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In need

Pearsall, TX

#1 Apr 8, 2013
My husband of 8 years has trouble having sex. We argue all the time and this just is not helping either. We used to make up and have great sex but now there is not much to look forward to. Would you stay in a marriage that no longer pleases you physically? We have 3 kids and I'm not sure what to do. Just looking to see different points of view. Thank You for commenting.
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Pearsall, TX

#2 Apr 8, 2013
Just leave him cuz soon you will be cheating trying to get sum elsewhere.
samantha

Del Rio, TX

#3 Apr 8, 2013
In need wrote:
My husband of 8 years has trouble having sex. We argue all the time and this just is not helping either. We used to make up and have great sex but now there is not much to look forward to. Would you stay in a marriage that no longer pleases you physically? We have 3 kids and I'm not sure what to do. Just looking to see different points of view. Thank You for commenting.
Yeah, I would stay with him. You did get married for better or for worse didn't you?
???

Del Rio, TX

#4 Apr 8, 2013
Would you have liked if he left you for the same issue?? I guessing no!! Marriage is for better or worse!! Work out the issue & learn to be there for each other... Make the sexual part work.. Marriage is not the only part of marriage but it is necessary & important :) wish you luck!!
???

Del Rio, TX

#5 Apr 8, 2013
Sorry meant *sex is not the only important part of marriage.
grown folk advice

United States

#6 Apr 8, 2013
Talk with him about the arguments and how your feeling and what your planning on doing. That's a huge problem our generation has..NO COMMUNICATION. Don't up and leave someone without bringing it with them and exhausting ALL options first..He may be the man you want him to be if with help and understanding from a strong woman behind him . The BEST men are ones that have an emotional link in themselves between sex and their emotions.sounds like if the two of you communicate and solve the issue the sex will return to what it was.. is that so strange that if your lover has issue about something and it bothers him on all levels even sex??sounds like your the one with the problem.. If you can separate love from sex in your relationship you have a very important broken link in yourself..either way talk with the man and restore each other.. we need that so much in all our lives..
grown folk advice

United States

#7 Apr 8, 2013
To the name one hour ago ?

Your such a puke telling people to just leave a relationship..just cause u a miserable wretch don't ever tell otro people to just leave without trying all first.we are all people and all deserve happiness. If u want it. Pukes like u need to wear signs around your necks.. IN NEED.. If u love him.. run to him and make it work.. Love needs to return to our lives on all levels..

One love
kitty

United States

#10 Apr 8, 2013
Make sweet love to him now!!!!!!! Or at least asap.
In need

Pearsall, TX

#11 Apr 8, 2013
I'm so in love with him but I it makes me mad that I no longer turn him on. I think he watched porn and stuff like that. That makes me crazy. I do believe in for better or worse but how loyal was he whenever he saw all that filth? Can he lose interest in the real thing if he is busy on the computer?
Stay

Lockhart, TX

#12 Apr 8, 2013
Stay with him. That way in 10 more years you will still be stuck in a loveless relationship and your kids will think its ok to live like that also. And you will never know happiness.
samantha

Del Rio, TX

#13 Apr 8, 2013
In need wrote:
I'm so in love with him but I it makes me mad that I no longer turn him on. I think he watched porn and stuff like that. That makes me crazy. I do believe in for better or worse but how loyal was he whenever he saw all that filth? Can he lose interest in the real thing if he is busy on the computer?
So you are excusing yourself of the better or for worse vow because he saw porn?

I would try to work it out with him if my husband and I were in that situation. I am loyal to my husband until death do us part. That's the vow we made.
dr phill

United States

#14 Apr 8, 2013
Porn is also an addiction, have him see a doctor. Or maybe you have become unattractive? Go jog some laps around thenorth heights campus.
In need

Pearsall, TX

#15 Apr 8, 2013
samantha wrote:
<quoted text>So you are excusing yourself of the better or for worse vow because he saw porn?

I would try to work it out with him if my husband and I were in that situation. I am loyal to my husband until death do us part. That's the vow we made.

Not just that. So many things throughout the years like him texting other women and offering sex to them. And I really don't know how far his infidelity went. But still I am here. It just seems like now, we won't have that intimacy that usually was the glue to keep my love in tact. And the sad part is he blames me for this situation as if I did that to him physically. I have been here and still struggle with leaving but I'm tired of being ignored. Surely he can find a way of pleasing me but if he won't make an effort, why wait around.
Advice

Del Rio, TX

#17 Apr 8, 2013
I'm kind of going through the same situation with my spouse. She's always tired and never wanting sex. I'm the kind of person that needs it every 2-3 days. I believe that sex is a HUGE part of a successful marriage. If your sexual needs aren't being met in your marriage then things are going to go downhill pretty quick. People are different though, as well as every marriage. Some couples don't have high sex drives and sex is not important to them. Some couples need sex every so often. I just happen to fall into that category. My advice is let your significant other know the situation and hopefully they'll come through for you. If not, I would head down the road because its just a matter of time before things get worse.
Advice

Del Rio, TX

#18 Apr 8, 2013
Another big issue marriages have is once couples are married for an x amount of years, they stop caring about the way they look. They think, well hey I'm married who do I have to look good for? That's where the problem starts, why would you stop taking care of yourself and let yourself get big? You fell in love with that person when they looked a certain way. Once they start gaining weight you're not gonna look at that person the same because you're not gonna be attracted to that person anymore. Main thing, stay in shape, stay looking good and make sure you are meeting your spouses needs. If not then your marriage is just gonna go down the shitter.
In need

Pearsall, TX

#20 Apr 8, 2013
dr phill wrote:
Porn is also an addiction, have him see a doctor. Or maybe you have become unattractive? Go jog some laps around thenorth heights campus.

Thank you Dr Phil but for having 3 children, I still look good. But maybe a jog a week won't hurt either.
In need

Pearsall, TX

#21 Apr 8, 2013
Advice wrote:
I'm kind of going through the same situation with my spouse. She's always tired and never wanting sex. I'm the kind of person that needs it every 2-3 days. I believe that sex is a HUGE part of a successful marriage. If your sexual needs aren't being met in your marriage then things are going to go downhill pretty quick. People are different though, as well as every marriage. Some couples don't have high sex drives and sex is not important to them. Some couples need sex every so often. I just happen to fall into that category. My advice is let your significant other know the situation and hopefully they'll come through for you. If not, I would head down the road because its just a matter of time before things get worse.
Another thing was that he demanded sex all the time and now that he can't, I'm supposed to be supportive? It's crazy...
In need

Pearsall, TX

#22 Apr 8, 2013
damn wrote:
Hold up. Is his lack of sex a medical problem or just between the 2 of you. Dont jump the gun. Get him checked but talk to him about it first. That is a very touchy subject for a man. You didnt get married just to have sex, sex come with marrige not the other way around. You can replace his penis with a toy but you cant replace the man.

He refuses to go to the doctor. It's annoying that he could be so selfish. I'm guessing it is a medical situation. And maybe a toy is a good idea. Where can I go other than the Internet here in DR?
loco

United States

#23 Apr 8, 2013
Why can't he have it now? I'm sure if u talk with him there is a reason, there's always a reason behind everything. Have u talked with him?
aye

Houston, TX

#24 Apr 8, 2013
Porn while bj your welcome

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