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Amy

United States

#1 Jul 29, 2012
Do grandparents have rights to grandchildern in state of Tenn. And could they be drug tested if there was possible usage. Also would there home need to be safe in order to take a child there, such as wiring problems, insects, rats, possible drugs. What right does a mother have to insure that her child would not be exposed to these dangers.
Mistress

United States

#2 Jul 29, 2012
The state of TN no longer recognizes it, but you can call the police to go do a welfare check when the child is visiting.
Concerned for daughter

United States

#3 Jul 29, 2012
It a very sad question but if a teen girl has a baby and the parents of the teen boy refused to do a dna at hospital, but after a year of torture his mother now decide they she wont to be in childs life, what steps would they be required to take. The mother is still a minor. She works, school, and takes very good care of her child. She has never been in any kind of trouble. Does not date and has not required any assistance from fathers family. Been coperative about letting father see child under her supervision. It is a lot of detail but when it comes to a baby well being, I need the best advise.
Mistress

United States

#4 Jul 29, 2012
If the father's name is on the birth certificate, the father can take her to court for custody. Until then, do not let him have the child alone. If he takes off with the child and doesn't bring her back, you cannot charge him with kidnapping, due to his right as the father. But if you go to court for custody, and win, then he's fair game if he doesn't even bring her home by the time the court ordered. Break out the gloves in court, and go as soon as possible. If paternity is disputed, the court will order a DNA test, then rule once results are in. Your daughter needs to get the ball rolling for custody, for her child's sake.

I went through this when I had my child at 16. Father and whole side of his family is crap. I'm now 23, still with sole custody. Her being a minor won't matter as long as she is productive, and properly caring for her child. I recommend attending court with her, to show she has a great support circle, and the child is surrounded by love. I'm glad to hear your daughter didn't give up school, or herself. It's hard right now, but it gets a little easier.+kudos+ I hope things work out.
mother

Crossville, TN

#5 Jul 29, 2012
I am not trying to be rude, but Mistress if the father takes off with the child, in the state of TN it IS considered kidnapping. No matter who's name is on the birth certificate, if the parents of the child were never married, then the child is considered the mothers and the father has no right unless it is established in court. If it eventually is established in court, the father would have to prove that the mother is unfit in order to gain full custody. My advice to the mother is to let the father take her to court if he wants custody. He can NOT take the child away unless it has been ordered by the court. That child is considered the mothers in the eyes of the law and the father does have rights to see his child and form a relationship to that child, but otherwise the mother is the guardian.
please

Crossville, TN

#6 Jul 29, 2012
Set up a consultation with an attorney ASAP. That way you will know where you stand, who has to do what, and what to tell his side of the family if they start telling you they are going to do this and that.

Here's a summary of grandparents rights in TN. But I'm not sure of the complete accuracy. It is TCA, but it was summarized in 08. Could be updates??

http://www.parentsrights.com/index.php...
Mistress

United States

#7 Jul 29, 2012
mother wrote:
I am not trying to be rude, but Mistress if the father takes off with the child, in the state of TN it IS considered kidnapping. No matter who's name is on the birth certificate, if the parents of the child were never married, then the cIhild is considered the mothers and the father has no right unless it is established in court. If it eventually is established in court, the father would have to prove that the mother is unfit in order to gain full custody. My advice to the mother is to let the father take her to court if he wants custody. He can NOT take the child away unless it has been ordered by the court. That child is considered the mothers in the eyes of the law and the father does have rights to see his child and form a relationship to that child, but otherwise the mother is the guardian.
I personally experienced it. The law wouldn't intervene because of no custody being assigned yet.
littlelady

Clover, SC

#8 Jul 29, 2012
We have no experience with grandparent rights but if the father does leave with child it is not kidnapping in the state of TN! You need to seek the assistance of an attorney and get a custodial agreement in place! With no custodial agreement both parents have equal rights !
singledad

United States

#9 Jul 29, 2012
mother wrote:
I am not trying to be rude, but Mistress if the father takes off with the child, in the state of TN it IS considered kidnapping. No matter who's name is on the birth certificate, if the parents of the child were never married, then the child is considered the mothers and the father has no right unless it is established in court. If it eventually is established in court, the father would have to prove that the mother is unfit in order to gain full custody. My advice to the mother is to let the father take her to court if he wants custody. He can NOT take the child away unless it has been ordered by the court. That child is considered the mothers in the eyes of the law and the father does have rights to see his child and form a relationship to that child, but otherwise the mother is the guardian.
I also have personal experience with this and you are wrong. Directly from the mouth of a lawyer,"if there is no parenting agreement in affect,whichever parent is in possession of the child may withhold the child from the other parent until the matter is decided in court." So the other poster is right,if the child is left with the father and he decides not to return the child there's nothing can be done about it.
mother

Crossville, TN

#10 Jul 29, 2012
I am just going by what I have personally been told by my lawyer not two months ago. I am sure there are different circumstances for every situation but that is what my lawyer from Cumberland Co told me. I was worried my baby's father would take my child for a visit and never bring him back, and he told me that, unless paternity and visitation rights are established in court, that the police would take action when called and the child would be returned.
Mistress

United States

#11 Jul 30, 2012
I'm sorry but your lawyer lied. I had to track my son down with the help of my dad and a shotgun. The police refused to help, and that was Putnam, Overton, and Monterey police that I tried to get help from. Needless to say I got my son home safe and his father didn't see him again until custody was settled.
mother

Crossville, TN

#12 Jul 30, 2012
Ok well I don't know why my lawyer who works in the system every day of his life would lie to me about that but I guess if something like this happens then I too will have to run my baby's father down with a shotgun. We'll see I guess.
mother

Crossville, TN

#13 Jul 30, 2012
http://www.ehow.com/list_6861566_tennessee-mo...
Also I hope this helps as well.

Since: Apr 12

Cookeville, TN

#14 Jul 31, 2012
I have a like situation with my GG sons. My daughter has been the person helping my Grandaughter raise these boys. My daughter has been the one who has been with these boys and supported them since before birth. The boys daddy does not work, he lives with his parents, and neither of them work. My granddaughter has ran into trouble, my daughter received temporary custody. Now the Daddy is dragging my daughter and the boys through the courts with a court appointed attorney thats painting him as the father of the year. He has lied about all the time he has spent with these boys. In reality when he was living with my granddaughter. He spent most of his time in bed or on the computer, has no motivation. I know what his motivation is now, and that is to get custody of the boys and continue to seek ways of being unemployed and living off the system. These boys need and require a lot of stimulation I fear that if he gets custody, there wont be any sports, entertainment, love,nurturing, helping with homework, running to the Drs when their sick, or even getting out of his bed when they are sick.Those of us that work get to pay for all of this. How do you like that?
who

Martin, TN

#15 Jul 31, 2012
mother wrote:
I am just going by what I have personally been told by my lawyer not two months ago. I am sure there are different circumstances for every situation but that is what my lawyer from Cumberland Co told me. I was worried my baby's father would take my child for a visit and never bring him back, and he told me that, unless paternity and visitation rights are established in court, that the police would take action when called and the child would be returned.
I hate to say this! Lawyers lie! I know from experience, they will have you lie if it's gonna help their case, they are all about the money and winning, research every law, you can find on this issue, if you have a computer go to google, if not a computer, go to the library,know what the law says. The judge makes his decision based on the information he hears, if your lawyer doesn't present your case right, you can lose, I had to fight hard, and on borrowed money, first lawyer, I feel was bought off. Had to get another attorney but I had learned from my mistakes. Got custody. Study and learn about custody laws.
mouthofthesouth

Crossville, TN

#16 Jul 31, 2012
Just to back up this person's posting, I had to comment. The daughter who is raising the grandchildren, is a wonderful person who would give the last meal she had to feed somebody. She has provided a home for those boys since birth. Her parents are also wonderful people and I have seen the boys interact with the family in only a loving, mature atmosphere, and I never have witnessed the boys with their father around them. He has never been in the picture, and does not show up at the great-grandparents houses when friends come to visit to visually plead his case, about being a responsible parent. We have been friends to this family and you could not ask for a more loving, kind bunch of people. They have all pitched in for the last three years and taken care of these boys, and made sure they provided nothing but a stable atmosphere. Yes the daughter got into some things she should have not, but what children don't. There are preachers kids out there who have committed murder, and worse. This family has always stepped into provide clothes, shoes, and all the boys have had to have plus more, when their "sperm donor" was no where around. Its funny, the boys are being raised by their grandmother, and her parents, and have never had any help from this looser of a father, but now he wants to raise them on public assistance. Gosh, what a twisted individual. Let them learn how to use food stamps, cash welfare checks, and play on the laptop all day, until the next bunch of public assistance comes in. What an upstanding father. why would anyone who cant support two boys, want to make a jerk out of himself, when he has never done anything. I believe he does not realize how many people know and love the other side of the family and will tell the truth, and stick up for whats right. Lets all go to court and let the judge know this father is lacking in everything. His family is also on public assistance, wow, see what i mean. Runs in the family. Why pass it on to two children who could do so much better learning about life and growing up in the environment they are now a part of, and have been since birth. Their pa teaches them about construction equipment, they know what they machines are called, and have been able to get up on the seats and imagine what it is to run one,after they watched their pa run several. The father on the other hand, can only read "Bob the Builder" to them, because he has never done anything productive in his life, and has nothing to offer his sons, except the Obama Plan..........God Bless you all, and I hope God finds his way to the judges heart to do what is right.....The boys live in a family where love was built...Let them continue to thrive there.
KLSull wrote:
I have a like situation with my GG sons. My daughter has been the person helping my Grandaughter raise these boys. My daughter has been the one who has been with these boys and supported them since before birth. The boys daddy does not work, he lives with his parents, and neither of them work. My granddaughter has ran into trouble, my daughter received temporary custody. Now the Daddy is dragging my daughter and the boys through the courts with a court appointed attorney thats painting him as the father of the year. He has lied about all the time he has spent with these boys. In reality when he was living with my granddaughter. He spent most of his time in bed or on the computer, has no motivation. I know what his motivation is now, and that is to get custody of the boys and continue to seek ways of being unemployed and living off the system. These boys need and require a lot of stimulation I fear that if he gets custody, there wont be any sports, entertainment, love,nurturing, helping with homework, running to the Drs when their sick, or even getting out of his bed when they are sick.Those of us that work get to pay for all of this. How do you like that?
Well

Greer, SC

#17 Aug 1, 2012
God will be the judge of the injustices done when the day of judgment comes we will all bow before god and admit our lies he sees all and knows all may this situation rest in my lord Jesus christs hand he is my shelter in the time of storm and most of all that is what these boys need is a Christian structured life were they can grow in the lord and he will take care of the rest it's a fact most of all please if you have not accepted Jesus christ as your personal savior you need to be washed in the blood of Jesus Christ in order to get to heaven
I like fishsticks

Knoxville, TN

#18 Aug 1, 2012
Well wrote:
God will be the judge of the injustices done when the day of judgment comes we will all bow before god and admit our lies he sees all and knows all may this situation rest in my lord Jesus christs hand he is my shelter in the time of storm and most of all that is what these boys need is a Christian structured life were they can grow in the lord and he will take care of the rest it's a fact most of all please if you have not accepted Jesus christ as your
personal savior you need to be washed in the blood of Jesus Christ in order to get to heaven
How right you are.

Since: Apr 12

Cookeville, TN

#19 Aug 4, 2012
The only the thng that keeps me going on a minute by minute basis is knowing that Jesus Christ is there routing for the truth.

Since: Apr 12

Cookeville, TN

#20 Aug 4, 2012
i beg to differ. just went through this and the father has no rights if the parents were never married even if the fathers name is on the birth certificate. he must still take the mother to court and prove he is the father or he will be charged with kidnapping.

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