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Just me

Charleston, WV

#1 Sep 11, 2011
This goes out to someone I Knew. Someone I cared about. Someone who got addicted. Someone whom I believe is in a bad situation. It is a female who has lost everything. No bad mouthing. This is a topic I am very curious about. I want to know how people become addicted and would like for you to share some of your personal life and struggles. I realize that drugs have taken over and changed you but I pray that you truly are not forgotten
ashamed

United States

#2 Sep 12, 2011
You know, u r a very kind person. So many ppl just want to dismiss drug addicts as human beings and go as far as saying they want them all to overdose and die. They are ppl! Same as you. Ppl that yes, have made bad decisions, and hurt ppl. But ppl all the same. Ppl who have developed a sickness. A need so strong, they are no longer able to differentiate between what is wrong and right...or yet, they can, but that need is so strong, they will end up surrendering to it no matter the cost in many cases. I grew up in the world of drugs. Luckily I was an oly child. All my life, I was second to drugs, in my eyes. I know that my parents loved me. But their addiction would not allow them to put me first. We never had money. Moved all the time. They were always getting arrested. Never could hold jobs, and eventually ended up on welfare and ssi. Like I said, all my life, I always felt second best. Still feel that way. I always promised myself if I had children, that I would never do anything to make them feel that way. That I would never let drugs run my life, or take from my children. And today, I sit here a damn near bona-fide drug addict with a child. I'm not sure how it happened, but it did. I love my child and have never deprived him of anything, and he's always had what he wanted or needed. But I loathe myself for the mistakes that I've made. Even my family and friends do not know the extent of my drug use. This is how I know I hjave a problem. Because I go out of my way to hide it. I'm sick with out it. Then I become extremely depressed thinking about what I've become, and know I need to change the way I live before it affects my family and friends. I feel to proud to ever let anyone know what is really going on in my head and my life. After several days or even weeks of feeling like that, I will end up using drugs again knowing that its wrong. Lying to myself. Sugarcoating the situation and making excuses. Destroying any progress I've made. So please, somebody give me so words of wisdom. I am a human being with feeling, not just a drug user...even if my addiction hasn't yet led to hurting my family and friends....other than lying which is a boundary I cannot believe I have crossed. That is bad enough for me. I do not want my addicrtion to progress any further than this. I am a person who needs help.
Just Me

Bluefield, WV

#3 Sep 12, 2011
I am in tears as I read this. I dont know how addicts struggle. Its easy to be judgemental on the outside, but something is changing inside of me. I want to kidnap this person and see if she changes back to the person that i once knew. I could delete her and forget forever, but there are memories. I am not perfect I have said mean things because I was angry with her choices, but now that I think she may not be safe I want someone to save her before she overdoses. Please dont keep this a secret if you have family that will support you and most of all call upon the one who created you, the one who knows you better than yourself. Trust me, if you dont get help now, you will have NOTHING
in life but a world of drugs and your friend circle will change. Also if you have your drug of choice around you, you will use. I will pray for you and your family because the lies are worse than the drugs. Most of the kids in this county have parents that are on drugs. Most of all what enters my mind is, What if this happened to MY child and it makes me feel sick to my stomach to think of how other parents must feel.
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Just me

Bluefield, WV

#6 Sep 13, 2011
I am not saying that it's fine for addicts to lie steal and cheat, I'm just saying the majority were probably really nice good people before the drugs took over. I never grew up in a home with drugs, nor was I near them growing up, so I was really blessed. I know that with continued use your body loses it's ability to feel happy on it's own, so how scary is that. I bet many wouldn't have stole money or lied before their drugs. This is what I want to know is, does it take you just one time, or does it take a little while? Did you start because you had one weak moment, or did you do it because your friends were? I gave in to peer pressure and smoked pot a few times but I don't remember a high really. I think now in this day and time the drugs are more potent than they were before. I miss the innocence of looking around and not seeing all of the drug use and people sneaking and waiting around for their next high. I just get sad thinking of all the the young people with potential to have a good productive life and just give it up for what? Some could have alot in life but their addiction allows them to have nothing but trouble. Anyway it suprises me when grown adults begin this behavior. How often do people need to use, daily, weekly hourly, how often? I just wonder about it.
ashamed

United States

#7 Sep 13, 2011
Its usually over a course of time...casually and socially using drugs. I think those who knew that life growing up are obviously more apt to become users. I've casually used drugs all my life. Hasn't been til the past few years where its progressed to a damn near every day thing, an when I don't....its hell.
Just me

Hansford, WV

#8 Sep 13, 2011
You are giving into your body when you use like that. I beg you to please get help before there is no right or wrong. Go somewhere where you can be medically treated and supported. You cannot do this alone. You may think you can beat this, but if you dont get help somehow you cannot. I dont know you, but I know you have a good heart (for now)Please do something before you become someone that you dont like or want to be. I dont understand why people are afraid of help. Is it because the high feels so darn good or what is it.I want the best for you and your family Ashamed.Just remember we are All sinners and God sent his son Jesus to die for US. I believe this with all of my heart that I am Gods child. I could live better and I sin daily, but he loves me and as long as you accept and believe this he loves you to. Do not think of yourself lower than the next person have goals in life or do things that make you happy. Not drugs. A hobby something you are gifted at.
concerned

United States

#9 Sep 13, 2011
Families want drug addicts to just quit, My brother and is an addict. I think he would change if he could. He went from a loving father, brother and son to an addict that cares about nothing but his next fix. He will lie, steal or whatever it takes to get it. He steals from his 70 yr old mom and his 80 yr old dad. He looked like a walking dead person. We all have tried everything to help him. What do we do except pray to GOD to save him. Sometimes I wish he would die, and then I feel bad for thinking that way. I don't want to be around him anymore. We I see him, I always tell him I LOVE him. What do we do??????????
lenn

Hurricane, WV

#10 Sep 13, 2011
I went to treatment, long term, and have been clean ever since. The key for me was to deal with resentments i had toward my mother. I'm not blaming my mother for my addiction. But until I took responsibility for my feelings and she accepted how much she had hurt me I couldn't stop using. It's up to the addict to get clean, but sometimes another family member can be the key to resolving serious emotional pain.
Just me

Hansford, WV

#11 Sep 13, 2011
I know this first comment was judged mean, but I honestly didn't mean it that way. I feel for this person. Not only did she hurt her family and others around her, but I'm sure she is miserable now. I offered help but she didn't want any part of me. I am the bad person here. I have no drugs to offer this person, if I did I wouldn't give them to her because I care for her. How must it feel to have what seems to be everything kids, family home friends people that really care about you and lose it all to a life of when you can get your next high. I want her to remember who she WAS, not who she has become. I want to keep remembering who she was. I am reminded however though that she may never return. I do not hate this person, in fact I have a love that I truly cannot understand. I have been on an emotional rollercoaster, anger being one of the rides to missing her, which is the ride I am on now. I worry that the company she keeps are not being good to her. I would like to know if she is safe
ashamed

United States

#12 Sep 13, 2011
Addiction is one of the worst diseases, and the hardest to understand. I remember feeling that way about my parents. I sometimes hated them and was so embarrassed of them....even when I was older. Its sad that I never truly understood where they were coming from until after they were gone.
Concerned Citizen

United States

#13 Sep 13, 2011
i hope you can help yourself and get help for yourself. will power is not enough to stop. you need a schedule/routine with foods and activities that make you feel good or satisfied. this will help take your mind off drugs for the short term. try the drug bomb if you feel it is healthy for you to do so. try vitamins and suppliment drinks as well. the better health you are in physically, the better you can move forward mentally and emotionally. best wishes.
humm

Lerona, WV

#14 Sep 16, 2011
does her name start with a L?
Just me

Bluefield, WV

#15 Sep 16, 2011
I also want to know do you stay high all day? Or is it for a short period of time during the night or day? Don't you have your moments of clarity? I really don't know how it is.
It gets worse

Santa Clara, CA

#16 Sep 17, 2011
Today is my 6th day off pills. I know what this person is going thro. bez I too was in those shoes until My family found out I couldnt hide it. I just about lost my family. Ive been going to Beckley everyday for 6 days to get suboxone from the clinic. But, Im doing it to get myself back I dont feel high but, I dont feel sick eaither. I feel normal.
It gets worse

Santa Clara, CA

#17 Sep 17, 2011
Oh yeah, although Ive got to go to beckley just to feel normal and like my old self, I know Im getting my life back togeather. And Im not lieing, stealing, ect. to get that fix. For myself part of my family is so proud. The other part of the family not saying much. But, they all know Not only is it for myself but, its for them also. Saving the heartache of not having to bury me or visit me behind bars. Or maybe even saving the realationship Ive got with them. Cuz if I would had been really sick I may had done them wrong in some way to get that fix. Anyone that wants to change will reguarding the way or route they take to get there. Good luck...
sandy

Summersville, WV

#18 Sep 17, 2011
I have 2 children that have a really horrible addiction to drugs. They've stole off of people, lied, and pulled every trick in the book to get people in our family and others to believe that they are really down and out. People say that prison helps, but in my personal opionion all prison teaches them is to be a better criminal. My daughter has lost all 3 of her beautiful children and the last one she lost opened her eyes that a precious life is so much more important that a "high". I've shed enough tears to fill a lake and the stress and heartache from all of it caused me to have many heartattacks. My children were raised in church, but ended up getting around the wrong crowd and they have went down a down hill slope ever since. I cannot explain the pain, worry of getting that dreaded phone call in the middle of the night saying they have found one of or both of my children dead. They are very loving and caring children, which both have their own children now, and I pray to God above that their children doesn't end up on drugs or put their parents through the things they have put me through. I depend on our GOOD LORD ABOVE to take control of the situation, because there is nothing else I can do for them, but OUR LORD can intervene and I believe He will take control and make things right for them.I love my children more than life itself and I will do anything and everything in my power to help them in any way I can. God hasn't turned his back on any of us, so therefor I will not turn my back on my children. I know and believe with all of my heart that things will get better and I will have my precious family back. We all need to pray about this horrible drug problem that is ruining families one by one. You know the old time saying that they step on your toes when they're little, but they stomp on your heart when they are older. May God help us all. I know we all get angry, we don't understand how or why, but God does and also like they say, there's a reason for everything. We may not know or understand the reason, but our God does. Don't give up hope and definately not your faith, for God will see us all through. It may take a while, but it will happen! Thank you and God Bless You All!!
Just me

Bluefield, WV

#19 Sep 17, 2011
To it Gets worse. I am so proud that you have taken that step. I would like to hear more success stories, but unfortunately not many people choose help. I hope you get your life back and build back some bridges with your family. I don't like to hear of people high or drunk on the road but that seems to be the norm around here. I would have a very hard time forgiving someone if they were under the influence and hurt someone I love. To you Sandy I hope that your children seek help. I never knew worry until I had a child of my own. About the kind of choices he or she will make on the way of growing up. God does have a plan. I think having kids is like opening a box of chocolates, you never know what your going to get. You could have 10 and they would all be different in some way. I thank all of you for your comments and stories. This is real life and I miss my innocence. I pray for our community and the people in it. I pray that I will have a better more caring attitude to the people that live here. Its hard when you look around and see so many people addicted and not caring about a job or home or where their next meal is coming from. Im sure there is fun in the sneakiness of it. But there are many fun things in life to do besides partake of something that will give you pleasure for a while but leave you with noone or nothing. I am far from perfect and I struggle in life, but I know that if Id slip, I'd lose, and that is not an option. I love my friends and I love my family. I feel blessed. Thumbs up to all of you who want to make a change in your life, and are determined to do it. If ya slip start all over
know

Summersville, WV

#20 Sep 17, 2011
sandy wrote:
I have 2 children that have a really horrible addiction to drugs. They've stole off of people, lied, and pulled every trick in the book to get people in our family and others to believe that they are really down and out. People say that prison helps, but in my personal opionion all prison teaches them is to be a better criminal. My daughter has lost all 3 of her beautiful children and the last one she lost opened her eyes that a precious life is so much more important that a "high". I've shed enough tears to fill a lake and the stress and heartache from all of it caused me to have many heartattacks. My children were raised in church, but ended up getting around the wrong crowd and they have went down a down hill slope ever since. I cannot explain the pain, worry of getting that dreaded phone call in the middle of the night saying they have found one of or both of my children dead. They are very loving and caring children, which both have their own children now, and I pray to God above that their children doesn't end up on drugs or put their parents through the things they have put me through. I depend on our GOOD LORD ABOVE to take control of the situation, because there is nothing else I can do for them, but OUR LORD can intervene and I believe He will take control and make things right for them.I love my children more than life itself and I will do anything and everything in my power to help them in any way I can. God hasn't turned his back on any of us, so therefor I will not turn my back on my children. I know and believe with all of my heart that things will get better and I will have my precious family back. We all need to pray about this horrible drug problem that is ruining families one by one. You know the old time saying that they step on your toes when they're little, but they stomp on your heart when they are older. May God help us all. I know we all get angry, we don't understand how or why, but God does and also like they say, there's a reason for everything. We may not know or understand the reason, but our God does. Don't give up hope and definately not your faith, for God will see us all through. It may take a while, but it will happen! Thank you and God Bless You All!!
I feel the same way as you, don't give up on our children, and turn it over to God, we can't help them but pray and be there for them.
give me a break

Hansford, WV

#21 Sep 17, 2011
Well..it seems you are too stupid to realize right from wrong or good from evil. The people that do drugs abuse society and pray on your kindness and sympathy, aka weakness. Your sympathy and tolerance for such deviant behavior is repulsive. The drug addict prays on your sympathy amd kindness. It is gods job to forgive not mine. If any of you have personally had to deal with the aftermath created by the addicts selfish, ignorant and childish behavior you would feel differently. When thye phsycologically scar, physically scar countless friends family and people sympathize it compounds and worsens the issue, their personal wants and needs DRUGS. It doesn't matter what you do to help. When an adult decides to break the law and consume drugs their are consequences. I grew up in a home and family littered with drugs, alcohol, physical and phsycological abuse. I absolutely refuse to listen to the excuses or causes for substance abuse. If and when society opens their eyes and stops trying to accept how or why people abuse and stand up and stop tolerating the behavior and supporting the addict's behavior we will all be better off. Being an enabler is not helping, the sooner they find rock bottom the better. I am so sick of innocent children and elderly people being hurt and abused it makes me sick. Keep tolerating, facilitating and enabling and you are no better. You feed them, cloth them, cater to them you are just as guilty. Even god himself speaks of tolerance with limits and my tolerance non exsistent. God will deal with them.....amen!
guy

Bluefield, WV

#22 Sep 17, 2011
I really am so glad to see this topic addressed so well here. I think we need to keep going with it. Maybe someone will read something that will help them to change their lives. I am not on drugs. But I have compassion to most of those who are because I have been addicted to both alcohol and cigarettes. Quitting neither one was an easy thing and I would imagine that drugs are so much worse. I am also one who feels that you need God's help to succeed. I couldn't have done neither without Him. And there have been times when I slipped up and had to start all over again. I know that I am a much better person for having gotten to know life without alcohol or nicotine. I wish that I could help each and every one of the drug addicts. There are so many in my family and it breaks my heart because I love them. I keep praying and I know God hears me. I think I know the person this was started about. I would never have dreamed that this could happen to her. She had it all together. She was a role model to quite a few people. Now she has nothing. And as much as I want to reach out to help her, I am afraid. I am a coward and there is no excuse for that except that I have been used so many times in the past. She is worth saving as are many others that I know of. But none of us seem to know HOW???? Please, dear God in Heaven, be with these people for comfort, for knowledge and understanding, for patience and guidance. Hold them and the rest of us in your arms and show us the way.....In Jesus name....Amen.

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