wanting advice
guest

Sikeston, MO

#1 Oct 13, 2012
Me and my husband have been married for almost 4 years now and we have 2 kids together but it seems like things have fallen apart....he is always stuck in his phone and deletes all of his stuff and he has been caught on dating sites before...I just don't know what to do or even feel anymore...I don't even know why we are together...I know I still love him but I don't think that I'm in love with him anymore
guest

Farmington, MO

#2 Oct 13, 2012
go see a marrige counselor.
guest

Sikeston, MO

#3 Oct 13, 2012
Do them actually help or just waste ur money
so

Jackson, MO

#4 Oct 13, 2012
Why don't u just make him choose or leave for awhile and see wat happens been there done that and he realized he didn't wanna lose his family
guest

Sikeston, MO

#5 Oct 14, 2012
It's easier said then done...he don't even like me going to the grocery store by myself and when he has somewhere to go he makes me go with him
Understands

Imperial, MO

#6 Oct 14, 2012
You say you've been married for four years, how long had you been together before that? Has he ever cheated on you that you know about? These computers and phones are killing our judgement and morals :(
Trust issues are the worst :(
Hmmm

United States

#7 Oct 14, 2012
guest wrote:
Me and my husband have been married for almost 4 years now and we have 2 kids together but it seems like things have fallen apart....he is always stuck in his phone and deletes all of his stuff and he has been caught on dating sites before...I just don't know what to do or even feel anymore...I don't even know why we are together...I know I still love him but I don't think that I'm in love with him anymore
I'm just wondering if you live in Poplar Bluff, why come to the Chaffee topix?
guest

Jackson, MO

#8 Oct 18, 2012
Well how old are your children? That makes a diffrence on how you can respond to the problem effectivly. You will know in your heart what to do. Like the other person said has he had a cheating problem before? If so they have a tendency to repeat them actions.
guest

Sikeston, MO

#9 Oct 18, 2012
Yes he has has prior cheating problems and my kids are 15 months and 1 month and no in not from poplar bluff...I just really have nowhere to go right now
guest

Jackson, MO

#10 Oct 18, 2012
Let me tell you from experience there are always places to go you just have to ask the right people, even when you dont want to. Its never easy I have had to take that step before but let me tell you it was for the best I do not regret it for one second and now i am so happily married. Men like that do NOT change especially when they have done it so many times before. I bet he did it with all of his exes too you just dont know about it so dont feel bad about leaving you have to think about your children and yourself.
guest

Cape Girardeau, MO

#11 Oct 18, 2012
In my opinion you need to do whatever is best for your children . As for your husband if he is like that right now he will always be like that. That is not a way to live and not good for the children.
DoomDoom

United States

#12 Oct 20, 2012
Are you hot, or at least mildly attractive? If so I might be able to help you take your mind off him.
DoomDoom

United States

#13 Oct 20, 2012
guest wrote:
It's easier said then done...he don't even like me going to the grocery store by myself and when he has somewhere to go he makes me go with him
You can escape for a little while. He can't always be with you especially if he's seeing another woman and he probably is.
guest

Sikeston, MO

#14 Oct 20, 2012
I've had a lot of ppl tell me I look good but I don't think I do
guest

Saint Louis, MO

#15 Oct 20, 2012
First he probably doesnt want you out of his sight because he knows what he is doing and is thinking if he is you will. Men like this are abusive in their own way, no he might not hit you but he is destroying your self esteem, your self worth and your ability to think for yourself. Right now your kids are small and although I am sure they see daddy isn't there it is not going to affect them like it will once they start school and hear rumors of daddy cheating, not only that if you are not happy yourself how happy do you think your kids are really going to be. There are a lot of places you can turn to check with one of the local churches and they can get you the contact info you need. Marriage counceling does work for some people but he has to be willing to change before it will help
guest

Jackson, MO

#16 Oct 21, 2012
I have a feeling you know what you have to do, your heart or your first instincts never lie. Follow them and you will have all your answers from there its never easy but just think of your kids would you support their spouse doing that to them, prob not so think bout that one.

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