Relationships

[Question]

I caught my wife looking at another guy and i wanted to get mad but I find that I look at gorgeous females to so I didn't call her on that but my question is do we always get attracted to good looking people even when were happily in love

[Chilldude]

As long as she isn't banging him it's okay.

[Dear Annie]

Yes it's Normal but remember the 80/20 never forget that ur wife is ur wife for a reason. And it's always ok to glance just dnt do more than that n never call her out on stuff u do it's nonsense and that's being a hiporcrit a marriage isn't suppose to b like that knw that

[Question]

So annie do you do the same as my wife

[Question]

What do you mean my wife is my wife for a reason. And what's the 80 20 rule

[Dear Annie]

U married her for a reason because u love her for her n no 1 compares to her, n 80/20 is a girl who she could b beautiful but not have everythin like bad attitude rude thinks shes better n too good for any1 n a 20 is she may not b as beautiful but she is perfect in everythin else n it basically means beauty isn't everything u get me, n I am engaged that my fiance and I are open I tell him wen I see someone handsome n wen I see a pretty girl he agrees we dnt get mad because looking is natural we appreciate beauty but that's as far as we go, being open too 1 another is havin trust open minded people now a days are hard to actually find because insecurities come In the way thy can say thy dnt care but at a point thy start too u get me,

[Question]

You dont think looking at others could come across asdisrespectfulI
I get what your saying Annie so do you think maybe it will be good for our relationship if we talk about who we find good looking

[BigD]

Annie has a point tryin to be as open as possible with ur partner could build a better trust foundation between the relationship. Now days relationships are funny because we see all these perfect shaped females, hot and sexy females,that we come across. ITS HUMAN NATURE !!! Women do it just as much as males. Some women wont admit they do it but once there out with there friends, girls night, there scanning the scene just like guys.There lookin at hot sexy muscular guys. Its reacting on that impulse that gets ppl introuble. Is it disrespectful, to most, yes! But if you guys are that inlove then its just like walkin around window shopping knowing you can look but cant buy.

[Dear Annie]

To question look u can't just tell her o she's beautiful no u gotta ask her up front and in a right way "babe we are married n that's meaning we tell EACHOTHER everythin n tell her ive saw u check out guys and Im not mad I just want us to b open n have respect for EACHOTHER to look but not pass the boundary n den tell her the truth that u do as well just as she does but it's Nothn more to that only a close minded insecure person will take it disrespectful n tell her ur beautiful to me it's just human nature u get me,? N for 1 u guys SHLD always talk abt everythin u get me,?:)

[SayyWhatt]

I think its normal to check out other ppl even if ur married or with someone. As long as u dont pass the line such as flirt with the other person u were looking at.

[Dear Annie]

To big D EXACTLY!!! It's like window shopping especially with girls night we do that but a woman with not only respect for herself but her partner will just look n not speak on it I've told my fiancé dang he's hot or he says she alright but she too skinny we just bullshit after that n that's a meanin of a relationship partners friends lovers, to my friends I agree but I never say dang he's fine n wat I would do to that no that's passing boundaries, and same goes for guys now and days I think not only men but women SHLD b open minded with relationships n maybe if people are open minded there won't b cheatin around??

[True]

Very true I actually read a human sexuality journal which states that when couples acknowlege sexy people to each other it makes the relationship stronger for example a woman tells her man when she sees someone hot and a man tells his woman when he sees someone hot the reason so many people cheat is because they bottle these feelings in and the bottom line is this you can look and admire the menu but you can't eat the menu