Family of drowned boy sues country club

Full story: Baltimore Examiner

Surrounded by photographs of their dead son, the parents of Connor Freed, the 5-year-old Davidsonville boy who drowned in a Crofton pool last month, announced Thursday a $20 million wrongful death lawsuit ...
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VFC

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#42
Oct 6, 2006
 
You're right lifeguard. Although I wouldn't use the word 'retarded' as much as the word 'ignorant'. These days you always use the mask. I think the person of note is influenced by emotion, as I believe he/she is or is close to someone involved in the situation.
Jessica

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#43
Oct 12, 2006
 
Get my facts right? Ha. Get YOUR facts straight. And get a life while your at it.
Anon

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#44
Oct 12, 2006
 
Use a mask for a 5 year old boy? Yes, you never know these days... but even if they did use a mask, they should've revived him. Everything else they did was wrong. They obviously had no idea what they were doing. Period. It was just one big mess - and nobody was prepared.
VFC

Baltimore, MD

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#45
Oct 12, 2006
 
Yes, NO ONE was prepared. Including the adult supervision. We are a country where we forbid people under the age of 21 to consume any amounts of alcohol, yet the same people we do not see as responsible enough to enjoy a glass of wine with a meal, we expect them to be responsible for dozens of children whose parents are not keeping an eye on them in public places, such as this pool. Don't you love the hypocrisy in our society? Everyone needs to roger up to their responsibility and accountability, not just the lifeguards.
Michelle

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#46
Oct 15, 2006
 
You definitely made some great points. I see faults from everyone involved. To answer someone else's statement earlier "How many times have you let your child go to the pool with a close family friend?" Zero, chances are there are going to be other kids with that close family friend, and would not be able to provide my child with their 100% undivided attention. I think everyone that was involved is at fault. I have a son the same age as Connor and absolutely under no circumstances would he be allowed in a public restroom by himself a public restroom is like candy for a pedophile, if this kid had not of drowned he could of succumbed to some other sort of tragedy in a public restroom alone. All of these people involved will go through the rest of their lives with this tragedy on their conscience, I would hope through prayer and healing that these people learn to forgive themselves and accept it for what it is "a tragic accident". Noone involved intended for this to happen. Sure the Crofton Country Club failed in a HUGE way that day and if it wasn't for their incompetency this little boy would still be alive. Lifeguards are human though and make mistakes (unfortunately these mistakes are unacceptable), but with that said if you think it is totally 100% of the lifeguards fault then think about this, would you take your 5 year old to the pool or the beach and drop them off for the day and pick them up at sun down? And why not? Because that is so ridiculous I don't even think I need to answer that. But that is basically what some of you are saying. I don't by all means think it is the family friends fault or the parents fault, decisions were made not knowing what reprecussions were to occur. But hello there were many events that occured before the complete failure of the lifeguards, that could of saved this childs life had he of been properly supervised and treated life a 5 year old.
How about the people involved in the incident do public speaking on child safety, why it is so important not let our children out of our sight? Or pool safety, always keep the floaties on. This is America, the land of the internet wacko and child molester, our kids should be in our sights at all times, especially in public places. Our society has a tendency to get complacent, and I think we're very complacent about our children. I go to the pool and sometimes I'm amazed at the lack of attention paid to the children by the parents, the kids be off on the other side of the pool with the parents talking, chatting, whatever, but not watching the kids. I don't understand how people are comfortable doing that. I've even heard people say that someone else will watch them when asked who's watching their kids. Would we be so lax with our wallets?
Hopefully, instead of trying to place blame, everyone in this community should try to take something valuable from this incident, or that poor little boy will have been lost in vein.
Admiral B

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#47
Nov 22, 2006
 
anonymous wrote:
i understand what this family is going through but what they fail to realize is that they arent the only ones affected. the lifeguard at this facility is going to be tramitized for life. i feel as though the person who brought him to the pool is equally at fault. lifeguards are there to HELP watch everyone. the five year shouldnt have went to the bathroom by himself. there are more than one person at fault and the family needs to recognize that. sorry to say but the little boy didnt die at the pool, the lifeguard did what she/he was trained to do and accidents do happen.
WRONG-WRONG-YOU R WRONG sweetie-DEAD WRONG!! LIFEGUARD isn't that the name? LIFE GUARD. They guard LIFE. But hey let's be politically correct. The guard wasn't respondsible, he wasn't being paid to do a LIFEGUARDING job? As I recall it was ADULT SWIM? Time for the GUARD to rest/take a breather/ talk to the chiks/eat a snicker bar/talk on the cell phone RIGHT??? NOOOOOOOOOOOO! Their JOD IS TO GUARD.
HE F----ED up! Won't do that again will he???????
lisa

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#48
Nov 25, 2006
 
lifeguards are there to" HELP " supervise not
" REPLACE " the supervision of our children.
Unfortunately most lifeguards at pools are teenagers,
nothing against teenagers I have one, but I also have two preschoolers and I don't alow her to take them to the pool, after all a teenager is in all sensof the word, still a child.
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#49
Apr 26, 2007
 
I had the distint disappointment of hearing that this same Management Company will be managing three community pools this summer in my community.

Yes, it was a tradgedy. Yes, I know the family involved.

What I don't want to hear is some 24 year old from the Pool Management Company make his case to me,,, not knowing that I knew the family.. supporting the pool managment company and saying "Life guards are not babysitters."

True. But these people lost a child. They are grieving. The comments were delivered to me by a single 24 year old while I was enjoying my indoor pool facility. It tasteless and left me white in the face. Connor was in the pool long enough to drown. I was not there, but as a former member of this pool. There must not have been a guard in the chair in the deep end....Just because some people weren't present doesn't absolve those that were.

Get over yourselves and your "win" and let the family in peace.
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#50
Apr 27, 2007
 
Everyone is going to have a different opinion on this matter. Some are going to say it was the lifeguards fault and some will say it was the man who brought the boy. Either way,$20 Million is an absolutely ridiculous amount of money to ask for. What makes them think they are entitled to that sort of money? It is just another way for Americans to use the system to gain money from other people. 100% ridiculous. I completely understand what they're feeling with losing their son. Do they honestly that money is going to bring their child back or help so this doesn't happen again? No. it's not. It's going to hurt rather than help. Instead of having the lifeguards go through training like they said they should, now they won't have the money to do so.
It seems now days, when something tragic happens like this the first thing people think about is, "Can I get any money out of this?" They think, "Well my life is miserable now so lets make someone else's." It was a horrible mistake and everyone has to learn from it.
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#51
May 7, 2007
 
Admiral B wrote:
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WRONG-WRONG-YOU R WRONG sweetie-DEAD WRONG!! LIFEGUARD isn't that the name? LIFE GUARD. They guard LIFE. But hey let's be politically correct. The guard wasn't respondsible, he wasn't being paid to do a LIFEGUARDING job? As I recall it was ADULT SWIM? Time for the GUARD to rest/take a breather/ talk to the chiks/eat a snicker bar/talk on the cell phone RIGHT??? NOOOOOOOOOOOO! Their JOD IS TO GUARD.
HE F----ED up! Won't do that again will he???????
The lifegaurd on duty was a female, btw.
responsible adult

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#52
May 9, 2007
 
Lifeguards are paid to assist in emergencies, they ARE NOT paid to be babysitters. Is this a tragidy yes, however it is one that could be avoided if he had been properly supervised in the first place by they one/ones who brought him. If they brought to many children with them to be able to keep an eye on them all then they should have stayed home or recruited someone else to come with them. That is what is wrong with this world today. No one wants to take responsiblity for their own actions and decisions. Everyone who has any common sense knows if you take your child to a public place that there are many many hidden dangers. Child preditors for one, if the child had been molested in the bathroom would that have been the lifeguards fault or the pools fault, had he slipped while running and hurt himself because he wasnt being properly suppervised would that have been their fault. The point is take responsibility for your own children or the one that you are intrusted with. These lifeguards are having to watch over several people all at once. And just for a bit of info, children usually dont splash around and make noise when they drown, they usually take in a lot of water at once and just sink. And it doesnt take as long for a child to drown as an adult.
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#53
May 30, 2007
 
Steve wrote:
Everyone is going to have a different opinion on this matter. Some are going to say it was the lifeguards fault and some will say it was the man who brought the boy. Either way,$20 Million is an absolutely ridiculous amount of money to ask for. What makes them think they are entitled to that sort of money? It is just another way for Americans to use the system to gain money from other people. 100% ridiculous. I completely understand what they're feeling with losing their son. Do they honestly that money is going to bring their child back or help so this doesn't happen again? No. it's not. It's going to hurt rather than help. Instead of having the lifeguards go through training like they said they should, now they won't have the money to do so.
It seems now days, when something tragic happens like this the first thing people think about is, "Can I get any money out of this?" They think, "Well my life is miserable now so lets make someone else's." It was a horrible mistake and everyone has to learn from it.
I can tell you up front that this lawsuit is NOT about money, and you have no idea what your talking about. Nobody is getting any $20 million. Period. Don't think that the family is getting that.
Do you people not think the parents of the child beat themselves up every day for allowing their kid to leave their sight for 2 hours in one day and then he's just gone, he dies because of a terrible mistake! So many things can happen to anyones child. And to place any blame on the parents is ridiculous. People just have no idea.
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May 30, 2007
 
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#55
Jun 7, 2007
 
It is a tragic accident and awful for the family to go through and no one should ever have to. In defense to the lifeguards and the country club WHY as a parent would you send your son who is only 5 to a pool Knowing he CANNOT swim. Everyday you see parents use clubs as a babysitting service at pools/clubs and unfortunately they abuse it. It is a terrible accident but why would you blame someone else for your child's safety when the child was not taught how to swim??? It seems people these days are just suing to get rich and publicity for their own benefit when the little boy shouldn't have been at a pool without a parent when he COULDN'T swim where is the parental responsibility here???
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#56
Jun 11, 2007
 
The family seems to be using their mistake to do good ... and they started a foundation in honor of their son to bring awareness to the fact that tons of children drown whether it be in their own backyard or at a public pool. The difference being, when you bring your child to a country club you expect them to be safe. Period. Accidents happen all the time. People can send their children to school and their kid could get shot now a days. Drownings occur all summer long. It's such an easy thing to happen... you can be the number 1 parent in America, watch your kid all the time and it could still happen. All it takes is to turn your head for 10 seconds. I just don't beleive any of this is about publicity or money by any means. Put yourself in the position where something happens to your kid-- you get MAD. What would you do?
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#57
Jun 12, 2007
 
We understand that accidents do happen all of the time and that is a tragedy for everyone. The difference here is that the little boy did not fall or hit his head in the pool to cause an accident to happen--- unfortunately, he was at risk already since he was at a pool without a parent when he didn't know how to swim. Honestly, as a parent of three little boys, we would NEVER let our children go to a pool with a friend if they could not swim and rely on that someone to take care of our child. As a parent our children are gifts to us and it is our JOB that we are lucky to have been blessed with to watch over them and protect them in this case it doesn't seem like that was done. You asked what we would do if this happened to us? First, we would forgive all of those involved instead of trying to blame and point fingers at other's since we would know ultimately, we sent our child to the pool knowing he couldn't swim and it is not the responsibilty of others to be the PARENT. We definately would have created a foundation also BUT would have used the donations and publicity to encourage PARENTS how important it is to make sure our children know how to swim just as they know to not go off with strangers. We would help to educate the parents and explain our story and admit it was our fault and we as parents do make mistakes but can learn from it and help prevent this from happening to other's by starting at HOME. Never would we consider suing the club just because we want to blame someone else so we don't have to feel like it was our fault. Look at it like this--why do you think the family choses to sue the club and the company that provided the lifeguards??? BECAUSE they have deep pockets unlike the individual that was suppossed to watch the child why not blame him?? HE took his eyes off the child and the lifejacket. Why not let the poor little boy rest in peace instead of suing the club and making the parents look BAD since they are suing when it was really there fault?? If they want to help they should except it was there negligence, forgive themselves, and help by educating other parents to care for their child all the time and stop depending on other's to do so.. It is what it is when you look at it.
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Jun 14, 2007
 
This was very tragic and could of happened to anyone. Yes the lifegaurds should have been more responsive but the ultimate thing here is that no one in our society wants to take responsability for their own actions anymore. I put full blame on the adult that brought the boy to the pool. That child was his complete responsability not anyone else.
anonymous wrote:
i understand what this family is going through but what they fail to realize is that they arent the only ones affected. the lifeguard at this facility is going to be tramitized for life. i feel as though the person who brought him to the pool is equally at fault. lifeguards are there to HELP watch everyone. the five year shouldnt have went to the bathroom by himself. there are more than one person at fault and the family needs to recognize that. sorry to say but the little boy didnt die at the pool, the lifeguard did what she/he was trained to do and accidents do happen.
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#59
Oct 10, 2007
 
It is the lifeguards fault. Anyone in the pool is their responsibility. If the boy was swimming alone the lg should have told the parents to stay in arms reach. The parents should have been with the child that is true. But does that mean that while I'm on-stand I can look at a child and think "wow they should be with an adult, but since he isn't I don't have to watch him. The parents will come get him eventually" No! Not to mention, if a lifeguard does not know CPR, rescue breathing or how to use the AED they should not be on-stand in the first place.

“God Sent His Only Son”

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#60
Dec 10, 2007
 
Hold the country club and the useless lifeguards responsible!! Take them all for what their worth
joe

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#61
Jan 1, 2008
 
is 20 million going to bring him back?
would they have sold him for 20 million if he was still alive?
as hard as it is to lose a child this way, I fear that accidents do happen for many reasons.
If the life guard had drowned the kid in some sort of drug crazed act, I could see the suit.
I can not see how cashing in is going to make them feel better. every dollar they spend will be a small part of their child leaving them again.
I pray for people that suffer these losses.

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