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Why Do Women Choose Sorry Men Over a Good Man?

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Trying 2 Understand

United States

#1 Oct 13, 2010
I see it over and over. I just don't get it.

I am, by most accounts, an attractive man. I have a good job, work hard, have a nice home. I don't smoke, drink, do drugs, or frequent bars. Pretty much everyone that has ever known me would attest to the fact that I am a decent, honorable, upstanding man. I have always been romantic, sensitive to others' feelings, and very generous.

Why do women so often seem to pass over the good, decent man for the ones who are users and players? Women say that want a good man but seem to pick the sorry one and tries to change him(which doesn't work).

Help me to understand. I would love oneday to find a woman that truly appreciates a good and decent man. Why should it be so hard???
ts0yep

Brownsville, TN

#2 Oct 13, 2010
Try match.com
lovebutts

Murray, KY

#3 Oct 13, 2010
Trying 2 Understand wrote:
I see it over and over. I just don't get it.
I am, by most accounts, an attractive man. I have a good job, work hard, have a nice home. I don't smoke, drink, do drugs, or frequent bars. Pretty much everyone that has ever known me would attest to the fact that I am a decent, honorable, upstanding man. I have always been romantic, sensitive to others' feelings, and very generous.
Why do women so often seem to pass over the good, decent man for the ones who are users and players? Women say that want a good man but seem to pick the sorry one and tries to change him(which doesn't work).
Help me to understand. I would love oneday to find a woman that truly appreciates a good and decent man. Why should it be so hard???
low self esteem!!
cmon

Winchester, KY

#4 Oct 13, 2010
Trying 2 Understand wrote:
I see it over and over. I just don't get it.
I am, by most accounts, an attractive man. I have a good job, work hard, have a nice home. I don't smoke, drink, do drugs, or frequent bars. Pretty much everyone that has ever known me would attest to the fact that I am a decent, honorable, upstanding man. I have always been romantic, sensitive to others' feelings, and very generous.
Why do women so often seem to pass over the good, decent man for the ones who are users and players? Women say that want a good man but seem to pick the sorry one and tries to change him(which doesn't work).
Help me to understand. I would love oneday to find a woman that truly appreciates a good and decent man. Why should it be so hard???
Its a psychological thing, women have an innate need to nurture, SO, when a woman sees a "bad" boy they see someone who needs intervention, and needs someone to nurture them.... That is why women often choose men who seem less than savory, its an instinctual thing.
Pretty Simple

Toledo, OH

#5 Oct 13, 2010
cmon wrote:
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Its a psychological thing, women have an innate need to nurture, SO, when a woman sees a "bad" boy they see someone who needs intervention, and needs someone to nurture them.... That is why women often choose men who seem less than savory, its an instinctual thing.
And then complains when he uses and abuses her.

I think there is some truth in the need to nurture think. There is also no doubt that low self-esteem plays a big factor as well. When you feel bad about yourself, as many women do, you are by the prevalence of your thoughts, going to attract bad to you. That's why women with low self-esteem(which is most of them) attract sorry men.
matter of fact

United States

#6 Oct 13, 2010
If you dont smoke, drink, or do drugs, or frequent bars and you are so romantic. and sensitive to others feelings In my opinion thats boring! The only thing I like about u is that you are generous. And as a matter of fact I dont want to nurture or change any bad boy, I like them just the way they are! And trust me when I say I dont have low self esteem. Thats how I feel hit or miss, but I hope you find someone to love u.
Corbin Woman

United States

#7 Oct 13, 2010
Not smoking, drinking, drugging, or bar-hopping is boring??? You are the type of trollup that b*tches and moans when those bad boys do you wrong. You deserve 'em. and , yes, if you abuse your body and settle for users and losers, you DO have low self-esteem. You just don't want to admit it.
matter of fact

United States

#8 Oct 13, 2010
corbin woman cant u take a joke, oh I guess u do when u look in the mirror. who said a damn thing about me doing anything to my body and who said I settle for losers. Are you mad at me or are you mad at yourself? I like the bad boys so kiss my ass. If you are so perfect call this man up and you both could live a happy life together.
because

Georgetown, KY

#9 Oct 13, 2010
im 24, single, driven, sense of humor & i'm told i'm pretty...its not true that ALL women go for bad guys. i'd love to find a good guy. the problem i run into is that most guys will pretend to be what you need but then sooner or later the real them starts breaking through and you are left with a bad guy. Its just too hard to find honesty.
older

Winchester, KY

#10 Oct 13, 2010
Trying 2 Understand wrote:
I see it over and over. I just don't get it.
I am, by most accounts, an attractive man. I have a good job, work hard, have a nice home. I don't smoke, drink, do drugs, or frequent bars. Pretty much everyone that has ever known me would attest to the fact that I am a decent, honorable, upstanding man. I have always been romantic, sensitive to others' feelings, and very generous.
Why do women so often seem to pass over the good, decent man for the ones who are users and players? Women say that want a good man but seem to pick the sorry one and tries to change him(which doesn't work).
Help me to understand. I would love oneday to find a woman that truly appreciates a good and decent man. Why should it be so hard???
first of all how old are you ? In my 20's I liked the Bad boys, honestly they were fun, but i didn't marry until i was 30, and yes i married that bad boy now the fun is not so much over but shifted, for me, at 47 years old 2 young boys i want my fun to be family vacations but bad boy wants to act 20 years old and single. I think one post was correct, low self esteem to some point, we just don't realize it until we're older and now I've grown balls (so to speak) and getting ready to move out, menopause will wake a woman up just about every time, if only we had the lack of hormones in our 20's to make the better choices. so "trying 2 understand" DON'T, because i've seen women that have not appreciated men like you and it pisses me off, I've worked everyday for 36 years and my bad boy is older than me and hasn't worked 1/2 that much in his life, my next go around will be a man like you and you will be appreciated, so honey just hang in there, only advise i have is to make sure she has a job and her own car. you'll be okay. go older, we're the new younger and better !!
Single

Santa Clara, CA

#11 Oct 13, 2010
So Mr. Good Guy where you been all my life then?
I need and desire the attention of a good man and not a BOY!!!
Karen

Cincinnati, OH

#12 Oct 13, 2010
It's called co dependent google it.
whoknows

Gray, KY

#13 Oct 13, 2010
Women are complicatad, but in my experience they tend to go for the bad boy. Then I get to hear all about how awful he is and I listen because I'm the good guy. Never gets me anywhere though, they always go back to the bad boys.
because

Georgetown, KY

#15 Oct 13, 2010
i think all these "good guys" should post an email addy :)
Long Slow Kisses

Rock, WV

#16 Oct 13, 2010
Well,Im a clean,neat,nice looking middle age man,looking for the same in a woman.I just would like to find a nice woman,who is clean,and a good personality.Possibly looking for more than dateing,but not in a hurry to jump either.I will treat a woman like a queen,just want some honesty in return.Any interested in chatting,please leave an email,and we will go from there.
Hot tottie

London, KY

#17 Oct 13, 2010
Ive been with a sorry man for 2 years. He faked me out for the first 7 months. I thought he was something he wasn't. Then I was hooked. Then I stuck around because I thought he could change...I thought he wanted to be a better person! But I have realized that he isn't capable of it and he never will be!! So, I god duped into being with a bad guy! I can't stand them. I want a good guy. And at this point in my life, I want a rich man so I can cut down to part time. I want someone to take care of me. I want to have another baby. Cuz I have one and he is precious. But The rich guy also has to treat me like a queen and I will do the same for him. U all know any guys like that around here??? Didnt' think soooooooooooo! So, I prefer to be alone
good guy here

Glasgow, KY

#18 Oct 14, 2010
I'm a good guy...here is my email address... [email protected]..ho pe to hear from some good girls soon
whoohoo

London, KY

#19 Oct 14, 2010
well i usually end up with the bad girls on the side of being a good guy
and when they are bad
i give them a good bare bottom hard spanking over my knee
older

Winchester, KY

#20 Oct 14, 2010
i've learned that money isn't everything. i want the true love. someone that works as hard as i do for the things they want, i want someone that i enjoy talking to and listening to, laughter is a biggie ! my list sure changed from 20 years ago. I like the salt and pepper hair on a man, guys going grey is sexy on you !
wow

Brownsville, TN

#21 Oct 14, 2010
you mean there are good men left? and to think i give up on finding a good man.

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