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TheWanderer

Dexter, NY

#1 Aug 22, 2011
I was wondering if anyone here would recommend (or not) attorney Tina Bennet located in Canastota?

Why or why not?

Thanks!
MadDad

Syracuse, NY

#2 Sep 7, 2011
As a dad who is going through a divorce and heard the ads by Tina Bennett about "father's right" who wouldn't consider who for representation? Well, anybody who knows her and or knows somebody who had her as their representation! Do not retain her as your attorney! She promotes herself as this and that and should have a PR job cause that is all she does! She gets your money and after that you have no idea. She doesn't communicate with you to keep you informed. Half the time when you call her and she finally returns your call, you have to spend your dime bringing her up to speed on the case. She has no idea from one person to the next, what is going on. Your just another number. She has more then one office and it is total chaos. I had a custody hearing and everyone was ready to go and she wasn't available! She had someplace else to be. She notified me the day of the hearing! This is baout my child and custody, ya know the "father's rights" thing you talk so much about in your ads..... I could go on and on about how unprofessional she is and what a mess her office is. No structure. I spoke to other attorneys after about how she handled my case and they said she doesn't follow through with things and is "SCATTERED." I just thought " if only someone had shared this with me before I hired her!" Do not put yourself in this situation get a real attorney, a real advocate for yourself.
TheWanderer

Dexter, NY

#3 Sep 8, 2011
Thanks. After my last visitation with her, I picked up on some of this myself and decided to not pay the retaining fee. She was very unorganized, unprofessional, and I saw first hand the example you gave about not knowing what was going on with her clients. Thankfully I found someone more reliable to handle my custody case. I appreciate the info!
newdad

Avon, CT

#4 Nov 16, 2011
TheWanderer wrote:
Thanks. After my last visitation with her, I picked up on some of this myself and decided to not pay the retaining fee. She was very unorganized, unprofessional, and I saw first hand the example you gave about not knowing what was going on with her clients. Thankfully I found someone more reliable to handle my custody case. I appreciate the info!
im about to be going through the same deal and was actually waiting for her to call back. what attorney do you recommend using who protects fathers rights?
OldGrampa

Canastota, NY

#5 Nov 19, 2011
"Fathers' Rights" is just a PR slogan. Both parents have rights and a good attorney can represent either a mother or father in a custody hearing with equal knowledge of PARENTAL rights.

The fathers' rights showboat is all about certain lawyers getting more phone calls and more clients, and then scamming their male clients into believing that fathers are always screwed over. This is not true, and hasn't been for years. Don't fall for the scam of any attorney's sales pitch about "father's rights," because both parents in a custody case have rights, not one more so that the other, and this is an attempt, often, to just punish mothers -- especially those who had the audacity to leave men who were not the best of husbands.

Some men -- and I'm one of them -- were lousy husbands. I admit that. In the 70's I didn't take a marriage seriously and I lost the marriage. My wife remarried and for at time I was all over a then new idea of "father's rights." Turns out I had rights all along, and just didn't like it that my rotten treatment of my ex led her to divorce me and find a guy who treated her right.

I was not denied my children, ever. But I TOLD people I was denied my children (especially after I got an attitude and stopped paying child support). My ex did not keep my kids from me. My ex was living in poverty and I wanted her to suffer that because she dumped me. It seems I never thought that by not paying child support, I wasn't punishing her. I was punishing my kids -- who I could still see, but who in their early teens were angry with me for...guess what? NOT PAYING CHILD SUPPORT. They resented me for years over that.

Stop whining about women and courts. Act like men. You guys who want to be worshipped as heroes and are all about "father's rights?" Grow the F up and act like men. BE fathers. That is NOT about hating your ex and mocking her and painting her to be a slut or a loser. If you despise the mother of the children you had together -- they are not YOUR kids, SHE gave birth to them, REMEMBER?????-- and if you think this is just a contest to prove that your ex is a bad person, what on earth are you teaching the kids with this message of hate?

It's taken me 25 years to rebuild the relationships with my kids. I could have avoided all of that by just accepting that a divorce is not the end of the world, and that a woman who decides that she is not loved or cared for -- by me -- is not a whore, slut, jerk, liar, etc. You guys who are conned into thinking that your rights are denied in a custody case: GROW UP. Your ex has the same rights as you do. BOTH of you cannot have your children full time. Someone will have the children more often.

What "rights" are being denied you? The right to appear in front of a judge and have your issues addressed? Some of you have screwed up as husbands. Can't admit that to yourself? Some of you are always angry, 24/7. You think the kids don't notice that? Many of you bad mouth the mothers. You think your kids love you for that?

Unless your ex is a methhead and has committed a million crimes and starves your children, shut up about her. The marriage or the partnership didn't work out. Act like an adult, be a good father, and stop whining. The only "crime" my ex wife committed was dumping me -- and looking back, I can't blame her at all now for doing that. She spent several years listening to me do nothing but yell at her. Who's going to stick around for THAT?

Had I done so -- had I not wasted years on hating my ex and trying to destroy her and fighting her constantly in court -- my kids would have an extra 15 years with me as a father, instead of the 15 years they spent barely talking to me, because I was all about "father's rights" and not about THEIR rights.
cstdycase411

Auburn, NY

#6 Oct 2, 2012
Well,unfortunately, some ex-wives are out for blood, and in some cases, when they think they have the power, and when the courts seem to be on their side, the man does get the shaft, and the courts have NOT changed and are NOT fair. OldGrampa, you must not have been in the courtroom at all, or you had a very forgiving or agreeable ex-wife. Not all women play fair.

I can tell you what really goes on, because I have seen the way my husband gets treated. When a woman can lie, in a courtroom, get found out, but then not have to suffer ANY repercussions from that lie, you know that it's an unbalanced,unfair system. And you know damn well that if it was my husband who had lied, he would have gotten read the riot act.

I have been in the courtroom when the judge has looked straight at my husband and said, "Why do you want your son?" He didn't ever ask his ex the same. There is still a presumption that the mothers are the ones who should have control, and that is not always the case. Period.

The courts still heavily favor the mothers. End of discussion.

If anyone knows of a good attorney, period, please post. DeRoberts out of Syracuse was no better than a used car salesman...
raddad123

Old Forge, NY

#7 Oct 3, 2012
Um...OldGrampa? Are you blind or just ignorant? While YOU may have been a lousy father and husband, not all fathers are. Do you think that only being allowed to see your children every other weekend (that is 4 days a month) is justified or reasonable? Well, it isnt. There a great fathers out there who want to be a part of their children's lives but their money-hungry ex-wives prevent this from happening.

Why do they want to prevent this from happening? BECAUSE THEY WANT MONEY!! And the court system is so crooked and biased that they allow this to happen.

In the early 1900's to 1950's I could understand to a point the reasoning behind the twisted family court system, because most women were housewives and didn't work. But let me give you the scenario of what goes on 99% of the time nowadays.

Husband works. Wife works. They have 3 kids. Wife wants a divorce. Wife wants child support AND Alimony. Husband wants to see his kids half the time. But if that happens, wife doesn't get all of her child support now does she?? So what does she do? She lies about the husband. So the husband, who loves his children and wants to raise them, but can't because he can only see them 4 days a month, lost his house, his family, his retirement, while the wife, who makes $50,000 a year on her own, by the way (plenty enough to NOT need alimony) is putting plenty of money in the bank for herself.

Wife doesn't tell husband when doctor's appointments are, when kids stay home from school, ignores calls from him when he phones to speak to his children.

You think this is okay? It's not.

And, by the way, I am a WOMAN, who has a child with my ex husband. Fathers need to have rights just the SAME as mothers.
Yep

United States

#8 Oct 5, 2012
I agree with all of you. The court systems are so screwed up now a days its not even funny. My ex left me when my baby was just 4 months old. We have joint custody of him but yet she gets more than enough child support, I have to pay for daycare, and insurance. I have my child every other day during the week and every other weekend, yet she still gets more child support than most women, and when I asked the judge why... his response was because I make more money than her. My ex quits jobs and gets a new one every 6 months, of course im going to make more than her, she wont keep a job. And when I asked the judge how im supposed to afford a house and bills while buying my child things he needs and paying his mother, his response was "to get another job". I remember on our first court date, I showed up in a shirt and tie, and she showed up in ripped jeans and sandles. I had a binder of paperwork, all she had was a pay stub. The judge actually complimented me for being prepared and knowing this and that. He didnt look at my paperwork or anything once, he looked at both our pay stubs, and said sir you pay her this amount. And that was the end of it. Its plain and simple, the courts are favored towards women.
seenit too

Camden, NY

#9 Oct 5, 2012
cstdycase411 wrote:
Well,unfortunately, some ex-wives are out for blood, and in some cases, when they think they have the power, and when the courts seem to be on their side, the man does get the shaft, and the courts have NOT changed and are NOT fair. OldGrampa, you must not have been in the courtroom at all, or you had a very forgiving or agreeable ex-wife. Not all women play fair.

I can tell you what really goes on, because I have seen the way my husband gets treated. When a woman can lie, in a courtroom, get found out, but then not have to suffer ANY repercussions from that lie, you know that it's an unbalanced,unfair system. And you know damn well that if it was my husband who had lied, he would have gotten read the riot act.

I have been in the courtroom when the judge has looked straight at my husband and said, "Why do you want your son?" He didn't ever ask his ex the same. There is still a presumption that the mothers are the ones who should have control, and that is not always the case. Period.

The courts still heavily favor the mothers. End of discussion.

If anyone knows of a good attorney, period, please post. DeRoberts out of Syracuse was no better than a used car salesman...
Totally agree, the fathers are shafted for the most part and fyi, I'm a mother also
feeling bad for fathers

Oneida, NY

#10 Oct 17, 2012
still nobody answered the question...IS THERE A GOOD LAWYER OUT THERE ANYWHERE?? i have a very close friend who is going through the same thing. he has been going through court since oct of last year. his wife chose to leave, got an order of protection, and he was found not guilty of the accusations she made. however he was only given supervised visits. it was SUPPOSE to be a temporary order, and now, a year later, it has not gotten any better. her and her lawyer have gone into the court room and lied several times. the last court date this man had he walked upstairs at the courthouse only to see her lawyer, her, the judge and their law guardian sitting in the courtroom LAUGHING together. talk about unprofessional?? to top it off the law guardian and her lawyer are good friends. hmm...lets see.....is there a problem here? the law guardian will not return calls to this man or his previous lawyer. he is really getting the raw end of the deal, as it sounds like a lot of other men are. maybe we should all try to figure out who we go to above this judge. would be very interesting to know if all of these men are going in front of the same judge! i am willing to bet they are. something has got to change. i have children of my own and i let their fathers see them whenever they want. i dont understand how a judge (any human) could do this to children. they are the ones that suffer the most. it is unreal. lets figure out how to help these men SOMEHOW!!!
Other Woman

Manlius, NY

#11 Nov 21, 2012
feeling bad for fathers wrote:
still nobody answered the question...IS THERE A GOOD LAWYER OUT THERE ANYWHERE?? i have a very close friend who is going through the same thing. he has been going through court since oct of last year. his wife chose to leave, got an order of protection, and he was found not guilty of the accusations she made. however he was only given supervised visits. it was SUPPOSE to be a temporary order, and now, a year later, it has not gotten any better. her and her lawyer have gone into the court room and lied several times. the last court date this man had he walked upstairs at the courthouse only to see her lawyer, her, the judge and their law guardian sitting in the courtroom LAUGHING together. talk about unprofessional?? to top it off the law guardian and her lawyer are good friends. hmm...lets see.....is there a problem here? the law guardian will not return calls to this man or his previous lawyer. he is really getting the raw end of the deal, as it sounds like a lot of other men are. maybe we should all try to figure out who we go to above this judge. would be very interesting to know if all of these men are going in front of the same judge! i am willing to bet they are. something has got to change. i have children of my own and i let their fathers see them whenever they want. i dont understand how a judge (any human) could do this to children. they are the ones that suffer the most. it is unreal. lets figure out how to help these men SOMEHOW!!!
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No lawyer is going to help you. You need to be proactive to make what you want to happen including sharing custody with your kid. I can tell you if any lawyer makes a promise that they can win, run.
DO NOT hire her

Malone, NY

#13 Jan 6, 2013
I can tell you...DON'T hire her!!! Ask any good attorney in the area and they have all heard what a mess this women is. The courts can't stand her either. Doesn't show up, doesn't return calls, over bills, doesn't file paperwork, lies to you...the list goes on and on. She has NO idea what she is doing at all. She's just there to take your money. Everyone that knows about her, thinks she is a TOTAL IDIOT and FRAUD!
OUCH with tina bennett

Constantia, NY

#14 Feb 4, 2013
The econonmy also has affected attorney's. Small one man or woman offices have a tough time. Is that reason to give inferior services, miss court dates, not provide clients with legal information on their cases till its to late. Piss off judges, other lawyers, act in an non professional way, ABSOLUTELY NOT. This woman needs to spend some quality time in front of the greviance committe of bar associations and EXPLAIN away what she does with client's money and the services alleged she performs. She is scattered PERIOD
This woman will arrive at court late, not be prepared, charge a for work not performed but billed as performed. Blame her clients for missing court dates. If the any work was performed she would know what is going on long before she arrives at court and be prepared for a trial if needed.
Do not be intimated because she is an attorney, "ASK THE LADY FOR REFERENCES" and not her friends or relatives, check bar associations, find out if she is BOARD CERTIFIED IN ANY FIELD OF LAW,
I would suggest reading each and every post here throughly then re-read before you make a decesion to hire TIna Bennett, Esq.
Lack sufficient information or belief to form an opinion, on the statement of Jan 6th, "DO NOT HIRE HER" calls her an IDIOT and FRAUD, hummmmmmmmmmm! BE wise be PRO ACTIVE, move on.
Do Not Hire Tina Bennet

Seattle, WA

#15 Mar 6, 2013
I knew Tina Bennet a long time ago.......Beware of this woman. She lacks character, integrity and compassion. As a human being, I wouldn't recommend her, never mind paying her to represent you as a lawyer.
former member

Danielson, CT

#16 Mar 13, 2013
Kathleen rapasadi
kevin

Danielson, CT

#17 Jun 2, 2013
All lawyers suck
Michael Maggiolino

Boonville, NY

#18 Aug 16, 2013
This Laywar has been there for me right and left Tina c. Bennet will not stear you wrong, she's about fathers rights she was wonderful with my case,she never left my side,stayed close and absolutely took care of business.
Confused

Danielson, CT

#19 Aug 20, 2013
Depending on your situation, have you tried compromising without a lawyer? I left my sons father a few years back, not because he was a bad man or mistreated me. Just because the love wasnt there anymore. Recently we legalized our custody agreement. We share OUR son an equal amount of time, I do not demand support or anything like that because he has our son the same amount of time I do. I pay for daycare for when I work, because that's my responsibility when I have him. We recently went to court, I flat out told the judge I want no support, he is there for his son and that's all that matters, I'll never try to keep them apart, why should he have to pay when he's as involved as me?
I agree that deadbeat dads (or moms in a lot of cases) should have to pay up, but perhaps you can resolve things without lawyers? Because we all know they're just going to charge you an outrageous amount to do pretty much nothing.
Michael Maggiolino

Boonville, NY

#20 Aug 20, 2013
confused so true but my ex isn't reasonable I raised her son,his dad left before he was born, she left to go be with her cousin came home and said we need to talk with hickeys on her neck,i have my baby thanks to Tina C.Bennet. and god.
Daryl San Diego

San Diego, CA

#23 Feb 21, 2014
Let me tell you to avoid Tina Bennet at all costs.
I hired her to represent me and she didn't even show up at the first hearing. The trial date was changed by the judge and when I asked her why she told me that my ex showed up without counsel and the judge had given her 30 days to find counsel. Clearly a lie, the court transcript says she wasn't even there and the judge was confused as to why she didn't show, so he moved the date to 30 days later. I only found this out by paying for the court reporters notes. Those notes were an eye opener. Also the judge instructed her representative that I was to do something and she never even informed me.

Doesn't return phone calls or emails. After court appearances I wouldn't hear from her for weeks.

Its your call but, don't do it, your asking for a lot of frustration on top of what your already experiencing.
Good luck and please find other counsel.

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