I Need Relationship Advice

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WVChick88

Charleston, WV

#1 Jun 20, 2012
I've been with my boyfriend for almost 10 years. We got together when we were in high school and have broken up and got back together several times over the years. It's hard to have a close to perfect relationship when you get together so young. I'd like to have kids one day but he isn't sure if he wants any. I'd also like to get married at some point. He used to talk about marriage, but he never mentions it anymore. I'm starting to wonder if i'm wasting my time. If he wanted to marry me would he already have proposed? Any thoughts or advice will be appreciated :)
Flobot

Niceville, FL

#2 Jun 20, 2012
I hate to say it, but you're wasting your best years. You've wasted 10 years now, and I really hope you don't waste any more. You should move on. Best of luck.
thin mint

New York, NY

#3 Jun 20, 2012
Tell him to sh!t or get off the pot. Either you get married or it's over. You've waited long enough. It sounds like he is getting tired of you, if he doesn't mention marriage anymore. Does he buy you stuff like flowers or candy? Or does he do just enough to get by? If you are having sex with him he has no need to marry you. Why buy the cow when the milk is free? Cut him off for a while and see what happens....
agreed

Charleston, WV

#4 Jun 20, 2012
They're both right.

Why would he marry you when he gets all the benefits of marriage with none of the "legal responsibility"?

I say give him an ultimatum. You can't wait forever!!!
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luis lizzy

Sweden

#6 Mar 18, 2013
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my husband back to me. My name is Luis lizzy,
And Iím happily married to a lovely and caring
man,with three kids. A very big problem occurred in
my family 4 months ago,between me and my
husband. So terrible that he took the case to court for
a divorce. He said that he never wanted to stay with
me again,and that he didnít love me anymore. So he
packed out of the house to where i do not know about
and made me and my children passed through severe
pain. I tried all my possible means to get him back.
After much begging,but all to no avail / Success. And
he confirmed it that he has made his decision,and he
never wanted to see me again. So on one afternoon
when i came back from the house of my best friend
that know how to advise me very well. As i was
coming back from her place, I saw an old friend of
mine who asked of my husband. So i also explained
every thing to her just the way i did to my best friend
on what happened between me and my husband. So
she told me that the only way i can get my husband
back is to visit a spell caster. Because it has really
worked for her. As a Christian i never believed in spell
casting,but during all this problem and letting the
love of my life go just like that and the father to my
lovely kids i had no other choice than to follow her
advice. Then she gave me the email address of the
spell caster whom she visited to solve her own problem also. At
this time i was full with so much grief and confusion
on how this can really be true to the extent that i have
to ask my friend so many question like if this is not to
harm or have an effect on my life and that of my
lovely children after it has been done. But she replied
with so much seriousness by telling me that there is
no harm and there is no side effect on the spell
casting, That is just to get back my husband for my
kids, and also for him to love me like never before.
After her explanation that there is noting that will
happen to us, other than to just get back my husband i
requested on how i could i contact this great and
powerful spell caster that she is talking about. She
gave me his email address to me that i wrote down on a
jotter and when i got home i emailed the spell caster
with the following email address: Dr.awolorspellhome@gmail.com after
some few minutes that same day i received a form
that i will fill and return to him. After that, i was asked
to get some materials that will be needed to cast this
spell that if i can not provide them i will send the cost
which was what i did just to see the outcome of the
spell casting. And before i send the cost of the
materials to him he assured me that even that same
day if he get the charges that my lover husband will
return back in the next 4 to 5 hours time that same-day,
after the spell has been casted with the materials, since i
could not get the materials on my own to send to him
to do the spell casting. The spell caster assured me
that i will get my husband back after that process.
What an amazing statement!! I never believed, So
surprisingly after the 4 to 5 hours he told me i will get
my husband back things changed in my life. My
husband who has not call me for the past four months
called me on the phone to inform me that he was
coming back home. So Amazing!! So that was how he
came back the next day with lots of love and joy,and
he apologized for his mistake and for the pain he has
caused me and my children. Then from that day,our
relationship was now stronger than how it were
before,by the help of a spell caster. So i will advice you
all out there to kindly send your contact to :
Dr.awolorspellhome@gmail.com
Jimmy Carter

Charlottesville, VA

#7 Mar 18, 2013
Give him a BJ. That will bring him around if you are good at it.
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agree

Vandergrift, PA

#9 Mar 21, 2013
Lo Agree Jimmy Carrrter!!

“Oh my glob!”

Since: Aug 12

hero

#10 Mar 21, 2013
WVChick88 wrote:
I've been with my boyfriend for almost 10 years. We got together when we were in high school and have broken up and got back together several times over the years. It's hard to have a close to perfect relationship when you get together so young. I'd like to have kids one day but he isn't sure if he wants any. I'd also like to get married at some point. He used to talk about marriage, but he never mentions it anymore. I'm starting to wonder if i'm wasting my time. If he wanted to marry me would he already have proposed? Any thoughts or advice will be appreciated :)
I wasted 10 years of my life with a guy who decided he didn't want kids. We grew apart. We ended up taking different paths. I don't know the details of your relationship but if you feel like your life is heading in a different direction then move on before it is too late. It is hard to let go of something/someone that has been a part of your life for so long but you will thank yourself in the end. I am now a mother to an awesome little guy and a wife to my true soul mate! Good luck to you! I wish you the best in life. <3
me too

Huntington, WV

#11 Mar 21, 2013
I totally agree with Mountain Momma
I was back and forth with my ex for 12 years - it was very hard to move on and let go - but I did it - when you meet the one you belong with - no ultimatums ate necessary - you know you belong together - and it works - don't be afraid to move on - it will be hard for awhile - but it will be worth it when Mr Right comes along. You change so much from high school age to mid to late 20's you are not the same person - the majority of couples who get together that young - do not stay together - by age 28+ you are pretty much the person you will be for the rest of your life and relationships hopefully have a greater chance of lasting longer
Good Luck with whatever you decide
Winky

Charleston, WV

#12 Mar 21, 2013
WVChick88 wrote:
I've been with my boyfriend for almost 10 years. We got together when we were in high school and have broken up and got back together several times over the years. It's hard to have a close to perfect relationship when you get together so young. I'd like to have kids one day but he isn't sure if he wants any. I'd also like to get married at some point. He used to talk about marriage, but he never mentions it anymore. I'm starting to wonder if i'm wasting my time. If he wanted to marry me would he already have proposed? Any thoughts or advice will be appreciated :)
Yes you are, if hes not mentioning it anymore then hes not interested anymore. Move on and find you someone that wants what you want. Life is too short.

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