When does hitting become child abuse?

When does hitting become child abuse?

There are 77 comments on the NewsTimes.com story from Feb 3, 2008, titled When does hitting become child abuse?. In it, NewsTimes.com reports that:

But just because you have the right, does that make it right? "It may stop a behavior instantly, but it has no lasting value," said Dr.

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BeatKid

Leesburg, FL

#25 Feb 6, 2008
Whipping a kid with a belt is about as safe as spanking a child with a machete. If you think that is absurd, you have never really been whipped with a belt.

I was cut, bruised, blistered and beaten unconscious with a belt from the time I was old enough to walk. Twenty-five years later very little has changed. Last year tens of thousands of kids were hospitalized with injuries ranging from bruises and lacerations to kidney and liver failure as a result of the belt. At least a half a dozen kids were murdered with this implement in the last 12 months.

These kids deserve to receive help BEFORE their parents murder them or inflict disfiguring injuries, which obviously means investigating parents prior to when the abuse has escalated to the point that it is egregious.

If you don't want to be subject to scrutiny, don't discipline your child with a deadly weapon. And if you do choose to use a belt don't expect any sympathy from me when you wind up in prison. Personally I think they should execute any parent who uses a belt on a kid.
yeesh

United States

#26 Feb 6, 2008
"Personally I think they should execute any parent who uses a belt on a kid."

Selective violence?
Talk to the Hand

Purchase, NY

#27 Feb 6, 2008
An occasional backhand never hurt anyone. Get over it.
talk to the outcome

Danbury, CT

#28 Feb 6, 2008
Talk to the Hand wrote:
An occasional backhand never hurt anyone. Get over it.
but look at the difficulty you have fitting in.
BeatKid

Leesburg, FL

#29 Feb 6, 2008
yeesh wrote:
"Personally I think they should execute any parent who uses a belt on a kid."
Selective violence?
If you spank with a belt -- if you were spanked with a belt and 'turned out fine'– You benefited from a parental right that was bought on the backs of other kids who lived and died writhing in agony at the end of an abusing parent’s belt.

Kiddie-whippers do not care that their 'freedom' costs others their lives. They deserve to die painfully for keeping the belt legal despite the untold horrors it has caused to thousands of people.

Since: Feb 08

Bellows Falls, VT

#30 Feb 6, 2008
No one mentioned the wooden spoons, man those things stun. I dont hold any grudge against my mom though, sometimes I was a little bas*@#@* and probably deserved it.
She also never beat me silly with it, just once usually got the message through. I could count on my hands how many times I have given any of my three kids a whaack on the behind. Never really had to punish them much because my wife and I let them know early whose in charge.
Mental Health Morons

Trumbull, CT

#31 Feb 6, 2008
Most so called mental health professionals would benefit from a good spanking.

“Somewhere over the rainbow...”

Since: Oct 07

Danbury

#32 Feb 6, 2008
Yeah well there is disciplining and then there is abuse. When I said that my Dad belted me I meant that he back handed me. Though I also experienced what a leather belt feels like too. In our house we had “The Paddle”; this was a 12” piece of pine 1” x 3” that had a handle carved on one end and a knot hole in the business end. You generally got a few whacks on the behind with that. None of us ever ended up in the hospital or with bruises because of it. As I got older it took a little more than “The Paddle” to get my attention but, I still do not consider it abuse and absolutely deserved what I got.

A friend has a kid that was the most obnoxious little bast*rd you ever met. She did not believe in hitting him and the kid did whatever he wanted to do. Would cry for hours until she gave in and gave him his way. If she put him in a room he would scream and repeatedly slam the doors, even broke a few. If he wanted cookies and his Grandmother would not give them to him he would throw chairs and stools at her. Anyway one day I am sitting in her kitchen playing around with him and a coin. He took exception to me flipping the coin at him; pulls the pacifier out of his mouth, almost 5 and refused to give it up, and whipped me across the face with the metal clip at the end of the ribbon hitting me just below my eye. Purely instantaneous reaction I put my hand up to my face feeling for blood then back handed him across the face. He stood there looking at me in total shock for a few seconds, then ran for his mother.

Mom came back out with him and she was mad but, the Grandmother and sister-in-law were right behind her actually clapping and thanking me for belting the little bast*rd. There were red marks on both of our faces so it was obvious something happened. I figured I was going to be taking a trip to the police station but, it did not happen. The kid actually behaved for about a month after that and his Mom was no longer adverse to corporal punishment when it became necessary.

Now, I have never hit a kid or a woman in my life and I was just as shocked as the kid was by what happened. It has never occurred again.
BeatKid

Leesburg, FL

#33 Feb 6, 2008
Last year over 1000 children were murdered by their caregivers in the US. Two-thirds of these child abuse deaths were the direct result of excessive corporal punishment, and three-quarters of the victims were younger than age five.

The foundations of parental spanking rights are piles of dead babies and toddlers, which promoters of physical punishment dismiss with the words, "These are not my children."

NMSC -_-

Henderson, NV

#34 Feb 9, 2008
BeatKid wrote:
Last year over 1000 children were murdered by their caregivers in the US. Two-thirds of these child abuse deaths were the direct result of excessive corporal punishment, and three-quarters of the victims were younger than age five.
The foundations of parental spanking rights are piles of dead babies and toddlers, which promoters of physical punishment dismiss with the words, "These are not my children."
Honestly, I'm for spanking children. I don't mean excessively which in my mind is the only way to truly injure someone un this way(unless they get inventive in which I file that as cruel & unusual). I have been spanked with hands, belts and slippers. I am not dead nor have I ever been abused. It's worth mentioniung that spanking someone with the belt buckle is totally different. THAT is abuse in my book.
As long as excessive violence isn't used & there is no hitting in strange places (ie. the face, midesction, upper body) then I am totally for spanking.
p.s. if you ask I am in my midteens [*gasp* kids for spanking?!]
Oh and it is NOT okay to hit someone else's kid.
BeatKid

Leesburg, FL

#35 Feb 13, 2008
Millions of people who were not wearing seat belts have survived car accidents as well. It doesn't mean that it is safe to not use a seatbelt, it just means that many people get lucky.

You are very fortunate that you were not injured. Others who were less lucky have died or been handicapped by spanking with implements.
AMY

Tallahassee, FL

#36 Feb 26, 2008
LAME!
bruce gonzalez

El Paso, TX

#37 Apr 10, 2008
hiting and disciplining a kid are two hole diffrent subjects if you ask me. Hiting is just an act of rage. Disciplining is a way of teaching person his mistake in a well meditated matter.
Mexico

Since: Sep 07

District Heights, MD

#38 Apr 11, 2008
Hitting is child abuse anytime it is done, period and done with. There are other methods to 'discipline' a child and I have found that most times when children do something 'wrong' they do not know that it is wrong or it is not wrong at all, someone else is just trying to force their viewpoint on the child in question.
angelika

Brooklyn, NY

#39 Apr 15, 2008
hell no one shuld be hit just for punishnemt or anything els
angelika

Brooklyn, NY

#40 Apr 15, 2008
no no

“Wag more, bark less”

Since: Mar 08

Location hidden

#41 Apr 15, 2008
The thing about hitting kids is it does stop them from doing something immediately, but the CRUCIAL element to discipline is explaining to your child exactly what they did wrong and WHY it was wrong. Some parents hit their child or yell at them, then walk away. If kids just get hit, they may not put two and two together to realize why there is a consequence and just develop the mindset "I can still do this if I'm not caught because then I won't be hit" rather than "I SHOULDN'T do this because it is wrong."
Skeeter

Portland, CT

#42 Apr 15, 2008
Beat on the brat ,beat on the brat , beat on the brat with a baseball bat yeah yeah !
cmcdon

Pickerington, OH

#43 May 8, 2008
My father shot my mother and took his own life. We went to live with my mothers sister. She beat us for being the children of the man that took her sisters life. She didn't want us to turn out evil like him.So they started beating us. my aunt and uncle cut a 1 1/2 inch wide 1/2 in thick and one and a half foot piece of rubber out of the side of a tractor tire. and beat us with it. we called it the tire strap. you could see the threading in it and the layers. when it hit you, it would bruse you, then hit over the same area would eventually become hard and numb. in other words you had multiple contusions to your legs back and buttock area. We were lucky to never have received internal injuries from these beatings. however we were beat uncontious a few times. Yes to this day even though we are grown we all have issues. none of us ever got into drug abuse. But we have instabilities in our lives. We were also raped repeatedly by my uncle. the same man that beat us. yeah!! I guess that should answer the question of when does beatings become child abuse. Just look for instabilities in adults. Look in the prison system and mental hospitals. Ask a homeless person or two.
cmcdon

Pickerington, OH

#44 May 8, 2008
Talk to the Hand wrote:
An occasional backhand never hurt anyone. Get over it.
except the child..thats why your so mean from being backhanded. Wake-up!! love does not hurt. hitting a child makes them scared and mean. any type of abuse brings about a negative reaction.
abuse means... abnormal use..a backhand is a open fist..let me backhand you and see if it hurt-since you think it never hurt nobody.

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