First question is when did you decide you wanted what you had before? Was she single at the time or did this new found interest in her come only after you realized she had moved on and was seeing someone else? If it was after the fact, chances are, what you're feeling is more of a "I don't want her but don't want anyone else to have her" sort of thing, rather than real love. If that is the case, you don't need her back. Even moreso, she don't need you. I'll tell you why. Because if what you're feeling is based on jealousy of her being with another man, soon as you realize you can have her back and expecially after you get her back....you'll lose interest and only end up hurting her again.I usually dont get on this site but I have to say I HAD the best GF a man could ever ask for. We were together for about 7 months and it was great for a while until we started fussing some and I started flirting around. I thought i wanted something different but lost this girl. I dated another girl for a while and talked to my x some and she didt date anyone for a while and I guess she gave up on us and moved on. I broke it off with the other girl because i cant get the other one off my mind. I do live her but noe she has another BF. I talked to her and wanted to hug her so bad but didnt cause shes with the other guy. She has been with him for awhile now. What can I do to get her back. ANY HELP WOULD BE APPRICATED
If you started feeling this way, like you wanted her back before the new guy came around, it *might* be a different story. But considering you wanted something else when you had her in the palm of your hand, I'm not convinced that you care much about her at all and almost certain she shares the same opinion. Either way, you need to think long and hard to be sure of what you're feeling and what you want out of life BEFORE you talk to her about anything. Then and only then, after a lot of soul searching, if you still feel the same, tell her the truth. Tell her how you feel. Explain the reasons why. Make your intentions clear and don't make promises you don't intend to keep. Be straight foward, be honest and be ready to prove yourself.