How Do you Get over Someone you LOVE???
Heartbroken 2

Asheville, NC

#666 Dec 23, 2011
Needed INFO wrote:
Me and my boyfriend dated for 10 months and we broke up today and I dont know how to get over him... Any advice??
I dated the love of my life for 3 years. We kept breaking it off and getting back together because we did love each other. Finally, it is for real about a month ago.
From my experience:
First, no contact and no inquiring about what he is doing.
Second, go to your friends and plan stuff with them (every night of the week, I do something with a different friend). Just don't constantly talk about your breakup. It gets old to them.
Third, find a hobbie or something that intrests you can start doing that you have always wanted to do. I started working out. It has only been two weeks and I already feel better.
Finally, don't turn to drugs or alcohol. I did and I am still facing the reprecussion with an acident that busted my face and broke teeth and humiliated myself infront of co-workers.
Enjoy being you and re-learning things about you. Some days will be tougher than others, but you can get through it. Have a book to start reading if you have alone time and keep thinking about him. This too shall pass, just be good to yourself.
Stephie

United States

#667 Dec 26, 2011
The only thing i can really say... Get angry.. Screw em!!! If they didnt realize they had sumthin great then theyre not worth the time effort nor space n ur head!!! They say cry... Done that... They say eat... Done that... They say excersise.... Done that... Nuthin seems 2 work except bein angry.. Its been quite a few years n nuthin seems 2 work....... Mayb one day ive even left town... That jus made it worse.... Eh ooo well..... Its different for everybody i suppose....
ASF

United States

#668 Dec 29, 2011
Still DB!! STILL! Even though we havent spoken in months! StiLL and ALWAYS!
Kathleen

UK

#669 Jan 6, 2012
Yahweh wrote:
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Good point! If he truly loves you, he'll be in your life forever, maybe not as a boyfriend but as a friend. If he can't be your friend, he can't be your boyfriend, so you haven't really lost someone who loves you.
Yes, if he won't be your friend, he can not be anything else....friends first.....the most important thing in a relationship......someone you can talk to.....
Mary

Dallas, TX

#670 Jan 14, 2012
Tha best way to get over one man is to get under another... Its funny but its true.
jessicaflowers

Spring, TX

#672 Jan 20, 2012
Me and my boyfriend were so happy together it was like a farytale but one day he meets this pretty girl and goes crazy for her. He acts different and he is not the same as romantic has he use to be. One day i went into his facebook and he had a massenge of her. they had been fluting for months now and i just coudnt believe my eyes and i think they're going out but he wont tell me the truth. i broke up with hi after 2 years of dating. He begs for me right now to take him back but everytime i see him i cant look at him with love i look at him with hate. i honestly dont want him back but he dosnt let me go. what should i do?
John

Cecilia, KY

#673 Jan 20, 2012
Tha best way to get over one man is to get under another... Its funny but its true.
u hore i bet u get under many men.
well

Russell Springs, KY

#674 Jan 20, 2012
John wrote:
Tha best way to get over one man is to get under another... Its funny but its true.
u hore i bet u get under many men.
Including you!
No name

Cambridge, UK

#675 Mar 9, 2012
Yeh I broke up with the boyfriend after almost four years in I thought I was fine then I'm finding myself crying to every bloody song comes on has words that fits in how we spilt or how we was good together he's not Over me but he's trying his hardest by texting other girls to get layed saying it nicely to help take the pain away soppose it's more harder for me as he was my first in lost it at 21 in im 24 now in the only guy I properly feel in love with dunno why it just happened we had two gorgeous little boys but it happened so soon befour I properly got to know him but wouldn't change them for the world but he's done what he's done if there's no trust then there's no point no matter how much u love them if u don't trust them it will never work u will always have those doubts !!

Since: Aug 11

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#676 Mar 9, 2012
have a couple of drinks and have someone take u to wal marts and find another man, there are plenty there
Oh My

Lexington, KY

#677 Mar 10, 2012
Did Shawn Hatcher find another girl?Is that why Misty left?She was to good for him.
MacDaddy

Trinity, TX

#678 Mar 12, 2012
Been there done that. They say time heals all wounds but for me it seems to only get worse. I see my ex of two years all around town with his new gf and I feel like I'm dying inside...I'm 20 so I'm way too young to be worried about a stupid 'boy' but it hurts like he'll
Layla

Indianapolis, IN

#679 Mar 20, 2012
So yeah im only 15 and i know im still young, but I had known this guy since 5th grade, & im now a sophmore, it was little kid love, but we got together when we were both in 7th grade, we were together for about a year, but we broke up, its an up and down relationship, we really havent been a relationship , he has been with two other different girls since we broke up ... his girl "bestfriend" is my bestfriend, so when they are on the phone & im with her, he always mentions me saying he still loves me & that im still his baby or whatever, but i just try to ignore it, i REALLY need help in what i should do, i know i shouldn't even get back with him what so ever, but i LOVE him, & i CANT get over him, its been almost 2 years,.... ANY ADVICE ?
In love with a cheater

Des Plaines, IL

#680 Mar 31, 2012
The only true answer is.. You never will.. So stop reading all this stuff it's not going to help.!
very true

Columbia, KY

#681 Apr 1, 2012
Jessica Boyd wrote:
"Time will heal all wounds"
this is the best advise on this thread. i was married to a woman for 15 yrs untill i caught her with the next door neighbor!! it took me a while but thank god i am over her
Tiz Me

Trinity, TX

#682 Apr 1, 2012
very true wrote:
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this is the best advise on this thread. i was married to a woman for 15 yrs untill i caught her with the next door neighbor!! it took me a while but thank god i am over her
I was with mine for 29 yrs, I dont have friends here in Columbia, cant get over him........all I do is sit an think about it...ive never yet been......(so called) under another man..so any advise will help for I really dont think I can get "under" another man..lol....to top it all off, he wasent worth a shit ta start with..I am so friggin stupid....
Lonely Too

Eubank, KY

#683 Apr 3, 2012
Tiz Me wrote:
<quoted text> I was with mine for 29 yrs, I dont have friends here in Columbia, cant get over him........all I do is sit an think about it...ive never yet been......(so called) under another man..so any advise will help for I really dont think I can get "under" another man..lol....to top it all off, he wasent worth a shit ta start with..I am so friggin stupid....
Maybe we could be friends or more. You must be around fifty or more.
Please don't feel "stupid" we have all made mistakes.
Lonely Too

Eubank, KY

#684 Apr 3, 2012
Tiz Me wrote:
<quoted text> I was with mine for 29 yrs, I dont have friends here in Columbia, cant get over him........all I do is sit an think about it...ive never yet been......(so called) under another man..so any advise will help for I really dont think I can get "under" another man..lol....to top it all off, he wasent worth a shit ta start with..I am so friggin stupid....
Seriously, if you want a friend, email [email protected] By-the-way, I am not in London but much nearer Columbia.
peaches

Ft Mitchell, KY

#685 Jun 21, 2012
I agree with everything. i'm sitting here thinking about all the things that i've done to this wonderful man. He never cheated on me, he wanted to see a change. after my kids father walked out on me with my second child i was seven months pregant. I cried and cried until i could cry anymore i remember laying on the bad and i looked up to GOD and asked him could he send me a real man.But not knowing, he did just that being in that relationship i've seen places that i've never that i would see.He never cheated on me, he never lied to me, he was that man and i didn't know how to treat. Maybe i wasn't ready to have that special man yet. But mens come and go but right now i want to focus more on me. Put myself first and love me! so the next time that another man comes into my life i'll give him my all. But i do feel bad and i know that some people might hate me for saying this and it's something that you should never do. He was 41 and i'm 21 could somebody please tell me what is wrong with that i really need some advise?
Valerie

Madisonville, KY

#686 Dec 27, 2012
Thank you for this encouraging advice! I really needed it! Im struggling very badly to get over my one true love that I will love with all my heart til I die.

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