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lack of goverment help for single parent fathers

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KBS

United States

#1 Dec 10, 2006
who will stand up for father rights as single parents?
all the goverment programs and funding are structured towards women and children.
when will everyone wake up and see, we have dead beat mothers.
We have dedicated single parent fathers trying to provide for our families, but need the same type of assistance as women.
frankye

Coalinga, CA

#2 Jun 20, 2007
i agree.
my father works hard to rasie 4 children
with no help
Burde

United States

#3 Jun 20, 2007
frankye wrote:
i agree.
my father works hard to rasie 4 children
with no help
thanks for your comments, as it stands, very little comments for a huge problem, single fathers are under represented,
I am a single mother in support of the problem for single fathers. I goal is to start a housing program specific for single fathers, with kids.
lisa

Cincinnati, OH

#4 Jun 25, 2007
i'm a single mother of two and i get no help from the government they wont even make the father help me. so please tell me how you see that the government helps women more? I can't even get child support
Essex

Shreveport, LA

#5 Jun 26, 2007
im a single father im only 23 and i took full custody of my child and there is really no help like it should be i would do anything to help out fathers across the world
Frank

New York, NY

#6 Jun 28, 2007
This is a HUGE problem, and is just as much a bias now as womans rights were, and all the other issues that are addressed...I'm a 28 year old single father of 3...no help, but what will it take to get help like there would be if I was a single mom..
Chris

San Augustine, TX

#7 Oct 7, 2007
I am a single father of 4 kids. My ex-wife left me a nd my kids for another man. I cant work cause of a car accident i was in and she is working a full time job. But who may guess. She is getting all the free help like legal aid, free houseing and so on cause she is a single women going thru a divorce. And me, i am getting nothing. They keep saying they cant help me, but you know its cause i am a man. What else could it be. Women get help every day and men get thrown on their butts. WE need help to. Where is it at.. If you know of any help, please email me and tell. My email adress is [email protected]
Jason

Houston, TX

#8 Nov 5, 2007
I haven't recieved child support for almost a year for my daughter. The Deadbeat only pays about $200 a month and made enough to pay double that last year. But she is job jumping and living with a doctor who pays her bills. If the roles were reveresed I would probably be in jail already. I've talked to lawyers about this and they act like I'm crazy asking for more or even talking about taking her back to court.....I went to the attorney generals office and filed but that was three months ago and she has moved and quit her job already. "At least you have custoday things could be worse, it could be the other way around like most guys." thats what I keep hearing. The roles are not the same anymore. Woman think that they don't have to clean, cook, or take care of the house. I understand if they work, the house work should be shared then.(if you work about the same amount of hours.) But for a woman to stay home with the child(ren) and not lift a finger to clean or cook or help in any manor. Let her husband work 60 hours + a week and have to come home and do the house chores too. Then the woman takes his paycheck and goes out and parties and cheats??... I didn't put up with it and you shouldn't either. File divorce first, then Kick her out, do not let her take the kids, do not let her take anything but her clothes. Don't leave your house and kids, make her leave.
God Bless You and your children
Jason

Houston, TX

#9 Nov 5, 2007
Deer Park, TX.

Not Montoursville, PA
Neil

Salem, IL

#10 Dec 2, 2007
I also am a single father of 4 children. I have a heart condition that has given me a Defribrilator 4 years ago. So with that I lost my good paying job of $16.96 hr. And now I seeked God word of whether I should divorce my cheating wife. He granted me the opportunity of this and now today I have full custody of my children and I get child support of $384 a month. With me not being able to get a job or not being aloud social security (being able to work) I have to explain to these children why they can't have anything they would like to have. I have seeked help and I keep getting accused of being a dead beat. But in the same manor I have over 2000 resumes and applications out over the past 2 years. I sell things here online. But that is not enough to pay the bills. Now the landlord has had the bank foreclose on him and we have got to move. Here is the catch, I HAVE NO MONEY. How can they expect me to move. If anyone has any idea what I could actually do. Please tell me. My childrens ages are 16, 14 and a 2 year old daughters and a 12 year old boy. I am finding it to be a full time job with just the kids. How am I to get a job and see over the kids at the same time. teenagers should be able to help out, but they also seem to know everything....Any ideas? Let me know. Thanks all,
Neil
Chris

AOL

#11 Dec 6, 2007
I have been married for 21 years and two years ago my naturlized American citizen wife ask me to leave the house because I caught her cheatiing with a married man.
She used our two youngest children in court to testify that I threaten to kill her ( never in our 21 years of marriage have I lay a hand on my wife or to say another woman in my life.

She file on my behalf with immigration but latter withdrew her petetion leaving the immigration with no choice but to cancell all my work papers.
Now I'm out of status, nowher to live, no job and no where to turn for help.
Some one, please advise.

Why should women have morerights than men?
Kevin Mpls

Minneapolis, MN

#12 Dec 8, 2007
I am a single father of three boys ages 6,8,15. I have been through four o five jobs and been fired becouse of all the tim i miss trying to take care of my boys . I get next to no help from there mother while she gets to sit back and collect ssi.She also ges to live in low income housing while me and the boys are jst days from being evicted becous i cant pay all the rent. I have gotten to the point whee know i suffer from depression and anxiety disorder becouse of all the stress of trying to meet the systems standards.So if anyoe knows of any one that could help ould be geat whether it be a job or christmas for my boys. Thankyou and merry christmas...........
Mark in Michigan

Dublin, VA

#13 Dec 10, 2007
I have been a single custodial father raising four children since 2001. My ex owes over $7000 in child support, and got lots of free money and even a car from the state. She used the car to move to Florida to escape a felony non-support conviction in Michigan!
I would like to go back to school, but there are no grants or scholarships tailored for us single dads. My ex received lots of free tuition assistance when she went back to school. Where is the fairness in our society?
Howard Jones

Franklin, TN

#14 Dec 29, 2007
hi , i am a single father of a 13 yr old beautiful little lady,her mother is the biggest deadbeat ever! i don't get child support or assistance of any kind,but i can tell you that i have lived in a appartment and only paid $25 a month rent with lights included,you have to go to a public houseing complex and sign up.It works i did it for 3 yrs.That was all the time it took for me to save the money to buy a house!I am a painter and ever since they did this huge forecloser thing it has killed the trade i have spent my life becoming a pro- painter.Now i am buying and saling stuff online like craigslist.com ,this is keeping my house running for now but you never know what will happen next!But i would like to say, i was in the child support enforcement office just last week trying to get child support for my child and i was able to hear a woman a couple of desk down from where i was with the same situation as me((The non- custodial parent not living in the home and not contributing anything to the up bringing of the child)). She was giving 10 ways for them to get her money! i asked the very same thing and i was told"I am sorry sir but there is nothing we can do about that"If that is not discremination i don't know what is!I have file a 2.5 million dollar law suite against the state and i will ride it all the way to the supreme court if i have too.I hope you all learned something by my story to do something of the same,if the goverment keeps loseing money like this they will be forced to make sirius changes!Thanks for reading this post and god bless and good luck!
Bob Will

Trenton, OH

#15 Jan 6, 2008
I have a 6 year old girl. I only make 20,000 a year I work for my self, so thats after self employment deduction. Her mom dont work. She has had two other kids after our daughter and all the state of ohio is having her pay is $160.00 a month. I have a freind that pays $500.00 for each kid,$1000.00 a month to their mom. wheres the fairness here?
I would file for goverment help but I make too much...?
Kevin Smith

Murfreesboro, TN

#16 Jan 9, 2008
I'm brand new to the whole single dad thing been under a month now...

Mother left and said she couldn't take it! She is on pills and has lost her other child due to this to the previous relationship, I raised the 3 year old since he was 6 months and now he is gone she is gone and me and my 7 month old daughter are left to live life???

Any suggestions for a guy like me???
tina

Saint Louis, MO

#17 Jan 20, 2008
hey i have a great man he is going throw some really bad times right now. it is hard 4 men with kids and the parents don't stay together. i would do anything i could to help this issue out. women fought to get equal rights now maybe it is time 4 men to do the same. men deserve the same rights as women when it comes to kids, paying 3 to 5 hundred or even more a month when they still have to live .the way the country is now, his tuck broke down and the mother of his child will not let him see his child much if any, he sighned paper work saying she was his. did not even ask 4 a test to be done and the child does not even have his name on her birth certifcat. all i can say is i am a womwn and i think this is wroung, he deserves much more than what he is getting, how can a man be the best he can be to his children or child if everone and thing stands in his way, he is a great dad and deservice the same rights as his babys mother. i would never personal make a man pay 4 his child if he was acually being a dad and taking care of the child when he had them. IF U GUYS OUT THERE NEED A WOMEN ON UR SIDE CALL ME OUT I WILL BE THERE.
Jerome

Philadelphia, PA

#18 Feb 1, 2008
Kevin: Have you tried collecting the SSI or whatever your children may be entitled to if anything as a dependant of your wife? Maybe that is the $300+ you are already getting?
Kevin Mpls wrote:
I am a single father of three boys ages 6,8,15. I have been through four o five jobs and been fired becouse of all the tim i miss trying to take care of my boys . I get next to no help from there mother while she gets to sit back and collect ssi.She also ges to live in low income housing while me and the boys are jst days from being evicted becous i cant pay all the rent. I have gotten to the point whee know i suffer from depression and anxiety disorder becouse of all the stress of trying to meet the systems standards.So if anyoe knows of any one that could help ould be geat whether it be a job or christmas for my boys. Thankyou and merry christmas..........
Jerome

Philadelphia, PA

#19 Feb 1, 2008
Kevin: Have you tried collecting the SSI or whatever your children may be entitled to if anything as a dependant of your wife?
Ron

Sparta, NJ

#20 Feb 28, 2008
Same proble as you all. Two kids age 8 and 6. The parenting part is easy. It is managing the bills and the debt she left behind. No help from her and I make too much for any other help. I have to miss work all the time when the kids are sick and that digs the hole deeper. I have no family locally to help out.

I see that there havent been many who have responded with any sound advise so I will assume no one knows what guys like us should do. All I can suggest is to strenthen your faith. Then when you feel like you have nothing left, You still have SOMETHING! We will all get through with God's help, but it sure would be nice if someone would recognise this growing problem.

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