Have you ever had your heart broken b...

Have you ever had your heart broken before?

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Broken Angel

Lansing, WV

#1 Jan 18, 2013
If so, how did it happen? How long did it take for it to go away?
Missy

Bowling Green, KY

#2 Jan 18, 2013
Yes! Sorry if you are going thru it. I had it broken for saying some mean things, that's it. I gues i loved him more than he did me. But honestly it's been 1 year and 2 months and it hasn't gotten easier, you just learn to live with it. He and were together for 1 year 3 months.
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Wow

Charleston, WV

#5 Jan 18, 2013
Oh he!! Get a life
Missy

Bowling Green, KY

#6 Jan 18, 2013
Hmmm wrote:
If you truly
loved her/him then you never get over them. Some days are just easier than others. Believe me I know. She's on my mind from the time I get up till I go to bed. And sometimes when I go to bed with someone else I'm still thinkin of her. Sad but true.
You are right. Like i said you learn to live without the person. I have been alone the entire time myself. No way i could go to bed with another person thinking of another.
Repair

Charleston, WV

#7 Jan 18, 2013
Broken Angel wrote:
If so, how did it happen? How long did it take for it to go away?
Yes I have!
miss julia

Charleston, WV

#8 Jan 18, 2013
Broken Angel wrote:
If so, how did it happen? How long did it take for it to go away?
Did u cheat? Or keep secrets?
Repair

Charleston, WV

#9 Jan 18, 2013
miss julia wrote:
<quoted text>Did u cheat? Or keep secrets?
And why would they tell you not knowing who you are!
confussed

Charleston, WV

#10 Jan 18, 2013
miss julia wrote:
<quoted text>Did u cheat? Or keep secrets?
Yes when our dog got hit
Broken Angel

Lansing, WV

#11 Jan 18, 2013
Missy wrote:
Yes! Sorry if you are going thru it. I had it broken for saying some mean things, that's it. I gues i loved him more than he did me. But honestly it's been 1 year and 2 months and it hasn't gotten easier, you just learn to live with it. He and were together for 1 year 3 months.
Thank you and its been a year and a half with me.
Wise one

Charleston, WV

#12 Jan 18, 2013
miss julia wrote:
<quoted text>Did u cheat? Or keep secrets?
Why does everything have to be about cheating or having affairs? Why can't you people just schedule a unexpected run in with the people and ask them ! You know how to ( Like Opera did with Armstrong) yeah right duh uh!
Broken Angel

Lansing, WV

#13 Jan 18, 2013
Hmmm wrote:
If you truly loved them then it never goes away. Some days are just easier than others, I still think about her from the time I wake up till I go to bed, and sometimes when I go to bed with someone else I'm still thinkin of her! Sad but true!
I will love him forever and same here I agree. I cry almost every night because of him being with that other girl and its been like this for over a year. He used to have a good reputation until he got with her and now he has a bad reputation and its all because of her.
Wise one

Charleston, WV

#14 Jan 18, 2013
Broken Angel wrote:
<quoted text>I will love him forever and same here I agree. I cry almost every night because of him being with that other girl and its been like this for over a year. He used to have a good reputation until he got with her and now he has a bad reputation and its all because of her.
Sorry for your pain hope you will and sure you will pull through this stay strong and move on ! You sound like a young one good luck!
leena

Bluefield, WV

#15 Jan 19, 2013
Broken Angel wrote:
<quoted text>I will love him forever and same here I agree. I cry almost every night because of him being with that other girl and its been like this for over a year. He used to have a good reputation until he got with her and now he has a bad reputation and its all because of her.
Someone else does not "give you a bad reputation." If that person is with someone else, then that's who THEY choose to be with.
Helen

Chesapeake, VA

#16 Jan 19, 2013
Broken Angel wrote:
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I will love him forever and same here I agree. I cry almost every night because of him being with that other girl and its been like this for over a year. He used to have a good reputation until he got with her and now he has a bad reputation and its all because of her.
Please don't take this in a bad way. It's not all because of her! You need to realize the truth, and what you are enduring will be much easier for you.
albeit good sex

Martinsburg, WV

#17 Jan 20, 2013
Please allow me to explain how my wife and I roll. We have been married now for 14 years and have an adorable 7 year old daughter. We love trust and respect one another unconditionally and keep NO secrets from one another.

And what makes this relationship work you ask?

We are swingers. She can have sex with anybody she chooses as well as I can. Our sex life is perfect and so is our love for each other. We learned years ago that sex is just sex and we were able to separate it from emotions.

Sometimes i'll watch her with another ( man or woman ) and she will me likewise ( man or woman ) and a lot of times she will just tell me later in the day that she had sex with this person today while I was at work and then describe it to me.

I won't go into anymore graphic details, but I think you get the picture.

it's just sex! Albeit good sex
Missy

Bowling Green, KY

#18 Jan 20, 2013
albeit good sex wrote:
Please allow me to explain how my wife and I roll. We have been married now for 14 years and have an adorable 7 year old daughter. We love trust and respect one another unconditionally and keep NO secrets from one another.
And what makes this relationship work you ask?
We are swingers. She can have sex with anybody she chooses as well as I can. Our sex life is perfect and so is our love for each other. We learned years ago that sex is just sex and we were able to separate it from emotions.
Sometimes i'll watch her with another ( man or woman ) and she will me likewise ( man or woman ) and a lot of times she will just tell me later in the day that she had sex with this person today while I was at work and then describe it to me.
I won't go into anymore graphic details, but I think you get the picture.
it's just sex! Albeit good sex
You sound just like ''A Different View''. Oh well whatever floats your boat. Not my way of life. Love isn't all about sex, true love isn't anyway. You all must be young.
malrey

Chesapeake, OH

#19 Jan 20, 2013
albeit good sex wrote:
Please allow me to explain how my wife and I roll. We have been married now for 14 years and have an adorable 7 year old daughter. We love trust and respect one another unconditionally and keep NO secrets from one another.

And what makes this relationship work you ask?

We are swingers. She can have sex with anybody she chooses as well as I can. Our sex life is perfect and so is our love for each other. We learned years ago that sex is just sex and we were able to separate it from emotions.

Sometimes i'll watch her with another ( man or woman ) and she will me likewise ( man or woman ) and a lot of times she will just tell me later in the day that she had sex with this person today while I was at work and then describe it to me.

I won't go into anymore graphic details, but I think you get the picture.

it's just sex! Albeit good sex
Ok..say you live this swingers life style..and your wife is having sex with other men...what if she starts developing feelings for other people she is having sex with...I know you say you two are in love and you trust each other but living this life style put your wife and yourself out there where it is more likely to happen. And how with a job, family, home, ect. Do you find time to be with each other if you are with other people.. To me it would take the need/want out off a sexual relationship with my spouse. And I hope everyone is wearing protection because let me tell ya...herpes, hep, aids is more access able around here than you could even imagine.
Albeit good sex

Martinsburg, WV

#20 Jan 20, 2013
It's not like we are sex addicts and need to do it every other hour of the day. We are discreet and always careful. And as far as her or myself falling in love with another it just won't happen. First of all that means you would have to fall out of love in the first place and that isn't going to happen.

Remember I said it was only sex and nothing else. Now granted most of the time we meet people out of town and definitely when we are on vacation we go sort of crazy. But there are a person or two she see's when she wants to and I have my couple of favorites.

We are a very normal couple in all ways, but when it comes to sex we trust and allow each other to make our own decisions.

Our child has a very loving and beautiful home and we have nice neighbors who respect us, but do not know of our lifestyle. Like I said we are discreet and very cautious.

we will be married 15 years this valentines day
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Albeit good sex

Martinsburg, WV

#22 Jan 20, 2013
malrey

Thank you for that advice. I realize I may have been doing a little bragging or boasting, but I do know nothing is 100% guaranteed in life and I try my best and so does she to not take one another for granted.

One major part of our marriage is based on honest and open communication and hopefully that never changes for either of us.

I do realize our sex life is not the norm, but hey it really works for both of us.
still broken

United States

#23 Jan 21, 2013
yes. i have had my heart broken i fell in love with my best friend (a woman). i am married (to a man). he is just about the most wonderful and open minded man on earth.(he accepted me and the fact that we were married young, before i had realized who i am and what i want in that way, and is still with me today.) as for her the feelings were instant from day one, and mutual, and the chemistry between us amazing... but i was the only one willing to really openly admit that i was comfortable. she always held back because she said she was not gay. i couldve cared less about the label; i cared about the feelings. we were together for nearly a decade, but in the end being her secret was too much. it ended badly. its been three years since weve spoken or ive even seen her, and i still struggle with whether to believe she really loved me. youd think its impossible to keep up a lie and fake it all for ten years...but then again i came home to everything that reminded her of me dumped in a box and thrown at my front door. not even a face to face goodbye. that alone is heartbreaking for anyone but the fact that i also lost the friendship, my best friend, and that to her, all the memories and fun and routines we shared for all those years (romance aside) meant little enough to throw away as well and make no attempt to salvage doubles the heartbreak. time heals these things, eventually.

but the thing underneath it all that is most sad in the end is how i denied my sexuality and didnt let myself be ME before marrying and starting a family - love each other as we truly do after so many years together, it still really isnt fair to either of us not to be as fulfilled as we each could be, me with a woman and he with a woman who wants only a man. some might argue that THAT is where the real heartbreak is.

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