Abusive relationships
So confused

Charleston, WV

#1 Jun 5, 2013
Would really like to have some honest feedback from women/men who have or still are in a abusive relationship. If you were able to get out, how did you find the strength? Used to be physical & mental, but now it's more of manipulation within the whole family. Really need some honest feedback from people that have gone through this. Please no harsh words I myself never thought I would be where I am today!
big brother

Charleston, WV

#2 Jun 6, 2013
So confused wrote:
Would really like to have some honest feedback from women/men who have or still are in a abusive relationship. If you were able to get out, how did you find the strength? Used to be physical & mental, but now it's more of manipulation within the whole family. Really need some honest feedback from people that have gone through this. Please no harsh words I myself never thought I would be where I am today!
Your dealing with a psychopath. Ill even bet they put on a wonderful glowing show to everyone else, etc...and I'll also bet everyone in their life is referred to in third person...they are sick and will never change!
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Dream beliver

United States

#4 Jun 7, 2013
So confused wrote:
Would really like to have some honest feedback from women/men who have or still are in a abusive relationship. If you were able to get out, how did you find the strength? Used to be physical & mental, but now it's more of manipulation within the whole family. Really need some honest feedback from people that have gone through this. Please no harsh words I myself never thought I would be where I am today!
i know its hard i almost fell for a abuser i woke up in tims
Been there

Charleston, WV

#5 Jun 13, 2013
Let me tell you for one, it will never change. I was in your situation, my girls dad was very manipulative and seemed like he had this really slick way of smoothing things over. I saw it happening over the years but felt stuck and felt like I wouldn't be able to start over. I waited too long and learned the hard way because he tried to kill me when I wanted to leave. Happened in Hernshaw last January. Please, please find the strength to leave. Realizing that I could find better and that me and my kids could be so much happier was all the determination I needed. I wish you the best of luck, just whatever you do DON'T GO BACK. And if you stay it will only get worse.
stuck

Charleston, WV

#6 Jun 13, 2013
Get out if u can. It will never get better. I know first hand I'm just to scared to leave right now. We have been together over 9 years and I keep thinking it will go back to the way it was.
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damaged

Fairmont, WV

#8 Jun 13, 2013
So confused wrote:
Would really like to have some honest feedback from women/men who have or still are in a abusive relationship. If you were able to get out, how did you find the strength? Used to be physical & mental, but now it's more of manipulation within the whole family. Really need some honest feedback from people that have gone through this. Please no harsh words I myself never thought I would be where I am today!
I hope there are no kids involved. My mother and father got divorced when I was 8 and I ended up in my mom's custody. Shortly after she ended up with an abusive guy that eventually became my step father. I saw things over the following years that no child should ever see. Black eyes, bloody noses, mysterious bruises. There is also the fond memory of trying to hold a blanket over my infant brothers crib to try to deflect the shards of glass from the "man" busting things against the wall. I only tell you this because I worry that kids are involved. They are they ones that truly suffer.
So confused

Charleston, WV

#9 Jun 14, 2013
Thanks for the honest feedback. Yes there are kids involved. Seems every time I get myself financially, mentally strong enough to leave he always manipulates me. I try to hide what goes on & I truly believe he would kill me before he let me go. My kids hate him! He always tries to smooth things over & always tried to make me out to be the bad person but finally that doesn't work anymore. He hasn't been physical with me in a long time because he will go to prison. We are just a very unhappy family. I want out & I am finally done with him. Now it's just doing it. I would & probably will walk away from everything & start over. Thanks everyone.
damaged

United States

#10 Jun 14, 2013
So confused wrote:
Thanks for the honest feedback. Yes there are kids involved. Seems every time I get myself financially, mentally strong enough to leave he always manipulates me. I try to hide what goes on & I truly believe he would kill me before he let me go. My kids hate him! He always tries to smooth things over & always tried to make me out to be the bad person but finally that doesn't work anymore. He hasn't been physical with me in a long time because he will go to prison. We are just a very unhappy family. I want out & I am finally done with him. Now it's just doing it. I would & probably will walk away from everything & start over. Thanks everyone.
I wish you the best. You and the little ones deserve happiness.

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