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anonymous

Coffeyville, KS

#1 Apr 6, 2011
My wife hits me and throws things at me all the time and says I'm a worthless coward and I take it because I was raised never to lay a hand on a woman. I live in my own private world of hell, but I'm at the end of my rope. I'm afraid of telling anybody because I'll be mocked and ridiculed as not a "real man" who puts her in her place. I afraid if I tell, then she'll turn everything around on me and I'll never be allowed to see my children again. A woman never beats a man, right? Nobody would believe me anyway. I don't deserve this treatment and have nowhere to turn.
Observer

Coffeyville, KS

#2 Apr 6, 2011
I hear you I too was in a marriage where my wife verbally abused me and I to did not hit her we were together for many many yrs but are now seperated I know how you feel when you try to tell someone about what your going through they treat you like your not really a man. All I can say without knowing your situation is if at all possible leave get away it will only get worse as time goes by I wish you the best of luck.
been there in reverse

Coffeyville, KS

#3 Apr 6, 2011
go to the authorities and document, document, document...proof (like pics) and a paper trail will be your best friend
unknown

Wichita, KS

#4 Apr 6, 2011
you need to get out of there with your kids as fast as you can it just gets worse and if like mine will teach the kids to beat you too.

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#5 Apr 7, 2011
So any idea what the root of her obvious anger is? Most impatient and easily angered folks are easy to manipulate mentally. If she is unwilling to dig into her issues, you could probably take care of this with a little mind play. Few other options would be just to grab the kids up and take off - relocate, or just a good old fashion christian divorce or a taste of her own medicine (but you will end up the worse off if you resort to her violent tactics). If rational adult conversation won't work, I would go to work on manipulating her mentally. Good luck and have fun.

Since: Oct 10

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#6 Apr 7, 2011
First, report it when you are hit. Second divorce
that bitch NOW!
anonymous

Coffeyville, KS

#7 Apr 7, 2011
Kronk wrote:
So any idea what the root of her obvious anger is? If rational adult conversation won't work, I would go to work on manipulating her mentally. Good luck and have fun.
She says I never pay attention to her and I don't tell her often enough that I love her. She says I make her feel unattractive. She is also really jealous and suspicious of me around other women and thinks I'm cheating on her. When I try to confront her about her excessive drinking, she gets furious. I'm mentally ground down and losing weight. She knows I've been trained not to hit a woman and she uses that against me. Thank you all for the replies.

Since: Sep 10

Coffeyville, KS

#8 Apr 7, 2011
I think you may have found your own answer - she needs help with her alcoholism. Never an easy subject to broach with a loved one, but maybe other family members will help you?

Good luck.
a nony mous

Coffeyville, KS

#9 Apr 7, 2011
Document her drinking binges, in a place where she cannot find it and destroy it. Document in detail each violent/verbally abusive episode. Date and initial each entry, and if it is electronic have at least one backup copy. Make a log of all of this.

If she does not get help, and get sober, leave and take the children with you. She is not a good example for your children to see, at all. While they might see her example as something NOT to do, they are also very likely to do as she does without even thinking about it. Do you want that in their futures?

Since: Sep 10

Coffeyville, KS

#10 Apr 7, 2011
I really hope you find some peace and happiness. From your posts, it seems like you really care about and love your wife. I am sorry that she gets angry and abusive when you try to help her. Maybe that is her way of compensating for something in her past? If so, then she needs a lot of love and support. Try again to help her and get some support from her family if you need to. If that does not work, then do what you feel as best for yourself and your children.
Good luck, Anon.
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Mount Gilead, OH

#11 Apr 7, 2011
anonymous wrote:
My wife hits me and throws things at me all the time and says I'm a worthless coward and I take it because I was raised never to lay a hand on a woman. I live in my own private world of hell, but I'm at the end of my rope. I'm afraid of telling anybody because I'll be mocked and ridiculed as not a "real man" who puts her in her place. I afraid if I tell, then she'll turn everything around on me and I'll never be allowed to see my children again. A woman never beats a man, right? Nobody would believe me anyway. I don't deserve this treatment and have nowhere to turn.
Stop being such a bitch put her in her place. Or leave her. I think you need a healthy dose of cold iron and heavy metal.
just sayin

United States

#12 Apr 8, 2011
Avatar wrote:
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Stop being such a bitch put her in her place. Or leave her. I think you need a healthy dose of cold iron and heavy metal.
You are an idiot. Many men hide abuse because of people like you. At least he was man enough to say something even if not to the right venue.

Since: Oct 10

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#13 Apr 8, 2011
The thought just occurred to me: Are you hitting "it" enough? Know what I'm saying?? May be the solution to your problem.
Bill Maher

Wichita, KS

#14 Apr 8, 2011
Kronk wrote:
The thought just occurred to me: Are you hitting "it" enough? Know what I'm saying?? May be the solution to your problem.
Nookie = the answer to life's problems.
CWB

Coffeyville, KS

#15 Apr 8, 2011
why you let your wife beat you if it was me i would of stuuck her in the mouth and been on my was putting herself in a mans possistion like that she deserves it
anonymous

Coffeyville, KS

#16 Apr 8, 2011
Avatar wrote:
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Stop being such a bitch put her in her place. Or leave her. I think you need a healthy dose of cold iron and heavy metal.
I was taught that men who hit women are punks. I'm not a punk.
CWB

Coffeyville, KS

#17 Apr 8, 2011
i don't litterally mean beat her ok i mean just hit her in the mouth once bet you she will stop i was raised the same way but look at what i telling you
anonymous

Coffeyville, KS

#18 Apr 8, 2011
Kronk wrote:
The thought just occurred to me: Are you hitting "it" enough? Know what I'm saying?? May be the solution to your problem.
We used to do it more than rabbits before our son was born. Now she told me feels like a "fat old cow" and never wants it anymore. Her hormones are out of whack or something. I'm going to try and seek mental health counseling. Thank you all for the replies.
just sayin

United States

#19 Apr 8, 2011
Don't waste your breath on these younger punks who would rather beat a woman than figure out the problem. Sure hope their mommas know how immature they are to lay hands on a woman.
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Mount Gilead, OH

#20 Apr 8, 2011
just sayin wrote:
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You are an idiot. Many men hide abuse because of people like you. At least he was man enough to say something even if not to the right venue.
Over the internet? Real manly.

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