Together OR Seperate Beds

Together OR Seperate Beds

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Curious

Donna, TX

#1 May 6, 2012
Ok my husband and I have been married for about 15 years now. However, we do not sleep in the same bed. Are there any other couples out there that do the same thing. I don't think that we have slept in the same bed for a while now. When we got married we had our first child early and he slept in our bed until they were about 4. After that my husband did not sleep in my bed. I am curious to know if this is normal? I feel lonely at times and think that my marriage may be falling apart.
donethat

Dallas, TX

#2 May 7, 2012
I think its a phase we go through. My husband never left my bed, but he slept on the other side without contact. Our son also slept between us until he was 4. I missed his touch so I had to initial intimacy. If hes still there that means he still cares so you have to spice it up. Good luck.
young gun

Dallas, TX

#3 May 8, 2012
Curious wrote:
Ok my husband and I have been married for about 15 years now. However, we do not sleep in the same bed. Are there any other couples out there that do the same thing. I don't think that we have slept in the same bed for a while now. When we got married we had our first child early and he slept in our bed until they were about 4. After that my husband did not sleep in my bed. I am curious to know if this is normal? I feel lonely at times and think that my marriage may be falling apart.
From a guys point of view... He is getting used to u without touching.. He probably wants sex or love whatever u wanna call it but after so long of bot being able to have it anytime he wants it at night it gets real easy to get bored in the bed..... U might want to spice it up and be sexual.. Let him know u wanna spice it up and also let him know u want him to just take u sometime.... U gotta do what u gotta do
WoW

Donna, TX

#4 May 20, 2012
You know guys a woman also wants more than just sex. My husband works alot and he is gone most of the time. So when he comes home I want him next to me, instead he chooses to sleep away from me. It feels like we have lost that intimacy. Then when he wants sex then he comes to my bed. I have turned him down and it has hurt his ego but after choosing to stay away from me I think I've lost interest in him. We want guys to be romantic tells us how you feel about us. WE are not here just to meet your needs!!
young gun

United States

#5 May 20, 2012
WoW wrote:
You know guys a woman also wants more than just sex. My husband works alot and he is gone most of the time. So when he comes home I want him next to me, instead he chooses to sleep away from me. It feels like we have lost that intimacy. Then when he wants sex then he comes to my bed. I have turned him down and it has hurt his ego but after choosing to stay away from me I think I've lost interest in him. We want guys to be romantic tells us how you feel about us. WE are not here just to meet your needs!!
It's hard sometimes for guys to show feelings... I was always romantic but my job has been working me long and hard hours... It's hard to be focused romance
WoW

Donna, TX

#6 May 20, 2012
young gun wrote:
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It's hard sometimes for guys to show feelings... I was always romantic but my job has been working me long and hard hours... It's hard to be focused romance
Well it's not always about showing your feelings, but it's about making your wife feel wanted. Who wants to hear comments such as "man look at your back it looks like a line backer or look at your belly it looks like your pregnant." I would understand if he wanted a nice skinny wife, if he looked like a nice built husband. Men sometimes don't understand how insensitive they can be. Who wants to be intimate with her husband after hearing comments like that. It's about making your wife feel beautiful. Believe me I know I need to lose the weight but how can I with how busy my life is. Having to work, take care of the kids, and take care my house. I don't care what he looks like as long as he shows me he still loves me. Looks fade but what will remain is he love that you have for each other.
young gun

Dallas, TX

#7 May 20, 2012
WoW wrote:
<quoted text>Well it's not always about showing your feelings, but it's about making your wife feel wanted. Who wants to hear comments such as "man look at your back it looks like a line backer or look at your belly it looks like your pregnant." I would understand if he wanted a nice skinny wife, if he looked like a nice built husband. Men sometimes don't understand how insensitive they can be. Who wants to be intimate with her husband after hearing comments like that. It's about making your wife feel beautiful. Believe me I know I need to lose the weight but how can I with how busy my life is. Having to work, take care of the kids, and take care my house. I don't care what he looks like as long as he shows me he still loves me. Looks fade but what will remain is he love that you have for each other.
True but guys n girls are totally different
From my point

Dallas, TX

#8 May 21, 2012
I've been married for a long time n I've bn through all this sleeping together sleeping apart because of are kids but u both have to make it work. TALKING!! So he knows what you want and you know what he wants. And all the answers have been said your gonna ask for more romance and he's gonna want more sex that's just tha way it is so do what u gotta do before it's to late and u both find love, sex in other places!!! Oh and 4yrs old start tryn to get ur kid out of ur BED GOOD LUCK!!:),
WoW

Donna, TX

#9 May 21, 2012
From my point wrote:
I've been married for a long time n I've bn through all this sleeping together sleeping apart because of are kids but u both have to make it work. TALKING!! So he knows what you want and you know what he wants. And all the answers have been said your gonna ask for more romance and he's gonna want more sex that's just tha way it is so do what u gotta do before it's to late and u both find love, sex in other places!!! Oh and 4yrs old start tryn to get ur kid out of ur BED GOOD LUCK!!:),
I've already tried that. I've told him I need more of him and to no avail. So I think I'm in it just for the kids.
life

United States

#10 May 22, 2012
Just as much as a man needs sex everyday,
a woman needs to be told she's beautiful and that she's loved every single day.
Not in my house

Dallas, TX

#11 May 22, 2012
life wrote:
Just as much as a man needs sex everyday,
a woman needs to be told she's beautiful and that she's loved every single day.
Does a man really need "IT" everyday? Because ever since I've been married we may only have IT once a week of I'm lucky.
young gun

United States

#12 May 22, 2012
Not in my house wrote:
<quoted text>Does a man really need "IT" everyday? Because ever since I've been married we may only have IT once a week of I'm lucky.
I'm a man and I love it everyday... But I can settle for a few days a week and the days we don't trust me I masturbate in privacy.. I'm not trying to be a pervert just honest from my point of view
Same Boat

Donna, TX

#13 May 29, 2012
Ir is hard my husband and I have not slept in the same bed for a few years now he sleeps with our son and I sleep with my daughter. They are both young but we try to make alone time for ourselves after tge kids have gone to sleep.
Want to meet WoW

San Antonio, TX

#14 May 30, 2012
My wife is never in the mood and I'm fed up. I give her everything and she takes it for granted. WoW we should get together and see if this leads to something.
life

United States

#15 May 30, 2012
Not in my house wrote:
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Does a man really need "IT" everyday? Because ever since I've been married we may only have IT once a week of I'm lucky.
Even though they don't get it everyday they think about it all day everyday. I guess it's just a guy thing.
damn

United States

#16 Jun 8, 2012
Ive been married for along time and me and my husband have slept in different beds for years and now that my sons are out of the house and have their own lives we have all the time in the world to be sexual active and he never bothers tooo and i get stupid things in my head that i would like to fine someone thats gonna give me what i want im just wasting my life
Madicon

Tyler, TX

#17 Jun 10, 2012
If I sleep next to my wife I won't be able to wake up on time for work, it feels too good to separate from her and get out of bed, so we sleep on opposite sides, and on our days off, we spoon the entire time.

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