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I have been hearing more and more each day about false DFS, reports being called in in order to hurt a person or just for the pure evil of it, I dont know which, the people they are really hurting are the children, putting them through such is PURE EVIl, it also hurts the DFS also in that it keeps them from being able to go to legimate cases of abuse. I have been informed that the law is seriously looking into making the penalties for this to be much tougher and it is also considered harassment in which their will also be a charge for as well. Was reading up on this during the week and thought I would pass this on before someone maybe considering breaking the law in this way.
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I agree. Keep the false reports to yourselves. These kids are taken in the middle of the night usually and taken to complete strangers.
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I read what you wrote and have to agree, I had this happen to a cousin of mine, someone was mad at her and continually called and called on her and everytime they came they couldnt find anything, finally the one making the false reports was the one in trouble. it is a serious crime.
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"True" you don't have a clue! I am a foster parent and can tell you one thing, kids are NOT taken out of the home in the middle of the night unless it is a SEVERE EMERGENCY. You tell me what judge, juvenille officer, and case worker are going to want to get up in the middle of the night to take a child out of a home if there is not a pressing reason at that moment to get them out of there. And YES it takes ALL of those people being invovled before a child is taken out of a home. A case worker is not even allowed to take a child out of a home, there must be a juvenille officer or police officer present and they are the ones to remove the child. The case worker simply finds the child temporary housing (foster home or relative if any are available) and makes sure they are being well taken care of while they are there. The main objective of the state is to re-unite the child and their parent(s). TRUST me, they bend over backwards to help the parent(s) get the help they need to fix whatever the problem may be. The caseworkers do their job because they care about kids.....why would they want to jerk a kid from their bed in the middle of the night??? Really people, think a little bit!

As for the false claims I am sure they happen and it is very sad for the children and the parent(s). The state is obligated to invistigate every call. If they don't find anything wrong, there shouldn't be any problems. If it is the first tme and they DO find something legit then they USUALLY do "in home" help to try to fix the issue before the children get taken form the home. They really do try to keep the children in the home if at all possible. They don't want families torn apart for one thing, and for another there is a huge shortage of foster homes in our area so where are they gonna go once they do pull them out of the home???

I am not saying they do it right all the time, they don't, but they don't go pulling kids in the middle of the night without a VERY good reason either.
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"True" you don't have a clue! I am a foster parent and can tell you one thing, kids are NOT taken out of the home in the middle of the night unless it is a SEVERE EMERGENCY. You tell me what judge, juvenille officer, and case worker are going to want to get up in the middle of the night to take a child out of a home if there is not a pressing reason at that moment to get them out of there. And YES it takes ALL of those people being invovled before a child is taken out of a home. A case worker is not even allowed to take a child out of a home, there must be a juvenille officer or police officer present and they are the ones to remove the child. The case worker simply finds the child temporary housing (foster home or relative if any are available) and makes sure they are being well taken care of while they are there. The main objective of the state is to re-unite the child and their parent(s). TRUST me, they bend over backwards to help the parent(s) get the help they need to fix whatever the problem may be. The caseworkers do their job because they care about kids.....why would they want to jerk a kid from their bed in the middle of the night??? Really people, think a little bit!
As for the false claims I am sure they happen and it is very sad for the children and the parent(s). The state is obligated to invistigate every call. If they don't find anything wrong, there shouldn't be any problems. If it is the first tme and they DO find something legit then they USUALLY do "in home" help to try to fix the issue before the children get taken form the home. They really do try to keep the children in the home if at all possible. They don't want families torn apart for one thing, and for another there is a huge shortage of foster homes in our area so where are they gonna go once they do pull them out of the home???
I am not saying they do it right all the time, they don't, but they don't go pulling kids in the middle of the night without a VERY good reason either.
Are you there when they take the children? Well, I witnessed it with my own 2 eyes, and lady you better get a new look at things!!!

These DFS workers that take the children are on such a power trip. The children are leaving been forcibly held back screaming for thier parents. It is something horrible to see. SOOOO maybe you are a foster parent who cares? YOU yourself have no idea what goes on the other side of the fence! Not everyone that loses thier child deserves too. I have lived in many different states and NEVER have I personally witnessed or heard of such torture to put children and families thru, sure yes there are some extreme cases such as the infant that was not being fed but most of these cases sre so blown out of porportion it a shame to put the children thru such and experience. I wish the feds could come into Stoddard county and see what is happening and that would put a stop to this crap once and for all!!!!
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I never said they all deserved to be taken. I have had many fosters who I felt did NOT deserve to be in care. I worked with the case workers and the childrens families to get them back home as soon as possible. Like I said before the workers cannot and do not remove children.....it has to come from a judge and an officer is the one who removes them. The workers are there to take them to their foster home or a relative, wherever they may be staying. If there was not substantial evidence the judge would not order the children to be removed. Of course the children are crying and wanting their parents. That is only natural. I don't care what the situation is, they are going to want their parents.The way they are living is the only thing the children have ever known. They think it is normal and no one wants to leave their home and family. And BTW I DO know what goes on on the other side, probably alot better than you do. I work with these families daily. I see how they live, how they think, and why they feel the system took their children. Just because you happen to have seen one instance of this does not mean you know how the system works. I am not claiming to know everything, I sure as heck don't. But I do know what the policies are and what it takes to remove a child from a home. It is not easy to do and it doesn't happen lightly. If there are a lot of children being removed then maybe people in stoddard county need to look at how they are living and raising their children. If they aren't being neglected or abused, they will not be taken. Simple as that.
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to the foster parent who has been replying on here. you know your job as i knew mine. we take these children into our homes until they can be returned to parents. we care for them and most of the time come to love. we have and most likely always will get a bad rep. because alot of these people want to put the blme on us for the children being removed instead taking the responsibility where it belongs in the first place.
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if these parents would be good parents ,we would not have to use DFS or foster parents to protect these children. god bless you foster parents for protecting these young people!!!!!!!!!!
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Thank you former foster parent and swede. It is nice to hear some positive comments regarding fostering for a change. I wish there wasn't a need for us at all....but as long as there is, and we are able, we will be fostering. It is one thing we can do that we know has a positive impact on lives. There is nothing more rewarding than reuniting a child with their family when it is where they should be.
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Are you there when they take the children? Well, I witnessed it with my own 2 eyes, and lady you better get a new look at things!!!
These DFS workers that take the children are on such a power trip. The children are leaving been forcibly held back screaming for thier parents. It is something horrible to see. SOOOO maybe you are a foster parent who cares? YOU yourself have no idea what goes on the other side of the fence! Not everyone that loses thier child deserves too. I have lived in many different states and NEVER have I personally witnessed or heard of such torture to put children and families thru, sure yes there are some extreme cases such as the infant that was not being fed but most of these cases sre so blown out of porportion it a shame to put the children thru such and experience. I wish the feds could come into Stoddard county and see what is happening and that would put a stop to this crap once and for all!!!!
Amen! I know of one case where a "complaint" was turned in on a couple who had never abused their children, and DFS was there johnny on the spot to take the children away. No questions asked and no invesigation at all. There had never been a report on the parents at all, and the kids are screaming what's going on?? Trying to tell them that nothing happened. Turns out it was a "prank" on a couple of teachers and a couple of students thought it would be "funny".

The other case I know of was one of repeated abuse by a step-father. He habitually raped two girls, one 10 the other 12. The school reported it, neighbors reported it, and relatives reported it. DFS "investigated" it and said there was no evidence of anything going on. Two weeks later, the 10 year old was rushed to the hospital, bleeding. They had to do a hysterectomy on her. Now here's a child who is never going to be able to have children. Well, now step-dad is in prison, but DFS was "a day late and a dollar short". DFS dropped that ball.

People, DFS is so screwed up it's pitiful. They definitely have their priorities turned around and are POWER hungry. Further more, a lot of the "foster" families who get these children are no better than the homes they were taken from in the first place.
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Well from what I have heard and seen the county needs some help, training , and some honesty! Think of those poor kids that are being taken, that is abuse also, I am not saying there are not cases of real abuse, but if child is not marked with bruises, is well fed and clean. Use some sense and dont be just swayed by liars and people with money. Let these kids stay where they are loved. Making the false reports is a awful crime and does deserve a stiff penalty!
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stoddard county family services division is very corrupt and many neighboring counties will admit to this fact. really there is not alot in stoddard county government that isn't. federal officials need to come in and clean house. about this law on harrasment' you have always been able to sue someone for harrasment an individual and hell even family services. they need a bunch of people to get together and file a class action suit is really what they need. i fully understand children need to be protected, but here, in stoddard county, the line of whom the need to be protected from is getting more transparent daily.
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I so agree! Put the kids first, hire legimate people with training, people who cant be swayed by this evil vengneance filled person or that one. It always comes out in the end, hopefully not before the child is hurt first though. I seen this one here and a friend of mine told me this happend to them a false report was made over and over because someone had an axe to grind, well they had people present there when DFS showed up nothing was ever found, but they did find the idiots who were doing this to her and all that I can say now is that was an expensive few phone calls! Family sued, and sued and sued!!
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I have an idea.....why don't you all apply to become DFS workers? I am sure they would highly value your ideas, experience, training, and education. Then, you can go out in the middle of the night and make judgment calls on families and take full responsibility for everything you do. I am sure it is a great job with low pay.
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Guest wrote:
I have an idea.....why don't you all apply to become DFS workers? I am sure they would highly value your ideas, experience, training, and education. Then, you can go out in the middle of the night and make judgment calls on families and take full responsibility for everything you do. I am sure it is a great job with low pay.
I highly doubt that you'll have any takers. It's too easy just to sit back and gripe. I wonder what these people are thinking? Do they think that DFS workers go from house to house looking for reasons to strip kids out of peoples houses? There obviously has to be a starting point. Hotlines are made by somebody, either legit concerns or not. When these calls are made, the DFS workers are required BY LAW to investigate. I'm sure people feel that it is an invasion of their privacy but it BY LAW has to be done. I highly doubt that the DFS workers walk through the front door with an agenda or a vendeta against the parents. If they see legitamate concerns then action must be taken. I'm sure that it is initially tramatic for the children but sometimes drastic action must be taken in order to serve the best interest of the child in the long run.
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Guest, and agree with guest...I'm sure your intentions are good, but you need to open your eyes. I know of a case that is on-going at this very moment where an older child in the family made a very serious, false claim against the parents, which made DFS pull ALL THREE of the children from the home. But guess what? The claim was found to be false! And guess what else? THE CHILDREN ARE STILL NOT IN THE HOME! I know the parents personally. They are good parents. Their kids are very athletic, well-rounded kids. One of the children is a diabetic. They never go w/o their needed medication, or doctor's visits, even when the family has no medical insurance to cover it, or help cover it. The children are expected to do chores and homework before play time, they mind their manners, and are very respectful in other people's homes. So, instead of DFS doing an investigation on the claim made by the older child, they went in at midnight, on a school night, and yanked the three children out of their beds, and took them away. The parents were hauled away to jail! My question is, why? I'm sure being a social worker is a crappy job. But I bet it's even crappier in Stoddard County. I've had people make false claims a/b myself personally b/c they wanted a way to get even, and even though my children were NEVER taken, and it was always concluded that they were in a safe, loving home, they threatened to take them if another call was made a/b me or my family. Now how is that even fair? My children are in a safe, loving home, as were the other children I mentioned above, yet mine would be taken if someone got a hair in their butt to call, and these people are STILL w/o their children b/c of an older child who didn't get his way! Tell me the system isn't flawed!
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You know that is ahame. It makes you want to leave that county I imagine. I am glad I dont live in that area, but it makes you realize that if it is a crooked agency , some idiot could do this in any county. I am glad someone is speaking up on this horrific crime. It is the same as making a flase police report from what I can tell.
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What gets me is that in instances that I have seen, they do not attempt to find a family member to take the child. It's off to the children's home for the kids instead of a family members house. Then the judges take their sweet time approving the family members so that the kids can get out of the children's home. Just think about how traumatic that is for a child...someone that you don't know shows up at your house, takes you to some other house where you know NO ONE, drops you off and says you have to stay there. Then, if the family does get to let the child stay with them they have to jump through a thousand hoops to keep them. It's a crazy, crazy system!!
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Yes it is truely awful, I have seen this happen as well, and for people to do this out of pure spite on a peron they are mad at or they are just on a high horse at the time, looks at these poor children who are being hurt. Shame on you! Shame on these who just take the kids out with a proven reson and especially to those who make these false calls, I would not want to be in your shoes some day when you stand before God!
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Guest wrote:
I have an idea.....why don't you all apply to become DFS workers? I am sure they would highly value your ideas, experience, training, and education. Then, you can go out in the middle of the night and make judgment calls on families and take full responsibility for everything you do. I am sure it is a great job with low pay.
DFS in Stoddard County are wolves in sheeps clothing. Dexter Public Schools and their over zealous "NO TOLERANCE OF SICKNESS" policy thus turning in families to an over zealous dfs is causing families to live in a total nightmare. When a child is sick and has a doctors excuse and the schools call a truant officer on the parents; this is abuse of the rules. The child is indeed not truant (absent without permission) in the first place. Why would the schools want to force a sick child to attend school? Isn't that child abuse in itself?!

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