Police say suicidal driver caused double-fatal crash on I-64

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Police still have not released the name of the man who caused the fatal crash, but they have said the crash was not an accident. Full Story
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OBX

Manteo, NC

#2 Apr 27, 2010
The driver of the Camry was Robert O'Brien. The woman is his wife, Chona Mae O'Brien.
Dooooce

Chesapeake, VA

#4 Apr 27, 2010
OBX wrote:
The driver of the Camry was Robert O'Brien. The woman is his wife, Chona Mae O'Brien.
Way to go, you idiot

Maybe their relatives haven't been notified yet
The Watcher

Clinton, NC

#5 Apr 27, 2010
I feel sorry for the families who were left behind. My thoughts and prayers go out to them. It is awful to take your own life, but to take an innocent life with you when you go....heartless !! May God have mercy on your soul.
Dooooce

Chesapeake, VA

#6 Apr 27, 2010
The Watcher wrote:
I feel sorry for the families who were left behind. My thoughts and prayers go out to them. It is awful to take your own life, but to take an innocent life with you when you go....heartless !! May God have mercy on your soul.
Lighten up, Francis

Stuff happens
Amy Williamson Markowitz

Portsmouth, VA

#8 Apr 27, 2010
the innocent man killed was my grandfater. he was a wonderful man who would have done anything for anyone. If this man wanted to kill himself he should have left innocent people out of it. My grandfathers body was shot clean across the highway and now our whole family will never be the same. There is no excuse for what happened. And to you Doooce I hope when someone you love is murdered for no reason someone will tell you to lighten up, casue stuff happens.
Hickory native

United States

#10 Apr 28, 2010
Amy I am so terribly sorry for you loss!! There is NO excuse for what happened to your grandfather!!!
I grew up with Robert and am in shock that he would kill himself, much less be so unbelievably thoughtless as to take your grandfather with him. I hope some day you and your family can find it in your hearts to forgive Robert for what he has taken from you. He was a good man in what he must have felt was an imposibble situation in life. Not an excuse, just an observance. God Bless!!
shadowtraveller

Hampton, VA

#11 Apr 28, 2010
warm howdy to you amy. i am so very sorry to hear of your grandfathers death due to the mental suffering of another. "he was a wonderful man who would have done anything for anyone". i gather this is what he did the best in life and he "gave" his life so no one else would have to. often we go through life wondering of the meaning of it all. is it "happenstance"? "kismet?" your grandfather will be remembered for his wonderful deeds of which this is another and with MUCH sacrifice. my heart goes out to all in this case. may mrs. o'brien heal and find peace.
Dooooce

Chesapeake, VA

#12 Apr 28, 2010
Amy Williamson Markowitz wrote:
the innocent man killed was my grandfater. he was a wonderful man who would have done anything for anyone. If this man wanted to kill himself he should have left innocent people out of it. My grandfathers body was shot clean across the highway and now our whole family will never be the same. There is no excuse for what happened. And to you Doooce I hope when someone you love is murdered for no reason someone will tell you to lighten up, casue stuff happens.
I am very sorry for your loss. The "lighten up" remark was not directed at you or your family. That remark was directed toward "Watcher" who had nothing to do with the victim of this tragedy. "Watcher" is one of those drama queens who tries to latch on to the tradgedy of others to get attenion for herself
friend

Chesapeake, VA

#14 Apr 28, 2010
So sorry to the innocent people who have been affected by Roberts actions. Please dont judge til u walk in those shoes. He was a very good person who made some very wrong choices and others suffered.Maybe someday everyone can find a way to forgive Robert for taking an innocent man with him.Never was there any idea he would do something like this. Love crazy people. He felt he couldnt live without his wife who had left him after he brought her here from the Phillipines for a better life. He continued to support her poor family over the yrs too. So see, everyone doesnt know the whole truth.There are 3 sides to every story. He should have made better choices, no one is worth dying over.
sad times

Chesapeake, VA

#15 Apr 28, 2010
Gods plan happened monday nite. We can not stop what He has planned for our lives. Robert brought a meek girl here from the Phillipines and turned out she became very wordly. So, she decided the grass was greener on the other side and left him for her independence. Didnt want him controlling her any longer. He got possessive with her and wanted her back. She said "NO" so he figured if he couldnt have her then no one was. Why he chose that way to end things is not known yet.
Some of his friends would have helped , but Robert was a very private person and didnt want everyone in his marriage business.God only knows why he took the way out he chose.
The wife isnt innocent in this mess either.She played a big role in this craziness.Maybe she needs to be deported back to her own country.No more Robert to help her. In a way RObert was a victim too.
Kristan

Burlington, NC

#18 Apr 28, 2010
sad times wrote:
Gods plan happened monday nite. We can not stop what He has planned for our lives. Robert brought a meek girl here from the Phillipines and turned out she became very wordly. So, she decided the grass was greener on the other side and left him for her independence. Didnt want him controlling her any longer. He got possessive with her and wanted her back. She said "NO" so he figured if he couldnt have her then no one was. Why he chose that way to end things is not known yet.
Some of his friends would have helped , but Robert was a very private person and didnt want everyone in his marriage business.God only knows why he took the way out he chose.
The wife isnt innocent in this mess either.She played a big role in this craziness.Maybe she needs to be deported back to her own country.No more Robert to help her. In a way RObert was a victim too.
What kind of drugs are you on?
The Angel

Manteo, NC

#20 May 8, 2010
I know first hand how Robert's mind worked b/c he was my b/f back in 1985, and we hooked back up in 1996. In his defense, he just wanted to love and be loved. He was raised as an only child, therefore, he was selfish. I saw the good side of him, the caring side. But somewhere down the line he became controlling, bossy, big ego, and depressed. He knocked anybody who took anti-depressants and called them "crazy people". I told him he needed counseling but he said it was ridiculous, and he used street drugs to mask his pain. I feel really sorry for the elderly man who died and his surviving family. As for the wife who was trying to leave him, well, I can't blame her for trying. I had all the support I needed to get away, but he still made it a living hell for 2-3 years after I left. He can't take rejection. Back in 1999 the police did not have restraining order for stalking, so I had to deal with his craziness. Finally, he met another, she dumped him, she got a restraining order, he went crazy. He went online, found another filipina gal with the same name has g/f #2 from same place in PI, went there and married her. I always hoped he would find the love he was looking for. But, he tried to control her like he did me and g/f #2 and the wife just could not take it anymore. Unless you lived in an abusive relationship, do not knock it. I feel sorry for his wife b/c she had to have been traumatized and then he locked her in the car to die with him. Robert changed alot from the good old days. He became very a calculating, obsessive, judgemental, lying hypocrit. He aggravated everybody with his bragging and "know it all" and "I got it all" attitude. He was a small man with a big mouth. I cannot believe he really killed himself. He had guns because he held one to my face when I left him. Why could he not just kill himself and leave everyone else out of it if he was that darn miserable?? I am sorry the other man died. That is so unjust and no reason he should have died just because Robert was unhappy. Makes me sick thinking about it. I hope Mr Williamson's family pursue all of Robert's assets. As for Rob's wife, she is lucky to be alive and to have her freedom to move on with her life without being bothered by him anymore.
Dooooce

Chesapeake, VA

#21 May 8, 2010
The Angel wrote:
I know first hand how Robert's mind worked b/c he was my b/f back in 1985, and we hooked back up in 1996. In his defense, he just wanted to love and be loved. He was raised as an only child, therefore, he was selfish. I saw the good side of him, the caring side. But somewhere down the line he became controlling, bossy, big ego, and depressed. He knocked anybody who took anti-depressants and called them "crazy people". I told him he needed counseling but he said it was ridiculous, and he used street drugs to mask his pain. I feel really sorry for the elderly man who died and his surviving family. As for the wife who was trying to leave him, well, I can't blame her for trying. I had all the support I needed to get away, but he still made it a living hell for 2-3 years after I left. He can't take rejection. Back in 1999 the police did not have restraining order for stalking, so I had to deal with his craziness. Finally, he met another, she dumped him, she got a restraining order, he went crazy. He went online, found another filipina gal with the same name has g/f #2 from same place in PI, went there and married her. I always hoped he would find the love he was looking for. But, he tried to control her like he did me and g/f #2 and the wife just could not take it anymore. Unless you lived in an abusive relationship, do not knock it. I feel sorry for his wife b/c she had to have been traumatized and then he locked her in the car to die with him. Robert changed alot from the good old days. He became very a calculating, obsessive, judgemental, lying hypocrit. He aggravated everybody with his bragging and "know it all" and "I got it all" attitude. He was a small man with a big mouth. I cannot believe he really killed himself. He had guns because he held one to my face when I left him. Why could he not just kill himself and leave everyone else out of it if he was that darn miserable?? I am sorry the other man died. That is so unjust and no reason he should have died just because Robert was unhappy. Makes me sick thinking about it. I hope Mr Williamson's family pursue all of Robert's assets. As for Rob's wife, she is lucky to be alive and to have her freedom to move on with her life without being bothered by him anymore.
Is this your "15 minutes of fame"

I guess you don't mind going on the internet looking like a dumb bimbo just so you can get attention.

YOu were with him in 1986 and left him because of abuse, so I guess you hooked back up in 1996 because you were looking for more

I would bet a dollar to a doughnut you have had quite a few "abusive" relationships before and after this chump. People like you feed off this kind of drama. You are probably jelous of his estranged wife, because she is the one who drove him to suicide instead of you

You should have taken this drama of yours on Jerry Springer, Maury or Oprah and got a few bucks out of it. It might not be too late, check their websites. Maybe you can get your current boyfriend to hit you during the filming
An Acquaintance

Vacaville, CA

#22 May 17, 2010
Angel, are you suggesting that being an only child makes you selfish?? That's a sad thought. If he is the terrible man you state, did you not get enough the first time you were with him and then feel the need to come back for more? My wife and I also knew them before they were married. We lived in the Philippines prior to me coming back here in '07. Robert asked my wife about Visa's and Chona was from the same province as my wife. I agree with some people's statement both of Robert and Chona. My view of Robert is minimal to the extent I do not believe someone would go to the extent to kill himself AND his wife because he was jealous or possessive. Very hard to imagine this is his reasoning for what others here have stated. To me, it doesn't make sense. I know for a fact from chat and emails Chona made to my wife that she stated that "she can manipulate" ANY man and make him do what she wants. My wife stil has the email to prove this statement. One can only look at Chona's bragging and boasting on both her Facebook and Friendster websites that she wanted everyone to know how "successful" she'd become since coming here to the US. She has gone to the extent to be chatting with others like nothing ever happened. She doesn't come online and say how sorry she is for what has happened or even an apology to the other family for their loss. She just speaks of how ghosts have been visiting her and how scared she is. But she is going on with her life...again...like nothing happened? In the time she was apart from Robert, she changed her name back to Cuestas, took all her pics offline and since the accident all of a sudden she's Obrien again, pics up and everything. She wants everyone to think she is innocent. Does this sound like a grieving wife? Yes, she has become worldly and I too believe she is not by any means "innocent". Chona was datiing a Chinese man and on her way to China before she met Robert. He wanted to see her more and the only way for that to happen was for him to pay the 200K fee to the agency that was sending her abroad. He paid it and she stayed. I'm sure the manipulation started shortly after that. He spent alot of money on her to make her happy. Im sure his friends can attest to this again as evident of all her bragging on friedster about the brand name gifts she had acquired. If anyone knows about visas and immigrant status knows its costly and not cheap by any means. I know for a fact of the costs. I think Chona saw a "money bag" and jumped at the chance to cash in. I doubt she imagined this would happen. I do believe she had something to do with why this man decided to do what he did. Not saying I condone what he did, but something made this man so mad that he would leave his house in a hurry, pickup his wife and then commence to take both of their lives plus anyone else on the road without thinking twice. It's obviouse he planned to go through with this since he called and told a friend to check his place for "AN 11 page Letter/Suicide note"????!?? Robert was pissed about something, not from a "If I can't live without you no one can" attitude. Someone with that thought process wouldn't leave an 11 page letter. Most people who commit suicide leave a short note but 11 pages...come on! I'm not sure if we will ever know what the letter says unless the investigators have told the Williamson family. I truly hope Chona can live with herself now. I doubt we'll see anymore bragging...but this is Chona Mae Cuestas Obrien.
Dooooce

Chesapeake, VA

#23 May 17, 2010
An Acquaintance wrote:
Angel, are you suggesting that being an only child makes you selfish?? That's a sad thought. If he is the terrible man you state, did you not get enough the first time you were with him and then feel the need to come back for more? My wife and I also knew them before they were married. We lived in the Philippines prior to me coming back here in '07. Robert asked my wife about Visa's and Chona was from the same province as my wife. I agree with some people's statement both of Robert and Chona. My view of Robert is minimal to the extent I do not believe someone would go to the extent to kill himself AND his wife because he was jealous or possessive. Very hard to imagine this is his reasoning for what others here have stated. To me, it doesn't make sense. I know for a fact from chat and emails Chona made to my wife that she stated that "she can manipulate" ANY man and make him do what she wants. My wife stil has the email to prove this statement. One can only look at Chona's bragging and boasting on both her Facebook and Friendster websites that she wanted everyone to know how "successful" she'd become since coming here to the US. She has gone to the extent to be chatting with others like nothing ever happened. She doesn't come online and say how sorry she is for what has happened or even an apology to the other family for their loss. She just speaks of how ghosts have been visiting her and how scared she is. But she is going on with her life...again...like nothing happened? In the time she was apart from Robert, she changed her name back to Cuestas, took all her pics offline and since the accident all of a sudden she's Obrien again, pics up and everything. She wants everyone to think she is innocent. Does this sound like a grieving wife? Yes, she has become worldly and I too believe she is not by any means "innocent". Chona was datiing a Chinese man and on her way to China before she met Robert. He wanted to see her more and the only way for that to happen was for him to pay the 200K fee to the agency that was sending her abroad. He paid it and she stayed. I'm sure the manipulation started shortly after that. He spent alot of money on her to make her happy. Im sure his friends can attest to this again as evident of all her bragging on friedster about the brand name gifts she had acquired. If anyone knows about visas and immigrant status knows its costly and not cheap by any means. I know for a fact of the costs. I think Chona saw a "money bag" and jumped at the chance to cash in. I doubt she imagined this would happen. I do believe she had something to do with why this man decided to do what he did. Not saying I condone what he did, but something made this man so mad that he would leave his house in a hurry, pickup his wife and then commence to take both of their lives plus anyone else on the road without thinking twice. It's obviouse he planned to go through with this since he called and told a friend to check his place for "AN 11 page Letter/Suicide note"????!?? Robert was pissed about something, not from a "If I can't live without you no one can" attitude. Someone with that thought process wouldn't leave an 11 page letter. Most people who commit suicide leave a short note but 11 pages...come on! I'm not sure if we will ever know what the letter says unless the investigators have told the Williamson family. I truly hope Chona can live with herself now. I doubt we'll see anymore bragging...but this is Chona Mae Cuestas Obrien.
I don’t mean to be crass, but I have always been curious about something. Are they really horizontal or is that just an “urban myth”
Response to Angel -

Virginia Beach, VA

#24 Jun 30, 2010
It's amazing what people claim in these situations, and I think I know who "Angel" is, as I was one of the guys Robert grew up with. Robert did NOT grow up an only child. He had an older brother that still lived with them, well up into Robert’s teen years. And I vaguely recall another brother older than that, who lived in CA? I think. The point is, when are people going to realize that the people who knew Robert, are not participating in this self indulgent, Jerry Springer-esque drama board. Yes, it IS a tragedy, but take these assertions for what they are, people. For the ones who really knew what was going on with Robert and Chona aren't wasting their time (and others’) on this board spreading speculation and rumors.
Spike

Chesapeake, VA

#25 Jun 30, 2010
What a shame, the driver tried to kill TWO people (I'm assuming the wife was supposed to be a victim too), but his selfish actions took the life of an innocent bystander and there could have been more. Defenders of the driver, please remember what he did was intentional, and he had no respect for juman life when he made that decision. For the family of the victim, sorry about your loss remember the good times, because even as awful as this is, you still have the memories.

OK, Dooooce, fire away with your hate filled venom.

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gauley bridge wv

#26 Jun 30, 2010
Amy Williamson Markowitz wrote:
the innocent man killed was my grandfater. he was a wonderful man who would have done anything for anyone. If this man wanted to kill himself he should have left innocent people out of it. My grandfathers body was shot clean across the highway and now our whole family will never be the same. There is no excuse for what happened. And to you Doooce I hope when someone you love is murdered for no reason someone will tell you to lighten up, casue stuff happens.
Was he the AMarkowitz that posts in the paper?
Dooooce

Chesapeake, VA

#27 Jun 30, 2010
Spike wrote:
What a shame, the driver tried to kill TWO people (I'm assuming the wife was supposed to be a victim too), but his selfish actions took the life of an innocent bystander and there could have been more. Defenders of the driver, please remember what he did was intentional, and he had no respect for juman life when he made that decision. For the family of the victim, sorry about your loss remember the good times, because even as awful as this is, you still have the memories.
OK, Dooooce, fire away with your hate filled venom.
Lighten up, Francis
Free American

Virginia Beach, VA

#28 Jul 1, 2010
Dooooce wrote:
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I don’t mean to be crass, but I have always been curious about something. Are they really horizontal or is that just an “urban myth”
You are even more ignorant than I first thought. Not EVEN funny. What turd for brains!

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