I'm in love with my best friend

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Why me

Mauldin, SC

#1 Dec 6, 2012
I'm in love with my best friend. I really wish I wasn't, but I am. I know I'm only going to end up heartbroken, but I can't stop myself from loving her. We work very closely together all the time, but she doesn't see me the way I see her, and she never will, and it tears me apart inside. I know she loves me, she tells me all the time, and I tell her too, but hers is a different kind of love. I would do anything for her, and she knows it. I wish I could stop loving her, but I can't. I know all I'm doing is tormenting myself, but I can't stop my feelings. This is torture.

“[REWOP]”

Since: Dec 12

Charleston, SC

#2 Dec 6, 2012
Dude take some good advice here... You are like a bag full of grain. K? When you let a woman in she will eat the grain, sell the grain, and give the grain away. Then she'll turn the empty bag inside out throw it on the ground and spit on it. It will take months if not years to replenish the grain and be a big healthy bag of grain again. I know it's a weird analogy but it's true. Don't get suckered in they offer nothing but pain and misery at best. But... If you really want her (without letting her in mind you) say you met some awesome chick and are mad in love. Treat her indifferent if not a bit harsh. They respond well to being treated badly. She will soon want you desperately because you seem unattainable. Use her up keep her at bay don't let her in. Rinse repeat. Best advice I got.
FuNnY

Crossville, TN

#3 Dec 7, 2012
The same advice can be given to women about men.

Use them up, keep them at bay, don't let them in.

“[REWOP]”

Since: Dec 12

Charleston, SC

#4 Dec 7, 2012
FuNnY wrote:
The same advice can be given to women about men.
Use them up, keep them at bay, don't let them in.
Agreed.
single citizen

Albemarle, NC

#5 Dec 7, 2012
That's tough , I fell in love with a woman that I had a affair with. I told my wife an through away 16 years of marriage , I was dumb enough to think she would leave her husband . Its been over two years and I am still not completely over her probably never will be but I was miserable for a long time but would marry her today if she would it was the dumbest and most hurtful thing I've ever done
Jcr

Bowling Green, KY

#6 Dec 7, 2012
single citizen wrote:
That's tough , I fell in love with a woman that I had a affair with. I told my wife an through away 16 years of marriage , I was dumb enough to think she would leave her husband . Its been over two years and I am still not completely over her probably never will be but I was miserable for a long time but would marry her today if she would it was the dumbest and most hurtful thing I've ever done
I did the same thing for a man, so don't feel your the only one who has done that. Thing is he did leave for a few weeks but hadn't filed for divorce. I was going through the loss of pregnancy with him during this time & then he decided to go back home one night & texted me telling me how sorry he was that he never meant to hurt me, that i was the last person he ever wanted to hurt. It's been over a year now since we first split & yes i struggle but i am trying & fighting like hellll to get over it.
Jcr

Bowling Green, KY

#7 Dec 7, 2012
Oh & yes i was married & had filed for my divorce & i followed thru with it. I was married for 17 years.
single citizen

Albemarle, NC

#9 Dec 7, 2012
I haven't dated or been with anyone since, I know that I did a stupid thing but its something I will have to live with. I also decided not to pursue another woman for any kind of relationship . The guilt and loneliness is not worth it . I have convinced myself its better to just live out my days alone , you have to be happy with yourself before you can ever be happy with someone else
Jcr

Bowling Green, KY

#10 Dec 7, 2012
single citizen wrote:
I haven't dated or been with anyone since, I know that I did a stupid thing but its something I will have to live with. I also decided not to pursue another woman for any kind of relationship . The guilt and loneliness is not worth it . I have convinced myself its better to just live out my days alone , you have to be happy with yourself before you can ever be happy with someone else
Yes I have my days where I would rather not be bothered, it is very very hard to date. I usually don't make it past the first one because it just doesn't feel right, if that makes sense.
haha

Crossville, TN

#11 Dec 7, 2012
I fell in love with my best friend too. He asked me out and a few months later we married.

Thing is we were both single at the time so everything was honest and healthy.

There's no way a relationship that doesn't start out that way will stand the test of time.
single citizen

Albemarle, NC

#12 Dec 7, 2012
Being single isn't bad as long as you keep yourself busy , I do have more time an money to go an do the things I enjoy but those things don't mean as much without someone to share them with.
Jcr

Bowling Green, KY

#13 Dec 7, 2012
single citizen wrote:
Being single isn't bad as long as you keep yourself busy , I do have more time an money to go an do the things I enjoy but those things don't mean as much without someone to share them with.
Well i wish had some money, see when i left i gave up my home. I have a hard time finding work & i have been taking care of a good family friend that is terminal with brain cancer, but it's not everyday. I also had medical bills left over from the lost pregnancy i had to pay. It's not so bad being alone, but after a while it get's old.

Since: Nov 12

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#14 Dec 7, 2012
dummy
Jcr

Bowling Green, KY

#15 Dec 7, 2012
See that's what no one seems to understand why i have been so angry. I am having to start all over alone when that wasn't the plan & it's not easy when u lose that person u truly loved, have no JOB..dealing with the depression from it all & wondering how dumb u look to everyone.
gfy

Crossville, TN

#16 Dec 7, 2012
Jcr wrote:
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Well i wish had some money, see when i left i gave up my home. I have a hard time finding work & i have been taking care of a good family friend that is terminal with brain cancer, but it's not everyday. I also had medical bills left over from the lost pregnancy i had to pay. It's not so bad being alone, but after a while it get's old.
u want me to call you
haha

Crossville, TN

#17 Dec 7, 2012
Jcr wrote:
See that's what no one seems to understand why i have been so angry. I am having to start all over alone when that wasn't the plan & it's not easy when u lose that person u truly loved, have no JOB..dealing with the depression from it all & wondering how dumb u look to everyone.
Aww screw everyone, forget about you look to them.
Find your own happy, that's what matters. Do what makes you happy, day to day. Right now you can live only for yourself, take advantage of that!
gfy

Crossville, TN

#18 Dec 7, 2012
haha wrote:
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Aww screw everyone, forget about you look to them.
Find your own happy, that's what matters. Do what makes you happy, day to day. Right now you can live only for yourself, take advantage of that!
u want me to call u
Jcr

Bowling Green, KY

#19 Dec 7, 2012
gfy wrote:
<quoted text>u want me to call you
You gonna give me some money?
gfy

Crossville, TN

#20 Dec 7, 2012
Jcr wrote:
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You gonna give me some money?
for
Jcr

Bowling Green, KY

#21 Dec 7, 2012
For being so generous.

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