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lost

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#1 Apr 26, 2013
I'm in one hell of a bad situation. I'm married to someone I haven't love for years. I even look unhappy. At least until a few months ago when the most amazing person entered my life. They didn't care I could offer them but only a small piece of myself. They've never asked me to leave. Now things have worsened at home, I have a million things on my mind. I need out of this situation I'm in for my own sanity. How do I go through a hellacious seperation without losing this amazing person who has made me so happy? Is this even possible? I'm so lost on how to handle this. I know I shouldn't have started something new until I resolved the old, but you love is just the most unpredictable thing and it just happens.
shhh

Charleston, WV

#2 Apr 26, 2013
If you are truly unhappy with your marriage then get out of it, but make sure you are doing it for the right
Reasons. Not because of the other person, but because your not wanting to be in your marriage anymore. It's easy to like or love someone that you don't hold any real life responsibilities with. And I'm sure you really like this other person, but wasn't things in the beginning really good with your spouse or you wouldn't have married them right? Make sure it's the right thing for you to do, and not because of the lust of another. And don't be a coward, own up to everything... With both. Bet it will make things a lot better in the end with a lot less drama.
I understand

Spencer, WV

#3 Apr 26, 2013
lost wrote:
I'm in one hell of a bad situation. I'm married to someone I haven't love for years. I even look unhappy. At least until a few months ago when the most amazing person entered my life. They didn't care I could offer them but only a small piece of myself. They've never asked me to leave. Now things have worsened at home, I have a million things on my mind. I need out of this situation I'm in for my own sanity. How do I go through a hellacious seperation without losing this amazing person who has made me so happy? Is this even possible? I'm so lost on how to handle this. I know I shouldn't have started something new until I resolved the old, but you love is just the most unpredictable thing and it just happens.
I totally understand how u feel. I have had an affair an did not expect this to happen! I'm still shocked I did do it! This person made me so happy and feel so good! This person and myself are both married! Yes it was wrong to do something like that but the heart wants what the heart wants! This man really made me feel things I didn't know exsisted! I don't have a chance again..I sealed the deal breaker by saying I thought i feel in love with him! I didn't and I see that now! I do care for him wholehearted! I could easily fall in love with him! The sex, lovemaking was OMG! Lol. If you have a chance to be with this person who makes you happy then by all means do it! Don't give up on what you want! You can have it! Just be honest with your wife and get divorced! I don't understand how when something that feels so right turns into something so wrong! I can think about him and i get all weak and butterflies invade my stomach! Take the chance! Go get your perfect! You may never have the chance again like me! You wanna live rest of your life feeling that! I know I don't cause it is a sickening feeling! Good luck to you sweetheart!
the heart wont lie

Pittsburgh, PA

#4 Apr 27, 2013
I unintentionally fell in love with a married man. It's a very difficult position to be in. I wanted this person to be part of my life something fierce but knew I could never ask him to leave, that's not my choice to make. I tried to make the most of every moment with him but I began to feel some resentment...walking away has been one of the hardest things I've ever had to do. My heart is heavy as it breaks. I try not to think about the what ifs, the coulda, shoulda, woulda and find some hope that love like that crosses my path again some day.
Still heart broken

Martinsburg, WV

#5 Apr 27, 2013
I promise you from the bottom of my heart and this applies to man or woman it is NEVER greener on the other side. Never! I am a male who was married to a wonderful lady for many years and for some reason felt trapped and unappreciated and then I made the biggest mistake of my life.

If you really want out of the marriage then sit down with your spouse and talk. Don't wait another minute, just sit and talk.

it is better to be hurt with the truth than a lie.

God Bless!
g

Charleston, WV

#6 Apr 27, 2013
You are all gutter sl&ts. If you are unhappy in your marriage, get out prior to putting out. Your husband shouldn't have to deal with potentially getting stds because u can't keep your legs closed
Randy

United States

#7 Apr 27, 2013
Sounds like Mary is at it again. His wife should've whipped your a$$ because you had no regard for anyone but yourself.
lil me

United States

#8 Apr 27, 2013
Been there done that....trust me its not worth it!!!!
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lil me

United States

#11 Apr 27, 2013
Nope mine was just a bad deal not hear to fuss just to tell women not worth it!!!!!
the heart wont lie

United States

#12 Apr 27, 2013
What's not worth it? Leaving or falling for a married person? For those who like to judge someone who has been with someone is married...never say never. I said never and it happened. My ex cheated on me and I know what that feels like. I also know what it's like to find myself in the other pair of shoes. I'm no gutter slut, I just found myself in that position. I quietly walked away.
whatever

Charleston, WV

#13 Apr 27, 2013
Yes the grass is greener...too many marriages need "work", that's why second marriages are more satisfying, more successful.....you should marry your best friend and not settle for any less!
the heart wont lie

United States

#14 Apr 27, 2013
A marriage gone bad is not always about the grass being greener...sometimes life throws so many curve balls that can cause an unsteady marriage to simply fall apart. Life can sometimes cause two people to drift apart. People can and do fall out of love. Marry for the wrong reasons. Marry too soon after meeting. Marry the wrong person and wake up one day and realize it. A marriage certificate is not a guarantee of anything other than half. Sometimes divorce is what's best. I grieved the loss of my husband and family life. It was not easy and there were times I thought I may not make it. However, after all was said and done, the life lessons I have learned are priceless. I rediscovered myself and have since become a better me. I have learned that marriage is no more than what you put into it and that sometimes you do marry the wrong person for all the wrong reasons.
lil me

United States

#15 Apr 27, 2013
True ....but when ya fall so hard in luv and you find out that person his life style wasn't who ya thought he was it just broke my heart into...so now i so look at it diff!!!!!
the heart wont lie

United States

#16 Apr 27, 2013
whatever wrote:
Yes the grass is greener...too many marriages need "work", that's why second marriages are more satisfying, more successful.....you should marry your best friend and not settle for any less!
Second time around you know exactly what you want and what you don't want. Especially people who wait to remarry and take some time to reflect on the past and mistakes and then learns and grow. It's an amazing feeling to truly love someone but its even more amazing when that person is your best friend.
lil me

United States

#17 Apr 27, 2013
He was my bff ......n lied to me never again for me.
the heart wont lie

United States

#18 Apr 28, 2013
Perhaps I fell for a lie myself. I guess i will never know. It's hard to wrap my head around the entire experience only being an illusion. The only thing I know for certain is that I feel a void inside now. I miss him something terrible
lil me

United States

#19 Apr 28, 2013
Yea me too!!!!!
g

Charleston, WV

#20 Apr 28, 2013
the heart wont lie wrote:
Perhaps I fell for a lie myself. I guess i will never know. It's hard to wrap my head around the entire experience only being an illusion. The only thing I know for certain is that I feel a void inside now. I miss him something terrible
maybe a cock-meat sandwich will help, gutterslut
the heart wont lie

United States

#21 Apr 28, 2013
g wrote:
<quoted text>maybe a cock-meat sandwich will help, gutterslut
Maybe you would like one shoved up your ass. I feel no shame, regret or remorse. When all that's left of a marriage is a legal document...it's fair game
lost

United States

#22 Apr 28, 2013
the heart wont lie wrote:
<quoted text>
Maybe you would like one shoved up your ass. I feel no shame, regret or remorse. When all that's left of a marriage is a legal document...it's fair game
Amen to that! Life's too short to be unhappy!

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