would you marry an addict

would you marry an addict

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between a rock

Circleville, OH

#1 Apr 7, 2013
I am in love with a looser addict. I am hoping he will get help and we can move on woth our future. Anyone have a success story to share?
Just another addict

United States

#2 Apr 7, 2013
There are far less success stories than triumphs, when it comes to addiction. I have personally relapsed many times and I haven't been clean for very long this time. I have to have hope though. If I didn't, I would cook a shot to finish me off. If you love this person try to stand by them. However, be realistic. Don't chain yourself to a sinking ship. Keep your eyes open and be honest with yourself. Don't be blinded by love. God bless you both, I'm praying for you.
Just another addict

United States

#3 Apr 7, 2013
Less triumphs than failures sorry, my mistake.
TooMuch

Columbus, OH

#4 Apr 7, 2013
Ok for one if you're in love with him why would you call him a loser. For two you cant help those who don't want to help themselves. Not trying to be mean but you did put it out there.
yeaa

Columbus, OH

#5 Apr 7, 2013
I feel your pain but instead of calling him names try to help him.I have been fighting the demon myself demo with my husband and he did it .It took awhile and sometimes I felt like giving up but never.Stand beside him if you love him and if not keep on moving.It can be a hard thing to deal with .
jem

United States

#6 Apr 7, 2013
I am with an addict and can tell you its tough. If you love them then you have to be strong and be ready to pick up the pieces. My woman was busted and is in jail, which honestly is a good thing. The best advice I can give you is don't give up and if you truly love your partner fight for them, save them from themselves. It takes time but if you stand by their side they will get better.

Since: Feb 13

Location hidden

#7 Apr 7, 2013
Love is blind. Do what us best for you, it's heart breaking to be in Love with someone that will choose their addiction over a loved one every time.
okayy

United States

#8 Apr 7, 2013
GypsyRenagade wrote:
Love is blind. Do what us best for you, it's heart breaking to be in Love with someone that will choose their addiction over a loved one every time.
cause the addiction takes over ,they are not the same people ,when they are addicted

“We do not forget.”

Since: Mar 12

Location hidden

#9 Apr 7, 2013
I have a success story. I fought for 3 years to save my marriage to a coke head. Eventually I listened to reason and got a divorce. My life has never been better than it is today.

Find someone who cares about your needs. Don't waste your time with anything less.
Wrong

United States

#10 Apr 7, 2013
You called him a loser because that's what it is. Glad to see that your eyes are open and honest. And now the hard questions. Does he work?, if not depend on you? Have his own car? How many children? If he doesn't work, depends on you to buy him cigarettes, drive your car and have a 1-4 kids Run for your life! Seriously I speak with experience. My ex used to be sweet but then he became abusive. He always drove my car depended on me for everything. He was an still to this day a loser. You see it already or you wouldn't have posted. Once I left things started getting better immediately, I had more money first of all and I ended up meeting my husband at work. Dump his butt and find someone who deserves you. Don't ever settle..
okayy

Columbus, OH

#11 Apr 7, 2013
Love will get you through anything!
Wrong

United States

#12 Apr 7, 2013
No it won't. To tell someone love will get you through anything is absolute bullshit! The most ridiculous thing I have read on this site. Hope it was a joke.
okayy

Columbus, OH

#13 Apr 7, 2013
Wrong wrote:
No it won't. To tell someone love will get you through anything is absolute bullshit! The most ridiculous thing I have read on this site. Hope it was a joke.
Mine overcome it,not all addicts can but mind did.He just had a pill problem because of a acl injury.Mt love for him kept me hanging on
Blondie

Mansfield, OH

#14 Apr 7, 2013
Run as far as you can!!!! Not to be insensitive but nothing good is going to come from that relationship. This person needs to get clean and stay clean for a long time before you consider being with them.

“Displaced Denizen”

Since: Aug 12

Powell Ohio

#15 Apr 7, 2013
between a rock wrote:
I am in love with a looser addict. I am hoping he will get help and we can move on woth our future. Anyone have a success story to share?
If this guy really cares for you, he will get clean. See if he stays clean for a year, at least, before you make any type of commitment.
common sense

Akron, OH

#16 Apr 7, 2013
Stupidest thing ever is to think you can change someone. You can't. Love can't either. Addiction is a selfish disease and you can't fight it for someone else. If your waiting for them to change for you...you'll be waiting the rest of your life. They have to change for themselves first. My advice ... Run like hell and the best of luck to ya!
Lmao

Dublin, OH

#17 Apr 8, 2013
Run! Run fast! Don't waste your time trying to fix a broken person. Addiction is forever. Don't waste your time. However, I do applaud you for considering marriage. Something very few in Circleville do. Most girls just pop out a few kids from a few different guys. Get on the welfare rolls and stay there for life. Do you want to live off the system or be in charge of your own destiny?

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