I'm pregnant by my best friends husband

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#1 Dec 5, 2012
I just found out that I was pregnant by him ..what should I do?????it was a one time thing and we was all drunk.advice???she or he doesn't know yet :(
Truth Detector

Jamestown, TN

#2 Dec 5, 2012
Hari Kari is a solution.

Since: Aug 10

Cookeville, TN

#3 Dec 5, 2012
By "we was all drunk", do you mean your best friend as well? In that case, his wife would already know you slept together, so they should be made aware of it.

Can you love and support the child on your own? If so, you might want to ask yourself if it would benefit the child to know who its father is. You have the ability to conceal the truth and just say you're not sure who the father is, but that doesn't necessarily make it right. If you're not able to love and support the child on your own, then for its own good the father should know and be held accountable.

Ultimately, there is no right or wrong answer anyone can give you; its a judgement call thats up to you. Everyone here is going to jump in and say that you should tell them for sure, but if your friend doesn't know, then there IS truth in the old saying that ignorance is bliss.
Ugh

Columbus, NC

#4 Dec 5, 2012
I know this is probably a troll thread, but just a shout out to all trifling chicks that use alcohol as an excuse to be trashy...

You should tell them. Hopefully she will leave him & find a real man. Then, maybe you guys could get together and he will cheat on you. After all, what goes around comes around. Good luck on not getting your a$$ whipped when you share the news...

Since: Aug 10

Cookeville, TN

#5 Dec 5, 2012
LOL, I typed that first sentence wrong. I meant to say:

By "we was all drunk" do you mean your best friend was there and drunk as well?
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#6 Dec 5, 2012
Ugh wrote:
I know this is probably a troll thread, but just a shout out to all trifling chicks that use alcohol as an excuse to be trashy...
You should tell them. Hopefully she will leave him & find a real man. Then, maybe you guys could get together and he will cheat on you. After all, what goes around comes around. Good luck on not getting your a$$ whipped when you share the news...
thanks, but I wasn't looking for people to judge me..
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#7 Dec 5, 2012
Smilax wrote:
By "we was all drunk", do you mean your best friend as well? In that case, his wife would already know you slept together, so they should be made aware of it.
Can you love and support the child on your own? If so, you might want to ask yourself if it would benefit the child to know who its father is. You have the ability to conceal the truth and just say you're not sure who the father is, but that doesn't necessarily make it right. If you're not able to love and support the child on your own, then for its own good the father should know and be held accountable.
Ultimately, there is no right or wrong answer anyone can give you; its a judgement call thats up to you. Everyone here is going to jump in and say that you should tell them for sure, but if your friend doesn't know, then there IS truth in the old saying that ignorance is bliss.
She wasn't there with us. It was a few friends all together,but I don't think none of them knew what we was doing because we went to another room later on that evening. Thanks for your thoughts and advice, I really appreciate it.since I just found out I'm just scared about it,no doubt it was a mistake to have sex with him I'm just really at a loss on what to do.they have a good family and I don't want to ruin it,Im just frustrated.i know I can raise it on my own but I don't know if I could ever keep it a secret from her :(
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Jamestown, TN

#8 Dec 5, 2012
Help wrote:
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She wasn't there with us. It was a few friends all together,but I don't think none of them knew what we was doing because we went to another room later on that evening. Thanks for your thoughts and advice, I really appreciate it.since I just found out I'm just scared about it,no doubt it was a mistake to have sex with him I'm just really at a loss on what to do.they have a good family and I don't want to ruin it,Im just frustrated.i know I can raise it on my own but I don't know if I could ever keep it a secret from her :(
Product of a public education. All that book larnin' musta been hard, huh?

Please. Put this kid up for adoption. We don't need someone who can't write, has the morals of a slug, and is stupid enough to put something like this on Topix, influencing a young mind.

And while yer at it, have yer tubes tied. the gene pool thanks you.
just sayin

Charlotte, NC

#9 Dec 5, 2012
U need to do what u think is right. I have been in a situation something like yours except i didnt get pregnant & i was not in a good relationship & neither was he it was a one time huge mistake! but i still chose to keep it a secret. The guilt was horrible tho it ate away at me for a yr i had to tell i could not keep it a secret anymore.
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#10 Dec 5, 2012
Truth Detector wrote:
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Product of a public education. All that book larnin' musta been hard, huh?
Please. Put this kid up for adoption. We don't need someone who can't write, has the morals of a slug, and is stupid enough to put something like this on Topix, influencing a young mind.
And while yer at it, have yer tubes tied. the gene pool thanks you.
Thanks for youre judgemental hate post but Im not looking for someone to be mean to me about this
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#11 Dec 5, 2012
just sayin wrote:
U need to do what u think is right. I have been in a situation something like yours except i didnt get pregnant & i was not in a good relationship & neither was he it was a one time huge mistake! but i still chose to keep it a secret. The guilt was horrible tho it ate away at me for a yr i had to tell i could not keep it a secret anymore.
Sorry you had to go thru that.i would like to keep it a secret to but afraid that it will eat away at me to.just very frustrated at all of this and upset.
Ugh

Bennettsville, SC

#12 Dec 5, 2012
How do you think your friend is gonna feel? It's weird how people that do things like this not only don't consider the consequences others will suffer from their actions, but also don't consider the consequences they will suffer. You thought you would get away with it & noone would find out. Sorry that didn't work out for you. Hopefully this will be a life lesson.

“[REWOP]”

Since: Dec 12

Charleston, SC

#13 Dec 5, 2012
Is it too late for the coathanger trick?
gfy

Crossville, TN

#14 Dec 5, 2012
names i think it was my o man
Just a fact

Blacksburg, SC

#16 Dec 5, 2012
Help wrote:
I just found out that I was pregnant by him ..what should I do?????it was a one time thing and we was all drunk.advice???she or he doesn't know yet :(
Im sorry to say you are stupid and you screwed up your life and the lives of your two friends. Now you will have to live with your mistake for the rest of your life. You will get what you deserve.
can you tell

Charlotte, NC

#17 Dec 6, 2012
Yeah, I'm curious too...can you name the guy or the friend? I am in a similar situation except my husband could be the cheater.
someone

Prosperity, SC

#18 Dec 6, 2012
I lost my virginity to my cousins husband I've kept it a secret for 7 years. Doesn't make it right but ignorance really is bliss. Their a happy family i have a happy family life goes on. But you know what they say. What lies in the dark is only a matter of time before it is shown the light.
hubby

Crossville, TN

#19 Dec 6, 2012
omg txt me right now we can not tell her
gfy

Crossville, TN

#20 Dec 6, 2012
wat u were 14 or so
Ugh

Charlotte, NC

#21 Dec 6, 2012
True to form, the husband doesn't want to lose his wife. They usually pick out a chick with the lowest self esteem that won't mind to be someone's piece on the side. You would be betraying your friend even more to not tell her. She deserves to get rid of this douche. TELL HER!!!

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