Sleeplessincharl eston

Harper, WV

#1 Sep 21, 2013
I want to know everyone's thoughts about being in a sexless marriage? Is it enough to justify cheating if the couple don't come to a deal on the lack of sex? How do you convince yourself to want something that, really, you donít want? How do you instill a desire that doesnít naturally exist? If you donít like broccoli, you can force yourself to eat broccoli, but how do you force yourself to want broccoli? So if your wants and desires are not met in a marriage is it any way justifiable to get it on the side?
Cinnamon

Alexandria, VA

#2 Sep 21, 2013
Are you gay.
interesting

Brooklyn, NY

#3 Sep 21, 2013
Divorce dumbass
rotgut

Montgomery, WV

#4 Sep 21, 2013
Divorce. you ain't in love. go get you some good stuff and stop saying I luvs you everytime you do it. yu ain't in love when yu is in lust.
Sleeplessincharl eston

Harper, WV

#5 Sep 21, 2013
It is hard to divorce when you have years invested with children! No I'm not gay. I may turn gay before its over! I am a female and have maintained my physical appearance unlike some women who let themselves go. I consider myself sexy and do have alot of men and young boys approach me for sex. Young boys really like their MILFS! I have always been very sexual and don't approve on cheating! I am seriously confused and heartbroken. My husband has not been intimate with me for months. When I ask him about it we just end up in a fight. Just a hopeless situation. I just wanted opinions on cheating in a marriage like this.
linda

Greenville, VA

#6 Sep 21, 2013
is he cheating on u?
howtow

Montgomery, WV

#7 Sep 21, 2013
when you get caught cheating the divorce will follow. just get the divorce and have a great time. Get that itch scratched.
Just Guessing

Charleston, WV

#8 Sep 21, 2013
Sleepless,

You say that it is hard to divorce when you have years invested and children. My question is, at what point did you start to believe that you did not deserve to be happy?

I understand the time and the children excuse but we get one life and one shot at making the most of that life.

Why are you willing to settle for less than you deserve? A sexless, loveless marriage is not fulfilling.

As a side note...From the interaction that you describe with your husband, he is getting it elsewhere. He gave up on asking you 100 times over and he went and found someone that was willing... with a smile on their face.
Unknown

Charleston, WV

#9 Sep 21, 2013
You need to get out already went down that road he is seeing some one and she is doing what your not. Divorced and I love sex know I have found someone who likes to please me instead of me being the pleaser.
parent

Charleston, WV

#10 Sep 21, 2013
Just Guessing wrote:
Sleepless,
You say that it is hard to divorce when you have years invested and children. My question is, at what point did you start to believe that you did not deserve to be happy?
I understand the time and the children excuse but we get one life and one shot at making the most of that life.
Why are you willing to settle for less than you deserve? A sexless, loveless marriage is not fulfilling.
As a side note...From the interaction that you describe with your husband, he is getting it elsewhere. He gave up on asking you 100 times over and he went and found someone that was willing... with a smile on their face.
I do not agree. If you are a parent, you owe your children a happy life. You do not put your own needs first. Ever. Sex is just sex. Your children are living breathing people that do not deserve to be torn apart just because you want to get off. My opinion. Fortunately, I do have to deal with this problem, but I do know, as a parent, I never come first. When your child is out of the house, then you do what you want.
Sleeplessincharl eston

Charleston, WV

#11 Sep 21, 2013
I do not belive he is cheating. He has never been interested in sex full force. My happiness is important as well as my children! Our marriage is good except for the lack of affection and sex. I'm sorry but getting off is important to me. I love sex and always have. We used to have a good sex
Life! It is just how do you know when enough is enough!!? What is the limit. I need human contact! For the ones who said he has getting tied of asking...he don't ask me. I ask him 1000 times and get told no!! Usually it is the woman who doesn't want but not his case! I try everything and still feel I look good as I stated! He has no problems accepting blowjobs all the time which I love to give but for the sex he doesn't want to! I do understand we get one life and i value that! I am 35 and will not live like this forever! I can't! Noone should go without sex! I get extremely frustrated from lack of. Thank you everyone for your inputs!
Cynthia

Brookneal, VA

#12 Sep 21, 2013
You are definitely cheating if your flush more than twice.
Prick

Charleston, WV

#13 Sep 21, 2013
Sleeplessincharleston wrote:
It is hard to divorce when you have years invested with children! No I'm not gay. I may turn gay before its over! I am a female and have maintained my physical appearance unlike some women who let themselves go. I consider myself sexy and do have alot of men and young boys approach me for sex. Young boys really like their MILFS! I have always been very sexual and don't approve on cheating! I am seriously confused and heartbroken. My husband has not been intimate with me for months. When I ask him about it we just end up in a fight. Just a hopeless situation. I just wanted opinions on cheating in a marriage like this.
It sounds like to me that he is getting sex from someone else so why worry about it and i dont consider it cheating if your husband is cheating on you. Ive been in the same exact situation that your in and my ex swore she wasnt cheating but just didnt want to have sex, it all came out soon after and she was cheating. no man is going to go without having sex im sorry thats just how we operate honey. so you go out and you get you some sex sweetheart.
want to know

Alexandria, VA

#14 Sep 22, 2013
Maybe he's gay, I know a man who was married to a real pretty girl. He left her for a man.
For sure

Charleston, WV

#15 Sep 22, 2013
want to know wrote:
Maybe he's gay, I know a man who was married to a real pretty girl. He left her for a man.
If a man doesn't want sex from his spouse there is def something going on. Men can't and won't go without it. So don't be naive, because the ones who swears and declares that they never would, are the ones cheating!!
Gas Guzzler

Brookneal, VA

#16 Sep 22, 2013
For sure wrote:
<quoted text>
If a man doesn't want sex from his spouse there is def something going on. Men can't and won't go without it. So don't be naive, because the ones who swears and declares that they never would, are the ones cheating!!
And I see you now get your info from you $2.99 Crystal Ball from toys r us. Do you get sex from the same place?? Just sayin.
Prick

Charleston, WV

#17 Sep 22, 2013
Gas Guzzler wrote:
<quoted text>And I see you now get your info from you $2.99 Crystal Ball from toys r us. Do you get sex from the same place?? Just sayin.
That is about the most stupid comment ive ever heard in my life! You're an idiot! Stay to the Va topix where you belong idiot!
hopefullyhelpful

Alexandria, VA

#18 Sep 22, 2013
35? Looked into counseling? For better or worse is the vow you made. I applaud you looking for input as you should most certainly exhaust all efforts to mend the bond between you. Cheating is most certainly not the answer nor will it ever be. If only for your conscience sake. Take the high road and do what you can, if he isn't willing, then do what's best for you and your family. The big picture is what's important. Best luck to you sleepless.
Limmuel

Brookneal, VA

#19 Sep 22, 2013
Prick wrote:
<quoted text>That is about the most stupid comment ive ever heard in my life! You're an idiot! Stay to the Va topix where you belong idiot!
He would call you a prick too but he knows a prick has a head. If you had one it would be buried in your kiester. For your future info he is from Pax.

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