piece of crap moms that use thier kid...

piece of crap moms that use thier kids as leverage over there fathers

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wondering why

United States

#1 Apr 12, 2010
why do women do that ? its so unfair they can control everythig, and the court system allows it
yea

Columbia, KY

#2 Apr 13, 2010
wondering why wrote:
why do women do that ? its so unfair they can control everythig, and the court system allows it
well mabey if the father would stand up and be a man then the mom would not have to go to the courthouse
oh my

New Albany, IN

#3 Apr 13, 2010
maybe because their dads are a "piece of crap dads". Ever think of that?
Big Daddy

Russell Springs, KY

#4 Apr 13, 2010
Each situation is different. Don't be so simple minded. The man isn't always the bad one.
well

Burkesville, KY

#5 Apr 13, 2010
Columbia court system is a joke and Judge Wedell is to blame. So if you want anything done right, then do it out of crooked Adair Co.
lmfao

Jamestown, KY

#6 Apr 13, 2010
maybe it aint always the dads, ever think its the moms?? that would rather have child support so she dont have to work no more than she has to..!!
good people

Columbia, KY

#7 Apr 13, 2010
IT AINT ABOUT THE MOM WANTING TO WORK OR NOT ITS THE DADS PLACE TO TAKE OF THERE KIDS TO
lmfao

Jamestown, KY

#9 Apr 13, 2010
its both parents place to raise the child/children... theres a thing called child support which i dont think the fathers should pay if they dont get to see their child.. why should the mother get it when she dont have the child half the time.? another thing most men pay their support & it dont go for the child/children. mothers cant just depend on a child support check to make ends meet..
BottomDaddy

Jamestown, KY

#10 Apr 13, 2010
wondering why wrote:
why do women do that ? its so unfair they can control everythig, and the court system allows it
What's the matter? Your boyfriend has to pay support on his kids and you don't like it? Have some with him and see how it works.
A Father

United States

#11 Apr 13, 2010
i lost my kids for 7 months, finally got there mom in court and got visitation and since 2008 she has kept the kids away for 8 months (with a court order) and nothing was done about it . if this were any other state there mom would be in prison and all columbia courts do is warn her , and then they wonder what makes fathers snap ? i think they need to try a different approach to cusotdy laws , the ones now damn sure dont work
ouch

Russell Springs, KY

#12 Apr 13, 2010
lmfao wrote:
its both parents place to raise the child/children... theres a thing called child support which i dont think the fathers should pay if they dont get to see their child.. why should the mother get it when she dont have the child half the time.? another thing most men pay their support & it dont go for the child/children. mothers cant just depend on a child support check to make ends meet..
... why doesnt he or she "get" to see the child.... & where does the person who pay this obscene amount of child support (so much that the mother doesnt have to work & can depend solely on child support) Im going to apply!!!
ouch

Russell Springs, KY

#13 Apr 13, 2010
wondering why wrote:
why do women do that ? its so unfair they can control everythig, and the court system allows it
& fyi ... its "their" not "there".....
Whats Fair

Burkesville, KY

#14 Apr 14, 2010
A Father wrote:
i lost my kids for 7 months, finally got there mom in court and got visitation and since 2008 she has kept the kids away for 8 months (with a court order) and nothing was done about it . if this were any other state there mom would be in prison and all columbia courts do is warn her , and then they wonder what makes fathers snap ? i think they need to try a different approach to cusotdy laws , the ones now damn sure dont work
While I sympathize with you on your situation, I must say something. It is NOT just Adair county that this happens in. When I was 9, my parents divorced and my mother proceeded to rake my father over the coals in every way imaginable.(Including getting an order for child support, then getting him fired from his job by lying to his boss!) Anyway, there was court ordered child support for visitation every other weekend with my father. After a couple of years, once my father fell behind on the child support, she stopped the visitations. She refused to allow him to see, or even talk to us on the phone, claiming it was because of not being current on the child support. Except, even when he was current, she would still deny visitation.

She got away with it with court orders from both PA, where my parents lived at the time of the divorce, and in NJ where my mother moved us to when she left my father. My father didn't see or talk to me or my brother for over 6 years, when I turned 18 and reached out to him. My brother, however, bought into my mom's lies hook, line, and sinker, and still, 20 years later, will not speak to my father.

My long winded point is, denial of visitation is an all too common thing all over, and many parents get away with it. It's a shame, but I think they do get away with it because the courts are so bogged down with child support and custody issue they simply can't focus on visitation orders like they should. Also, the parent being denied NEEDS to keep on the courts to enforce that order, just as parents do when the opposite parent falls behind on child support. My dad didn't fight. He thought it was in our best interest not to fight and have us (my brother and I) in the middle...where my mother was intent on keeping us for her own personal gain.
what

Greensburg, KY

#15 Apr 14, 2010
If we didn't have the laws and judges to interpret them, there would be hardly any child support today. If a male is man enough to father a child, he should be man enough to help raise his child. Some (not all) want the easy way out and not pay his fair share. Boo Hoo..the first thing you hear is the excuses, then the justice system is against him, blah, balh blah.
Your child will grow up someday and will know what kind of low life you are, if you don't support your child. Be a man and do what's right for the child. You may not like the mother, she may not like you, but it's your child.
lmfao

Jamestown, KY

#16 Apr 14, 2010
ouch, dont correct me.!! i seen the mispelled words after i posted. dont get on here trying to teach ppl how to spell this aint spelling class.. i may not be alot of child support sent which is nothing to u.. but thats why they call it CHILD SUPPOrt to support the child not the dead beat so called of a mother..
lmfao

Jamestown, KY

#17 Apr 14, 2010
IT** let me correct myself befor ouch does
wtf

Greenbrier, AR

#18 Apr 14, 2010
you all act like child support is a bad thing my brother gets it when the woman left him and his two kids on the fucking sidewalk, and my neiece should get her babys daddy for it cause he left her for another woman, and dont call and check on her or anything, why should she have to raise the baby by herself she wasnt the only one to make it. both men and women get child support which ever is best fit is who gets the child, and her ex- boyfriend shouldn't even get to see his unborn daugther since he left and she's 7 mos. pregnant. but theres not much she can do about his actions. but she is staying strong and trying to make ends meet and she dont draw child support but she should cause thats just a sorry excuse for a man. it takes a man to raise a baby but a boy to make one.
in the know

Columbia, KY

#19 Apr 14, 2010
answer to problem , you men keep your zipper closed!
ouch

Russell Springs, KY

#20 Apr 14, 2010
lmfao wrote:
ouch, dont correct me.!! i seen the mispelled words after i posted. dont get on here trying to teach ppl how to spell this aint spelling class.. i may not be alot of child support sent which is nothing to u.. but thats why they call it CHILD SUPPOrt to support the child not the dead beat so called of a mother..
u need to be corrected however I wasnt correcting you, unless u & "wondering" are the same person. I asked you why is it he doesnt get to see the kid or kids. And if I want to correct i will, Not because i have 2 but just because i can...but what keeps the father from seeing his child...it would take an act of god & only an act of god to keep me from mine.
yada

United States

#21 Apr 15, 2010
I hope you all realize that this is the biggest problem in the country. Children grow to adulthood without proper parenting and cannot be productive members of society. There are a lot of Fathers groups that have been organized just for this purpose...fathers rights. It takes a man to raise a child, but it takes a woman, too and a lot of women give us ladies a bad name with their antics about child support.
I believe that all custody should start out EQUAL TIME without child support. Whatever child the parent is with that week should take care of the child.
Just think a minute, why does one parent have to be the good one and one the bad one? when they are both OK when still together? It all makes no sense, until you follow the money.
Local governments and state governments get money from the federal goverment to support the system that keeps this ugly ball rolling. It is about $2 from the feds for every $1 of child support ordered. And you all think it is about the child, mom and dad? Never is, Follow the money.
The family court is supported by this money; the judge, the staff, and all the others associated. They charge a bit for "processing" from the support payer, but that is not enough to support the system.
Conclusion, courts and attorneys survive on family distruction. They have no job if folks get along. You should go into court with all your 'getting along plans' in hand and not let them get you into the system, show yourselves as responsible parents who have a plan to love and care for their child. Everyother weekend visits and child support orders do nothing but harm the child and cause friction, put parents in a conflict position and ruination occurs. Love your kids enough to keep them away from it.

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