Since: Jul 13

Charleston, WV

#352 Jul 21, 2013
Sum Guy wrote:
I sure bet all of you poor women are doing your very best to go out and work, right? Probably not! I know for a fact that you are doing your best to go get that free money from CS though. You make me sick!
You my good sir are a real dumbass. Not every mother leeches off of the system...(you know..sucks it dry...leech...get it...)
mike lee

Pittsburgh, PA

#353 Sep 7, 2013
He is right....you not all...but in my case x cheated behind my back with a low life scum...we divorced and I give her 800 a month 3 kids that is our deal between her and I...and I buy the kids stuff at my house to...but now she screams murder wanting 2 grand a month because I've moved on with someone and am taking on a step father role....she works 2 and makes dam good money...she just wants her high class life style life....people who receive child support need to be forced to show that the money is being spent on the kids not some boyfriend.
just the facts

Charleston, WV

#354 Sep 7, 2013
mike lee wrote:
He is right....you not all...but in my case x cheated behind my back with a low life scum...we divorced and I give her 800 a month 3 kids that is our deal between her and I...and I buy the kids stuff at my house to...but now she screams murder wanting 2 grand a month because I've moved on with someone and am taking on a step father role....she works 2 and makes dam good money...she just wants her high class life style life....people who receive child support need to be forced to show that the money is being spent on the kids not some boyfriend.
AMEN they should be subject to audit
1angryman

Shepherd, MI

#355 Oct 3, 2013
I love how everything on here is deadbeat dad. Well I would like to say I have had full custody of my son since last January, I have not received one penny child support and on top of that she ask me to send diapers wipes and clothes on visiting weekends..all this coming from his stripper mother whom probably makes more on Friday night dancing than I make in a week
contemptous

Willimantic, CT

#356 Nov 13, 2013
My ex-husband was found to be in contempt today for non-payment of support for over 6 months. However some curious things have occurred and I don't know what to make of them. I had to file this myself as I'm not sure support enforcement there in Charleston were unable to tell me a definitive timeline when they would be holding him in contempt. First of all, he filed to lower his payments after being fired from his job for stealing from the company. I argued against this, but he was granted $200 a month for two children for the next 4 months, then it would go back up to a whopping $400 in Oct. He was unable to pay this and is still currently unemployed. So today, he tells his sob story and the judge overrides the recommendation of the attorney for the bureau of support and puts him on a coupon payment plan of $200 a month. Is a judge allowed to lower the amount of payment during a contempt hearing? I don't even understand what just happened.
I should mention that I live in New Englad and was involved in the hearing via the phone.
herdturd

Charleston, WV

#357 Nov 13, 2013
contemptous wrote:
My ex-husband was found to be in contempt today for non-payment of support for over 6 months. However some curious things have occurred and I don't know what to make of them. I had to file this myself as I'm not sure support enforcement there in Charleston were unable to tell me a definitive timeline when they would be holding him in contempt. First of all, he filed to lower his payments after being fired from his job for stealing from the company. I argued against this, but he was granted $200 a month for two children for the next 4 months, then it would go back up to a whopping $400 in Oct. He was unable to pay this and is still currently unemployed. So today, he tells his sob story and the judge overrides the recommendation of the attorney for the bureau of support and puts him on a coupon payment plan of $200 a month. Is a judge allowed to lower the amount of payment during a contempt hearing? I don't even understand what just happened.
I should mention that I live in New Englad and was involved in the hearing via the phone.
Well obviously the judge saw that ur a money grubber and dude prolly nevr even gets to see his kids.
lisa

Huntington, WV

#358 Nov 24, 2013
Sum Guy wrote:
I sure bet all of you poor women are doing your very best to go out and work, right? Probably not! I know for a fact that you are doing your best to go get that free money from CS though. You make me sick!
boy shut the hell up! free money? so we take care of kids for free? where? stupid! mad cause you gotta pay? should be mad at your self for having kids
lisa

Huntington, WV

#359 Nov 24, 2013
men make me sick! your complaining you got to take care of your kids? well you should of put a condom on, so its women fault you have to pay? where can you take care of children for free? huh? never herd of a place, we women have to pay everyday with or without money its called being a parent, for the men whom have custody of theirs good for you! you need to the child is yours too but when you don't want to take the child your mad you got to pay oh dam well!! don't make children if you don't want to pay! point blank! men well so called men make me sick! you don't want to be in the childs life and you don't want to pay you cant have both pick one, next time cut your balls off!
lisa

Huntington, WV

#360 Nov 24, 2013
don't have children if you don't want to be a father point blank! keep your lil one in your pants! so sorry as men mad cause the mothers want money.
samanthaL

Chesapeake, OH

#361 Nov 24, 2013
Women who throw around terms like deadbeat dads assuming a majority of deadbest parents are men, you are part of the problem. Ive witnessed women who are miserable people get mad when a man doesn't want to stay with her, use those kids against the man then get mad and call the deadbeat if he ever misses a payment. Kids grow up, realize Mommy is a lazy welfare bitch daddys not such a bad guy and then the moms have to deal with that reality. How many of these deadbeat men would be awesome dads if given the chance and not had their relationship eith their kids dictated by a jaded bitch of a mom? Most of these moms passionate about their child support checks from their dead beat baby daddies dont have jobs with one excuse after another...and how much of that check pays for the child and not for her to go get her nails done? Theres two sides to every story. You have yours, I have mine. And Im a woman. Ive seen great dads be ostracized from their kids while the mom bad mouths him brainswashing the kids...Im sick of lazy women expecting something from a man to take care of them. You can bet your ass if my kids need more money to live on Ill be out getting a second job or a BETTER job before I waste my time whining in a court room.
nocashforu

Charleston, WV

#362 Nov 24, 2013
It takes 2 why didn't u make the men wear a condom or take birth control?
lost

United States

#363 Dec 29, 2013
I had a relationship with a girl and we were not married and she be came pregnant she had the child and I put my name on the birth certificate and I was there for many months but here and her family didn't want to do anything but sit around and smoke pot I did my share of taking care and buying things tht the baby need but after awhile I got sick of the way they acted and I asked her if she wanted me or her family and the pot and she said she didn't no but I still stayed and one day I showed up and asked her mom where she was and she told me at her friends and then her mom said something to the effect of technically the child wasn't mine and if I wanted from my family to see the child or for it to ever come to my house again then I needed to do more and I left after tht and it has been over a year and I just heard tht she is going to try and get me for child support when I turn 18 and I dont turn until June I want to no if there any way to get out of that and make it so she can bother me. I no I am young and I have heard it from every person under the sun I didn't come here to get ridiculed I no wat I did was stupid and I dont want someone saying tht I am worthless and no go bc I abandoned them bc I was there I did my part and it wasn't good enough and when I left I went and told dhhr tht there was drugs and stuff in house and they told my nothing they can do so I need someone help
arguenda

Latrobe, PA

#364 Dec 29, 2013
lost wrote:
I had a relationship with a girl and we were not married and she be came pregnant she had the child and I put my name on the birth certificate and I was there for many months but here and her family didn't want to do anything but sit around and smoke pot I did my share of taking care and buying things tht the baby need but after awhile I got sick of the way they acted and I asked her if she wanted me or her family and the pot and she said she didn't no but I still stayed and one day I showed up and asked her mom where she was and she told me at her friends and then her mom said something to the effect of technically the child wasn't mine and if I wanted from my family to see the child or for it to ever come to my house again then I needed to do more and I left after tht and it has been over a year and I just heard tht she is going to try and get me for child support when I turn 18 and I dont turn until June I want to no if there any way to get out of that and make it so she can bother me. I no I am young and I have heard it from every person under the sun I didn't come here to get ridiculed I no wat I did was stupid and I dont want someone saying tht I am worthless and no go bc I abandoned them bc I was there I did my part and it wasn't good enough and when I left I went and told dhhr tht there was drugs and stuff in house and they told my nothing they can do so I need someone help
Because of your age the judge might allow DNA testing even though you signed the paternity affidavit (BTW never do this unless you are absolutely sure the child is yours). Also file an Allocation of Custody and argue your case to the judge...see if you can get a guardian ad litem appointed to investigate the drug allegations.
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Can you read

Rupert, WV

#366 May 12, 2014
agree wrote:
I agree you are a liar. If the state sued you and she is getting cs and welfare and all this or just even childsupport she has to provide an address to them. The state knows where she is and so does the court. The Judge must agree and not want you to know where your child is for some reason or to have visitation. You got a divorce and during a divorce custody is addressed at that time. So go tell your lies elsewhere cause noone is gonna buy the crap your selling here today or ever. Just another sperm donor lookin for a way out of paying money. In your whole statement you never once said I would like to see my child just ... money money money well it shows what is most important to you. You should just put upset not upset dad cause you are no dad.
You and Upsetdadreally must not be able to read!! What about an address?? He misunderstood the tax return issue. He was not complaining about not knowing where she is or having to pay his child support. He is just upset she up and left with the child. Also he said nothing about having or not having visitation. You two need to learn to read and comprehend. You do not know the whole story and absolutely have know right to judge him!! He was asking for help not your ignorance!! I believe child support laws are too much. A woman can up and leave for another man and the father has to pay for that?? She should not have left to begin with. When a woman chooses to leave without the child's best interest in mind and take the child, What's up with that?? Most women are out for the money!!!!!!! They sleep around from man to man. Then the fathers have to pay for her being easy?? No the children should not have to suffer for her being easy but women like that should have to be fixed. A free ride from their children is all it is and that is sick!!! It is so unfortunate that these babies have to pay for the parent's ignorance. Half of the time the child would be better off with the father but women have the upper hand on that. Because of that the father looks bad when it should be the mother. There are cases that the father is a deadbeat but a lot of the time it is the women wanting more. I mean that in everyway not just money.
Wondering

Salisbury, MD

#367 May 27, 2014
If a women was told to pay child support to her ex who is taking care of their daughter , she never paid, SHE OWES 13,0000 IN SUPPORT to her ex the daughter is now 20, the mother worked for cash, doesn't have a license ( cause she knew they would find her ) and she got remarried to change her last name. She has a son In WV jail who she wont go see because she thinks they will lock her up, She told him when she goes to Florida she will get an ID card then go see him in WV. Would Florida have the info to catch her?? or will she get ID and be free never to pay whats owed to her daughter. And who the heck do you call to report her new married name?? I have been looking for info and it seems they let these dead beats get away with it all the time.
Wondering

Salisbury, MD

#368 May 27, 2014
Just sounds to me that WV child support laws suck and they could care less about trying to collect! After reading all these comments WV needs to get off their asses and get these dead beats to pay instead of letting them get away without paying. Glad I don't live there!! If I did they would have gotten tired of seeing my face!! Get off your lazy butts and help these people geesh!
Hate Child Support

Lake Worth, FL

#369 Jun 18, 2014
Sum Guy wrote:
I sure bet all of you poor women are doing your very best to go out and work, right? Probably not! I know for a fact that you are doing your best to go get that free money from CS though. You make me sick!
Well said , very well said kudos! i know a woman who wanted her ex so bad she was willing to trade(sign them over to the dad) her kids for sex 3times a week and when he said no she took him to court for more child support and little by little took more and more rights from him.. so amen to someone telling the truth ...hey you bitches tellin the truth even if just to yourselves will set you free. try it and quit this child support bullshit .....your children need family mom dad grandparents FAMILY AND the world is so fucked up right now thinking that money will solve problems....wrong ....money is a clown dressed up to make us believe its helping us but its separating families
sueplantin

Clemson, SC

#370 Oct 30, 2014
mike lee wrote:
He is right....you not all...but in my case x cheated behind my back with a low life scum...we divorced and I give her 800 a month 3 kids that is our deal between her and I...and I buy the kids stuff at my house to...but now she screams murder wanting 2 grand a month because I've moved on with someone and am taking on a step father role....she works 2 and makes dam good money...she just wants her high class life style life....people who receive child support need to be forced to show that the money is being spent on the kids not some boyfriend.
The "father" I was referring to is my ex. We were married for years. I have worked since I was 15 and have a degree. I have about 20 years experience in the legal field. It is off putting to see that women like me are categorized with women who do abuse the system. I know that abuse is out there because I see it everyday. My point .....not all single moms are money grubbing...worthless...etc...e tc...I am not. I have yet to receive a dime...any school clothes...anything at all...It saddens me that this is what our society fines normal.
sueplantin

Clemson, SC

#371 Oct 30, 2014
Wondering wrote:
Just sounds to me that WV child support laws suck and they could care less about trying to collect! After reading all these comments WV needs to get off their asses and get these dead beats to pay instead of letting them get away without paying. Glad I don't live there!! If I did they would have gotten tired of seeing my face!! Get off your lazy butts and help these people geesh!
They are so understaffed it's pathetic. I called them everyday...finally got an order entered...but it doesnt really assure that i will receive any money...and I am not all about the money. I say the other responses....I have begged and pleaded with this man to stay in contact with his son..and now several years later and still no child support. My son is almost 14 now...he has seen the unfortunate truth....I am very blessed to have such a sweet young man. We have struggled and we have survived. His father will never have what I have had and continue to receive from my son. However...I do believe he has a financial responsibility. I now live in SC...the child support system here is even worse. They are computerized at all...it is like pulling teeth....
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Talbet

Safety Harbor, FL

#373 Oct 30, 2015
Can we get anything done about a deadbeat dad that left WV, to go to NC and shack up with his girlfriend and has not paid a dime of Court ordered Child support. He now has a job and I know his address, he had to get Drivers license in NC. Will they do anything about getting him back to WV, where there is a bench warrant for him because he has not paid.

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