with helping in the planning of the shower. I would explain to him (not her) why you dont think it is your place to participate in the planning. I dont think that the wife should expect you to knowing that there is some hard fealings there. Is she just wanting you to "foot the bill"? If he get's mad, he would just have to get ober it, but say it nicely. Dont be the bad guy.
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United States

#4 Mar 15, 2009
hes still your son help her be the good one
a daughter in law

Gilbert, WV

#5 Mar 15, 2009
well i mean if he didnt get you anything for christmas you shouldnt do anything for him. i mean really is that is whats important you cant stand her and thats why you shouldnt do it dont act like you like them and i am sure your son knows that and i would love to know if you and your husband has ever cause any trouble for her and your son but anyway dont do but dont act like you like her when you really dont and dont say you are doing it for your son
12polegal

Bridgeport, WV

#6 Mar 15, 2009
I would just tell him that you would rather not help. Tell him its just a bad time right now and that the timing is not good for ya. It's simple if he don't understand then oh well you are his mom he will get over it.
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United States

#7 Mar 15, 2009
love works in the long run
i think

Sutton, WV

#8 Mar 15, 2009
ok the best option is to tell them or him the economy is bad and right now people are getting laid off and you dont feel right in asking people to buy gifts right now. just keep putting him off.sounds to me like they think you have deep pockets
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United States

#9 Mar 15, 2009
what i would do wrote:
if that stupid who*e was makin trouble with you and your hudband she is a pretty carppy person if you ask me and you are stupid as she is if you help the dumb as* who*e do anything & your son is as stupid as you and her if he is goin to get pissed off about it.
We have bent over backwards to please her. I am a christian and I am good to everyone.One day my son bought me a radio and she said oh by the way you owe us for that.So I gave it back to them.He said my wife made me do it.We have done without to please her.She has yelled at me on the phone and I stayed cool and calm and never yelled at her.My husband is so umble.He would never say anything to her when she hurt his feelings.Me and my husband are good people. She has cussed us and we never said anything.My family would get mad at us because we would let her say anything she wanted to because of my son.
lc woman

Bridgeport, WV

#10 Mar 16, 2009
what kind of son did you raise that he would let his wife talk to you this way? time for some "tough love" tell your son the funds have been cut off, you dont need this aggravation.and if things dont change you will leave him nothing
well

Gilbert, WV

#11 Mar 16, 2009
Need help wrote:
<quoted text>We have bent over backwards to please her. I am a christian and I am good to everyone.One day my son bought me a radio and she said oh by the way you owe us for that.So I gave it back to them.He said my wife made me do it.We have done without to please her.She has yelled at me on the phone and I stayed cool and calm and never yelled at her.My husband is so umble.He would never say anything to her when she hurt his feelings.Me and my husband are good people. She has cussed us and we never said anything.My family would get mad at us because we would let her say anything she wanted to because of my son.
funny how you and your husband are such good christians and she still yells at you for no reason what so ever.tell her your not doing it for her to ask you she must think you like her.
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United States

#12 Mar 16, 2009
lc woman wrote:
what kind of son did you raise that he would let his wife talk to you this way? time for some "tough love" tell your son the funds have been cut off, you dont need this aggravation.and if things dont change you will leave him nothing
He has a daughter by her.My only grandchild.One night her mom said listen you take care of your daughter and for the mom to take care of her son.So the daughter-in-law just sat there.My son is henpecked.I always considered him my grandson but not since her mom said this to me and my son.He is 20.My son has raised him for 12 years.
amazed

Rich Creek, VA

#13 Mar 16, 2009
tell her it's her place to plan it since it will be her grandchild and that you've raised your son time for her to do the same.that the girls mom would probably enjoy planning it with her.If all else fails simply tell her it's time for me and my husband to enjoy thing we want to do since our kids are grown.We expect to see the grandkids but we're not their parents we love them but if we'd wanted more kids we'd had them.
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United States

#14 Mar 16, 2009
I am just going to tell her I don't want too and if she gets mad there is nothing I can do.I will not lie to her.Thank you amazed.My family told me to quit kissing her Bu__!Christmas she didn't come up to get her gifts so the next day my son came and took them too her.I bought her nice things.
i think

Bridgeport, WV

#15 Mar 16, 2009
if you stand your ground she might eventually back off
God Help U

AOL

#16 Mar 16, 2009
You know the saying "Do it to me once,shame on you. Do it to me twice, shame on me". Pray about this that God will help give you the strength to fight the devil.
well

Gilbert, WV

#17 Mar 16, 2009
yea dont pray for you son and his family pray that you get help man you all are the most selfish bunch of christians i have ever heard of.my god tell her no and stop talking about her to everone.
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United States

#18 Mar 16, 2009
You need to shut up and get a life.Who ask you to get on here and Bash me.What ruins topix is people like you ,Mean. I am going to tell her no and if she ask I will tell her the truth.Now Well go away.I will be praying for you to Change...
myexperience

United States

#19 Mar 16, 2009
many years ago my brother married a loud mouth teen that thought she should always speak her mind. anyone who comes from a large family knows thats not what is best if you want to keep everyone connected. sometimes it is best to bite the bullet but not this girl. damn she was a trouble maker. lol out in the yard yelling! at one point.(not the norm for our family). for a few years she was nothing but trouble but we kept the peace because she made my brother happy. fast forward now 30 years. that loud mouth teen turned into one of the best members of our family. no more trouble making. no more fighting. she understands how to keep family ties strong and we love her very much. i see her more as a sister than sister in law. so i say help with the shower. dont pay for all of it or do all the work but help a little. maybe she will learn from you. maybe she will grow into one of the best members of your family. if it turns out she doesnt well at least you made your son happy and he will always know you tried.
just me

Bridgeport, WV

#20 Mar 17, 2009
myexperience wrote:
many years ago my brother married a loud mouth teen that thought she should always speak her mind. anyone who comes from a large family knows thats not what is best if you want to keep everyone connected. sometimes it is best to bite the bullet but not this girl. damn she was a trouble maker. lol out in the yard yelling! at one point.(not the norm for our family). for a few years she was nothing but trouble but we kept the peace because she made my brother happy. fast forward now 30 years. that loud mouth teen turned into one of the best members of our family. no more trouble making. no more fighting. she understands how to keep family ties strong and we love her very much. i see her more as a sister than sister in law. so i say help with the shower. dont pay for all of it or do all the work but help a little. maybe she will learn from you. maybe she will grow into one of the best members of your family. if it turns out she doesnt well at least you made your son happy and he will always know you tried.
did she cuss your mom? did your brother ever try to stop her? this situation i think is a little differrent situation

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