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Mothers keeping their children away from THE real fathers

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confused

United States

#1 Jan 15, 2011
how do you feel about Mothers keeping the child from their REAL father, when she married another man bc she thinks all the child needs is the stand in?.. but yet the real father wants his child and pays child suppourt.
Sorry

United States

#2 Jan 15, 2011
It shouldn't happen and unfortunatley it does. I was a good ex wife. I never kept my children away from their dad. Just because him and I grew apart didn't mean he loved them any less. And I understood that. Today they are young adults and have good relationships with their dad. Don't give up.
Papa

Chillicothe, MO

#3 Jan 15, 2011
confused wrote:
how do you feel about Mothers keeping the child from their REAL father, when she married another man bc she thinks all the child needs is the stand in?.. but yet the real father wants his child and pays child suppourt.
What does the divorce decree say about child visitations? That is a starting point for negotiations. It may take going back to court to see that the visitations are fair. When she is not fair, it may take another court appearance for the judge to enforce his order. It is contempt of court not to follow the judge's ruling on child visitaton.

A lot of courts take a dim view of mothers who withhold the fathers parental rights. In some cases, they have actually changed the custody of the children to the father becasse of the mother's behavior. She has a responsibility to see that the children see their father, if he wants them, and courts frown on her if she doesn't.

“Just Think of Duck Sauce ”

Since: Oct 09

Where the Green Grass Grows

#4 Jan 15, 2011
I know how this can effect a Whole family first hand. It is not right. The mother does not realize the child is also a part of a family that loves them. Niece's, Nephew's, cousin's are losing out, grand child to grandparents, great grandchild to great grand parents, and in my case Great Great grand mother losing out on watching them grow and spending what time they have with them is taken away. So on and so forth, we have missed out on so much.

In our case, The mother ignores visitation orders time and time again. Late to visitation drop off. She married into my husbands family and so it has caused some major rifts in the way my husbands family does things. So far as family get togethers ect. Its plain "childish"
If the father wants to be in the childs life. Supports them and upholds his end of the deal. There should be no reason other than selfishness keeping the child away from their father. Just because you are no longer with the guy and don't want to realize you are tied to him for the rest of your life through a child you had together. Is no reason for the dad to be excluded from his babies life. Missing her firsts and watching her grow. Along with his families.Because you don't want to grow up and be an adult about a situation the two of you screwed up. You should not take it out on him or the take her away from a man who wants to stand up and be a father to his child. Many don't, you should be thankful he wants to be there.
Chilli mom

Chillicothe, MO

#5 Jan 15, 2011
It seems we all know someone (or are someone) with a blended family situation.

All I can say is if you love your child, do what is best for them and keep the peace. Agree to disagree and give them the blessing of a peaceful childhood. They only get one, don't ruin it.
mens rights

Chillicothe, MO

#6 Jan 15, 2011
Too many parents use their children as a weapon. I have seen a lot of people who create their own drama, hate, and problems because they do the above.

Just because someone has a vagina does not make them the best parent.
confused

Chillicothe, MO

#7 Jan 15, 2011
its been going on for awhile i just wish she would think about her child and how its hurting her in the long run. just bc she married dont mean her husband can be a father to her, he can be a stand in but will never be anything like her daddy. we LOVE spending time with the child when its our "Turn" but when its time to get her or drop her off its a huge fight! and they do it infront of the child which isnt right at all.
Chilli mom

Chillicothe, MO

#8 Jan 15, 2011
confused wrote:
its been going on for awhile i just wish she would think about her child and how its hurting her in the long run. just bc she married dont mean her husband can be a father to her, he can be a stand in but will never be anything like her daddy. we LOVE spending time with the child when its our "Turn" but when its time to get her or drop her off its a huge fight! and they do it infront of the child which isnt right at all.
I would suggest making your meeting place in the parking lot of the police station. That environment tends to put a damper on the negative drama.:)
preacher man

Overland Park, KS

#9 Jan 15, 2011
I don't "feel" she became a no good bitch after you knocked her up. My guess is she was like that all along.
confused

United States

#10 Jan 16, 2011
we have court papers already but "she" thinks that she is in charge. if she isnt in charge then she always has something to b**** about. posting rude things on fb to all her friends trying to get me to look like the bad guy here. i can only be nice to her for so long but im not the one to fight infront of the child like she is. she just needs to think about it and how its hurting the child more than her yelling at me. i WILL always be inthe child life no matter what even if she dont like it!. time to get over urself.. and i dont know why my city and state keep changing..
Chilli mom

Chillicothe, MO

#11 Jan 16, 2011
I would suggest meeting in a VERY public place, and not engaging in the argument. It takes two to argue. You can just get in your vehicle and leave.

Your child watches EVERY move you make. If the ex starts yelling at you, smile at your child, say, "Daddy loves you; see you next time." And then leave.

Your child will see that you don't engage in that behavior and will respect you for it in the end.

“Just Think of Duck Sauce ”

Since: Oct 09

Where the Green Grass Grows

#12 Jan 16, 2011
I know someone who would argue with a stop sign lol
waiting for the moment

De Soto, KS

#13 Jan 17, 2011
This is not only a divorce issue. Young girls are eager to plop out babies in this town for not only the child support but for all the government perks that goes along with it. Then they think they own the child, don't ask the fathers opionion on anything! They are in controll with the family holidays and visitations...the whole nine yards..town full of money making machines!!
waiting for the moment

De Soto, KS

#14 Jan 17, 2011
Papa wrote:
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What does the divorce decree say about child visitations? That is a starting point for negotiations. It may take going back to court to see that the visitations are fair. When she is not fair, it may take another court appearance for the judge to enforce his order. It is contempt of court not to follow the judge's ruling on child visitaton.
A lot of courts take a dim view of mothers who withhold the fathers parental rights. In some cases, they have actually changed the custody of the children to the father becasse of the mother's behavior. She has a responsibility to see that the children see their father, if he wants them, and courts frown on her if she doesn't.
It takes thousands of dollars to even take them back to court for contempt!!! Then the judge says "don't do that again" bullshit is what it is!!
waiting for the moment

De Soto, KS

#15 Jan 17, 2011
Some of the girls have a new live-in about as often as they change underwear! I can't even imagine what those babies think! They must really be confused.

“Just Think of Duck Sauce ”

Since: Oct 09

Where the Green Grass Grows

#16 Jan 17, 2011
thus the reason why we keep producing more baby makers. Girls need a solid male role modle

“Just Think of Duck Sauce ”

Since: Oct 09

Where the Green Grass Grows

#17 Jan 17, 2011
sorry for the mistype there
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Austin, TX

#18 Jan 17, 2011
It is time that the systems are changed. Men are as competent to raise a child as a woman. There should be changes made that will protect the child the best and sometimes it is not the woman that can do it. For many years the system has always favored for the mother and left the father standing there scratching his head. How many women do you know that has cheated on there husband and been given custody and child support by the current system.Women should be held accounable for their action as the men are. It's sad to see some of the dad's that lose their child from an unfaithful wife.
the moment will come

De Soto, KS

#19 Jan 17, 2011
waiting for the moment wrote:
<quoted text>It takes thousands of dollars to even take them back to court for contempt!!! Then the judge says "don't do that again" bullshit is what it is!!
Well a man could rake her though the coals with attorney fees and make her pay the hard way if she don't wish to grow up and do right by the father and the child! Only sad part is all suffer because the mothers thick skull!
waiting for the moment

De Soto, KS

#20 Jan 17, 2011
It is more sad to see mother's that have 5 babies with 5 different daddy's! What are we really telling our children?? Getting married is about to become history! It's okay..go ahead..you can get child support and lay on your back and the government will pay you for it!!!! And the father has no say so how they live unless he pays out the yeng yang for it, it's not right..

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