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t-girl

Mandeville, LA

#1 Dec 2, 2009
Why don't people who cheat on their spouses think about the family and children and grandchildren involved that may be affected so much when things are brought out in the open?
haha

Duson, LA

#2 Dec 2, 2009
Because they are selfish m-fers.
lover

Jennings, LA

#3 Dec 2, 2009
I agree with both of you.Sometimes It's the men who do it ,other times It's the women who do it,regardless the ones that do ,do it don't give a damn about their family or the vows they took and yes they are selfish lying m-fers.
slickchick

Houma, LA

#4 Dec 2, 2009
So right
All N There

Basile, LA

#5 Dec 3, 2009
haha wrote:
Because they are selfish m-fers.
You are so right.
t-girl

Mandeville, LA

#6 Dec 3, 2009
The pain is horrible and the way it breaks family up is devastating. Your entire life seems like a lie and you do not know where to turn. The grandchildren grow older and the years slip by. It seems like morals and respect are all thrown out the window. I wish that these cheating people could feel the pain of their family. They would never think of continuing the situation. They would stop and think about what they may lose.Noone lives forever
lover

Jennings, LA

#7 Dec 4, 2009
It's real nice to see people replying to this topic with the same heartfelt opinions.Cheaters will never understand the hurt they put on a husband,wife or a confused child.A child may be young,but they sense when something is wrong.I had to put my kids to sleep many of times crying on my weekend with them while the mother is out screwing around or in the bars looking for "true love"or so they think.When a couple marry and carry out their vows til their death ,I feel that is true love and dedication and is very honorable to me.If my wife(now ex-wife)would die before me(which I don't wish that on no one),I would feel so thankful,honored,loved,and blessed knowing I had a faithful wife.I don't think I would be able to sit at her funeral though listening to lies about her life such as"she was a loving wife",and "a devoted mother".A devoted mother wouldn't be in bars while others watch the kids,and the term "a loving wife"means to be that to your husband and to no other.
The Scholar

Mandeville, LA

#8 Dec 6, 2009
We are a forgiving nation. We in Church Point forgiving people. If people would just come clean and apologize, then life could go back to normal. This would save a lot of heartache for everyone involved. Living a lie will just dig you deeper and deeper. Sooner or later, you'll forget who you are and what made you succesful. Put your pride away and just do what is right for your family and friends. Everything else will work itself out. There is no shame in admitting that you had a lapse in judgement (see Tiger Woods).
lover

Jennings, LA

#9 Dec 6, 2009
let the guilt convict those .these people knew what they were doing when they were spreading their legs for someone else and not their spouse.the beauty of this topic,is no names even have to be mentioned here.those who were unfaithful know who they are,and nothing they can say or do will bring back the love and trust that once was.
pain

Houston, TX

#10 Dec 6, 2009
it is really a bad thing when someone cheats on their spouse and then tell the spouse that they cheated but don't tell the whole story,its like they are keeping a secret or they are holding something over your head and it becomes hard to trust.But here you are trying to forgive and they keep doing things to make you think they are still being unfaithful.Like hanging out in night clubs,and staying out all night,then come home and try to make you feel like your the one that's doing wrong.What they don't understand is that the reason they go through so much is because they're unfaithful and God doesn't sleep.when two people stand up before God and say those vows they don't really listen to what they are saying.They have an arguement and then someone tells them something that they want to hear and there you have it.
lover

Jennings, LA

#11 Dec 6, 2009
cheaters will never tell a spouse the whole story (if any),that's where the lies,betrayels,temptation, and whatever else excites them continues to thrive.a spouse (victim)is generally the last to even know of the ordeal,because cheaters lie and hide it so well.their family members will also vauch and aid them with it because a cheater will convince their family members of all the unhappines stories and lying facts of the other spouse being so bad or whatnot,and yes forgetting of the vows-for better or worse.they love the secret rondeszous and meeting places and the thrill of doing it but not getting caught.even if a cheating spouse would want to return to her or his family,they will never understand what hurt the other went thru,and yes a together family is a beautiful and wonderful thing,but the love and trust is ruined now by what was done.so....was 20to30 minutes of lust worth their children crying,and having their little hearts broken and having a lifelong hurt they don't know of what happened?
The Scholar

Mandeville, LA

#12 Dec 6, 2009
Well, the person or persons that have cheated will have to live with what they have done. If they have any compassion at all, the guilt will eventually kill them (on the inside). The family/spouse that has been cheated on has felt great pain, but it's nothing like the pain the person that committed that act will feel when they realize they have lost everything that they worked so hard to build; for lust. Cheaters know what they've done. They get defensive and truly get offended when someone confronts them about the issue; and they begin to blame everyone else for what has happened. They are living in their own little world. They are so caught up in the moment, they don't know what's real anymore.
lover

Jennings, LA

#13 Dec 7, 2009
very well put,some even go to church the morning after and still not realizing reality and the destruction of their family but claim they are a good christian woman.believe that?
words from the wise

Church Point, LA

#14 Dec 7, 2009
u r totally right! the guilt does tear that person who cheated apart. And when the couple decides to get back together it still tears them apart for both persons. the one whocheated holds guilt and they think their spouse will do to what they did ti him/her. it takes a while to truly forgive that person but you never forget. it gets brought up in arguements and the victim is very jealous and cautious. believe me its hard to work through a situation like that. the children handle things different from us. They have separation issues and lash out r stay to themselves. At the time they r cheating the thought of the family is not there, they r thinking about sex and thats it. they dont think of the family hurting just themselves. i decided to work through it with my spouse but its not easy. it takes alot of work. But my family is better together. Keep god in your heart and being open and honest with your partner. I believe when you say your vows its a promise to god and each other. you dont go back on your word. Just be there for your children. When you look into theeir eyes you want to be strong for them. Dont use your kids for a shoulder tocry on.they dont need their mother or father crying or talking about what happened. Doing things with your kids brings your spirits up and the children. DONT EVER THINKK YOU CANT DO IT ALONE CAUSE YOU CAN! Ive been their and im saying from experience Its a messed up thing to happen but maybe its a sign sayig you needed this as another lesson in life to learn. It only makess you stronger. Do you deserve this, hell no. And dont ask yourelf what did ii do wrong. you beat urself up when you do tha. you did nothing wrong. its not your fault.
lover

Jennings, LA

#15 Dec 7, 2009
so glad were all on the same page.the cheating whores(women who cheated)and cheating a#@!#hole men can't say a damn thing on here because what we speak is the truth and knowing our promises with the vows we took to god and to our spouses.there is nothing a cheater can say on here to make this topic be convinced otherwise.nothing!no names have to be said ,ya'll know who ya'll are.so,you can go around being nice to others as if you would never be unfaithful, and it wasn't your fault,and have your little dates and hide what you did to your new flings,hopefully it will come back around.don't be so sure your ex-spouse will still be there, or even want you anymore to resort back to .
lover

Jennings, LA

#16 Dec 9, 2009
ANY PERSON WHO WAS CHEATED ON ,please look this information up i saw on cnn yesterday.type in -beware cheaters:your lovers spouse can sue you -in the search box.there are lawsuits called "alienation of affection"when an outsider interferes with a marriage.the lawsuits are allowed in seven states.louisiana is not on the list yet ,but sure as hell needs needs to be.please read this article and let's see what we can do to have louisiana lawmakers put this one into effect.just search cnn on the computer and type beware cheaters:your lovers spouse can sue you in the search box and please read.
connie

Kinder, LA

#17 Dec 9, 2009
lover wrote:
ANY PERSON WHO WAS CHEATED ON ,please look this information up i saw on cnn yesterday.type in -beware cheaters:your lovers spouse can sue you -in the search box.there are lawsuits called "alienation of affection"when an outsider interferes with a marriage.the lawsuits are allowed in seven states.louisiana is not on the list yet ,but sure as hell needs needs to be.please read this article and let's see what we can do to have louisiana lawmakers put this one into effect.just search cnn on the computer and type beware cheaters:your lovers spouse can sue you in the search box and please read.
they need to sue them for the pain they dish out.
lover

Jennings, LA

#18 Dec 9, 2009
look it up on cnn.read down some of the comments and opinions on this.my opinion on it is ,either the lover (man or woman)should be sued ,or the unfaithful spouse at least should be accountable for their actions of adultery or both for breaking up a family.the unfaithful spouse should have to pay for all court cost as well as be burdened with rejections from the fringe benefits of the state.the state of louisiana makes it too easy for these people(selfish lying cheaters that just smile in your face).
Lover

Lafayette, LA

#19 Dec 10, 2009
Cheaters will always be cheaters .the lying,selfishness, spitefulness, and vindictive conning ways are a natural to them. They don't care if they hurt their very own family .all a cheater thinks about is their own secret lustful cravings with someone else and denying intimacy with thir own husband/wife. Then thru an ugly divorce try to take whatever's left out of you to get a fresh start with the new lover. I sure hope Louisiana brings in this new law"alienation of affection" so those who decide to cheat can be penalized like they should.
NOVEMBER2009

Crowley, LA

#20 Dec 10, 2009
THE PAIN STAYS

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