Redefining roles

As her children grew older, Becky Jern could see her control gradually fading. But she didn't lose her influence -- she changed her style of parenting.

[MySaviorLives]

Re-read it Mr Lucas - she stayed at home for 5 years, that would make her 23 when she went out on her own, not 29! Geesh, get a clue!

Switch it around, what if the daughter became the parent? Lets say the parent decided to turn to drugs and become an addict and the daugther then was the mature one trying to make sure the parent didn't kill themself on an overdose. Would you be saying stupid crap about the parent then? Or would you talk about how lame the daugther is for giving in to LOVING HER PARENT?!?!

[Schnurr]

I don't know you and you DEFINATELY don't know me so DON'T ASSUME YOU CAN JUDGE ME! I just came on here to read this story becuase it involves me and my mother.

But I tell you this. You have it all wrong and you obviously cannot comprehend what you read! I have not lived at home for many years!

I am married and own my own home now. Which is more than I can say for many girls that become mothers so young and definately more than I can say for the person who fathered my son. Oh lets not forget it takes two individuals to become pregnant. So many times we want to point fingers at the girls involved as if the young men were not there too!

I went on and got a career and purchased a house all by the time my son was 4! That's 22 years of age in case you cannot count either. I suggest that you learn more about a situation before you attempt to cast judgement on another, better yet why don't you keep your nasty comments to yourself seeing as you OBVIOUSLY have made many mistakes in your lifetime.

You Mr Lucas missed the whole entire point of this article!

You should not point fingers as if you have never made a mistake! You made a huge one here that is very CLEAR!

Shame on you thinking you sit in a position to judge others!

[Schnurr]

I don't know you either, funny that you're afraid to show your identity. THAT SPEAKS VOLUMES ABOUT YOU!

[Indy Mom]

Warrior wrote:

Hey Schnurr...I knew who you were at Warren Central, you were a slut and you had a bad attitude...I didn't see anything about that in the article...did you grow out of that?

It's sad that you've had all this time to grow up yet you haven't what a shame. I hope you're not able nor allowed to have kids! Because if you have, I FEEL SORRY FOR THEM. WHAT A POOR MISERABLE EXAMPLE YOU MAKE

[OH GROW UP]

Warrior wrote:

Hey Schnurr...I knew who you were at Warren Central, you were a slut and you had a bad attitude...I didn't see anything about that in the article...did you grow out of that?

SERIOUSLY GROW UP! How can you slander someone you apparantly no longer know? It's transparant that the young lady in this article has grown up and overcome her errors in life and it's very apprant that you have not. Perhaps you should not be online reading miscellanous articles in the newspaper instead you should be working on improving yourself. One can tell you need it. Perhaps you don't parents that care about you that much and you're jealous.

[JL Morris]

What a shame that there are people who read this article and could only come up with nasty judgmental comments. This article, from what I read, is not about Samantha's past, but a celebration of my mother's, as well of the many other parents, ability to evolve as a parent of a teenager/child through the growth and maturity of young adulthood and beyond. The parent’s role constantly changes and evolves as their children grow. Kids need their mom and dad well beyond the age of 18; moreover, a parent’s job is never done regardless of how old their kids are. My mother did a fantastic job raising all of us while she herself was transitioning through the stages of a parent's life and role.

As Samantha's older sister and Becky's eldest daughter I saw first hand the transformation my sister underwent from teen parent to a mature responsible adult. As the fist born child who also was a mother at a young age, I saw my mom’s and I’s relationship transform from parent to child to parent of a parent. We all made mistakes as children and some of us grew from them. My sister stayed at home until she was financially stable enough to move out on her own. Wow, how irresponsible of her to think that way. Why should she live at home under the love and guidance of our mother as a young unwed teen mom, when she could be out there living in extreme poverty, taking advantage of the system, without guidance and money, and better yet, dragging an innocent child along for the ride that poverty takes you? Even worse, why should my mom agree to allow her child who was then a green parent herself live at home instead of throwing her in the water to teacher her how to swim. Hum, I think they did the right thing.

[Comedy Routine]

Man, now that's a wonderful story.

Too bad some people enter into marriage and have kids and confirm the other partner is also a kid they have to parent as well-and their parents just laugh about it.

[Tinkerbell]

Samantha Schnurr wrote:

How dare somebody impersonate me on the internet! I don't know who you are, "Schnurr", but you need to get a life! Even if you are defending me, I don't need anyone helping me out. I've carried my own weight for over 6 years! My mom is the most caring, loving, and understanding person I've ever met. I'm proud to call her my best friend!

Who ever you are, you seriously need to grow up. I believe you are also the individual who made the slut comment. Get help, really if you can't manage to get some help at least shoot yourself. The world will be a much better place without you. Jerk

[Sarah]

I'm happy to see the bond between parents and children mature and strengthen as they age and learn from one another. There is no greater love than from a parent to child, nor child to parent. What a beautiful blessing from The Lord; it is nice to see these folks being recognized for their patient and unconditional love.

[Sarah]

I just read the previous comments on this site; and it's disheartening to see the judgemental conversations that have gone on; from all parties.

As mentioned above, we have ALL made mistakes; in more capacities than we should admit to; yet, the love and guidance of our parents was often the only saving grace offered.

If that is something you were deprived of during childhood or early adulthood, it would explain your misinterpretation of the story and the authors' slant.

I too knew Samantha and her family during high school; actually many years prior to that time. Life was rough for many reasons. It is truly a blessing to see the bond that has strengthened Ms. Jern and her children; and the transformation of character that their loving relationship has produced.

Good luck to each of you.

[The -real- Tinkerbell]

Tinkerbell wrote:

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Who ever you are, you seriously need to grow up. I believe you are also the individual who made the slut comment. Get help, really if you can't manage to get some help at least shoot yourself. The world will be a much better place without you. Jerk

How dare you try to impersonate me. I'm am a sweet twinkle of sugar. No negativity comes from me. Love is what I spread, not hate.

[hurting]

i met a man about 2 years ago.just a few months after my son died.we moved in together just shortly after we met.at first his adult children liked me.and we had holiday dinners together along with his wife.they have been sperated for 4-5 years now.now as it stands im not aloud to go anywhere near kids or his grandchildren.at first he asked why one of his children,said to the others what do we realy know about this lady what if she is crazy and she takes of with one of the kids.well when i was told it hurt really bad.then i got mad one because boyfreind said i dont think she would do that.not a very good answer.now a year and six months have passed and no change.i had said that the kids do not look anything like my boy,and if i were nuts don'tyou think i would take my own grandson.so anywhy when there are family outtings and dinners he goes and makes me stay home.i love this man dearly but at what cost . someone please help with some advise.i could understand them for me not to be with their dad if i were a taker and we were not happy but that is not the case.signed hurtting