Would you force your adult & teenage ...
Well

Van Wert, OH

#21 Jun 7, 2012
TheHeathen wrote:
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To which "process" are you referring?
I'm as real as it gets.
You said this
However, I encourage free-thinking and thinking for one's self.

I asked at what age 1?
TheHeathen

United States

#22 Jun 7, 2012
At the age they start showing the ability to do so. Fostered by offering them choices.

Since: Jan 12

Chillicothe, OH

#23 Jun 7, 2012
Well wrote:
As long as you live under my roof you will do as I say. If you don't like it move out on your own. Have you ever heard or said that about or to children?
I have, but I would NEVER put my child out of my home for a difference in religion. I am religious, but I do not believe every word written in the Bible nor would I force my religious views on others. Religion is a extremely personal thing and child are also individuals as well. I consider myself a pretty strict parent,but I do allow my children to speak their minds. If I think they have a valid point I let them know, but most of the time its my way or no way. This usually occurs for their own protection not because I want them to do it for no reason what so ever!
Well

Van Wert, OH

#24 Jun 7, 2012
TheHeathen wrote:
At the age they start showing the ability to do so. Fostered by offering them choices.
A 2 year old decides what kind of cereal he wants is this old enough for him to decide he wants to cross the street alone?

Church is no different than parents that force or persuade their child to compete in a sports activity such as Little League for example. They can be physically hurt playing sports.
Soooo

Dublin, OH

#25 Jun 7, 2012
classychazy wrote:
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That's my biggest fear! They have already been through a horrible divorce in the last 4 years their father and her were married 18 years. Which was brought on my by their own mothers infidelity and now this! I am ready to pull my hair out. All, but one is talking about moving in with their father and never speaking to her again its breaking my heart.
So interesting how women turn to religion after they have completely screwed up their kids lives by screwing around. Stupid women.

Since: Jan 12

Chillicothe, OH

#26 Jun 7, 2012
classychazy wrote:
My cousin found religion about a year ago she is now forcing her 17, 15, 13, and 10 year old children into going to church. She also told her 20 year old if he comes home from college on the weekends he must also attend or he not need to come home. I believe this is extremely wrong those children are thier own people. It was not a required thing when they were growing up. So my question is am I wrong to point this out to her? She and I have been having a little spat about this, because I am very close to her children and they tell me they do not want to attend. I feel religion is such a personal thing that she is in the wrong. What's your take on this?
I grew up going to church with my mom and dad. But when I reached my teenage years I wasn't given the choice whether to go or not to go. My mom just expected me to go. And if I didn't, then I wasn't able to do things that day. It made me not want to go even more. I am grown now with two children and do not attend church. I appreciate my parents for introducing me to God at a young age. It has given me a stable spiritual foundation. I consider myself a Godly person. I talk to Him everyday on my own terms. My children have attended church with my parents and in-laws on occasion. I don't feel you need to attend church every Sunday to have a relationship with Him. I believe my experience as a teenager has led me to not attend church. I feel everyone should have their own choice in the matter of religion and how they want to worship whether its being active in a church or talking to Him first thing in the morning as you sit up in bed. One day I might find a church that I would like to attend. By no means am I against going to church. But as of right now, I am happy with the way I communicate with my God. It's just a choice that I have made and I believe He accepts me just the way I am.
Boots

United States

#27 Jun 7, 2012
I don't believe it is rite to force it upon them, but as a parent we want to do what we personally think is best for our children. I think it is wonderful that your cousin has found religion, but I think you should introduce your children to religion at a mmuch younger age than those mentioned. A teenager who has no knowledge of religion OS probably not going to be to compliant with the idea. Maybe, she should try a differant approach. Like, try to compromise with the experience, ask the children to attend a few times and experience it for themselves and then let them make the decision of weather it is rite for them. Just because the parents feel one religion is the " rite" one, does not mean the children will feel the same. Teaching them about religion is a wonderful idea, nut you cannot force them to share those beliefs.
Boots

United States

#28 Jun 7, 2012
Sorry, for any typos I am using a touch screen. LOL
chickenfriedrice

Portage, MI

#29 Jun 7, 2012
If a child wants to go to church fine, if they do not that is fine, but do not believe everything you hear. You have to actually study the bible yourself reading the Greek and Latin, and finding what the words actually mean.

Since: Jan 12

Chillicothe, OH

#30 Jun 7, 2012
TheHeathen wrote:
Here is a great article on the subject.
http://richarddawkins.net/articles/118-religi...
Very interesting article! Gives you a lot to think about and points out a very good debatable subject.

Since: Jan 12

Chillicothe, OH

#31 Jun 7, 2012
chickenfriedrice wrote:
If a child wants to go to church fine, if they do not that is fine, but do not believe everything you hear. You have to actually study the bible yourself reading the Greek and Latin, and finding what the words actually mean.
I agree 100%! This is one reason I do not believe a lot of the things that is written. There were two more important parts of the Bible that were weeded out. The Catholic have only given us what they want put into the book. No matter what denomination you are the Bible is still control by the Catholic faith.
Thinning The herd

Dublin, OH

#32 Jun 7, 2012
Is dancing with snakes still legal? I'd go back if I could dance with some snakes. Oh, and coal walk.
tbay

Chillicothe, OH

#33 Jun 7, 2012
I honestly think that you shouldn't force your children to go to church. Just because she is now religious she can't expect her children to feel that way, being that they were never exposed to religion before. I think that I would have my younger ones go with me to see if they were interested, sure. I would not force them.

Since: Jun 12

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#34 Jun 7, 2012
classychazy wrote:
My cousin found religion about a year ago she is now forcing her 17, 15, 13, and 10 year old children into going to church. She also told her 20 year old if he comes home from college on the weekends he must also attend or he not need to come home. I believe this is extremely wrong those children are thier own people. It was not a required thing when they were growing up. So my question is am I wrong to point this out to her? She and I have been having a little spat about this, because I am very close to her children and they tell me they do not want to attend. I feel religion is such a personal thing that she is in the wrong. What's your take on this?
That is real easy. Not your children not your business.

Since: Jan 12

Chillicothe, OH

#35 Jun 7, 2012
Gizmodius wrote:
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That is real easy. Not your children not your business.
It is my business when her children are coming to me for advice! I have really no answer for them. The 20 year old is just heartbroken over this situation. They are my blood and i love them so it is my business!

Since: Jun 12

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#36 Jun 7, 2012
classychazy wrote:
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It is my business when her children are coming to me for advice! I have really no answer for them. The 20 year old is just heartbroken over this situation. They are my blood and i love them so it is my business!
While your concerns are yours to feel, The rights of the parent must be protected. Once a child becomes of legal age they have the right to do as they decide. You may not like it but the parents are the ones that decide. Voicing your displeasure to the parent is a discussion between adults. Voicing your opinion or influence on someone's children against the wishes of a parent is interference. For example: Children want candy but parents may say no eat health food. Children want to stay up all night but parents force a bedtime. I know these things are hard to accept by some people but the wishes of the parents must be respected. To the underage children these issues are between the parent and the child. Hope this helps..
Up urs

Dublin, OH

#37 Jun 7, 2012
Gizmodius wrote:
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While your concerns are yours to feel, The rights of the parent must be protected. Once a child becomes of legal age they have the right to do as they decide. You may not like it but the parents are the ones that decide. Voicing your displeasure to the parent is a discussion between adults. Voicing your opinion or influence on someone's children against the wishes of a parent is interference. For example: Children want candy but parents may say no eat health food. Children want to stay up all night but parents force a bedtime. I know these things are hard to accept by some people but the wishes of the parents must be respected. To the underage children these issues are between the parent and the child. Hope this helps..
you need to get some dick, lady.

Since: Feb 12

Van Wert, OH

#38 Jun 7, 2012
TheHeathen wrote:
If I or anyone told you that they get their child to behave by telling them that if they do NOT behave, they Tthe parents) would kill them (the children) noone in their right mind would disagree that this is BLATANT child abuse. If someone said that they made their kids tell all other kids that they were horrible because they didn't follow the rules laid down by THEIR parents, you would say that this too was a form of abuse, because it is opening up these kids for a lot of trouble during school and playground time.
This IS religion in a nutshell.
Terrifying children with the idea of hell is child abuse. Forcing children to endure through classes and services and sermons where they are told that they are bad people, worthless and "sinners" damages their self esteem and turns them into hive-collective-thinkers.
It IS child abuse. Unfortunately, it is an accepted form of child abuse.
You really don't get it, do you?. Sorry you are so misinformed.
seriously?

Chillicothe, OH

#39 Jun 7, 2012
Gizmodius wrote:
<quoted text>While your concerns are yours to feel, The rights of the parent must be protected. Once a child becomes of legal age they have the right to do as they decide. You may not like it but the parents are the ones that decide. Voicing your displeasure to the parent is a discussion between adults. Voicing your opinion or influence on someone's children against the wishes of a parent is interference. For example: Children want candy but parents may say no eat health food. Children want to stay up all night but parents force a bedtime. I know these things are hard to accept by some people but the wishes of the parents must be respected. To the underage children these issues are between the parent and the child. Hope this helps..
I see your point. However, to force your ideas on your child is a much different subject than to regulate your child's health and well being. Especially once they've reached their teenage years and you're trying to change them all of a sudden.
tbay

Chillicothe, OH

#40 Jun 7, 2012
classychazy wrote:
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It is my business when her children are coming to me for advice! I have really no answer for them. The 20 year old is just heartbroken over this situation. They are my blood and i love them so it is my business!
I agree, and you have issues with it yourself because of the hurt it is causing the children. You are family. You are doing the right thing Chazy.

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