Drug and Alcohol Addiction

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Just Wondering

Saint Louis, MO

#1 Dec 8, 2008
Just wondering if anyone has any advice on this matter. What were you or are you addicted to? How did you stop doing what you were doing? I want to quit all these horrible things I'm doing but I think I need some help.

Dexter, MO

#2 Dec 8, 2008
Let me see I was addicted to meth. I did it for nearly 12 years. I went to prison in 05 to treatment. I thought that when i came out I would be free of all my addictions and not do meth ever again, a week after I got out I seen a old friend of mine and needless to say I got high again. Well it went on for about a month and then my probation officer caught up with me on it, I had to go to rehab 2 different times and got put on house arrest. That plus prison time finally made me realize that I didn't want that life anymore, so I figured that I had to stop hanging around with the old drug buddies, drinking buddies if I really wanted to stop. I dropped all my friends and just starting hanging by myself went to my drug classes and they suggested that after my classes were over that I needed to go to NA & AA meetings if I wanted to stay clean, I didn't go to the meetings and I have still been able to say that I am still sober to this day. I have a wonderful life, 3 beautiful children that I see everyday. So my suggestion to you is that if you really want to quit stop hanging with the people that are involved in the lifestyle that you don't want to live. It may help you also to maybe check into some NA or AA if you've never had any help, cause there are tools that they can provide you with to help you stay clean and sober.
sun spot baby

Campbell, MO

#3 Dec 8, 2008
hi my name is ******** and I'm an alcoholic and addict. Lost my kids, home, husband everything. Rehab done me alot of good. Just drop the old and start with the new. Birds of a feather flock together. Luckily I did have some old buddies that were true friends and were very supportive of my recovery. I attend celebrate recovery. But remember, relaspe is a normal part of recovery. You can do it if you really want to and if you have a good support system.
Just Wondering

Saint Louis, MO

#4 Dec 8, 2008
Thanks so much for replying...another thing I was trying to figure out is what types of things I can do. My whole life is about getting high, and without it I really don't know what to do. The regular dinner, movies, and other activities just do not seem fun at all...well without pills. Nothing really seems fun and if I am trying to not hang out with the people I used to get messed up with...I really don't have anyone to do things with anyway...you know?

Dexter, MO

#5 Dec 8, 2008
well i will just tell you that yes it will be a lil boring for the first few months probably. but as i said before if you keep hanging with the same people you use to hang out with your going to end up in the same place you were before. HIGH.
There is a saying that my girlfriend always use to tell me when i first got sober and was hanging with my old buddies. You keep doing what youve always done youll keep getting what you always got. She still tells me that to this day and we have been together for almost 3 years now.

best of luck to you. you can do it if you really want to all you have to do is put forth the effort

heres a suggestion if you know someone that is clean then maybe you can get yourself a sponsor and when you feel like getting high give them a call and if they are a true friend they will be there to help all you have to do is explain to them that you may need them night or day at any time if you feel like you aare wanting to get high and you need them to talk to you and keep you from fuc%ing up
Good Idea

Wardell, MO

#6 Dec 8, 2008
That's why it might be a good idea to attend some of those meetings. You would find people in your same situation who need new friends that don't want to get high anymore. This would probably give you someone to hang out with.
Just Wondering

Saint Louis, MO

#7 Dec 8, 2008
Your girlfriend makes a very good point.'Nother thing though...being 100% sober. Does it have to be 100%? Can you maybe have a drink, or smoke some green once in awhile?

“I'll trade a smile for a hug!”

Since: Apr 08

anywhere but ehre

#8 Dec 8, 2008
well me not bieng the best operson for drug advice considering i still use drugs (just pot and beer) if you give into the whole well its ONLY once and awhile you still havent quit have you? alcohol(in the druggie mind state i have) well i dont see alcohol as a drug because to me a drug is something you get illegally or prescribed. so you may be only replacing the drugs you were taking with alcohol thinkin ohh but this is fine its legal till....

peace love & SOBRIETY

Dexter, MO

#9 Dec 8, 2008
just think of it this way you go out and smoke some weed with a friend and this friend of yours has some pills and you see this person take them.??????? what are you going to want to do ???????? Take some pills yourself. I dont think that it is a bad think to drink i have a occasional beer myself once in a blue moon but i dont put myself in a position where someone is going to do the drug that i know that i will do if i cant control what i do. if you cant control yourself sober do you really think that you will be able to control yourself all messed up and around people that do drugs if i were you you i would just limit my choice to drinking and watching who i was around
Tina Malone

Fredericktown, MO

#10 Dec 8, 2008
Just wondering just a little 2 cents from me who doesnt matter but I use 2 be `t`here and Im not a holy roller but I do know who God is now and i do talk to him everyday I still got a ways to go with him but for me drug court or any meeting didnt help until I gave him a chance and left my old buddies alone!like i said just my 2 cents
Just Wondering

Saint Louis, MO

#11 Dec 8, 2008
Nobody's opinion can mean nothing. Haha, well not here, so thanks, and I understand what you are saying about having a relationship with God. Also, yeah, you get a buzz going and other people want to extend their's, you will want to go right a long with them. I'm gonna miss those friends though.

United States

#12 Dec 8, 2008
You have to really really want to quit. Completely cut yourself off from all people who use. Even if that means your mother or best friend. At least until you get strong enough. If you go around them still and just dont use, that will only last a little while. You can only fight temptation so long. In the aa community its called a dry drunk.Eat right, get plenty of rest and set goals for yourself. Find something you like to do. Hobbies. Work, reall important to stay busy. Yes it sucks at 1st but you will find yourself starting to enjoy things. Even more than before. Trust me you will feel better. It does take time. You cannot undo a lifetime in a day . Stay with it!!!!!!! Tour body and mind will repay you for anything you think your missing out on.
Tina Malone

Fredericktown, MO

#13 Dec 8, 2008
Just Wondering wrote:
Nobody's opinion can mean nothing. Haha, well not here, so thanks, and I understand what you are saying about having a relationship with God. Also, yeah, you get a buzz going and other people want to extend their's, you will want to go right a long with them. I'm gonna miss those friends though.
Keep your head up babe you can do it it will b rough at first but if you want it get it!!!! Thats with anything in life! You want it or you wouldnt b on here askin
Just Wondering

Saint Louis, MO

#14 Dec 8, 2008
Wow...this is helpin' a lot more than I thought it would. I actually heard this site was just all about bashing people and saying hateful things. So all these helpful comments are much appreciated! There is another issue...trust. Am I ever going to get that back? My family has been put through a lot and I feel horrible about that, but are they going to start liking me and wanting me around again?
Just Wondering

Saint Louis, MO

#15 Dec 8, 2008
Hmmm...not sure why it did that. My bad.

Chaffee, MO

#16 Dec 8, 2008
ithink to get on here and talk about you drug problems is pretty sad!!!GET A LIFE..

United States

#17 Dec 8, 2008
hey i drink like a fish and meth here in i smoke pot and eat smashed up pills and learned alot of new ways to make new pipes i usually sit in my room and watch my walls melt and form clouds do u think i need to help

Jackson, MO

#18 Dec 9, 2008
pain killers are death my friend.
you cant take anything anymore. not even asprin.
if it kills pain, you shouldn't take it.

marijuana is the only thing that saved me...when you quit cold turkey you can't believe anything. just basicaly meditate on quitting forever.

stay strong, its depressing but it gets better

Poplar Bluff, MO

#19 Dec 9, 2008
You are on the right track by questioning. Don't listen or respond to people like dumbass or smartass. They are just what their name says. Hang in there and when you want to start using, talk to someone or do something different. As time goes by, you will learn to enjoy things without the drugs, but stop telling yourself that things are not fun without the drugs. Change your way of thinking. Think about how cool it is that you are doing an activity straight. Think about your family liking you again. Do whatever it takes not to use. You are in my prayers. Merry Christmas.
Tina Malone

Fredericktown, MO

#20 Dec 9, 2008
dumbass wrote:
ithink to get on here and talk about you drug problems is pretty sad!!!GET A LIFE..
No One said u had 2 stay on this post and as you can c he/she is working on a new life thank you for your 2 cents anywz

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