Any Respectable Gentlemen left?

Any Respectable Gentlemen left?

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Wonder

United States

#1 Sep 26, 2013
I have to wonder if any good men are left. So many are cheaters or secretly on the down low. I'm just curious to know if there are any good men left. I know women do the same but I'm interested in men lol.

Since: Aug 13

Worthville, KY

#2 Sep 26, 2013
Me!
right here

Fishers, IN

#3 Sep 26, 2013
Are u a woman. I'm a good man
Yes

Bowling Green, KY

#4 Sep 26, 2013
Wonder wrote:
I have to wonder if any good men are left. So many are cheaters or secretly on the down low. I'm just curious to know if there are any good men left. I know women do the same but I'm interested in men lol.
I had a great respectable man who still believed in chivalry and was as genuine as they come but I was an idiot and pushed him away :( girl, if you find that man don't let him go!
good guy

Ashland, KY

#5 Sep 26, 2013
Oh there are a few good guys out there. Unfortunately you have to deal with the bad ones in order to find the good one.
Wonder

United States

#6 Sep 26, 2013
I am just saying, men say they want a good woman and they are ready for a relationship but, when they have her, they treat her as if she is a 2$ hooker. If she is not ready for sex after the second or third date, he's done. Why is that? Is it a mans goal to see how many women or men he can lay down with before he's 50 and alone? lol
I know all men are not like this but I have to wonder. I'm not saying I'm all that but, I work and have a nice place to live with car. I have never done drugs, no diseases, etc!
good guy

Ashland, KY

#7 Sep 26, 2013
Wonder wrote:
I am just saying, men say they want a good woman and they are ready for a relationship but, when they have her, they treat her as if she is a 2$ hooker. If she is not ready for sex after the second or third date, he's done. Why is that? Is it a mans goal to see how many women or men he can lay down with before he's 50 and alone? lol
I know all men are not like this but I have to wonder. I'm not saying I'm all that but, I work and have a nice place to live with car. I have never done drugs, no diseases, etc!
Not sure why guys are like that. Some guys are after a head count. Some aren't. Just keep looking. There is a guy out there for you.

What qualities in a guy that you look for?
Wonder

United States

#8 Sep 26, 2013
good guy wrote:
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Not sure why guys are like that. Some guys are after a head count. Some aren't. Just keep looking. There is a guy out there for you.
What qualities in a guy that you look for?
Respectful, honest, hard working, goal oriented, humorous, etc. I'm hoping to meet someone who is full of life with a big heart.
Ayo Beyo

United States

#9 Sep 26, 2013
Problem is white women have absolutely no morals and want something for nothing.
Wonder

United States

#10 Sep 27, 2013
Ayo Beyo wrote:
Problem is white women have absolutely no morals and want something for nothing.
I am black. I grew up in church. I have morals and standards which, sadly I think is the problem. I don't have any children. I know there are a lot of stereo types about black women but it's all ridiculous. I have friends of all races so, I won't bash anyone but there are a lot of women/men who want something for nothing. The respect and honesty has vanished from relationships. Everyone is so wrapped up in sex that they can't think straight. I see husbands on here and Craigslist advertising to cheat all the time. It's pretty sad. I guess that's their relationship. I want a straight man with morals, who knows how to treat a woman that knows how to treat him.
Weouthere

Indianapolis, IN

#11 Sep 27, 2013
There are lots of us out here. There of lots of us "Good guys". There's a few problems in getting us though. I'm gonna be real....
1. The biggest problem is that there are soooo many women out here throwin themselves at men. Like it or not sex is a big driver. Most women don't value themselves and give it away at the drop of a dime. A good man don't want no easy ho. Yeah, we'll take the Axx, but we ain't gonna keep you. Sad to say but, the easy hoes makes it harder for the good girls and we really want the good girls. I'll keep a good girl, so don't give it up (At least for a long time).
2. Gotta have something goin on. Too many women want a good man but aint tryna do nothin themselves. We want a woman who has ambitions, goals and that is taking steps to achieve something for herself. That don't mean you gotta have alot, just that you are willing to work for something.
There's more but i gotta go for now.
hope

Evansville, IN

#12 Sep 27, 2013
Weouthere wrote:
There are lots of us out here. There of lots of us "Good guys". There's a few problems in getting us though. I'm gonna be real....
1. The biggest problem is that there are soooo many women out here throwin themselves at men. Like it or not sex is a big driver. Most women don't value themselves and give it away at the drop of a dime. A good man don't want no easy ho. Yeah, we'll take the Axx, but we ain't gonna keep you. Sad to say but, the easy hoes makes it harder for the good girls and we really want the good girls. I'll keep a good girl, so don't give it up (At least for a long time).
2. Gotta have something goin on. Too many women want a good man but aint tryna do nothin themselves. We want a woman who has ambitions, goals and that is taking steps to achieve something for herself. That don't mean you gotta have alot, just that you are willing to work for something.
There's more but i gotta go for now.


Absolutely agree! But men could make a conscious choice to not screw the hoe! That's why there are homewreckers too!
Wonder

United States

#14 Sep 27, 2013
hope wrote:
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Absolutely agree! But men could make a conscious choice to not screw the hoe! That's why there are homewreckers too!
I agree too! I also know he/she has a choice. Just because it's in front of you...I guess that's why so many people on here want to put people on blast for which diseases they gave them. It just doesn't make sense. If you don't want to comment to someone at least be upfront and honest. Why do they act like they really care? Some of these people deserve oscars!! Lol
Absolutely

United States

#15 Sep 27, 2013
Weoutthere. I agree 100. However, what about those women who have the degrees, the careers, the goals and ambition. The families and the husbands who can't keep their
Di&#8451;ks in their pants bc they are always out there looking for the next best thing. Someone younger. Someone who smiles and makes them feel good like the honeymoon phase that NEVER lasts...so they are always eternally on the lookout. How fair is that?? Sadly, I have begun to believe men are just a waist of my time and energy.
Weouthere

Franklin, IN

#16 Sep 27, 2013
Absolutely wrote:
Weoutthere. I agree 100. However, what about those women who have the degrees, the careers, the goals and ambition. The families and the husbands who can't keep their
Di&#8451;ks in their pants bc they are always out there looking for the next best thing. Someone younger. Someone who smiles and makes them feel good like the honeymoon phase that NEVER lasts...so they are always eternally on the lookout. How fair is that?? Sadly, I have begun to believe men are just a waist of my time and energy.
Finding the right one is one thing. Keeping them is another. The honeymoon should never be over. MOST people, men and women, have no idea how much work and commitment is required to make a relationship work. The honeymoon should never end. Dating one another should never end. Troubles gonna come, that's when the work begins. Everybody's quick to throw in the towel at the first sign of trouble. MOST relationships don't last forever. It's finding that SPECIAL ONE that makes it worth it. Most women are so desperate to find that special one, that they overlook the signs that tell you when he ain't it. You go on trying to force something that you make up in your head as being IT, when it ain't. Our Grandparents did it right. The man knew that he had to get himself ready (job, place to live....) before getting serious. The woman trusted and respected the man, In turn, he took care of her..... Now days, Women want to be the man (run everything) and Men, want to be the woman (be taken care of).
But that's more about the relationship. The question is where are the good men? Not in the club or running the streets. He's at work, at Church, he's at the laundromat, the grocery store, bowling, the sports bar, the gym, volunteering at the soup kitchen, at the Circle City Classic, the multi-culture festival, the blues festival.....he's doing things to get himself ready and yet still enjoying life. He's everywhere. But too many times overlooked.
Weouthere

Franklin, IN

#17 Sep 27, 2013
Last thing. I'm a spiritual man (not a religous freak but believe in being healthy; mind, body and SPIRIT) I believe that a woman should wait on the man to come, not chase him down. I don't mean sit and wait for him to just show up but let him do the chasing. She shouldn't be afraid to make an introduction, but after that, let him do the chasing.
In the Bible, there is the story of RUTH. She waited and after awhile, her man BOAZ showed up.

To all the girls who are in a hurry to have a boyfriend or get married, a piece of Biblical advice:“Ruth patiently waited for her mate Boaz.” While you are waiting on YOUR Boaz, don’t settle for any of his relatives: Broke-az, Lyin-az, Cheatin-az, Dumb-az, Drunk-az, Cheap-az, Lockedup-az, Goodfornothingaz, Lazyaz and especially his third cousin Beatinyouaz. Wait on your Boaz and make sure he respects Yoaz!

There’s something to be said for saving Yoaz for the right Boaz and not givin’ Yoaz to just any olaz that comes along.

One more thing. Too many women try and fake the funk. Be givin it up to the low lifes, then when the good guy shows up, they wanna close them legs and act all self righteous. Believe me, we know whats up and may still work to get it, but again, we ain't gonna keep ya, cause you tried to play us.
Absolutely

United States

#18 Sep 27, 2013
Weoutthere. I GET all that. I do my part and I can do work when the troubles come. I understand relationships of any consistency REQUIRE that. However, troubles that are brought about bc your spouse is always looking for the next vagina?? Should I have to deal w that? Real men don't play like that, they respect their wives and families. I hear you about the role reverals. Women being in charge and men not feeling like men. My man has expressed the same. But how do you change that when I am the one with the college degree making the income. Hey, I'd love for him to be taking care of ME. I CAN'TCHANGE THAT. You wanna be a Man, step up to the plate and take it off my shoulders. I DONT WANT TO BE IN CHARGE, but I GET forced into that position bc of the choices HE makes. He then feels inferior, goes searching for some young, uneducated bimbo who he can manipulate and who makes him feel special bc she sees him as older, wiser and with somewhat of an income. It's a cycle that unfortunatly I don't see changing and the end to a marriage. I should have taken a page from the book of Ruth...the similarities are dead on. And btw, I appreciate the male honest viewpoint.
WhyoWhy

Franklin, IN

#19 Sep 27, 2013
Absolutely wrote:
Weoutthere. I GET all that. I do my part and I can do work when the troubles come. I understand relationships of any consistency REQUIRE that. However, troubles that are brought about bc your spouse is always looking for the next vagina?? Should I have to deal w that? Real men don't play like that, they respect their wives and families. I hear you about the role reverals. Women being in charge and men not feeling like men. My man has expressed the same. But how do you change that when I am the one with the college degree making the income. Hey, I'd love for him to be taking care of ME. I CAN'TCHANGE THAT. You wanna be a Man, step up to the plate and take it off my shoulders. I DONT WANT TO BE IN CHARGE, but I GET forced into that position bc of the choices HE makes. He then feels inferior, goes searching for some young, uneducated bimbo who he can manipulate and who makes him feel special bc she sees him as older, wiser and with somewhat of an income. It's a cycle that unfortunatly I don't see changing and the end to a marriage. I should have taken a page from the book of Ruth...the similarities are dead on. And btw, I appreciate the male honest viewpoint.
In a tough situation. Hindsight is 20/20. At this point Counseling may be the only solution. If he refuses to change, you might need to make a change. He needs to know that you won't accept less than you Are worth.
Wonder

United States

#20 Sep 27, 2013
Weouthere wrote:
Last thing. I'm a spiritual man (not a religous freak but believe in being healthy; mind, body and SPIRIT) I believe that a woman should wait on the man to come, not chase him down. I don't mean sit and wait for him to just show up but let him do the chasing. She shouldn't be afraid to make an introduction, but after that, let him do the chasing.
In the Bible, there is the story of RUTH. She waited and after awhile, her man BOAZ showed up.
To all the girls who are in a hurry to have a boyfriend or get married, a piece of Biblical advice:“Ruth patiently waited for her mate Boaz.” While you are waiting on YOUR Boaz, don’t settle for any of his relatives: Broke-az, Lyin-az, Cheatin-az, Dumb-az, Drunk-az, Cheap-az, Lockedup-az, Goodfornothingaz, Lazyaz and especially his third cousin Beatinyouaz. Wait on your Boaz and make sure he respects Yoaz!
There’s something to be said for saving Yoaz for the right Boaz and not givin’ Yoaz to just any olaz that comes along.
One more thing. Too many women try and fake the funk. Be givin it up to the low lifes, then when the good guy shows up, they wanna close them legs and act all self righteous. Believe me, we know whats up and may still work to get it, but again, we ain't gonna keep ya, cause you tried to play us.
I agree with you 100%! Great advice. I guess, some men have forgotten how to chase since, the young women now days give everything they have and more on the first date. There is just no way of competing with that. I'm sorry but popcorn and a movie will not get any man in my bed. I work and can take myself. Why do guys think if they take you to dinner that you will automatically drop the panties? I thought a man takes you out to get to know you. I'm just confused. I know I'm a beautiful woman and I think because of it men think I'm a whore. I don't kiss on the first several dates, no touching of any kind etc. There is nothing wrong with that but if I'm interested in a man, he needs to know that I want to get to know his mind first.
Weouthere

Indianapolis, IN

#21 Sep 27, 2013
Wonder wrote:
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I agree with you 100%! Great advice. I guess, some men have forgotten how to chase since, the young women now days give everything they have and more on the first date. There is just no way of competing with that. I'm sorry but popcorn and a movie will not get any man in my bed. I work and can take myself. Why do guys think if they take you to dinner that you will automatically drop the panties? I thought a man takes you out to get to know you. I'm just confused. I know I'm a beautiful woman and I think because of it men think I'm a whore. I don't kiss on the first several dates, no touching of any kind etc. There is nothing wrong with that but if I'm interested in a man, he needs to know that I want to get to know his mind first.
You're not competing with the hoes. If the man is content with a ho, he ain't the one for you anyway. Just be patient. Find and make your own happiness without a man. That self contentment and being a truly a happy person will draw people to you. That's another problem some people have, they feel that they need someone to be happy. No one can make a person happy by them self, they can only add to or take away from what your have to start with.
Work on your marriage. Let your husband know that he can either work with you at making it work or he can go on and do what he's doing without you. I truly wish you the best (and the best will come).

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