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New me

Charleston, WV

#1 Aug 21, 2014
For the last year and a half I was involved with a man who I loved so deeply that I believed everything he said. Today I completely realized I was hustled the whole way. I am humiliated at the desperation I displayed trying to hang on to him. I deserve so much more only I have zero interest in ever believing anything any man says ever again. WTH is wrong with men when they get a good woman who will do anything for them that they have to take advantage of her? You ruin it for everyone else out there.
Glass Half Full Kinda Gal

Charleston, WV

#2 Aug 22, 2014
New me wrote:
For the last year and a half I was involved with a man who I loved so deeply that I believed everything he said. Today I completely realized I was hustled the whole way. I am humiliated at the desperation I displayed trying to hang on to him. I deserve so much more only I have zero interest in ever believing anything any man says ever again. WTH is wrong with men when they get a good woman who will do anything for them that they have to take advantage of her? You ruin it for everyone else out there.
It's hard and humiliating for sure and heart feels compassion for you. Truly, it is a blessing in disguise. Now that you know the truth you will not have to waste anymore of your time or emotions invested into someone who is using you and making you look like a fool. Trust will be hard to regain but it is possible and you can do it. Obviously he was not a good man, bc good man take care of the one they love, not take advantage of them. He wins if you let him "ruin you". Remember, you are in control of your emotions..not anyone else. You have control of how you feel.

no one else can make you feel inferior without your consent-quote by E. Roosevelt

Keep your head up! It will get better!:)
been there

Charleston, WV

#3 Aug 22, 2014
I've been in a similar situation. I have a hard time trusting men and usually sabotage a relationship before they can hurt me. I wish you lots of luck & many prayers!!
Not just men

Anonymous Proxy

#4 Aug 22, 2014
I feel the exact same way you have described about a long term relationship I was in with a woman. I was lied to and hustled and would have done anything for her. Bent over backwards trying to be good and spent a fortune. I was always faithful. Her... not so much.
Question

Charleston, WV

#5 Aug 22, 2014
Dear New me

Was he married?
So Sad

Saint Albans, WV

#6 Aug 22, 2014
Women are better at manipulating Men than Men are with Women.
New me

Charleston, WV

#7 Aug 22, 2014
Question wrote:
Dear New me
Was he married?
Nope he's not married. He's too selfish to ever invest that much into one woman.
New me

Charleston, WV

#8 Aug 22, 2014
So Sad wrote:
Women are better at manipulating Men than Men are with Women.
That's a major misconception.
Ken T.

Charleston, WV

#9 Aug 22, 2014
What do women and Red Solo Cups have in common?
Ken T.

Charleston, WV

#10 Aug 22, 2014
They're both disposable.
long fellow

Montgomery, WV

#11 Aug 22, 2014
New me wrote:
<quoted text>Nope he's not married. He's too selfish to ever invest that much into one woman.
Sometimes assumptions can be made from non answers or evasive answers. When you assume you make an ass/u/me.
long fellow

Montgomery, WV

#12 Aug 22, 2014
New me wrote:
I deserve so much more only I have zero interest in ever believing anything any man says ever again. WTH is wrong with men when they get a good woman who will do anything for them that they have to take advantage of her? You ruin it for everyone else out there.
Blaming ALL MEN just shows your immaturity in relationship. It was just this man/relationship. Look for different traits or have a different understanding in your next one.
New me

Charleston, WV

#13 Aug 22, 2014
long fellow wrote:
<quoted text>Sometimes assumptions can be made from non answers or evasive answers. When you assume you make an ass/u/me.
I assure you, he's not capable of having any type of meaningful relationship. Probably as you aren't either.
Nancy

Chesapeake, VA

#14 Aug 22, 2014
Not just men wrote:
I feel the exact same way you have described about a long term relationship I was in with a woman. I was lied to and hustled and would have done anything for her. Bent over backwards trying to be good and spent a fortune. I was always faithful. Her... not so much.
"Run Forest, run"!
Shes a dude

Charleston, WV

#15 Aug 22, 2014
Nancy where in the blue blazes you been boy?
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old soul

Myrtle Beach, SC

#17 Aug 22, 2014
this isn't directed to anyone but for all----if you want to be happy it comes from YOU---no one will make you happy it comes from within.
Be Happy with yourself first---no man or woman can do it.
Peace and be happy.
loser

Leon, WV

#18 Aug 22, 2014
question: why is it u think he doesnt care about u or hustled u? what happened? just curious
New me

United States

#19 Aug 22, 2014
loser wrote:
question: why is it u think he doesnt care about u or hustled u? what happened? just curious
we went through something very traumatic and I was/am angry about it happening, I blame myself for it happening and am devastated by what happened. I realize I treated him bad while trying to cope but him shutting me out and not wanting to talk to me or see me just made it all that much worse. I needed him for support and he bailed. Now we can't even talk to each other, he won't speak to me and now I'm left to deal with our daughters death and being thrown out like trash by a man I love. Anymore questions? I've got to wash my hands of my feelings some how, try to cope with losing the most beautiful baby one can imagine and move on.
Time heals

Charleston, WV

#20 Aug 23, 2014
New me wrote:
<quoted text>we went through something very traumatic and I was/am angry about it happening, I blame myself for it happening and am devastated by what happened. I realize I treated him bad while trying to cope but him shutting me out and not wanting to talk to me or see me just made it all that much worse. I needed him for support and he bailed. Now we can't even talk to each other, he won't speak to me and now I'm left to deal with our daughters death and being thrown out like trash by a man I love. Anymore questions? I've got to wash my hands of my feelings some how, try to cope with losing the most beautiful baby one can imagine and move on.
So sorry you're going through that. Time heals the pain of the loss. It never fully goes away, but becomes part of you. Sadly we think men are made of steel. Maybe he just can't handle the loss and can't be there for you emotionally like you need him now. I imagine his absence right now is very painful and likely unforgivable but remember, he lost a child as well. JMO. God bless.
New me

United States

#21 Aug 23, 2014
I used to think he cared about me. Now I don't think he ever did. I don't know how he's dealing with our loss. I know I've never felt this kind of pain. I force myself to get up each day. It appears to me he's just gone on like nothing happened. It's time for me to try to get myself together and make my sweet daughter proud that I was her momma.

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