How to Deal with a Controlling Woman in a Relationship

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Info

Summersville, WV

#1 Apr 6, 2012
Most of the time, it is men who are believed to be controlling in relationships. A dominating man, who coerces a woman to lead a life according to his wishes, is a stereotype that most of us generally believe in.

However, sometimes, women can be as controlling as men in relationships. They might use several tactics to make their men do and behave in ways, that they feel is appropriate. Such women usually have many tricks up their sleeve to control their men. They can withhold sex or threaten to divorce or actually be so persuasive in their arguments, that the men are brainwashed into thinking on similar lines as them. Living in the same house with such a woman can be a living hell for the men though. That's why, it is very necessary that they know how to deal with such women, if walking out is not an option that they are considering and if they want to save their relationship.

What are some ways of the best ways to deal with a kind of woman like this?
edgar

Amarillo, TX

#2 Apr 6, 2012
Why would you let anyone control you? Give her the same treatment. Turnabout is fair play. If she micromanages every move you make, start doing it to her. When she says "I know what I'm doing" then you can say "now you know how I feel". Or you could just be man and tell her if she doesn't stop being so controlling your going to cut up all her clothes.
Info

Summersville, WV

#3 Apr 6, 2012
edgar wrote:
Why would you let anyone control you? Give her the same treatment. Turnabout is fair play. If she micromanages every move you make, start doing it to her. When she says "I know what I'm doing" then you can say "now you know how I feel". Or you could just be man and tell her if she doesn't stop being so controlling your going to cut up all her clothes.
I'm not in a controlling relationship. I know a couple people who are and that's why i put it on here to try to help somehow. I want to hear about what other people would do if they was in this kind of relationship.
True Dat

Charleston, WV

#4 Apr 6, 2012
Even if she agrees to change, it will be only temporary. Lying and manipulation seem to come easier to women that to men, even the "good ones".

For God's sake...don't have children with her unless you going to accept your situation FOREVER!

Since: Apr 12

Manchester, NH

#5 Apr 6, 2012
It is very true, there are plenty of men I have known over the years who have had psycho, manipulative, controlling women for wives/girlfriends. The problem is, as you point out, the stereotype of the controlling man is so prevalent in our society that men cannot usually even admit to themselves that they are the victim of this kind of abuse....and it IS abuse. Especially men from this area. They'd deal with it their wholes lives before they'd ever be a "p***y" and admit they were being emotionally, and in plenty of cases PHYSICALLY abused by their female significant other. Compound this with the fact that most men I know are taught that they must NEVER lay a finger on a woman...I see guys all the time whose lady friend will smack them in the face, head, punch, scratch them, throw shit at them...and they will just stand there and take it. Pathetic. If a woman is willing to place herself in the position of attacking a man, then she should be very careful crying foul when she gets the same treatment in return. This is 2012, not 1950....women want "equality" then fair enough, but it must be across-the-board, not simply when it makes for a convenient argument.

Anyhow...yes...aside from physical abuse...plenty of men are psychologically and emotionally abused by women because for one men are basically taught that women are just going to be jealous controlling "b*tches" and as men we should just accept it as part of their genetics. Fortunately, after watching my father be emotionally abused by my mother for my entire life, it turned me into the type of person who does not accept it from anyone, male OR female. I do not believe that just because you happen to have breasts and a vagina that this gives you some sort of free pass to be a shithead.

My advice would be, confront them and tell them straight up that you are a grown adult and that you do not require someone to parent you or control or micromanage and criticize every move you make. Either they trust you or they don't, and if they don't, then they have two choices, get over it/move past it, or hit the road.
bklyn born

Lake Grove, NY

#6 Apr 6, 2012
Just give her a jelly doughnut if u know what i mean goggle if not
White Gurl

Summersville, WV

#7 Apr 6, 2012
bklyn born wrote:
Just give her a jelly doughnut if u know what i mean goggle if not
YES!! YES!!! YES!!! He seriously needs too.
WTF

Charleston, WV

#8 Apr 6, 2012
Most men make the number one mistake in life that will haunt them right up until the end: That's asking a woman to marry them in the first place. By doing so, you are making promises that she expects you to fulfill forever, and which often you simply cant, due to yourself or her. Either way, you're screwed.

Here's the trick that has saved me several times: Force THEM to beg YOU to marry. This works two ways: You want to marry them, or You don't, but could be persuaded to give it a shot.

Put off marriage for a while, telling her that "you don't want to marry me. Seriously, you could do much better and I don't think we'd be as happy if married". Keep going along these lines until finally giving in. Go ahead and marry her. One of two things will happen: You'll live together forever, or you'll get divorced at some point. If that happens, you hold ALL the cards.

You see, the number one thing women hate is a liar. So DONT. If you tell her the truth up front, she knows she has no one to blame but herself if it ends. You warned her. You tried to avoid marriage. But you gave it a shot and that's all you could do. Even the meanest greediest woman will agree that you wouldn't be in this mess if it wasn't for her. You will slide into the divorce MUCH smoother than you would believe.

See, women have been pulling this trick on us since the beginning of time. It's why we always get royally screwed. They make us beg THEM. Promise THEM, when in fact all we really wanted was to get in her pants. Once you promise a woman something, you better believe that she will take that promise to her grave, and you along with it.

Women are no different than men. They can just hold out asking longer than we can. So, bide your time, love her up, and she WILL pop the question.

The entire point of telling you all this is that this topic wouldn't even be necessary about this one controlling that one etc. All that is childish and if you're dissatisfied, bail out. Dont take the abuse from either side.
White Gurl

Summersville, WV

#9 Apr 6, 2012
fortwynt wrote:
It is very true, there are plenty of men I have known over the years who have had psycho, manipulative, controlling women for wives/girlfriends. The problem is, as you point out, the stereotype of the controlling man is so prevalent in our society that men cannot usually even admit to themselves that they are the victim of this kind of abuse....and it IS abuse. Especially men from this area. They'd deal with it their wholes lives before they'd ever be a "p***y" and admit they were being emotionally, and in plenty of cases PHYSICALLY abused by their female significant other. Compound this with the fact that most men I know are taught that they must NEVER lay a finger on a woman...I see guys all the time whose lady friend will smack them in the face, head, punch, scratch them, throw shit at them...and they will just stand there and take it. Pathetic. If a woman is willing to place herself in the position of attacking a man, then she should be very careful crying foul when she gets the same treatment in return. This is 2012, not 1950....women want "equality" then fair enough, but it must be across-the-board, not simply when it makes for a convenient argument.
Anyhow...yes...aside from physical abuse...plenty of men are psychologically and emotionally abused by women because for one men are basically taught that women are just going to be jealous controlling "b*tches" and as men we should just accept it as part of their genetics. Fortunately, after watching my father be emotionally abused by my mother for my entire life, it turned me into the type of person who does not accept it from anyone, male OR female. I do not believe that just because you happen to have breasts and a vagina that this gives you some sort of free pass to be a shithead.
My advice would be, confront them and tell them straight up that you are a grown adult and that you do not require someone to parent you or control or micromanage and criticize every move you make. Either they trust you or they don't, and if they don't, then they have two choices, get over it/move past it, or hit the road.
You probably know exactly who it is we're talking about. I won't put there names on here because he would be embarrassed.
Pooter

Charleston, WV

#10 Apr 6, 2012
My two proven philosophies on woman and relationships...

1. If you're in a relationship and everything is going great and out of the blue she breaks up with you...get ready. This is her way of esculating the relationship. If you want to get back together, you'll have to commit to take the next step...usually marriage. It's a very devious ploy that has claimed many men.

2. If you do love her enough to marry her...you love her just the way she is and you hope that nothing ever changes.

This is totaly opposite of how she feels about you. She looks at you and thinks "I can turn him into the man of my dreams". "With my help he can be exactly what I'm looking for".

Then years later she starts resenting you and you can't fiqure out why...after all you're the same guy you've always been.

Being in a relationship with a woman is like kissing a snake on the lips.

Since: Apr 12

Charleston, WV

#11 Apr 6, 2012
True Dat wrote:
Even if she agrees to change, it will be only temporary. Lying and manipulation seem to come easier to women that to men, even the "good ones".
For God's sake...don't have children with her unless you going to accept your situation FOREVER!
aman
duh

Charleston, WV

#12 Apr 6, 2012
What do you say to a woman with two black eyes?

Nothing. She's already been told twice!
lol

Summersville, WV

#13 Apr 6, 2012
duh wrote:
What do you say to a woman with two black eyes?
Nothing. She's already been told twice!
i dnt get it
wow

Charleston, WV

#14 Apr 7, 2012
Pooter wrote:
My two proven philosophies on woman and relationships...

1. If you're in a relationship and everything is going great and out of the blue she breaks up with you...get ready. This is her way of esculating the relationship. If you want to get back together, you'll have to commit to take the next step...usually marriage. It's a very devious ploy that has claimed many men.

2. If you do love her enough to marry her...you love her just the way she is and you hope that nothing ever changes.

This is totaly opposite of how she feels about you. She looks at you and thinks "I can turn him into the man of my dreams". "With my help he can be exactly what I'm looking for".

Then years later she starts resenting you and you can't fiqure out why...after all you're the same guy you've always been.

Being in a relationship with a woman is like kissing a snake on the lips.
I hope you don't think that us true with all women. I was in a very controlling relationship with my ex-husband. I am very thankful I finally had enough anger and courage to leave. I never tried to change him because I loved him how he was but I also couldn't live in fear so I left.
lol

Astoria, NY

#15 Apr 7, 2012
Lol
Candy Kane

Orlando, FL

#16 Apr 7, 2012
i tried everything to make it work,but my husband would not make love to me anymore. i went to the doctor to get him some pills but the doctor said it was me. he said i needed to take a bath,get my hair done and wear something sexy and my husband would change. i went home and took a bath,i had my neighbor do my hair. i forgot to buy something sexy so i just put my old bathrobe on backwards so the V would be in front. when my husband came home he said "wheres my f------ dinner?" i said don't you notice anything different? he said yeah, your goddamned bathrobes on backwards now the skidmarks are on the front.
He luvs me

Chesapeake, VA

#17 Apr 8, 2012
Info wrote:
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I'm not in a controlling relationship. I know a couple people who are and that's why i put it on here to try to help somehow. I want to hear about what other people would do if they was in this kind of relationship.
I would not be with a man that I could not have control over, I wear the panties in my home and my husband will tow the line, and if he disagrees and wants a divorce at anytime, I will be the first to sign the papers. We have a super relationship and as long as he a plays by my rules we'll have no problems. He knew I was a controlling woman before we were married.
Danielle

Summersville, WV

#18 Apr 8, 2012
He luvs me wrote:
<quoted text>I would not be with a man that I could not have control over, I wear the panties in my home and my husband will tow the line, and if he disagrees and wants a divorce at anytime, I will be the first to sign the papers. We have a super relationship and as long as he a plays by my rules we'll have no problems. He knew I was a controlling woman before we were married.
Same here girl!!!
vows

Roanoke, VA

#19 Apr 8, 2012
You make vows to be together.. you say I do, he is rt beside her, she is rt beside him... facing the doors that are open.. facing life together..they should be a equal.. don't settle for nothing less, he is not in front of her.. she not in front of him.. they are beside each other.. that's how it should be, good or bad.. do it all together.. if not, it will fail. I couldn't take someone being mean to me or control everything.. I have parents.. they was the only ones who was my boss. I like meeting in the middle.. or hearing each others reason and work on it from there..
Seriiiously

Summersville, WV

#20 Apr 8, 2012
Danielle wrote:
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Same here girl!!!
He needs to give YOU the worlds biggest jelly doughnut.

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