Rebecca's Final Lesson To Her Students

Rebecca's Final Lesson To Her Students

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middle school parent

Columbus, OH

#1 Feb 26, 2012
While David Stahl has not yet been charged with any crime relating to the murder of Rebecca Stahl, we can all surmise how this is going to develop.

While Rebecca has taught sums and fractions, decimals and division, her most poignant and important lesson may have come from her unfortunate, devastating death.

Marriage or relationships should not hurt, love is wanting personal growth for your partner, building them up not tearing them down. Love is finding joy in your partners joy, feeling happiness in their accomplishments. Love is hurting when your partner hurts, NOT causing hurt to your partner.

"I am sorry and I won't do it again" is meaningless when it comes to abuse. It is a justification, an excuse. They WILL do it again and sometimes the ultimate price is paid for staying, out of love.

A person that feels compelled to abuse, is a person with no self worth, they need to control, they belittle and punish your achievements, their goal is to render you helpless so they can control you. Therefore they feel powerful and mighty.

I believe what happened is a life altering lesson to Rebecca's students, friends, co-workers and even strangers....

Rebecca taught her students with love, she promoted self worth and praised their accomplishments, let's all take a step back and think of her final lesson....

In memory and in honor of this wonderful, caring devoted teacher, to her students I say pay close attention to her final lesson, it may save your life!

Thank you Rebecca, always teaching, always loving!

Rest in Peace!
DAHS Alum

Dearborn, MI

#2 Feb 27, 2012
I sincerely hope that DASD takes this opportunity to ensure a positive legacy for Rebecca Stahl and institutes a dating/domestic violence educational programming series in her honor, which should begin in the middle school. We have a great resource and potential partner in The Blackburn Center here, and we should do everything we can to make sure our young girls and women are educated on this subject early and often.
middle school parent

Amanda, OH

#3 Feb 27, 2012
DAHS Alum,

Our district has handled this tragedy with the utmost respect and care for our students and staff.

My child was extremely upset and could not comprehend WHY such a thing happened.

I as an adult struggle trying to understand, how do we expect our children to?

The teachers were very compassionate and offered comfort to such students.

I applaud the disrtict for their actions during this tragic, horrible time.

I, like you hope this opens the door to educating our children on the value of self worth, free thinking, healthy relationships, and the reality that if it happens once it will happen again!

This would indeed be a positive legacy and honor for a teacher that loved and cared so much!
DAHS Alum

United States

#4 Feb 27, 2012
I'm not going to comment on how the district handled this situation from the beginning, but I do agree with you that this does serve as a great opportunity to ensure that through education and awareness Mrs. Stahl will not be forgotten
Anonymous

Pittsburgh, PA

#5 Feb 28, 2012
DAHS Alum wrote:
I'm not going to comment on how the district handled this situation from the beginning, but I do agree with you that this does serve as a great opportunity to ensure that through education and awareness Mrs. Stahl will not be forgotten
Ah oh...since you did not want to comment on how the school district handled the situation, you must know something.
DAHS Alum

Cleveland, OH

#6 Feb 29, 2012
no, I just have my opinion about how things were handled from the beginning of this situation.
DerryAir

Derry, PA

#7 Mar 1, 2012
What is it that you wish the school district would have done?
STtaight Facts

United States

#8 Mar 1, 2012
The school district handled the situation well. There's no "handbook" to refer to when a teacher is missing and then murdered They were very interested in helping faculty and students who needed support. They also were lucky to have help from neighboring districts and outside agencies. Last Friday was a very difficult day for students and for the teachers and staff. Using grace as a guide, the Derry Area Middle School did the very best they could in an impossible situation. I suggest kudos for their handling of this situation. Hopefully parents continued this dialogue at home and are continuing to discuss the questions that may arise with our kids. I do hope that in conjunction with the Blackburn Center of Greensburg a formal lesson is brought from this tragedy into the classroom.
Anonymous

Pittsburgh, PA

#9 Mar 3, 2012
STtaight Facts wrote:
The school district handled the situation well. There's no "handbook" to refer to when a teacher is missing and then murdered They were very interested in helping faculty and students who needed support. They also were lucky to have help from neighboring districts and outside agencies. Last Friday was a very difficult day for students and for the teachers and staff. Using grace as a guide, the Derry Area Middle School did the very best they could in an impossible situation. I suggest kudos for their handling of this situation. Hopefully parents continued this dialogue at home and are continuing to discuss the questions that may arise with our kids. I do hope that in conjunction with the Blackburn Center of Greensburg a formal lesson is brought from this tragedy into the classroom.
Well said....very well. Thank you so much.
DAHS Alum

Huntsburg, OH

#10 Mar 4, 2012
I understand there was no precedent for handling the situation, and I'm sure it was made even more difficult because so many of the adults had personal relationships with her. I do hope, however, that the school leadership will look at their initial response to the situation with a critical eye as to better serve the student population if a future story affecting the district and its students would become public through the media.
1989 grad

Orlando, FL

#11 Mar 4, 2012
DAHS Alum wrote:
I understand there was no precedent for handling the situation, and I'm sure it was made even more difficult because so many of the adults had personal relationships with her. I do hope, however, that the school leadership will look at their initial response to the situation with a critical eye as to better serve the student population if a future story affecting the district and its students would become public through the media.
I'm wondering what you mean. From what I understand the district did a great job initially and throughout...
middle school parent

North Ridgeville, OH

#12 Mar 4, 2012
There will always be criticism, room for improvement or adverse opinions.

I for one applaud the district for their compassion, caring and utmost sensitivity towards our students.

This was a tragic horrible situation, a bright life was taken from us all, how would I have reacted? You?

I am a very thankful parent!
DAHS Alum

United States

#13 Mar 4, 2012
Room for improvement is the key...that is all.
1992 graduate

Ostrander, OH

#14 Mar 11, 2012
My response is for the ones that would criticize how the school district handled things , I for one having a student at home that knew Rebecca stahl as his teacher and loved having her as a teacher , think of the family that has lost a very dear loved one , a sister , a daughter , close friend , we are not perfect people and when someone finds the least perfect way a situation was handle and criticizes it they should be ashamed .
DAHS Alum

United States

#15 Mar 11, 2012
I'm sorry, but I'm not ashamed of having an opinion. It has nothing to do with the victim, her family, even her students...I have been talking about the the school district's response, nothing more.

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